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  • How to Overcome Porn & Masturbation

    Asalaamu Alaikum, This thread is devoted to helping us find ways of overcoming porn & masturbation. I hope it is most beneficial to all those affected.

    How to overcome Porn & Masturbation


    12 Tips to Help overcome porn & Masturbation


    1. Do not to touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes. Even if you get tempted to do so, just think that Allah is watching you right now. Then finish what you are doing immediately, so that your focus diverts away from the urge.

    2. Try to avoid being alone as much as possible. Being bored and alone are two dangerous combinations. This is because Shaythan plays with the minds of those of us who sit around idle, not doing anything and are "bored". He will make suggestions to you that "no one is around to watch what you are doing and you're bored so why don't you do this or that". So you must try to keep yourself busy and in the company of others if possible. Try to be around family and close ones (Especially not Non mahrams). Find good company and stay in good company. The best company are those who lead you towards good in terms of this life and the next and not with those who may lead you in the wrong direction and path. Don't hang around with those girls/boys who talk a lot about sexual things and the opposite gender etc.

    3. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, then you must break off all contact. Never associate with other people having the same weaknesses. Don't think that the two of you will "quit together", especially not on something as dangerous as one's lower desires, as you never will. You must keep away from people like that. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be kept busy and occupied on other more wholesome things.

    4. When you bathe or shower, then do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath or shower for longer than is necessary, just long enough to bathe or shower and then dry and dress. Then get out of the bathroom as soon as possible because we are advised in the Sunnah not to delay getting changed after a bath or being naked. We should dry ourselves and get into doing an act of worship.

    5. Always try to sleep early. This is very important indeed. This problem is much more common in those who sleep late into the night. This is because the shayatheen are more prevalent in the nights and these are the times where one normally sits around watching TV, browsing internet and just sitting around idle. Therefore you must get into the habit of a good consistent early sleeping routine and pattern.

    6. When in bed, then if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your private parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove your clothes. By the time you started to remove your protective clothing then you would have been able to sufficiently control your urges and thinking so that the temptation would leave you. Sleep on your sides and NOT on your front or back. It is forbidden to sleep on your stomach and it is Sunnah to sleep on your right side. Do Dua's and remember Allah until you fall asleep. Keep your phone far away from you. Leave it downstairs or somewhere it will be difficult to gain access to it. Do not keep TV or computers in your room. Store them somewhere else. Out of sight out of mind!

    If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, then get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is to divert your mind onto something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak. If these thoughts come to you in the middle of the night then get up and make Wudu and pray Tahajjud from 2 - 8 Raka'ah. Tahajjud is one of the best prayers we can pray to enable us to overcome our bad habits and addictions, as it enables us to be closer to Allah and develop Taqwa which will make us more aware of him throughout the day and night. It is a very important tool for us to be able to overcome this addiction as well as many other bad addictions and general sins throughout the day.

    After Tahajjud make much Dua and beg of Allah and cry unto him to help increase you in Imaan (Faith) and to help strengthen you to be able to resist your desires and also to help you to get married (if you are not currently married), so that you may have a legitimate outlet to be able to fulfil your desires and even get rewarded for doing so. But when you make Dua then don't just make Dua about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more so. Make Dua for increase of your iman (faith), Make Dua for understanding of Islam and the Qur'an, Make Dua for your family and ALL Muslims especially the ones that are being oppressed, Pray for the sick and that we all unite as one. Keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever, not in conversation with others and not too much in your Dua's. Keep it out of your mind because if you keep mentioning it then it will stay in your mind!

    7. Establish what your triggers are and write them down so that you can make a plan around how to tackle and get around such triggers. This will involve trial and error but make sure you learn from your mistakes each time and try not to repeat the same mistakes over and over. Also remember that shaythan is always planning against us, so why don't we plan against him and our lower desires? So establish what your triggers are and the occasions when your most likely to masturbate or touch yourself. When you have established that then you can make a tailored plan on what to do to avoid feeling temptations on those particular occasions.

