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  • #16
    Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

    Originally posted by Dr. Blitz View Post
    You see, it is in hadith (one can consult sheikh google lol for the exact book for reference) that a woman with seizure came to the Prophet (saws) and asked for his supplication to Allah (god in Arabic) to cure her illness. Our Prophet (saws) replied that she has two choice 1) receive the supplication from him and be cured 2) Not receive the supplication and instead have that illness as a means of her to get into Jannah (heaven).
    Wow! Can I please have the exact reference of this beautiful Hadeeth

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    • #17
      Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

      Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 70 :: Hadith 555
      This is referenced from the online version. If you are unable to find it kindly let me know so I can manually go throw my ebook of bukhari and locate it. I'm glad I was able to convey a hadith to you that holds a special significance to you, you have just made my day brother :)

      JazakAllah Khair.

      Originally posted by Ummati09 View Post
      Wow! Can I please have the exact reference of this beautiful Hadeeth
      Ask yourself why you were created. Do not let society distract you from seeking the truth.
      Sahih International, 63:3 (Surah Al-Munafiqun)
      That is because they believed, and then they disbelieved; so their hearts were sealed over, and they do not understand.

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      • #18
        Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

        Originally posted by Dr. Blitz View Post
        Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 70 :: Hadith 555
        This is referenced from the online version. If you are unable to find it kindly let me know so I can manually go throw my ebook of bukhari and locate it. I'm glad I was able to convey a hadith to you that holds a special significance to you, you have just made my day brother :)

        JazakAllah Khair.
        Jazaakallah brother. To be honest, yourself sharing that Hadeeth had already made my day, I was so touched by it. Without ever having read that Hadeethhttps://www.searchtruth.com/searchHadith.php#

        You can search if you give two or three words in the search box belonging to the English translation of it.

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        • #19
          Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

          Originally posted by Dr. Blitz View Post
          Bukhari :: Book 7 :: Volume 70 :: Hadith 555
          This is referenced from the online version. If you are unable to find it kindly let me know so I can manually go throw my ebook of bukhari and locate it. I'm glad I was able to convey a hadith to you that holds a special significance to you, you have just made my day brother :)

          JazakAllah Khair.
          https://www.searchtruth.com/book_dis...tor=1&start=10

          Jazaakallah brother. :)

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          • #20
            Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

            Assalamu alaikum brother,

            I'm sorry I did not respond earlier, I only got the notification for your last post from today, please forgive me. I've been on this forum for a few months but despite that I'm still a noob I guess.

            On the other, I'm glad you found the hadith! Wish my memory was somewhat near to that of Imam Shafi'e or Imam Bhukhari (the memory geniuses) so I could quote it without having to consult sheikh google lol. Oh well it is what it is, Alhamdulillah. Let me know if I can look anything up I've got pdf version of most of the well known authentic ahadith.

            Regards

            Originally posted by Ummati09 View Post
            Ask yourself why you were created. Do not let society distract you from seeking the truth.
            Sahih International, 63:3 (Surah Al-Munafiqun)
            That is because they believed, and then they disbelieved; so their hearts were sealed over, and they do not understand.

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            • #21
              Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

              Originally posted by LostMan View Post
              well.. I was being serious.. and going off of what the Prophet of Islam (peace be upon him) told Julaybib.. even though im disgusted by my own self..

              I know Most people wont but I would look at a womans heart rather than her exterior and thats what does it for me personally.. Your perception of a person does not define them and that does give me hope.. But maybe its false hope.. Maybe I am interested in islam for the wrong reasons, I will admit - the brotherhood and acceptance I have seen in Islam is what attracted me.. and I thought just maybe I wouldnt be looked at as such a monster than I already am now in society.. a lot of people seem to be repulsed by me when I go out in public

              You don't have to get married. It's just considered a nice thing to do, but it's not necessary.

              Also, I'd recommend you become a Muslim. You will be considered our brother and be one of us. You'll find that practising Muslims value another believer like their own brother.

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              • #22
                Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                I relate to your post a lot because I have been battling Lyme Disease for the past 10 years.

                Originally posted by LostMan View Post
                you may have to be patient with me.. i am pretty disturbed because of what ive been through.. but i am just looking for some help.. i genuinely do love and accept Islam when its all said and done
                If you know what Islam is and accept it, then you should convert sooner rather than later as no one knows when death will occur and at least it would make a world of difference to your future in the afterlife.

                Having said that, there are a few things you should be aware of. Some people say converting to Islam is easy because you just read out two lines saying you believe and that's it, you're Muslim, which is fair enough, but those two lines have implications for the rest of your life. It will involve change, it usually involves relationships changing as many converts are rejected by their families due to their beliefs, many are thrown out of their homes and on top of that, once the novelty factor of being a new Muslim wears off, a lot of the Muslim community just goes back to their routine going to work and raising their kids and suddenly you feel vulnerable, that as a Muslim you're on your own, don't quite fit in and feel that "sense of community" isn't what you thought it was.

