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    Struggling to wear hijab/beard?


    For the ladies who don't wear hijab YET -- do not lose hope and try not to keep putting it off until it's too late. Something I remember my mother saying to me as I grew up and began to realise that I had to make my own decisions in life was 'Tomorrow never comes.' <-- sounds like a line outta James Bond or something eh?

    Anywho, my point is that, no matter how hard or how difficult it seems in your current situation; don't put it off for so long that you end up living life and never addressing the subject.

    I remember when I was going through the same hijab/no hijab battle inside my head. After all, hey, I dressed modestly, loose clothes and all. Plus I would wear it when it was the right time, when I was so many years old, when I got married, when I went Hajj, when I left college -- so many excuses, but I didn't realise that they were exactly that: excuses. Easy excuses to pacify my soul.

    When someone takes a small step towards Allah, He (swt) comes running towards you.

    My friends will ask me questions; how will I answer them? My family will make comments -- some may be not be nice; how will I handle them? People will stare at me -- what will I say? I want to wear hijab for the right reason, I want to wear hijab when I feel mature enough, I want to understand hijab before I wear it.

    You know what? Just wear it. Worry about all the menial stuff later. If someone asks you and you can't answer them -- tell them you will do some research and get back to them. If someone makes a horrible comment -- ignore it, after all everyone is responsible for their own souls; you cannot please everyone.

    One thing you will notice, and prolly slap yourself upside the head about, is how BIG a thing it seemed when you didn't wear hijab, but HOW easy it seems now you wear it eh?!

    Of course at first, people will be curious, people will look, you may still be the noisiest in your crowd, you may still not pray all your salah YET, you may still be a stroppy cow and go into fits at the slightest thing, and you may be worried about the impression its all giving to those watching.

    At the end of the day... SO WHAT?! It really doesn't matter that much. YOU have taken that step towards Allah and HE will make it easier for you. YOU have submitted to His law and He will protect you within it. NO ONE changes overnight. That is just silly to even assume.

    Change takes time. But for change to occur at all, that 1st step needs to be taken. Hey most countries are going through winter at the moment now? Take this opportune moment and wrap up that head Try it. Its like one those new Chinese places that have opened down the road. The food smells good but you're worried it may give you a stomach ache.

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    Re: Top 10 excuses by women who don’t wear the Hijab

    i guess for some women wearing hijaab is like a jihad for them, same with some brothers and beards. (altho i would think beards are much easier, as they are totally natural and most women are attracted to bearded men)

    being raised in the west can rob a person of their modesty. muslim women who are raised in muslim families take this for granted. some of us converts have to develop our modesty, its doesn't come naturally for all of us.

    that may sound kinda odd, but its true.

    when i first began it was difficult for me. i did it in steps. wore it for prayers, to visit other muslims, etc. then eventually began wearing it all the time. now, i feel naked without it, alhamdulillah. i was also lucky that i didnt have anyone pushing me or forcing me to do it as well. i know some sisters who convert who pretty much wear it because their husbands demand it.

    you should do it for the sake of Allah, and, for yourself.


      Re: Top 10 excuses by women who don’t wear the Hijab

      Reasons for wearing the Hijaab

      1. Because the Qur'an and Sunnah states so. Allah ordered us to wear the hijab and cover up to protect ourselves so we get the proper respect we deserve and not be treated like we are a piece of meat.

      2. You can dye your hair any colour you want and no one can say anything at all, because its all hidden, you can have blue hair, or purple, or bright red, or neon pink or green, long or permed or short, or rainbow colors with sparkles and glitter, jewellery in your ears, and all over....

      4. People think it is your costume. Or at least some will think of it as a costume you are wearing for your party, or work, or that you were forced to wear it. LOL and you have to explain to them no it is your CHOICE to wear it though in the Qur'an it says it will Protect you.

      5. People think you might be bald, but then you have to tell them no, I have I don't have cancer. You can show to the little kids, see I have hair....