    8. Never watch any inappropriate images, videos and clips. Especially not pornographic material, whether on the TV, smart phone or computer. That also goes for reading inappropriate material, books etc. These images will end up being stored in your mind and they are they biggest triggers for those who are suffering from addiction to porn and Masturbation which are strongly linked. These things will keep feeding your problem and making you fantasize which will then lead to the act. Therefore you must restrict all forms of media. Stop watching all forms of media at least 1 hour before bed. This also helps with sleep as watching various forms of media negatively impacts upon sleep due to the blue light. Watching media late can also trigger your urges and desires, especially if you are sitting around idle. Keep your computer in a part of the house where others can also use it, if it means it will help you not to watch anything inappropriate. Also put on internet childsafe lock on all devices and do not have the password on you or make it very hard for you to access the password. Many internet companies nowadays put on childsafe locks on the internet as a default, so that the only way to remove it will be to contact them. Also be very mindful and selective about what you watch on the television. Most of what is on the TV nowadays is useless and a waste of time. It also increasingly contains a lot of inappropriate viewing and much of what may trigger urges and desires. So be a mindful consumer of all types of media!

    9. Try not to read too much about your problem. Keep it out of mind as much as possible. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you will soon be free of the act inshaAllah.

    10. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind as much as possible. Read good Islamic books, the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his Seerah, the life after death. Or a good book about self improvement or about any other interesting topics. Make it a daily habit of reading at least one Juz (Chapter) of Qur'an with its meanings. If not then at least a page or two. Reading the Qur'an everyday with its meanings will bring countless blessings and rewards and bring you closer to Allah as well as keeping your mind occupied on the bigger picture and our purpose in life. It will also enable you to get to know Allah which is the greatest blessing we can hope for in this life. Not doing so will be a source of great regret in the Hereafter.

    11. Fast. You may have tried it before and it didn't work but how can it work if you don't change your eating habits? Eat a little just satisfy your hunger so that your fasting will be much more effective to be able to help you restrict your sexual urges and desires. However over eating will have a negative impact upon your desires. Gluttony is never a good think. It can make you weak in other areas of your life too especially when it comes to your lower desires. The purpose of fasting for our health is also to enable us to eat less all other times to. So restrict the amount you eat before and especially after breaking your fast. Just break the fast with a date or two, water and maybe a little fruit. After a while then have a reasonably sized healthy and wholesome meal and you will feel the true benefits of fasting in restricting your urges.

    12. Finally try your best to get married as soon as you possibly can if you are not currently married. Many of us delay our marriages unnecessarily thinking we don't have enough savings or not "ready" whatever that means. As soon as you feel the desire for intimacy then you are ready, its as simple as that. We give ourselves too many obstacles to marrying and if it is not us then it is our families putting the obstacles in the way. If our families are the main issue in delaying you getting married then you must emphasise to them the urgency of you getting married as soon as possible. Tell them of the benefits of getting married early and that it is a Sunnah as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) recommended it, and it will also help to avoid haraam (Forbidden) relations and pre-marital relationships. Getting married earlier will help you to be able to eradicate this problem which means that you can indulge in your sexual urges and desires legitimately as well as receive reward for it. The main reason why there are so many people in haraam relationships out there is simply because they are delaying in getting married after beginning to feel the desire for intimacy. Many men also want to "play the field" before they get married then they wonder why they find it hard to stop doing haraam even during marriage.

    Note: Many of those addicted to masturbation may continue to do so even during marriage. Marriage can certainly help to overcome this issue by providing a legitimate outlet for ones sexual urges and desires. However many may continue to masturbate along with having sexual relations with their partners or in the worst case scenario, masturbation and addiction to porn may also cause serious issues when it comes to intimacy with one's partner. This can even lead to jeopardising the marriage. So married people with such issues must get help immediately. Even if it means going to a therapist to help ascertain and establish the root of the problem. A lot of the times it can be linked to one's past or trauma's. Bad habits and addictions can be a "crutch" or distraction to other issues in one's life. Such a person must also go to a physician for help if necessary, especially if they are physically suffering from being able to maintain sexual relations with their partner. So if you are in such a situation then do not hesitate to get the help you need. There is absolutely no shame in getting help at all. However there is shame in not getting the necessary help especially if it is destroying your marriage and causing you misery in your life. If you have kids involved then do it for them. You are not powerless to do anything about it. It is just about taking action. Don't think about it too much just get the help you need. Not getting the help you need will not only jeopardise your health and marriage, but it will continue to keep you in a detrimental and vicious cycle of addiction, which will eventually ruin every other aspect of your life to, including your Deen, Health and Dunya!


