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  • #61
    Last edited by hamza81; 29-08-19, 10:58 AM.
    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
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    • #62
      I can recommend using professional help to overcome this problem. In https://addictionresource.com/drugs/marijuana/ you'll get high-qualified help by calling the helpline. It's very important to get help from the specialist really. Wish you all the best. 
      Last edited by BigBoss; 18-11-19, 03:19 PM.

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      • #63
        The following are just a few general ways we can help ourselves to change a bad habit:

        1. Quit caffeine. This maybe surprising for many but caffeine is a highly addictive substance. You only need one cup a day to be addicted. If you don't think you are then go without it for 3 days and you will realise. Caffeine causes one to become weaker to other addictions as it plays with the bodies hormonal and adrenal system. Some are more sensitive to it than others but you will certainly find that quitting caffeine will help you to quit other addictions and increase you in will power as well as clearing one's mind as consistent caffeine use can cause brain fog and loss of focus. Quitting helps one to become more stable minded and calmer and less agitated, fatigued and short tempered. Most importantly It allows one to have a much better and deeper sleep as caffeine affects sleep, even if you've only had one in the morning. Caffeine does not increase focus and productivity in the long term. It hampers it. Allah created us perfectly without the need of external substances to help us operate optimumly on a daily basis. So try quitting for 30 days and you will see the benefits in every aspect of your life. This also includes other addictive drugs such as nicotine and even prescribed drugs such as opioids.

        2. Correct sleep pattern. It goes without saying that the most important thing we can do for our health is to correct our sleep pattern. This effects every aspect of our mind, body and soul. If our sleep pattern is not consistent then it will have a detrimental affect in every aspect of our lives including our Deen. We can never be the best versions of ourselves if we do not correct our sleep patterns. Therefore we must sleep early and awaken early. The earlier we sleep the less time we will have in the evenings for our desires to become ignited.

        3. Eat smaller portions of food, reduce red meat and Fast. Eating large portions of food has a hugely detrimental effect on our health as well as our desires. Reduce food portion sizes, reduce red meat to once a fortnight and fast the Sunnah days twice a week on Monday and Thursdays as well as the 3 white days (13th, 14th and 15th of each Islamic month) and you will reap the rewards and benefits to your health in terms of mental, physical and spiritual well-being. It will also help significantly to control one's desires and increase in will power.

        4. Quit TV, movies/Dramas, control internet usage. It goes without saying that Television, movies, dramas etc are significantly detrimental to our conscious and subconscious minds. This is because most of what is showed is opposite to what our Deen conveys and propagates. It is full of propaganda and indoctrination both directly and subconsciously. If we cannot totally quit then at least be very selective in terms of what we feed our minds and always appoint specific times that we will watch certain programmes and be on the internet. Try to avoid totally from 8pm onwards as the desires weaken as the evening sets in. If we don't schedule our time then we will just browse and watch without measure and that is what is likely to ignite passions and desires. Put a internet block on adult websites and hide password somewhere so it is an effort to find it.

        5. Occupy yourself with good things in the evenings. Feed your mind Islamic knowledge and schedule remembrance of Allah and pondering over Allah from 8 pm onwards so you spend the evening occupied with good so that evil and desires cannot set in. Read, read and read. Reading has declined significantly in our times only to our detriment. Schedule in to read a minimum of one page of a good Islamic book and one page of the Qur'an with it's meanings. Start off small and gradually increase.

        6. Organise and schedule your time. This is very important in order to be more selective about how we spend our time. If we don't schedule and organise our precious time then shaythan and our Nafs certainly will. You can use many tools nowadays to schedule time whether on outlook, phone apps or on paper. Whatever works best for you.

        7. Pray Tahajjud. This has a profound effect on one's overall level of Imaan. Awaken even 15-20 minutes before Fajr begins and Pray 2 - 8 Rakah whatever you can manage. Afterwards connect with Allah through Dua. Ask of him and beg of him to help you in every aspect of your life especially when it comes to overcoming detrimental addictions. The amazing thing about Tahajjud is that you will continue to feel that special feeling throughout the day and you will feel your imaan on a high. You will be more inclined to do good deeds and less inclined towards sin. Try it and you will see! However to enhance this special feeling ensure that men in particular try and pray Fajr with congregation. Connecting to the Masjid is essentially connecting with Allah and has a hugely positive effect on helping keep us at bay with our desires and also connect with other Muslims.