      6. You get a lot of respect in the hijab from all your brothers and sisters and other people, than you did before your hijabi days

      7. You can wear whatever you like under the abayah, light and cool dresses are good.

      8. Despite that this world has hot weather, HELL IS HOTTER, so you rather suffer a bit on this world than the Hereafter.

      9. Have you noticed that some people that are really maybe ignorant about Islam and women and Muslims that they speak extra loudly and clearly to you wherever you go. "Wwwoould yooooou llike ttthat in beeeeeels/noooottes or ch change ma 'am?"

      "I speak english clearly, change please."

      10. No bad hair days to worry about!.

      11. People know that you're a Muslim. You can distinguish yourself in this society.

      12. Your hair isn't exposed all kinds of crappy pollution and UV rays.

      13. Your hijabs smell nice cause they start smelling like your shampoo.

      14. Only the people you want to see your awrah, will see it...not every wierdo walking on the street.

      15. your skin is protected under the niqab

      16. No bugs in your hair (no having to worry about catching nits from other people!)

      17. you won't age prematuredly, since you don't wear makeup

      18. you won't have to waste time in the morning deciding on the perfect outfit in the morning, if you wear jilbab.

      19. because you know your beautiful and you can keep all that beauty to yourself.

      20. No one dares to mess with a hijabi sis while taking a walk.

      22. you will feel a closeness to every muhajabah you see on the road and to every muslim you ever encounter

      23. The inner feeling of peace you get when you wear it

      24. little girls or little boys look up to you, and want to be like you.

      25. When guys see you, they respect you, they cross the street so they dont pass by you and offend you.

      26. They see muslims as trustworthy people and give you discounts at stores, and restaurants, and esp if you are in hijab they give you like 5 or 10 dollars/pounds off what you buy.

      27. because most pious brothers WON'T EVEN CONSIDER marriage with a non-hijabi (caution: your intention for wearing hijab should still be to observe the command of Allah)

      28. If you ever get in trouble.. you can pretend like you dont know any English and either flip out on them in Arabic/Urdu/any other language or run away crying as if they offended you.

      29. Because theres more freedom in deciding who gets to see you rather than having anyone look at you and your beauty.

      30. People treat you for your mind not your body. In the sense that you succeed in things (ie. job because of your performance and intelligence and not because how short your mini skirt is.

      31. Because Muslims are required to practice Islam in every aspect of ur life including everyone, not just nuns like in Christainity or only on saturday. for Jews, or only Sunday for Catholics all of whom cover on those days, I am told as a respect to God. Muslimahs should respect God at all times.

      32. Beauty fades eventually, and with hijab people learn to love your inner beauty without the hindereness of your outer beauty.

      33. Your husband and loved ones learn to appreciate your beauty both outside and in more, and these tend to be the most important people in your life of which you grace those special people with your gifts from Allah.

      34. You are a shining example how women in Islam are sooooo highly respected and valued and powerful in islam. For example you are no mans torphy to adorn his hand, you are a companion, mother and friend of the insha'Allah religous brother who appreciates you and your beauty. There are other things where this applies as well.

      35. Thourghout history those that where scandalessly dressed and showing off there beauty, etc. tended to be the whores and prostitutes of the street, dancing girls etc., and those that were coverd tended to be the pious, respected women of history and many times they were the more powerfull then the other. (Sorry if I offeneded anyone with this one just a thought that has been in my head. I am not saying that these days that the people that don't dress correctly do things that I mentioned, I am just saying in history in the past this tened to be the case).

      36. Hijab is a source of confidence. Non-Muslims easily recognize you to be different and do not stare when you stand up for you Islamic rights and beliefs which are often considered strange in the western society.

      37. It keeps you warm in the winter. You dont have to worry about trying to keep a hat on to stop your ears from freezing up! Plus the head is medically known for the place where a HIGH level of heat is released from the body!