    May Allah enable us to overcome all of our harmful addictions and habits that are preventing us from being the best version of ourselves.
    Last edited by hamza81; 06-05-22, 03:23 AM.
    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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    Re: How to Overcome Masterbation

    This is a brilliant E book on how to overcome Masterbation:


    How and why stop Masterbation - An Islamic Solution

    http://www.scribd.com/doc/17382181/How-and-Why-Stop-MasturbationAn-Islamic-Solution
    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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    • #3
      Re: How to Overcome Masterbation

      Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? - Brilliant article A MUST READ

      http://yourbrainonporn.com/was-the-c...ating-too-much
      10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
      Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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      • #4
        Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

        I had this problem, sometimes used hands, but sometimes face down and rub on it. Its been a while since a ''ejeculated'' or actually properly masturbated. Just occupy yourself.
        Last edited by علي; 26-08-13, 02:01 PM.

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        • #5
          Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

          Is it actually haram though? I'm a new muslim so I'm asking.

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          • #6
            Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

            How watching pornography changes the brain:

            http://islamiquemagazine.com/how-wat...ges-the-brain/
            10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
            Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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            • #7
              Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

              I really need to overcome this. Any additional tips or advice would be great.

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              • #8
                Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                We shouldn't make it sound like marriage is the big fix... Don't get married just because you are going crazy without sex. You might find you are still stuck with the same problem.

                A lot of people out there are married to people who do not desire sex, or really do not enjoy it at all. Or at least only half as much as their partner. Even partners who are extremely inconsiderate, and do not pay attention to their partners needs in the bedroom. You need to find out what your partner's expectations are in marriage for that. Otherwise, you could be putting yourself into a situation where you are constantly at risk for divorce, or sin.

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                • #9
                  Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                  There r differences in opinion. Most say tht it's haram period but i think the hanafi school of thought dislikes it but states tht if it is going to prevent u frm going out and commiting zina thn it is permitted.

                  If u make it seem totally evil thn of course ur gonna wanna do it more. Think of it as a natural feeling to want pleasure and slowly but surely u wont focus on it cos it seems taboo ie. More exciting to do it.

                  Gud luck!

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                  • #10
                    Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                    Originally posted by FirefoxDiva View Post
                    There r differences in opinion. Most say tht it's haram period but i think the hanafi school of thought dislikes it but states tht if it is going to prevent u frm going out and commiting zina thn it is permitted.

                    If u make it seem totally evil thn of course ur gonna wanna do it more. Think of it as a natural feeling to want pleasure and slowly but surely u wont focus on it cos it seems taboo ie. More exciting to do it.

                    Gud luck!
                    That is totally incorrect. You should not state things without knowledge It is not natural to self indulge in such a way. It is in fact harmful. The natural way would be in having relations with ones marital partner. Therefore one must think of masturbation as unnatural and something that is forbidden.
                    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                    • #11
                      Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                      I too cant help myself. Please contact me if you can help.

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                      • #12
                        Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                        Originally posted by hamza81 View Post
                        That is totally incorrect. You should not state things without knowledge It is not natural to self indulge in such a way. It is in fact harmful. The natural way would be in having relations with ones marital partner. Therefore one must think of masturbation as unnatural and something that is forbidden.
                        Actually, firefoxdiva is correct. If there is fear of you committing zina then it is permissible to relieve yourself in private.

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                        • #13
                          Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                          Originally posted by tryingtohelp View Post
                          Actually, firefoxdiva is correct. If there is fear of you committing zina then it is permissible to relieve yourself in private.
                          It is seen as the "lesser of two evils" but the fact is that it is sill a sin and will not solve the root of the problem which is to satisfy ones carnal desires which only marriage can solve.
                          10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                          Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                          • #14
                            Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                            As Salam Alaykum,

                            I'm going through this addiction myself. I'm choosing to recover, will you? Allah Subhanahu Wa Taa'la will never ever afflict us with a trial that is impossible to overcome. You just need to have two things:

                            1. Trust in Allah that He will help you in this.
                            2. The knowledge that this sin is haram and that it's destroying your life and the WILLPOWER to change yourself.

                            I've started an action plan, I pray that this will benefit all of you as it will benefit me.

                            http://www.pornaddictioninfo.com/boa...ge=1#pid137490

                            BarakAllah feekum.

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                            • #15
                              Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                              My problem is that medicaly a prostate stays healthier when it is used semi regularly. Meaning ejaculation. I am not married so i cant have intercourse. Masturbation seems a better option than premarital sex. What do you all think.

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