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    I want to know what is more successful, both spouses are deeply in love with each other ( let's assume that they got married to make it halal and never encouraged or did zina or adultery before marriage and both are religious and have good characteristics and morals ) or arranged marriages? Not all of the people would like arranged marriage because some prefer getting married to those who are romantically attracted to.

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    Attraction before marriage is totally different to Attraction after marriage.

    The formed comes without an emotional bond , the latter comes with an emotional bond.
    The problem with former is when you have an emotional bond too soon, it can have a detrimental affect on marriage.

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      Re: marriages

      Originally posted by SaraMukhtar12 View Post
      I want to know what is more successful, both spouses are deeply in love with each other ( let's assume that they got married to make it halal and never encouraged or did zina or adultery before marriage and both are religious and have good characteristics and morals ) or arranged marriages? Not all of the people would like arranged marriage because some prefer getting married to those who are romantically attracted to.
      So how did they end up 'deeply in love'? Most of the time it's lots of inappropriate free mixing and 'getting to know each other' meetings.
      If the foundation of a marriage starts on dubious grounds, are there any true blessings in such a union?

      Regarding the arranged marriage - the way you make it seem is that people just get pushed together and are married next month lol.
      Unless it's the old cultural type of marriage where you are engaged since birth to some random cousin....then in arranged marriages or traditional islamic marriages, there is a process of getting to know each other. Guy see's a girl he likes, or his family hears of a good girl, they call/go over, have one or two meetings, the guy or girl decide they don't want to proceed - end off. Next person. Or if after a few meetings they start to like each other, or think they may be compatible, then they proceed.

      In any case, Islam has laid down guidelines of how we can marry and get to know our potential spouse. This involves the wali from day 1, no free mixing, and 'halal dates'. There's no way that that doing the haraam can be better than the halal ordained way.

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        Originally posted by SaraMukhtar12 View Post
        I want to know what is more successful, both spouses are deeply in love with each other ( let's assume that they got married to make it halal and never encouraged or did zina or adultery before marriage and both are religious and have good characteristics and morals ) or arranged marriages? Not all of the people would like arranged marriage because some prefer getting married to those who are romantically attracted to.
        I don't think either determines the rate of success

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        • #5
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          love before marriage, especially the type you talk of, deep love, entails lots of prohibited acts and thoughts too such as one would see the mental picture of their loved one in their minds [this is prohibited just like were not allowed to gaze on non-mahram]; also their will be thinking about the one loved and a pining; this infact is a punishment of Allah [swt]:

          1) Islam does not permit any sort of relationship before marriage. Islam forbids fornication, and all actions that could lead to it eventually, and this begins by speaking and looking. This is the unique Islamic way of destroying evil from the root.

          4) Thinking about a non-mahram (strange) man voluntarily, is a sin. However if these thoughts come involuntarily, banish them immediately, seek forgiveness and make the Zhikr of Allaah. If you entertain them you shall be sinful.

          And Allaah knows best.

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            Originally posted by SaraMukhtar12 View Post
            I want to know what is more successful, both spouses are deeply in love with each other ( let's assume that they got married to make it halal and never encouraged or did zina or adultery before marriage and both are religious and have good characteristics and morals ) or arranged marriages? Not all of the people would like arranged marriage because some prefer getting married to those who are romantically attracted to.
            Response: A successful marriage is a marriage based on one's desire to care for and make others happy. As long as your desire for marriage comes from this place, it does not matter whether it is arranged or not because you have a natural inclination to be loving and caring regardless.

            Marriages fail when you marry someone because you want then to love you and show you affection, rather than focus on making the other happy.

            So it is your intent and the intent of the other that determines whether a marriage is successful or not. So the only difference between an arranged marriage and one that is not is that in an arranged marriage, you have the family and loved one strong support and judgment to guide your selection. Whereas if not arranged, then you are left to determine much on your own.

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            • #7
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              This is the answer I was looking for. thank u

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              • #8
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                Originally posted by SaraMukhtar12 View Post
                I want to know what is more successful, both spouses are deeply in love with each other ( let's assume that they got married to make it halal and never encouraged or did zina or adultery before marriage and both are religious and have good characteristics and morals ) or arranged marriages? Not all of the people would like arranged marriage because some prefer getting married to those who are romantically attracted to.
                All people could not find by or girl of thiere choices and get married thats why there is arranges marrige which is good things..but in my opinion love marrige is good because you knows each other before gets married and you understand each other like and dislikes..

                But now a days most boys and girl fall in attraction and they called it love, love and attraction are diffrent things..70% people fall in attraction and they called it love..

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