      38. Long Lasting. Hijab protects your hair for longer and keeps it shiny, healthy and in good condition.


        Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?


        As a still relatively new Muslim, I recited the Shahada six months ago, it was only recently I started growing my beard. The brothers that I study with were very careful about what they said if I asked about the beard issue. I feel it is because they didn't want to overwhelm me at first, as I had so much already to think about, ie: prayer timings, learning the prayer, etc...

        As I have grown in the Deen (way of life) of Islam, I learned that wearing the beard is 'wajib,' or mandatory, for men. This was confusing at first because I was told by some people, it was sunnah, in which they meant recommended but not mandatory. This seemed more plausible at first, as brothers who wear a beard are the minority at the masjids I attend. But after more & more research, listening to lectures, etc., I learned that it is an obligation for me as a Muslim.

        It isn't easy at times. Since I have never had more than a couple of days worth of stubble on my face my whole life, my family is unsure what to make of it. My wife, who is a Christian, is very careful about what she says about it. My young son, who has always said that he "shaved too" after I used to shave, isn't sure what to make of his daddy's beard. But I know in my heart I must do this obligation, this isn't about me. It is an obligation I must undertake to please Allah (SWT), and follow the example of the Prophet :saw: .
        “Fear your sins more than you fear the enemy as your sins are more dangerous to you than your enemy. We Muslims are only victorious over our enemy because their sins outnumber ours, not for any other reason. If our sins were equal to those of our enemy, then they would defeat us due to their superior numbers and resources.”
        ~ Umar bin Al-Khattab (RA)


          Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

          may Allah make it easy for you to keep and reward you for that aameen :up:
          about your family, it is a new thing for them at the moment, but insha allah slowly they will get used to it and they will see it as the norm to see u with ur beard.. so at that time it would get easier?
          .: Rufaida :.
          .:Fa Firroo Ila-llaah:.

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            Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

            Originally posted by .: Anna :. View Post
            may Allah make it easy for you to keep and reward you for that aameen :up:
            about your family, it is a new thing for them at the moment, but insha allah slowly they will get used to it and they will see it as the norm to see u with ur beard.. so at that time it would get easier?

            Ameen... :jkk: for your dua.

            Insha'Allah, it will be easier for my son. He seems to be getting used to it. I cannot say for certain with my wife. She isn't too excited about my reversion to begin with. She seems to want and ask me if the beard is a Muslim thing, but has not. On the positive side, the brothers I study with, and a couple of others, have said they are pleased to see the beard. They say it looks good.
            “Fear your sins more than you fear the enemy as your sins are more dangerous to you than your enemy. We Muslims are only victorious over our enemy because their sins outnumber ours, not for any other reason. If our sins were equal to those of our enemy, then they would defeat us due to their superior numbers and resources.”
            ~ Umar bin Al-Khattab (RA)


              Top Ten Excuses for Not Wearing Hijab

              Among the pictures that point to the distance of society from the right path and that make clear the level of its deviation and separation from it is the open spread of women enhancing and making a display of their beauty. We find that this is manifested regretfully,even in Islamic (Muslim) society despite the fact that Islamic clothing is also widespread. So then, what are the reasons that have led to this digression?

              We put this question to a varied group of women from whom we derived ten major excuses and upon examination and scrutiny, the frailty of the excuses became evident to us. Stay with us dear Muslim sister in these few lines so that we can know through them the reasons for turning away from the hijaab and then discuss each.

              Excuse One: I’m not yet convinced (of the necessity) of hijaab.

              We then ask this sister two questions.

              1: Is she truly convinced of the correctness of the religion of Islam? the natural answer is: Yes she is convinced for she responds “Laa ilaaha illallah!” (There is no god but Allah), meaning she is convinced of the aqeedah, and then she says: “Muhammadun rasoolullah!” (Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah), meaning by that that she is convinced of its legislation or law (Sharee’ah). Therefore, she is convinced of Islam as a belief system and a law by which one governs and rules their life.

