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    I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Salam brothers and sisters.
    (I am a sister so ignore my profile info pls. It's a mistake)

    I have a "problem" which I cannot call a real problem but I still want to know if it's a problem. This sentence makes no sence but anyway...

    I have always been a dreamer. Not sleep-dream, but daydream. I can sit alone for hours thinking about everything I can think about and personally I find nothing wrong with it. It's some kind of relaxation for me when stressed. I can get emotionall too, for example if I think about something that makes me mad, I cam get mad. But because it's a dream I can still twist it and solve the problem in the dream. So the dreams is a world I can control how I want. I has always been a dreamer and deep thinker.

    But lately, it started to get worse. I talk to myself now. Alot. And I mean it. It's just... To much. When someone annoys me for example, I retreat to somewhere and I start to speak to myself. With hand gestures and face expressions as if that annoying person is standing in front of me! Before, I could wake up of the dream and continue with my daily life but now I can still be annoyed during the day. If it's something happy, I can be cheerfull throughout the whole day. People around me gets confused because I shift emotions all the time.

    I think I developed this habbit of talking to myself because I have no other way to get my feelings out. I have no friends to talk to and even if I wanted to, it's just to private to share with anyone. The feeling as I am talking to someone helps me alot. But I am afraid to take this into the next level. Now I even started to daydream in the precense of other people without realizing that I am doing it. I am getting scared of myself now, as if I am sick in my head or something. But I'm aware of this habbit so calling it a sickness is to much.

    Idk, I am a sister seeking help. What should I do?

    #2
    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

    Wa alaikumsalam, go see a professional/therapist
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      #3
      Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

      :wswrwb:

      It sounds like you've made a regular habit of this and so whenever you get triggered by a feeling your brain automatically responds by day-dreaming.

      I would suggest that the second you realise you are going to day-dream say bismillah and change your thoughts unto a different direction. Talk/make dua to Allah.

      Shaytaan will be your enemy on this path because he probably wants you to be in this state. He would also hate that your making dua but keep making it no matter how painstakingly hard it becomes because there are angels on the side of a Muslim and as believers Allah is sufficient for us.

      Now this won't be something you can fix in one day but you just have to keep at it and go for long streaks of days without daydreaming until your brain has fully adjusted.
      (It's said that 40 days of no day dreaming is enough to have changed the pathways in your brain)


      The other step you should take is to tackle your loneliness and this could be done by getting married, studying 'ilm and finding friends on the deen or memorising Qur'an I.e: doing hifdh and internalising it with understanding and practise.

      May Allah make it easy for you [MENTION=145717]P1RAT3N[/MENTION]
      Last edited by Jumpski; 02-11-17, 07:44 AM.
      It all starts with a thought

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        #4
        Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

        :salams

        The more you worry and concentrate on this the worse it will seem. Try ignore it

        Also make a thread in help desk and ask mods to change the gender on your profile inshaAllah they'll be happy to help out
        Last edited by eesa the kiwi; 02-11-17, 07:57 AM.
        It may not be easy, you may not understand it, but you need to have the Imaan to trust Allah when life doesn't make sense.
        "Whoever intends eternal happiness, then let him hold tight to the threshold of servitude.” ibn Taymiyyah.

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          #5
          Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

          Originally posted by Cptn._.Mario View Post
          Wa alaikumsalam, go see a professional/therapist
          I wish I could but I can't put words in what actually makes me like this. Yes it might be loneliness, but what is it that makes me lonely? I can sit around 50 people and still feel lonely. I don't know the roots of the problem so a therapist will be unable to help me out
          Last edited by P1RAT3N; 02-11-17, 09:11 AM. Reason: Correction

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            #6
            Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

            Originally posted by Jumpski View Post
            :wswrwb:

            It sounds like you've made a regular habit of this and so whenever you get triggered by a feeling your brain automatically responds by day-dreaming.

            I would suggest that the second you realise you are going to day-dream say bismillah and change your thoughts unto a different direction. Talk/make dua to Allah.

            Shaytaan will be your enemy on this path because he probably wants you to be in this state. He would also hate that your making dua but keep making it no matter how painstakingly hard it becomes because there are angels on the side of a Muslim and as believers Allah is sufficient for us.