                Culturally you feel like an outsider among your own race (whom I presume are mostly non Muslim) because they socialise by drinking or other haram and culturally you may feel like an outsider at a Muslim friend's house where everyone speaks a different language. If you're really committed to Islam, the real heartache though is when you sit with Muslims who don't value Islam, don't practice it or mix unIslamic culture into their lifestyles and then are dismissive of you because "you've only been Muslim five minutes".

                Then there are the practical implications as a Muslim, of committing to daily prayers, avoiding riba (interest based transactions such as mortgage, student loans, credit cards and hire purchase), avoiding alcohol and forbidden foods and ensuring that your earnings are halal (ie not earned by working in a casino or brewery or other kind of haram activity). I'm not saying any of this to put you off or scare you away, I'm saying this because there have been cases of people who enter Islam in a half-ar$ed way, emotionally feel "the azan sounds beautiful" but really they want to just take shahada and live more like those kinda Christians who say they believe in their religion but don't think it should entail any form of commitment to its rules and randomly discard the verses of the Quran that don't conform to their liberal/feminist/democratic world view.

                Don't get me wrong, there are aspects of Islam all Muslims struggle with and that doesn't stop us accepting it. As a woman it took me decades to come to terms with and accept the concept of polygamy as something acceptable in Islam. I struggled with understanding why the Prophet (saw) married Aisha (ra) when she was so young. If you have niggling doubts or questions about aspects of Islam that seem unpalatable, then find out more about those and resolve those issues so that inshaAllah you can enter Islam when you're convinced of it and not plagued by doubts. So I'm not saying this to put you off or scare you away from the level of commitment, I'm saying this so that you pursue this and accept it for the right reasons and know what you're getting yourself into.
                The Lyme Disease pandemic: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z5u73ME4sVU

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                • #23
                  Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                  Originally posted by neelu View Post
                  I relate to your post a lot because I have been battling Lyme Disease for the past 10 years.



                  If you know what Islam is and accept it, then you should convert sooner rather than later as no one knows when death will occur and at least it would make a world of difference to your future in the afterlife.

                  Having said that, there are a few things you should be aware of. Some people say converting to Islam is easy because you just read out two lines saying you believe and that's it, you're Muslim, which is fair enough, but those two lines have implications for the rest of your life. It will involve change, it usually involves relationships changing as many converts are rejected by their families due to their beliefs, many are thrown out of their homes and on top of that, once the novelty factor of being a new Muslim wears off, a lot of the Muslim community just goes back to their routine going to work and raising their kids and suddenly you feel vulnerable, that as a Muslim you're on your own, don't quite fit in and feel that "sense of community" isn't what you thought it was.

                  Culturally you feel like an outsider among your own race (whom I presume are mostly non Muslim) because they socialise by drinking or other haram and culturally you may feel like an outsider at a Muslim friend's house where everyone speaks a different language. If you're really committed to Islam, the real heartache though is when you sit with Muslims who don't value Islam, don't practice it or mix unIslamic culture into their lifestyles and then are dismissive of you because "you've only been Muslim five minutes".

                  Then there are the practical implications as a Muslim, of committing to daily prayers, avoiding riba (interest based transactions such as mortgage, student loans, credit cards and hire purchase), avoiding alcohol and forbidden foods and ensuring that your earnings are halal (ie not earned by working in a casino or brewery or other kind of haram activity). I'm not saying any of this to put you off or scare you away, I'm saying this because there have been cases of people who enter Islam in a half-ar$ed way, emotionally feel "the azan sounds beautiful" but really they want to just take shahada and live more like those kinda Christians who say they believe in their religion but don't think it should entail any form of commitment to its rules and randomly discard the verses of the Quran that don't conform to their liberal/feminist/democratic world view.

                  Don't get me wrong, there are aspects of Islam all Muslims struggle with and that doesn't stop us accepting it. As a woman it took me decades to come to terms with and accept the concept of polygamy as something acceptable in Islam. I struggled with understanding why the Prophet (saw) married Aisha (ra) when she was so young. If you have niggling doubts or questions about aspects of Islam that seem unpalatable, then find out more about those and resolve those issues so that inshaAllah you can enter Islam when you're convinced of it and not plagued by doubts. So I'm not saying this to put you off or scare you away from the level of commitment, I'm saying this so that you pursue this and accept it for the right reasons and know what you're getting yourself into.
                  I have burning questions about Islam too, but i live in a community where people are born muslim who don't ask and just take in anything from their ustad, so there's this concept of 'blind faith' that is common in my culture. This means they don't question why things are the way they are in Islam. I mean, I don't mean to say the folks around me are unintelligent, but I think that if a faith is a big prt of my life, should'nt I have the right to question it? And to ask in such a way that is meant to benefit everyone, not to go against Islam? It's a bit baffling to me over the years, because it's hard to find someone who follows the same line of thought.