              2: Is the hijaab then a part of Islamic Law (Sharee’ah) and an obligation? If this sister is honest and sincere in her intention and has looked into the issue as one who truly wants to know the truth her answer could only be: Yes. For Allah ta’aala, Whose deity (Uloohiyyah) she believes in has commanded wearing hijaab in His Book (Al-Qur’an) and the noble Prophet (alayhe salaat wa salaam) whose message she believes in has commanded wearing the hijaab in his Sunnah. In summary: If this sister is convinced of Islam, how then can she not be convinced of its orders?

              Excuse Two: I am convinced of Islamic dress but my mother prevents me from wearing it, and if I disobey her I will go to the Fire.

              The one who has answered this excuse is the most noble of Allah’s creation, the messenger of Allah (SAWS) in concise and comprehensive words of wisdom: “There is no obedience to the created in the disobedience of Allah.” [Ahmad]

              The status of parents in Islam, especially the mother, is a high and elevated one. Indeed Allah ta’aala has combined it with the greatest of matters, worshipping Him and His Tawheed, in many aayaat. He stated:

              “Worship Allah and join none with Him and do good to parents.” [Soorah An-Nisaa 4: 36]. Obedience to parents is not limited except in one aspect, and that is if they order to disobedience of Allah. Allah said:“But if they strive with you to make you join in worship with Me others that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not.” [Soorah Luqmaan 31: 15]

              The lack of obedience to them in sinfulness does not prevent being good to them and kind treatment of them. Allah said afterward in the same aayah: But behave with them world kindly. In summary: How can you obey your mother and disobey Allah Who created you and your mother?

              Excuse Three: My position does not allow me to substitute my dress for Islamic dress.

              This sister is either one or the other of two types: She is sincere and honest, or she is a slippery liar who desires to make a showy display of her “hijaab” clamoring with colors to be “in line with the times” and expensive”. We will begin with an answer to the honest and sincere sister. Are you unaware my dear sister, that it is not permissible for the Muslim woman to leave her home in any instance unless her clothing meets the conditions of Islamic hijaab (Hijaab shar’ee) and it is a duty of every Muslim woman to know what they are? If you have taken the time and effort to learn so many matters of this world how then can you be neglectful of learning those matters which will save you from the punishment of Allah and His anger ? Does Allah not say:

              “Ask the people of remembrance (i.e. knowledgeable scholars) if you do not know.” [Soorah An-Nahl 16: 43]

              Learn therefore, the requirements of proper hijaab. If you must go out, then do not do so without the correct hijaab, seeking the pleasure of Allah and the degradation of Shaitaan. That is because the corruption brought about by your going out adorned and “beautified” is far greater than the matter which you deem necessary to go out for.

              My dear sister if you are really truthful in your intention and correctly determined you will find a thousands hands of good assisting you and Allah will make the matter easy for you! Is He not the One Who says:

              “And whoever fears Allah and keeps his duty to Him, He will make a way for him to get out (from every difficulty) and He will provide him from sources he never could imagine.” [Soorah At-Talaaq 65:2-3]

              With regards to the ‘slippery’ one we say: Honour and position is something determined by Allah ta’aala and it is not due to embellishment of clothing and show of colors and keeping up with the trendsetters. It is rather due to obedience to Allah and His Messenger (SAWS) and holding to the pure law of Allah and correct Islamic hijaab. Listen to the words of Allah: “Indeed, the most honourable amongst you are those who are the most pious.” [Soorah Al-Hujraat 49: 35]. In summary: Do things in the way of seeking Allah’s pleasure and entering His Jannah and give less value to the high priced and costly objects and wealth of this word.

              Excuse Four: It is so very hot in my country and I can’t stand it. How could I take it if I wore the hijaab?

