My dear brothers and sister I would like your opinion on this matter.
I got married recently, when I met my wife I found out out that although she said she was a practicing muslim, her sister converted to Christianity. She assured me she and the rest of her sisters disagreed with this. However I found out her father and mother kept in contact with their christian daughter and husband. And they showed no signs of shame and disgust to what this person did in fact when my mother spoke to her parents they seemed quite proud and happy about this and my mother was disturbed by this because I told her everything.
Because my wife promised that she's not like that I married her with my mothers consent (my father passed away when I was 6). However I made it clear with my wife that since her parents show no remorse and awareness of how serious this matter is I wish to keep my distance but I told her that since they are her parents then she has an obligation to help them when they need it and she has my permission. And I thought the matter is closed!
Yesterday we were talking of hajj I said to her that I would like to undertake the pilgrimmage next year since I am of the right age (29) and have no obligation and she said she would like that too. My mother said she would like that too so insha' Allah I hope this will come true. My wife then said she would like her parents to come too, I then told her that I am not happy with it because with regards to religious issue I find them disturbing because of how they treat what their other daughter did so lightly and try to make other people accept it as normal behavior and until they change their attitude I do not wish them to accompany to the pilgrimage. She was upset by my view, but I did tell her that she has my permission to go with them and her parents can go together.
Do you think thats reasonable, because I am not stopping anyone going but I do not wish to be near people who show no remorse on their other daughters behavior and try to encourage other people to accept it? In fact they have three younger daughters and seem to show little desire to set example of decent behavior. I know this is not my business but the Hajj is for myself and I do not wish them to ruin such a wonderful experience when and if I get the chance.
I got married recently, when I met my wife I found out out that although she said she was a practicing muslim, her sister converted to Christianity. She assured me she and the rest of her sisters disagreed with this. However I found out her father and mother kept in contact with their christian daughter and husband. And they showed no signs of shame and disgust to what this person did in fact when my mother spoke to her parents they seemed quite proud and happy about this and my mother was disturbed by this because I told her everything.
Because my wife promised that she's not like that I married her with my mothers consent (my father passed away when I was 6). However I made it clear with my wife that since her parents show no remorse and awareness of how serious this matter is I wish to keep my distance but I told her that since they are her parents then she has an obligation to help them when they need it and she has my permission. And I thought the matter is closed!
Yesterday we were talking of hajj I said to her that I would like to undertake the pilgrimmage next year since I am of the right age (29) and have no obligation and she said she would like that too. My mother said she would like that too so insha' Allah I hope this will come true. My wife then said she would like her parents to come too, I then told her that I am not happy with it because with regards to religious issue I find them disturbing because of how they treat what their other daughter did so lightly and try to make other people accept it as normal behavior and until they change their attitude I do not wish them to accompany to the pilgrimage. She was upset by my view, but I did tell her that she has my permission to go with them and her parents can go together.
Do you think thats reasonable, because I am not stopping anyone going but I do not wish to be near people who show no remorse on their other daughters behavior and try to encourage other people to accept it? In fact they have three younger daughters and seem to show little desire to set example of decent behavior. I know this is not my business but the Hajj is for myself and I do not wish them to ruin such a wonderful experience when and if I get the chance.
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