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    How to Overcome Masturbation

    How to Overcome Masterbation




    This filthy habit is a rampant disease in todays society and one that effects both male and females alike. It is an issue we cannot take for granted and this thread is dedicated to finding ways to overcome the evil habit of self indulgence.




    12 Tips to Help Control the Evil Habit of Masterbation




    1. Never touch the intimate parts of your body except during normal toilet processes. Even if you get tempted, just think of Allah and the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and that Allah is watching you at all times and this urge will go away.

    2. Avoid being alone as much as possible. Shaythan plays with the minds of those who sit around idle and not doing anything. Find good company and stay in this good company. Spend time with your family and close ones (Not Non mahrams). Find good company and stay in this good company. The best company are those who lead you towards good and not those who lead you in the wrong direction. Don't hang around with those girls who talk about sexual things and boys etc.

    3. If you are associated with other persons having this same problem, you must break off their friendship. Never associate with other people having the same weakness. Don't suppose that two of you will quit together, you never will. You must get away from people of that kind. Just to be in their presence will keep your problem foremost in your mind. The problem must be taken out of your mind for that is where it really exists. Your mind must be on other and more wholesome things.

    4. When you bathe, do not admire yourself in a mirror. Never stay in the bath more than five or six minutes -- just long enough to bathe and dry and dress and then get out of the bathroom as soon as possible because we are advised in the sunnah not to delay getting changed after a bath. We should dry ourselves and get into doing an act of worship.

    5. When in bed, if that is where you have your problem for the most part, dress yourself for the night so securely that you cannot easily touch your vital parts, and so that it would be difficult and time consuming for you to remove those clothes. By the time you started to remove protective clothing you would have sufficiently controlled your thinking that the temptation would leave you. Sleep on your sides and NOT on your front or back. It is forbidden to sleep on your stomach and it is sunnah to sleep on your right side. Do dua's and Zikr until you fall asleep.

    6. If the temptation seems overpowering while you are in bed, get out of bed and go into the kitchen and fix yourself a snack, even if it is in the middle of the night, and even if you are not hungry, and despite your fears of gaining weight. The purpose behind this suggestion is that you get your mind on something else. You are the subject of your thoughts, so to speak. If these thoughts come to you in the middle of the night then go and do wudu and pray Tahajjud and make much dua and cry in your dua's of Allah to increase you in imaan (Faith) and to help you resist your desires and to help you get married ASAP.

    7. Find out when are your weakest times when your most likely to masterbate or touch yourself. When you have established on what times and occassions this occurs then you can plan what to do to avoid feeling temptations on thos particular occassions.

    8. Never read pornographic material especially on the internet as these images will be stored in your head and it will make your problem worse. Try to keep your gaze low at all times. Never read about your problem. Keep it out of mind. Remember -- "First a thought, then an act." The thought pattern must be changed. You must not allow this problem to remain in your mind. When you accomplish that, you soon will be free of the act inshallah.

    9. Put wholesome thoughts into your mind at all times. Read good Islamic books, the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) and his seerah, the life after death. There SO many interesting topics to read and learn about. Make a daily habit of reading at least one juz(Chapter) of Qur'an with its meanings.

    Reading the Qur'an everyday with its meanings will bring countless blessings and rewards and bring you closer to Allah as well as keep you busy and occupied therefore keeping your mind off this problem.

    10. Make much dua. But when you make dua don't just make dua about this problem, for that will tend to keep it in your mind more than ever. Make dua for increase of your iman(faith), Make dua for understanding of the Islam and the Qur'an, Make dua for your family and ALL Muslims especially the ones that are being oprressed, Pray for the sick and that we all unite as one. keep the problem out of your mind by not mentioning it ever --not in conversation with others, not inso much in your dua's. keep it out of your mind because if you keep mentioning it then it will stay in your mind!

    11. Fast. You may have tried it before and it did'nt work but how can it work if we don't change our eating habits? If we eat little just to satisfy our stomachs then our fasting will be effective and restrict our sexual urges and capability's. But if we carry on over eating after our fasts then that food will impact on the stomach which will impact on our desires. So restrict the amount you eat before and after fasting and you will feel the benefits of fasting to stop your urges.

    12. Finally the best solution of all- GET MARRIED. Give some urgency to your family about the need for you to get married sooner rather than later. Tell them of the benefits of getting married early and that it is a sunnah as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) recommended it as it will help avoid haraam(Forbidden) relations with non mahrams and getting married early will help eradicate this problem and mean that one can indulge in their sexual urges and desires legitamatley as well as recieve reward for it. The main reason why there is so many haraam relations out there is for the fact that our families are not getting their children married early enough as the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) advised.