              Allah gives an example by saying: “Say: The Fire of hell is more intense in heat if they only understand.” [Soorah At-Taubah 9:81]. How can you compare the heat of your land to the heat of the Hellfire? Know, my sister, that Shaitaan as trapped you in one of his feeble ropes to drag you from the heat of this world to the heat of the Hellfire. Free yourself from his net and view the heat of the sun as a favor and not an affliction especially in that it reminds you of the intensity of the punishment of Allah which is many times greater than the heat you now feel. Return to the order of Allah and sacrifice this worldly comfort in the way of following the path of salvation from the Hellfire about which Allah says: “They will neither feel coolness nor have any drink except that of boiling water and the discharge of dirty wounds.” [Soorah An-Naba’ 78: 24-25]. In summary: The Jannah is surrounded by hardships and toil, while Hellfire is surrounded by temptations, lusts and desires.

              Excuse Five: I’m afraid that if I wear the hijaab I will put it off at another time because I have seen so many others do so!!

              To her I say: If everyone was to apply your logic then they would have left the Deen in its entirety! They would have left off salaat because some would be afraid of leaving it later. They would have left fasting in Ramadan because so many are afraid of not doing it later…etc. Haven’t you seen how Shaitaan has trapped you in his snare again and blocked you from guidance?

              Allah ta’aala loves continuous obedience even if it be small or recommended. How about something that is an absolute obligation like wearing hijaab?! The Prophet (SAWS) said: “The most beloved deed with Allah is the consistent one though it be little.” Why haven’t you sought out the causes leading those people to leave of the hijaab so that you can avoid them and work to keep away from them? Why haven’t you sought out reasons and causes to affirm truth and guidance until you can hold firm to them?

              Among these causes is much supplication to Allah (du’aa) to make the heart firm upon the Deen as did the Prophet (SAWS). Also is making salaat and having mindfulness of it as Allah stated: “And seek help in patience and the prayer and truly it is extremely heavy except for the true believers in Allah who obey Allah with full submission and believe in His promise of Jannah and in His warnings (Al Khaashi’oon).” [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2:45]

              Other causes to put one upon guidance and truth is adherence to the laws of Islam and one of them is indeed wearing the hijaab. Allah said: “If they had done what they were told, it would have been better for them and would have strengthened their faith.” [Soorah Al-Baqarah 2: 66]. In summary: If you hold tight to the causes of guidance and taste the sweetness of faith you will not neglect the orders of Allah after having held to them.

              Excuse Six: If I wear the hijaab then nobody will marry me, so I’m going to leave it off until then.

              Any husband who desires that you be uncovered and adorned in public in defiance of and in disobedience to Allah, is not a worthy husband in the first place. He is a husband who has no feeling to protect what Allah has made inviolable, most notably yourself, and he will not help you in any way to enter Al-Jannah or escape from the Hellfire. A home which is founded upon disobedience to Allah and provocation of His anger is fitting that He decrees misery and hardship for it in this life and in the Hereafter. As Allah stated: “But whosoever, turns away from My reminder (i.e. neither believes in the Qur’an nor acts upon its teachings) verily for him is a life of hardship and We shall raise him up blind on the Day of Resurrection.” [Soorah TaHa 20: 124]

              Marriage is a favor and blessing from Allah to whom He give whom He wills. How many women who wear hijaab (mutahajibah) are in fact married while many who don’t aren’t? If you were to say that ‘…my being made-up and uncovered is a means to reach a pure end, namely marriage’, a pure goal or end is not attained through impure and corrupt means in Islam. If the goal is honourable then it must necessarily be achieved by pure and clean method. We say the rule in Islam is: the means are according to the rules of the intended goals. In summary: There is no blessing in a marriage established upon sinfulness and corruption.

              Excuse Seven: I don’t wear hijaab based on what Allah says: “And proclaim the grace of your Rabb” [Soorah Ad-Dhuhaa 93: 11]. How can I cover what Allah has blessed me with of silky soft hair and captivating beauty?!

