Ladies Only! Porn addiction

[Unregistered5363]

As salaamu alaykum,

I need some advice. I've had a pornography problem for about 3 years, and I can't seem to disconnect myself completely from it. My main concern at the moment is not my porn addiction but actually my complete lack of desire to change my situation. I have practically accepted porn/masturbating as a part of my life. At one point I had a strong desire to destroy my addiction and was highly motivated. Now I accept porn as the only source of comfort and warmth in my life, I'm almost scared to live without it. Without porn I have no other excitement in my life.

Most people have strong motivations to give up porn, either for their spouse, marriage, health reasons etc. But I have no desire to marry, so that doesn't motivate me. The only motivation I have left is fear of Allah and ruining my akhirah but then I always think why would Allah punish me for something like porn when I sacrifice so much else, I pray 5 times a day, wear hijab, read Qur'aan. Surely a bit of porn isn't that catastrophic. It's not like I'm going out an commiting zina. Porn is better than zina. That's how I always rationalise it. I know I'm in a rut and I know something needs to change, but I have zero interest in changing. What do I do?

Jazakumullah khayran.

[we are one umma]

Re: Porn addiction

Salam sister,
Many think of pornography as a problem for the brothers, but I used to have a bit of an addiction myself. (Astagfirullah)
One option that I used is to block access to the porn using a porn blocker or such. Another option I tried are courses online. There are many for Muslims so you can try one.

[SofiaG]

Re: Porn addiction

As salaamu alaykum,

I need some advice. I've had a pornography problem for about 3 years, and I can't seem to disconnect myself completely from it. My main concern at the moment is not my porn addiction but actually my complete lack of desire to change my situation. I have practically accepted porn/masturbating as a part of my life. At one point I had a strong desire to destroy my addiction and was highly motivated. Now I accept porn as the only source of comfort and warmth in my life, I'm almost scared to live without it. Without porn I have no other excitement in my life.

Most people have strong motivations to give up porn, either for their spouse, marriage, health reasons etc. But I have no desire to marry, so that doesn't motivate me. The only motivation I have left is fear of Allah and ruining my akhirah but then I always think why would Allah punish me for something like porn when I sacrifice so much else, I pray 5 times a day, wear hijab, read Qur'aan. Surely a bit of porn isn't that catastrophic. It's not like I'm going out an commiting zina. Porn is better than zina. That's how I always rationalise it. I know I'm in a rut and I know something needs to change, but I have zero interest in changing. What do I do?

Jazakumullah khayran.

I know this is a few days late, and I'm sorry for that.
Porn is actually very catastrophic. You're watching another couple commit zina, and porn IS considered zina of the eyes.
You're essentially abusing a gift from Allah (SWT).

Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc) that is purer for them. Verily, Allah is All-Aware of what they do. And tell the believing women to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things) and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts.[24:30-31].

[Zoha_R]

Re: Porn addiction

Get those parental locks and security blocking things. Get someone else to enter a password so you won't know what it is. Make sure they don't know what it's for though. It might be a little weird tho.

[Zoha_R]

Re: Porn addiction

Get thos parental locks/restrictions things. Get someone else to set the password. Make sure they don't know what it's for though. It might be a little weird, but if that's what it takes...

[AdaWong]

Re: Porn addiction

Salaam sister,

What my fellow sisters are saying is right. What i'd also suggest is therapy. Just to help support you whilst you make these changes. Also fast. Fasting helps because you know you can't do none of that stuff whilst fasting. It's kind of an invisible shield.