            Now this won't be something you can fix in one day but you just have to keep at it and go for long streaks of days without daydreaming until your brain has fully adjusted.
            (It's said that 40 days of no day dreaming is enough to have changed the pathways in your brain)


            The other step you should take is to tackle your loneliness and this could be done by getting married, studying 'ilm and finding friends on the deen or memorising Qur'an I.e: doing hifdh and internalising it with understanding and practise.

            May Allah make it easy for you [MENTION=145717]P1RAT3N[/MENTION]
            I need to marry because of alot of other reasons, not just have to, I need to marry. I need someone to be able to cheer me up but having that mindset of mine aka just doing it to fix my problems is not healthy for the marriage. The man deserves better than me because I am no good like this.

            I read and write hadith alot. I try to learn but whenever I stumble at something that catches my interest, I start to think about it, then goes slowly into deep thoughts that end up with me talking to myself. Reading about marriage can drift me away til I end up thinking about that time I fought that dude in my class which happened 10 years ago. My mind makes no sense. My fantasy has no boundaries.
            I am even starting uni soon but how am I supposed to study like this? If reading Islamic books makes my brain work, their books will not make anything better.

            I am praying everyday to Allah. Sabr is what keeps me standing and inshallah He will make it easy on me.

            JazakAllahu kheyr

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              #7
              Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

              Originally posted by eesa the kiwi View Post
              :salams

              The more you worry and concentrate on this the worse it will seem. Try ignore it

              Also make a thread in help desk and ask mods to change the gender on your profile inshaAllah they'll be happy to help out
              Wrote in helpdesk yesterday but still got no answer...

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                #8
                I daydream and talk to myself to much

                Ws please don’t marry for the sake of fixing your problems, change starts from within and by yourself and Allah.

                May Allah make it easy for you
                إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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                  #9
                  Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                  Originally posted by P1RAT3N View Post
                  Wrote in helpdesk yesterday but still got no answer...
                  [MENTION=1571]admin[/MENTION] [MENTION=8041]moderators[/MENTION] [MENTION=15366]-Yassar[/MENTION] [MENTION=22732]Fais[/MENTION] [MENTION=25581].Hajar.[/MENTION] [MENTION=30214]Abu 'Abdullaah[/MENTION] [MENTION=38207]Jenicca[/MENTION] [MENTION=47843]samin62[/MENTION] [MENTION=76113]علي[/MENTION] [MENTION=87885]Meriadoc[/MENTION] [MENTION=105052]Darul Ilm[/MENTION] [MENTION=139630]device[/MENTION] can you please help this sister out
                  It may not be easy, you may not understand it, but you need to have the Imaan to trust Allah when life doesn't make sense.
                  "Whoever intends eternal happiness, then let him hold tight to the threshold of servitude.” ibn Taymiyyah.

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                    #10
                    Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                    I have this problem as well...

                    Not sure how to help. It probably is a loneliness thing, I don't really have anyone to talk to. Even the couple of friends I do have if I start talking to them about problems they don't seem to care, they say "idk" or change the subject fast. But then, when they have a problem they come to me??? So I vent to myself. I don't really do the movements like I'm speaking to someone, but I do talk to myself excessively.

                    I can get lost in daydreaming too.

                    Wish I could be more help :/, maybe it'll help to know you're not alone in doing this. If it's a major problem for you I hope you can get help for it.

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                      #11
                      Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                      Originally posted by P1RAT3N View Post
                      Salam brothers and sisters.
                      (I am a sister so ignore my profile info pls. It's a mistake)

                      I have a "problem" which I cannot call a real problem but I still want to know if it's a problem. This sentence makes no sence but anyway...

                      I have always been a dreamer. Not sleep-dream, but daydream. I can sit alone for hours thinking about everything I can think about and personally I find nothing wrong with it. It's some kind of relaxation for me when stressed. I can get emotionall too, for example if I think about something that makes me mad, I cam get mad. But because it's a dream I can still twist it and solve the problem in the dream. So the dreams is a world I can control how I want. I has always been a dreamer and deep thinker.