              So… this sister of ours adheres to the Book of Allah and its commands as long as they coincide with her personal desires and understanding! She leaves behind those matters when they don’t please her. If this was not the case, then why doesn’t she follow the aayah: “And do not show off their adornment except only that which is apparent” [Soorah An-Noor 24: 31] and the statement of Allah: “Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks all over their bodies.” [Soorah Al-Ahzab 33:59]

              With this statement my sister you have now made a Shari’ah (law) for yourself of what Allah ta’aala has strictly forbidden, namely beautification (at-tabarruj) and uncovering (as-sufoor), and the reason: Your lack of wanting to adhere to the order. The greatest blessing or favor that Allah has bestowed upon us is that of Eemaan (faith) and hidaayah (guidance) and among them is the Islamic hijaab. Why then do you not manifest and talk about this greatest of blessings given to you? In summary: Is there a greater blessing and favor upon the woman than guidance and hijaab?

              Excuse Eight: I know that hijaab is obligatory (waajib), but I will wear it when Allah guidance me to do so.

              We ask this sister on what plans or steps she will undertake until she accepts this divine guidance? We know that Allah has in His wisdom made a cause or means for everything. That is why the sick take medicine to regain health, and the traveller rides a vehicle or an animal to reach his destination, and other limitless examples.

              Has this sister of ours seriously endeavored to seek true guidance and exerted the proper means to get it such as: Supplicating Allah sincerely as He stated: “Guide us to the Straight Path.” [Soorah Al-Faatihaa 1: 6]; Keeping company with the righteous good sisters – for they are among the best to assist her to guidance and to continue to point her to it until Allah guides her and increases her guidance and inspires her to further guidance and taqwaa. She would then adhere to the orders of Allah and wear the hijaab that the believing women are commanded to wear. In summary: If this sister was really serious about seeking guidance she would have exerted herself by the proper means to get it.

              Excuse Nine: It’s not time for that yet. I’m still too young for wearing hijaab. I’ll do it when I get older and after I make Hajj ( Pilgrimage to Macca)!

              The Angel of Death my sister, is visiting and waiting at your door for the order of Allah ta’aala to open it on you at any moment in your life. Allah said: “When their term comes, neither can they delay it nor can they advance it an hour (or a moment).” [Soorah Al-An’aam 7:34]

              Death my sister doesn’t discriminate between the young or the old and it may come while you are in this state of great sinfulness disobedience, fighting against the Lord of Honour with your uncovering and shameless adornment. My sister, you should race to obedience along with those others who race to answer the call of Allah tabaaraka wa ta’aala: “Race with one another in hastening towards forgiveness from your Lord and Paradise the width whereof is as the width of the heavens and the earth.” [Soorah Al-hadeed 57:21]

              Sister, don’t forget Allah or He will forget you by turning His mercy away from you in this life and the next. You are forgetting your own soul by not fulfilling the right or your souls to obey Allah and proper worship of Him. Allah stated about the hypocrites (Al-Munaafiqoon): “And be not like those who forgot Allah and He caused them to forget their own selves.” [Soorah Al-Hashr 59: 19]

              My sister wear the hijaab in your young age in opposition to the sinful deed because Allah is intense in punishment and will ask you on the Day of Resurrection about your youth and every moment of your life. In summary: Stop presuming some future expectation in your life will indeed occur!! How can you guarantee your own life until tomorrow?

              Excuse Ten: I’m afraid that if I wear Islamic clothing that I’ll be labeled as belonging to some group or another and I hate partisanship.