    May Allah keep us away form anything that angers and displeases him. Ameen
    Last edited by hamza81; 23-08-12, 07:14 AM.
    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

    #2
    Re: How to Overcome Masterbation

    This is a brilliant E book on how to overcome Masterbation:


    How and why stop Masterbation - An Islamic Solution

    http://www.scribd.com/doc/17382181/How-and-Why-Stop-MasturbationAn-Islamic-Solution
    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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      #3
      Re: How to Overcome Masterbation

      Was the Cowardly Lion Just Masturbating Too Much? - Brilliant article A MUST READ

      http://yourbrainonporn.com/was-the-c...ating-too-much
      10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
      Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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        #4
        Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

        I had this problem, sometimes used hands, but sometimes face down and rub on it. Its been a while since a ''ejeculated'' or actually properly masturbated. Just occupy yourself.
        Last edited by علي; 26-08-13, 01:01 PM.

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          #5
          Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

          Is it actually haram though? I'm a new muslim so I'm asking.

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            #6
            Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

            How watching pornography changes the brain:

            http://islamiquemagazine.com/how-wat...ges-the-brain/
            10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
            Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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              #7
              Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

              I really need to overcome this. Any additional tips or advice would be great.

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                #8
                Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                We shouldn't make it sound like marriage is the big fix... Don't get married just because you are going crazy without sex. You might find you are still stuck with the same problem.

                A lot of people out there are married to people who do not desire sex, or really do not enjoy it at all. Or at least only half as much as their partner. Even partners who are extremely inconsiderate, and do not pay attention to their partners needs in the bedroom. You need to find out what your partner's expectations are in marriage for that. Otherwise, you could be putting yourself into a situation where you are constantly at risk for divorce, or sin.

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                  #9
                  Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                  There r differences in opinion. Most say tht it's haram period but i think the hanafi school of thought dislikes it but states tht if it is going to prevent u frm going out and commiting zina thn it is permitted.

                  If u make it seem totally evil thn of course ur gonna wanna do it more. Think of it as a natural feeling to want pleasure and slowly but surely u wont focus on it cos it seems taboo ie. More exciting to do it.

                  Gud luck!

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                    #10
                    Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                    Originally posted by FirefoxDiva View Post
                    There r differences in opinion. Most say tht it's haram period but i think the hanafi school of thought dislikes it but states tht if it is going to prevent u frm going out and commiting zina thn it is permitted.

                    If u make it seem totally evil thn of course ur gonna wanna do it more. Think of it as a natural feeling to want pleasure and slowly but surely u wont focus on it cos it seems taboo ie. More exciting to do it.

                    Gud luck!
                    That is totally incorrect. You should not state things without knowledge It is not natural to self indulge in such a way. It is in fact harmful. The natural way would be in having relations with ones marital partner. Therefore one must think of masturbation as unnatural and something that is forbidden.
                    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                      #11
                      Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                      I too cant help myself. Please contact me if you can help.

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                        #12
                        Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                        Originally posted by hamza81 View Post
                        That is totally incorrect. You should not state things without knowledge It is not natural to self indulge in such a way. It is in fact harmful. The natural way would be in having relations with ones marital partner. Therefore one must think of masturbation as unnatural and something that is forbidden.
                        Actually, firefoxdiva is correct. If there is fear of you committing zina then it is permissible to relieve yourself in private.

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                          #13
                          Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                          Originally posted by tryingtohelp View Post
                          Actually, firefoxdiva is correct. If there is fear of you committing zina then it is permissible to relieve yourself in private.
                          It is seen as the "lesser of two evils" but the fact is that it is sill a sin and will not solve the root of the problem which is to satisfy ones carnal desires which only marriage can solve.
                          10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                          Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                            #14
                            Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                            As Salam Alaykum,

                            I'm going through this addiction myself. I'm choosing to recover, will you? Allah Subhanahu Wa Taa'la will never ever afflict us with a trial that is impossible to overcome. You just need to have two things:

                            1. Trust in Allah that He will help you in this.
                            2. The knowledge that this sin is haram and that it's destroying your life and the WILLPOWER to change yourself.

                            I've started an action plan, I pray that this will benefit all of you as it will benefit me.

                            http://www.pornaddictioninfo.com/boa...ge=1#pid137490

                            BarakAllah feekum.

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                              #15
                              Re: How to Overcome Masturbation

                              My problem is that medicaly a prostate stays healthier when it is used semi regularly. Meaning ejaculation. I am not married so i cant have intercourse. Masturbation seems a better option than premarital sex. What do you all think.

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