        I hope the above tips help. May Allah enable us to overcome all habits and addictions that are holding us back from getting closer to him and being the best versions of ourselves. Ameen
        10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
        http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
        Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
        http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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        • #64
          Originally posted by hamza81 View Post
          The following are just a few general ways we can help ourselves to change a bad habit:

          1. Quit caffeine. This maybe surprising for many but caffeine is a highly addictive substance. You only need one cup a day to be addicted. If you don't think you are then go without it for 3 days and you will realise. Caffeine causes one to become weaker to other addictions as it plays with the bodies hormonal and adrenal system. Some are more sensitive to it than others but you will certainly find that quitting caffeine will help you to quit other addictions and increase you in will power as well as clearing one's mind as consistent caffeine use can cause brain fog and loss of focus. Quitting helps one to become more stable minded and calmer and less agitated, fatigued and short tempered. Most importantly It allows one to have a much better and deeper sleep as caffeine affects sleep, even if you've only had one in the morning. Caffeine does not increase focus and productivity in the long term. It hampers it. Allah created us perfectly without the need of external substances to help us operate optimumly on a daily basis. So try quitting for 30 days and you will see the benefits in every aspect of your life. This also includes other addictive drugs such as nicotine and even prescribed drugs such as opioids.

          2. Correct sleep pattern. It goes without saying that the most important thing we can do for our health is to correct our sleep pattern. This effects every aspect of our mind, body and soul. If our sleep pattern is not consistent then it will have a detrimental affect in every aspect of our lives including our Deen. We can never be the best versions of ourselves if we do not correct our sleep patterns. Therefore we must sleep early and awaken early. The earlier we sleep the less time we will have in the evenings for our desires to become ignited.

          3. Eat smaller portions of food, reduce red meat and Fast. Eating large portions of food has a hugely detrimental effect on our health as well as our desires. Reduce food portion sizes, reduce red meat to once a fortnight and fast the Sunnah days twice a week on Monday and Thursdays as well as the 3 white days (13th, 14th and 15th of each Islamic month) and you will reap the rewards and benefits to your health in terms of mental, physical and spiritual well-being. It will also help significantly to control one's desires and increase in will power.

          4. Quit TV, movies/Dramas, control internet usage. It goes without saying that Television, movies, dramas etc are significantly detrimental to our conscious and subconscious minds. This is because most of what is showed is opposite to what our Deen conveys and propagates. It is full of propaganda and indoctrination both directly and subconsciously. If we cannot totally quit then at least be very selective in terms of what we feed our minds and always appoint specific times that we will watch certain programmes and be on the internet. Try to avoid totally from 8pm onwards as the desires weaken as the evening sets in. If we don't schedule our time then we will just browse and watch without measure and that is what is likely to ignite passions and desires. Put a internet block on adult websites and hide password somewhere so it is an effort to find it.

          5. Occupy yourself with good things in the evenings. Feed your mind Islamic knowledge and schedule remembrance of Allah and pondering over Allah from 8 pm onwards so you spend the evening occupied with good so that evil and desires cannot set in. Read, read and read. Reading has declined significantly in our times only to our detriment. Schedule in to read a minimum of one page of a good Islamic book and one page of the Qur'an with it's meanings. Start off small and gradually increase.

          6. Organise and schedule your time. This is very important in order to be more selective about how we spend our time. If we don't schedule and organise our precious time then shaythan and our Nafs certainly will. You can use many tools nowadays to schedule time whether on outlook, phone apps or on paper. Whatever works best for you.

          7. Pray Tahajjud. This has a profound effect on one's overall level of Imaan. Awaken even 15-20 minutes before Fajr begins and Pray 2 - 8 Rakah whatever you can manage. Afterwards connect with Allah through Dua. Ask of him and beg of him to help you in every aspect of your life especially when it comes to overcoming detrimental addictions. The amazing thing about Tahajjud is that you will continue to feel that special feeling throughout the day and you will feel your imaan on a high. You will be more inclined to do good deeds and less inclined towards sin. Try it and you will see! However to enhance this special feeling ensure that men in particular try and pray Fajr with congregation. Connecting to the Masjid is essentially connecting with Allah and has a hugely positive effect on helping keep us at bay with our desires and also connect with other Muslims.

          I hope the above tips help. May Allah enable us to overcome all habits and addictions that are holding us back from getting closer to him and being the best versions of ourselves. Ameen
          What's the issue if masturbation is not declared haram in the Quran and Sunnah?

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          • #65
            Originally posted by TheHaqq View Post

            What's the issue if masturbation is not declared haram in the Quran and Sunnah?
            None.