              My sister in Islam, there are only two parties in Islam, and they are both mentioned by Allah Almighty in His Noble Book. The first party is the party of Allah (Hizbullah) that He gives victory to because of their obedience to His commands and staying away from what He has forbidden. The second party is the party of the accursed Shaitaan (hizbush-Shaitan) which disobeys the Most Merciful and increase corruption in the earth. When you hold tight to and adhere to the commands of Allah, and among them is wearing the hijaab – you then become a part of the successful party of Allah. when you beautify and display your charms you are riding in the boat of Shaitaan and his friends and partners from among the hypocrites and the disbelievers and none worse could there be as friends.

              Don’t you see how you are running from Allah and to the Shaitaan, trading filth for good? Run instead my sister to Allah and follow His way: “So flee to Allah (from His Torment to His mercy). Verily I (Muhammad) am a plain warner to you from Him.” [Soorah Adh-Dhaariyaat 51: 50]. The hijaab is a high form of worship that is not subject to the opinions of people and their orientation and choices because the one who legislated it is the Most Wise Creator. In summary: In the way of seeking the pleasure of Allah and in hope of His Mercy and success in His Jannah and throw the statements of the devils among people and jinn against the wall! Hold tight to the legislation of Allah by your molars and follow the example of the striving and knowledgeable Mothers of the Believers and the female companions (radhiallahu anhum ajma’een).

              In Conclusion

              Your body is on display in the market of Shaitan seducting the hearts of men. The hairstyles, the tight clothing showing every detail of your figure, the short dresses showing off your legs and feet, the showy, decorative and fragrant clothing all angers the Merciful and pleases the Shaitaan. Every day that passes while you are in this condition, distances you further from Allah and brings you closer to Shaitaan. Each day curses and anger are directed toward you from the heavens until you repent. Every day brings you closer to the grave and the Angel of Death is ready to capture your soul. “Everyone shall taste death. And only on the Day of Resurrection shall you be paid your wages in full. And whoever is removed away from the Hellfire and admitted to Al-Jannah, is indeed successful. The life of this world is only the enjoyment of deception (a deceiving thing).” [Soorah Aale ‘Imraan 3:185]

              Get on the train of repentance my sister, before it passes by your station. Deeply consider my sister, what is happening today before tomorrow comes. Think about it, my sister – Now, before it is too late!

              By : Dr. Huwayda Ismaeel
              Last edited by *asiya*; 06-05-08, 08:27 PM.
              "O you who believe! Stand out firmly for justice, as witnesses to Allah, even as against yourselves, or your parents, or your kin, and whether it be (against) rich or poor: for Allah can best protect both. Follow not the lusts (of your hearts), lest you swerve, and if you distort (justice) or decline to do justice, verily Allah is well-acquainted with all that you do." [An-Nisa 4:135]

              The Prophet :saw: said:

              "Whosoever leaves off obedience and separates from the Jamaa'ah and dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah. Whoever fights under the banner of the blind, becoming angry for 'asabiyyah (nationalism/tribalism/partisanship) or calling to 'asabiyyah, or assisting 'asabiyyah, then dies, he dies a death of jaahiliyyah."


              Narrated 'Abdullah:

              The Prophet, said, "Abusing a Muslim is Fusuq (evil doing) and killing him is Kufr (disbelief)." sahih bukhari

              "Creeping upon you is the diseases of those people before you: envy and hatred. And hatred is the thing that shaves. I do not say it shaves the hair but it shaves the religion!

              By the One in whose Hand is my soul, you will not enter paradise until you believe, and you will not believe until you love one another. Certainly, let me inform you of that which may establish such things: spread the greetings and peace among yourselves."

              [Recorded by Imam Ahmad and Al-Tirmidhi]


                Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                wearing the hijab should it be worn with islamic clothing im a new muslim and try to wear the hijab and at times dont, im trying to find in me the strength to wear it always, i have confusion over clothing tho, what advise or information can anyone give me. i see some sisters wear hijabs and jilbabs and i see some sisters wear hijabs and wester clothes i personally feel as a new muslim this a confusing thing. to cover up the whole body, the shape what colours like it may sound like silly to ask all this but coming from a totaly different life everything from little to big i got to ask.