                  Your last para kinda hit me, because I am going through that situation where I question some aspects of Islam,especially the part on treatment of women. These questions I have are burning inside of me, and I'd like to know how you come into terms with your doubts.

                  I assume you have close contacts with Ustazahs or some sortz

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                  • #24
                    What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                    [MENTION=111457]nudgetheputri[/MENTION]

                    I very much agree with you on asking about your faith and not being a blind follower

                    But it’s important to ask the right type of questions and reasonable questions, not questions which may be ultimately fruitless and be of no benefit to you

                    If you have questions about the treatment of women in Islam, then of course, please do ask those who have the knowledge to address your questions. You should tackle any doubts until you feel at complete ease with your faith. And until nothing makes you feel doubtful or uncomfortable
                    Last edited by Ghuraba321; 02-10-17, 03:56 PM.

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                    • #25
                      There was a very good quote but i cant remember it too well

                      Anyway, it was about knowledge and how obtaining it does away with any doubts or concerns you have about your faith

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                      • #26
                        Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                        Originally posted by Ghuraba321 View Post
                        [MENTION=111457]nudgetheputri[/MENTION]

                        I very much agree with you on asking about your faith and not being a blind follower

                        But it’s important to ask the right type of questions and reasonable questions, not questions which may be ultimately fruitless and be of no benefit to you

                        If you have questions about the treatment of women in Islam, then of course,lease do ask those who have the knowledge to address your questions. You should tackle any doubts until you feel at complete ease with your faith. And until nothing makes you feel doubtful or uncomfortbale

                        I'm glad there are people who are reassuring me about how important it is to ask questions. It helps to know people are supportive of this.

                        I think as long as the questions are genuine and real legit questions which are asked after much thought, then I think they deserve to be answered.

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                        • #27
                          Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                          It's part of the sunnah. Question is: do you want to get married? If the answer is yes, then don't give up. Keep searching and put your trust in Allah.

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                          • #28
                            Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                            Originally posted by LostMan View Post
                            I am a young adult male and have come to accept I will never find a woman due to the way I look, and due to me not having any real good qualities. I also have chronic multiple sclerosis and I have a certain way that I live life that most could not handle to be around

                            I am not a muslim but I am interested in Islam and I dont want to be a slave to judgmental women, feeling like I owe them something or feeling constant inferiority because I am not "enough" for them, I just want to be a slave of God.

                            He is my only true friend and I know he loves me and accepts me because he created me, but women today are definitely not like that


                            so when I do convert, what is the stance for guys like me who will never be able to find a woman? Is it not a problem?
                            Bolded bit sounds like you're drugs or something... What kind of lifestyle do have....

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                            • #29
                              Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                              Originally posted by nudgetheputri View Post
                              I'm glad there are people who are reassuring me about how important it is to ask questions. It helps to know people are supportive of this.

                              I think as long as the questions are genuine and real legit questions which are asked after much thought, then I think they deserve to be answered.
                              There are questions asked in earnestness, sincerity and with the true intention of seeking knowledge.

                              Then there are questions coming from pride/arrogance and with the intent of challenging Allah and the shariah (na'udhu billah).

                              A good example of the latter is a thread like this: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...t-in-Knowledge

                              You see many people doing this, like when liberal/westernized Muslims challenge "why can't a woman lead the Salaah" or "why is homosexuality in Islam forbidden when people are "born gay""

                              On face-value, some of these challenges are blatant. As time goes by though, these people want to display their intelligence/pride by challenging Ulama, so they twist their questions to hide under the veil of sincerity.

                              May we be Protected from such people.

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                              • #30
                                Re: What is Islams stance on not ever getting married?

                                Originally posted by horizon View Post
                                There are questions asked in earnestness, sincerity and with the true intention of seeking knowledge.

                                Then there are questions coming from pride/arrogance and with the intent of challenging Allah and the shariah (na'udhu billah).

                                A good example of the latter is a thread like this: http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...t-in-Knowledge

                                You see many people doing this, like when liberal/westernized Muslims challenge "why can't a woman lead the Salaah" or "why is homosexuality in Islam forbidden when people are "born gay""

                                On face-value, some of these challenges are blatant. As time goes by though, these people want to display their intelligence/pride by challenging Ulama, so they twist their questions to hide under the veil of sincerity.

                                May we be Protected from such people.
                                lol

                                The op in that linked thread could possibly be genuine in his intention. . but i get what you mean, it sounded rude and conscending.

                                By right women can lead the salah. It's just that followers need to be all women only.

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