            Muslims need to calm down.
            You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

            You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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            • #66
              Originally posted by TheHaqq View Post

              What's the issue if masturbation is not declared haram in the Quran and Sunnah?
              Assalaamu Alaikum. You say it is not Haraam. According to who? The overwhelming majority of Scholars and the positions of the 4 Schools of thought, from the Hanafi, Shafi', Maliki and Hanbali Schools are that it is Haraam. However some give dispensation in certain circumstances to prevent one committing greater sins.

              So please do not make statements without knowledge as that is highly irresponsible, especially as you can mislead others who may not have knowledge to think that it is acceptable. Even if a few scholars deem it prohibitively disliked, then it still means it is something that is very harmful both physically and mentally.

              In fact even non Muslims acknowledge the harms of Masterbation as there is a movement called "no fap" which is getting increasingly popular amongst single people, as they accept the harms of Masterbation both physically and mentally and it's strong link to porn.

              The following are just a few Fatwas highliting the positions of the different schools of thought on the issue of Masterbation being prohibited:

              https://www.dar-alifta.org/Foreign/V...a.aspx?ID=5944

              https://darulifta-deoband.com/home/en/qa/1868

              https://jamiat.org.za/masturbation-3/

              https://islamqa.info/en/answers/329/...re-the-problem

              https://islamqa.info/en/answers/2459...t-of-view-only

              https://islamqa.info/en/answers/1343...r-masturbation
              Last edited by hamza81; 10-08-21, 11:42 AM.
              10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
              Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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              • #67
                Originally posted by hamza81 View Post

                Assalaamu Alaikum. You say it is not Haraam. According to who? The overwhelming majority of Scholars and the positions of the 4 Schools of thought, from the Hanafi, Shafi', Maliki and Hanbali Schools are that it is Haraam. However some give dispensation in certain circumstances to prevent one committing greater sins.

                So please do not make statements without knowledge as that is highly irresponsible, especially as you can mislead others who may not have knowledge to think that it is acceptable. Even if a few scholars deem it prohibitively disliked, then it still means it is something that is very harmful both physically and mentally.

                In fact even non Muslims acknowledge the harms of Masterbation as there is a movement called "no fap" which is getting increasingly popular amongst single people, as they accept the harms of Masterbation both physically and mentally and it's strong link to porn.

                The following are just a few Fatwas highliting the positions of the different schools of thought on the issue of Masterbation being prohibited:

                https://www.dar-alifta.org/Foreign/V...a.aspx?ID=5944

                https://darulifta-deoband.com/home/en/qa/1868

                https://jamiat.org.za/masturbation-3/

                https://islamqa.info/en/answers/329/...re-the-problem

                https://islamqa.info/en/answers/2459...t-of-view-only

                https://islamqa.info/en/answers/1343...r-masturbation
                Well, that's ijtihad, absolutely no one is binded to follow these fatawaa, I can bring you just as many that say it's halal/makrooh.

                My issue is, if Allah wanted to make it haraam, he would have clearly said so....so don't go around acting like you have some authority on this issue. You follow a view, it's just a view.....stop making such a big deal out of it and trying to force others to follow you.

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                • #68
                  Originally posted by hamza81 View Post

                  Assalaamu Alaikum. You say it is not Haraam. (According to who?) (The overwhelming majority of Scholars)
                  Is that what I think it is?

                  TheHaqq
                  You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

                  You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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                  • #69
                    Originally posted by TheHaqq View Post

                    What's the issue if masturbation is not declared haram in the Quran and Sunnah?
                    so cocaine is halal?

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                    • #70
                      Originally posted by TheHaqq View Post

                      Well, that's ijtihad, absolutely no one is binded to follow these fatawaa, I can bring you just as many that say it's halal/makrooh.

                      My issue is, if Allah wanted to make it haraam, he would have clearly said so....so don't go around acting like you have some authority on this issue. You follow a view, it's just a view.....stop making such a big deal out of it and trying to force others to follow you.
                      It is not just a "view". It is considered Haraam according to the consensus of Scholars and across the 4 Madhaaib. Surely cursed are those who try and downplay evil and Haraam and try to make what is Haraam as Halal. If it was such a "contested" issue then why is there no major differences of opinions like there is with many other issues?

                      This is not just an issue of what is Halal and Haraam in Islam. It is now even well known in Science and amongst the general non Muslim masses the sheer damage that Masterbation does to ones physical and mental health.