                  Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                  for the clothes its better if u are able to wear it with the jilbab. if u feel its too much atleast u can start wearing ur scarf all the time with lose clothes like long skirt etc and when u feel more used to it try to move to jilbab? altho in some ways jilbab wil b easier for u cos u wear ur normal clothes underneath and just put it on... whatever the clothes insha allah it should not b tight fitting at all, cos the condition of hijab it has to cover the shape properly. when i was new in islam i did not know this, i used to wear scarf with whatever clothes, like just normal jeans etc
                  if u find it hard to wear it, make alot of dua that Allah wil make it easy for u, and just put ur firm intention and put it on. it wil get easier insha allah.
                  if u dno where to buy these things in ur area we can giv u some website links insha allah for online shopping, if u want
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                    Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                    take things at a comfortable pace. You don't have to make the transition all in one go, so long as you have the intention to actually make the transition. As Anna says, jilbaab is better, but there are lots of reasons reverts don't wear all the clothes straight away, including not having enough money to buy loads of new things. There is no requirement for any particular style, just that it covers you up including your shape. No particular rules about colours but avoid anything too bright/eyecatching. neon green jilbaab and neon pink hijaab is not really suitable lol... go for nice subdued colours. If you are somewhere like Saudi where everyone wears black you should do also cause even quite mild colours would draw too much attention in Saudi, when the same colours would be very ordinary, even quite boring, in the UK.

                    So abaya or jilbaab is best but nothing wrong with long skirt and baggy t-shirt as this covers exactly the same as a jilbaab (providing it doesn't show your waist). However, as Anna said, jilbaab/abaya is more convenient as you can just wear them over your indoor clothes.

                    As for not wearing it every day... you are new, so go easy on yourself :) just try to wear it absolutely as often as you can, and increase the amount all the time. Also, when you feel like not wearing it, or afraid to wear it... ask yourself why.... if there is any particular problem you can ask us for help with it here... or maybe once you realise what the problem is you'll work out the solution for yourself inshaAllah :) but either way you can come and talk to us here about it inshaAllah :)


                      Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                      asalaam alaikum
                      i know it sounds stupid but when i first reverted i found none of my clothes suitable for me to wear! and even the clothes i bought at that time thinking they were modest, now i wouldnt wear them outside! but now i am wearing jilbaab most of the time, i haven't worn it in front of my mum yet though as i am scared of her reaction.

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                        Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                        My husband wont grow a bread he gets very bad rash under it and it itches his skin badly

                        He shaves it off when it gets to bad for him.
                        is this wrong that he is shaving it off what should he do about the rash and itching


                          Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                          salam sis
                          maybe if he sees his GP he wil b able to get something for the rash so that it wil b easier on him to keep a beard
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                            Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                            You should first of all try seeing a doctor, if the doctor says there is no cure for this rash except for shaving, then consult a scholar who is qualified to give a fatwa (if it gets to that stage ask us again and we can inshaAllah help you find one) When it comes to seeing a doctor, better see a Muslim one if possible, cause I non Muslim one probably won't understand how much Muslims value a beard!!! They might just say if your beard itches shave it off and not be willing to do anything to help.

                            However, one other thing, some people do experience itching and major discomfort whilst certain types of hair are growing back after being shaved off, but this only lasts a couple of days or so. Has your husband tried to see if this will settle down on its own? The beard is designed to grow on the face and its unlikely that he's allergic to his own beard, more likely its just his skin adjusting to it being there.


                              Re: Struggling to wear hijab/beard?

                              Assalamu Alaikum!
                              I know this thread is kinda old, but I would like some advice. My family is made up of extreme hindus, but they do not know that I reverted to Islam. I want to wear hijab, but I am afraid my family might reject me or fight with me. I was thinking about wearing hijab when my family wasn't around, but I am afraid they might catch me wearing it. Thanks for reading this post.