Shopping

[ten_toes]

There's no random thread anymore and I'm at the shopping centre, thought I'd just hang in Westfield today. This never happens (I'm islamically dressed, plain looking) and today this creep told me to smile as he went past me. He saw me again in the pound shop and said smile again, I ignored and didn't even look and he said hi gorgeous so loud, other ppl started staring. I continued to ignore but it's so humiliating. I'm hiding right now, bought ice cream tho not hungry, hoping he leaves. I'm seeing what non covered women go through now and it's horrible, they prob go through it every week. Times like this I wish I had a husband to lean on :/
makes you feel quite vulnerable

[aelmo]

Speaking of girl things, as a eid present for myself I got a spa mani pedi with my sister. It took like 2 hours!

Its basically a regular mani pedi but then the put your hands and feet in jelly and then put a hand mask on then and wrap them in cellophane. lol it was so fun.

And the lady I had today could cut cuticles like a champ! And she told me that I could play with the jelly!

[aelmo]

Anyone here?

Im here!

[Flawed]

Anyone here?

[Flawed]

I'm actually shy offline, i realised.


Online, when I make a point and a narc tries to annoy me i get mean back but I've realised that it's a horrible habit to keep and at the end of the day the narcs are doing their job so let them be the nasty one as they wish to.

[aelmo]

I don’t Rey on make up at all to feel good
i don’t even wear a hint of make up except for minimal (no one knows I’m wearing it) on Eid and then on on weddings I’ve given into pressure to wear it only on close ones where someone is booked to do make up.

it’s just a part of my personality I feel kind of sad about that I didn’t get to grow from lol

mainly low Iman that causes a constant feeling of not feeling like make up can fill up something. Maybe that is a delusion, it probably is. When you submit to what Allah says then the reality is make up won’t fill that ‘void’ so it probably is a delusion, I will just jump to something else as there will be another problem. That was a good realisation

What other ways can someone be ‘girly’ without makeup? My mind is set on make up clearly

I was just speaking generally. I didn't mean you as in you lol.

Personally a lot of my core interests are not considered girly and honestly I don't enjoy doing a lot of traditionally girly things.

With that being said just because some may not do or enjoy (like in my case) traditionally girly things it doesn't mean that you cant still present yourself in a feminine way.

The way you carry yourself, the way you speak, cleanliness, clothes all come to mind aside from make up.

When I was younger I used to feel very insecure and felt like I would die if I didn't wear eyeliner Its actually very funny to think about it now because never in a million years would I ever put eyeliner on my waterline now but it took years for me to realize that makeup isn't the only thing to do to make you girly or look good, there is so much more too it then that.

prepare yourself because I am going to say something extremely cringy right now. Makeup makes a pretty face but it doesn't make a pretty heart

There I said it! You can ignore me forever if you want to after that. I would! lol

I just think that in order to be girly and feminine you need more than surface level things. Especially as muslim women. Looking presentable is important but being kind and having good character is just as, if not more important.

[usernametaken]

You can be girly without wearing makeup.

It shouldn't be something you rely on or need to make you feel a certain kind of way. There are other things that you can do to make yourself more girly if that's how you want to be.

I don’t Rey on make up at all to feel good
i don’t even wear a hint of make up except for minimal (no one knows I’m wearing it) on Eid and then on on weddings I’ve given into pressure to wear it only on close ones where someone is booked to do make up.

it’s just a part of my personality I feel kind of sad about that I didn’t get to grow from lol

mainly low Iman that causes a constant feeling of not feeling like make up can fill up something. Maybe that is a delusion, it probably is. When you submit to what Allah says then the reality is make up won’t fill that ‘void’ so it probably is a delusion, I will just jump to something else as there will be another problem. That was a good realisation

What other ways can someone be ‘girly’ without makeup? My mind is set on make up clearly

[aelmo]

I truly feel like I will feel like my true self when I get into girly things but then I feel bad because it’s haram

You can be girly without wearing makeup.

It shouldn't be something you rely on or need to make you feel a certain kind of way. There are other things that you can do to make yourself more girly if that's how you want to be.

[usernametaken]

Need to attend a family wedding but don’t have a makeup artist.
so I had to buy some make up.

[usernametaken]

I truly feel like I will feel like my true self when I get into girly things but then I feel bad because it’s haram

[usernametaken]

Salah*

[usernametaken]

I don’t know how other religious sisters find it but I’m sure not this bad lol

plenty have sisters only parties and so on
some just don’t get affected

but there’s some that do

I’m wanna be religious due to struggling with salary but I still try with make up

[usernametaken]

I went to buy some make up and tell me why I felt like a tranny forcing themselves to buy make up lol

let me explain

like I once saw a man looking at lashes and thought he’s weird because he was

and it’s like I related more to an imposter (not him obvs) than an average sister

this is what happens when you follow the rules and don’t buy make up because spending money makes no sense, you lose touch with your girly self. (Ok it’s not that serious)

but mentally this stuff really affects you

[usernametaken]

Mentally it does affect me

[usernametaken]

I need to find a balance without haram