                      Anyone can find minor opinions on any matter to justify the inclinations of their desires in a certain matter. But you are clearly highly misled if you think there's no Islamic justification for deeming Masterbation as Haraam.

                      A very common argument many of those who try to make what is Haraam as Halal make is that they say "Allah didn't declare so and so as Haraam". Is the book of Allah an encyclopaedia or textbook that must contain and specify every single haraam intoxicant and haraam activity in order for it to be deemed Haraam? Why should it when Allah has declared broader terms to put everything that is haraam under certain umbrella terms such as "intoxicants". Another is not to destroy ourselves with our own hands and many others. The Sunnah also backs up and specifies many haraams.

                      Brother how can you act so irresponsibly in trying to justify what is Haraam as being something that is acceptable? Surely we should fear Allah because every single person we mislead then we will be responsible for their being misled and the evil they go on to commit. So in trying to justify such evil then we are on highly dangerous ground.
                      Last edited by hamza81; 15-08-21, 10:14 PM.
                      10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                      Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                      http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                      • #71
                        Originally posted by hamza81 View Post

                        It is not just a "view". It is considered Haraam according to the consensus of Scholars
                        How quickly do you change your words?
                        You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

                        You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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                        • #72
                          (No point arguing over an issue of Furu' where there is Ikhtilaf. If any are following their desires, being untrue to their principles in interpreting the Qur'an and Sunnah in issues of Furu' or take whatever verdict they like in that then that is the concern of Allah, not my concern. )
                          Last edited by Muhammad Hasan; 16-08-21, 06:47 PM. Reason: Removed post defending prohibition. I leave that which does not concern me. The outskirts of Jannah are better.

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                          • #73
                            Originally posted by Predatorian View Post

                            so cocaine is halal?
                            Erm....masturbation existed in Arabia.... cocaine did not.

                            That being said, I don't think a lot of drugs are haram......unless they clearly cause harm (like cocaine). Feeling better due to a substance is not haraam.

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                            • #74
                              Originally posted by hamza81 View Post

                              It is not just a "view". It is considered Haraam according to the consensus of Scholars and across the 4 Madhaaib. Surely cursed are those who try and downplay evil and Haraam and try to make what is Haraam as Halal. If it was such a "contested" issue then why is there no major differences of opinions like there is with many other issues?

                              This is not just an issue of what is Halal and Haraam in Islam. It is now even well known in Science and amongst the general non Muslim masses the sheer damage that Masterbation does to ones physical and mental health.

                              Anyone can find minor opinions on any matter to justify the inclinations of their desires in a certain matter. But you are clearly highly misled if you think there's no Islamic justification for deeming Masterbation as Haraam.

                              A very common argument many of those who try to make what is Haraam as Halal make is that they say "Allah didn't declare so and so as Haraam". Is the book of Allah an encyclopaedia or textbook that must contain and specify every single haraam intoxicant and haraam activity in order for it to be deemed Haraam? Why should it when Allah has declared broader terms to put everything that is haraam under certain umbrella terms such as "intoxicants". Another is not to destroy ourselves with our own hands and many others. The Sunnah also backs up and specifies many haraams.

                              Brother how can you act so irresponsibly in trying to justify what is Haraam as being something that is acceptable? Surely we should fear Allah because every single person we mislead then we will be responsible for their being misled and the evil they go on to commit. So in trying to justify such evil then we are on highly dangerous ground.
                              Honestly, the fact that you cannot handle ikhtilaaf over an issue not explicitly mentioned means you are insecure about this issue and doubt it yourself.
                              Go ahead and believe it is haram, just know that many will disagree because of the lack of evidence...that's all I'm telling you.

                              I can find you completely opposing theory's that claim that not masturbating is harmful because you are repressing sexual energy.......so is it halal now?

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                              • #75
                                Originally posted by Muhammad Hasan View Post
                                (No point arguing over an issue of Furu' where there is Ikhtilaf. If any are following their desires, being untrue to their principles in interpreting the Qur'an and Sunnah in issues of Furu' or take whatever verdict they like in that then that is the concern of Allah, not my concern. )
                                How can he even make such a judgment that I am being insincere? Only Allah knows what is in the hearts, it just shows you how desperate people are to force their own opinion on others...sad.

                                I'm not arguing, just letting him know that many scholars considered it halal/makrooh because of the lack of evidence for it's prohibition, if pointing out ikhtilaaf on a fiqhi issue is too much for anyone then they might as well stop giving any opinion themselves.

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