                      But lately, it started to get worse. I talk to myself now. Alot. And I mean it. It's just... To much. When someone annoys me for example, I retreat to somewhere and I start to speak to myself. With hand gestures and face expressions as if that annoying person is standing in front of me! Before, I could wake up of the dream and continue with my daily life but now I can still be annoyed during the day. If it's something happy, I can be cheerfull throughout the whole day. People around me gets confused because I shift emotions all the time.

                      I think I developed this habbit of talking to myself because I have no other way to get my feelings out. I have no friends to talk to and even if I wanted to, it's just to private to share with anyone. The feeling as I am talking to someone helps me alot. But I am afraid to take this into the next level. Now I even started to daydream in the precense of other people without realizing that I am doing it. I am getting scared of myself now, as if I am sick in my head or something. But I'm aware of this habbit so calling it a sickness is to much.

                      Idk, I am a sister seeking help. What should I do?
                      :wswrwb:

                      You sound pretty normal to me. You don't have the stimuli around you so you make your own. When your environment changes so will you :insha:

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                        #12
                        Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                        Originally posted by P1RAT3N View Post
                        I need to marry because of alot of other reasons, not just have to, I need to marry. I need someone to be able to cheer me up but having that mindset of mine aka just doing it to fix my problems is not healthy for the marriage. The man deserves better than me because I am no good like this.

                        I read and write hadith alot. I try to learn but whenever I stumble at something that catches my interest, I start to think about it, then goes slowly into deep thoughts that end up with me talking to myself. Reading about marriage can drift me away til I end up thinking about that time I fought that dude in my class which happened 10 years ago. My mind makes no sense. My fantasy has no boundaries.
                        I am even starting uni soon but how am I supposed to study like this? If reading Islamic books makes my brain work, their books will not make anything better.

                        I am praying everyday to Allah. Sabr is what keeps me standing and inshallah He will make it easy on me.

                        JazakAllahu kheyr
                        Ameen

                        You will manage just fine at uni in sha Allah don't be too hard on yourself
                        And your not too bad marriage wise you make the Islamic effort you try your best and because once the loneliness goes you'd lose the habit of daydreaming just don't use that as a reason to delay fixing your problems
                        It all starts with a thought

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                          #13
                          Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                          Every time you feel the need to start daydreaming or talking to yourself, recite quran or do dhikr until you're calm again.
                          Also keep yourself busy, these problems come when there's nothing for your brain to focus on. Go to an event or something and meet sisters. If you're in the uk, there's no shortage of events and places where you can meet other muslims. You need to socialise and get stuff out of your system, not bottle it up.

                          Lastly, start writing out your thoughts when your mind is racing or when things are bothering you. It's really effective.
                          شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
                          فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
                          وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
                          ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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                            #14
                            Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                            Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
                            :wswrwb:

                            You sound pretty normal to me. You don't have the stimuli around you so you make your own. When your environment changes so will you :insha:
                            I come from a big family so I don't really have an excuse to feel lonely. I don't live alone nor do I have a boring life. I hate myself for this and feel like a burden to my family.

                            A few weeks ago I was in deep thoughts about something that angered me. I got so mad that I actually raised a fist and then woke up, realizing that all of it was just a dream.... Is that really normal? What if I really hurt someone?

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                              #15
                              Re: I daydream and talk to myself to much

                              Originally posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
                              Every time you feel the need to start daydreaming or talking to yourself, recite quran or do dhikr until you're calm again.
                              Also keep yourself busy, these problems come when there's nothing for your brain to focus on. Go to an event or something and meet sisters. If you're in the uk, there's no shortage of events and places where you can meet other muslims. You need to socialise and get stuff out of your system, not bottle it up.

                              Lastly, start writing out your thoughts when your mind is racing or when things are bothering you. It's really effective.
                              I did try to write and then burn the papers to get rid of it. But it felt like I couldn't get everything out fast enought while writing so I just got aggressive.
                              I live in Sweden and we have a shortage on muslim events. The sisters here just commits to much haram so I had to cut ties with them. And being an introvert does not make it easy for me to find any new friends.

                              I am hopeless

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