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    How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives


    Bismillahirahmaaniraheem

    Asalaamu Alaikum,

    The way to aget through hardships and difficult tests that we may be going through in life is to firstly internalise in our minds that this life is a test ground and we are in an examination but we do not know when this examination will end but whilst the examination is taking place we are being rigorously tested and at times we are tested until breaking piont just to see whether or not we will turn towards Allah or go away from him.

    We must also internalise that Allah ONLY tests those who he wants close to him. Therefore the tests that we go through in our lives clearly show Allah is wanting us to turn towards him and be closer to him. This is in fact a great privelage. The greater the tests we go through the more Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hereafter.

    Therefore if we really want to know the best way to approach huge trials and tests then we should simply realise that the bigger the tests we are going through then the higher Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hererafter. Trials are a truly blessing in disguise. All Allah wants from us is for us to turn towards him in meekness and humbleness and for us to be patient and to turn to him in prayer and dua. Picture that fact that Allah loves it when his servant is in desperate need, crying to him for help for Allah tends to those who cry and sob to him immediatley just as a mother tends to its baby promptly when it is crying.

    We should also internalise the fact that tests actually differentiate us believers from one another in terms of ranking in the eyes of Allah and therefore we should know that those who are tested and are patient are forgiven of their sins as sins falls off a person who is patient through trials just. Therefore we should realise that us being tested with trials and tests will NEVER go unrewarded for Allah rewards how much he wants to those who are patient through trials and those who turn towards him in humility and meekness.

    It may be that a person who has experienced great trials in the world faces Allah on the day of judgement with little or no sins. So tests are a way of Allah forgiving a person of their sins so that on the day of judgement they have a much lighter load. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has called the day of judgement a "terrible" day and surely on this terrible day we would want as less sins as possible in our accounts if we are to be successful. Therefore these trials and tests are very important for us because they enable us to be forgiven for countless sins that would be a huge burden on us if it were in our accounts but due to the huge tests we faced with patience turning to Allah then it may be that we have very little or no sins at all on that day. The greater the trial the more sins fall off us. So know that even a prick of a thorn expiates ones sins.

    We should also approach hardships and tests as in that it is the decree of Allah so we should NEVER ask Allah "Why" has he given us such trials? For questioning Allah why he has decreed something will mean that not only have we gone through so much grief and torment from these trials but that we have actually added to our sins by questioning Allah and we will be accountable for that.

    Patience is one of the greatest attributes a person can acquire and Allah is with those who are patient and the reward for Patience is Paradise!

    If one is patient, and is among the ones described in the following manner in the Qur’an (Baqarah, 2: 256)

    Who say, when afflicted with calamity: “To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return”:-

    Then here are the rewards Allah will give that person (2:157):

    The Rewards of Patience are the folowing:

    1. Blessings from Allah: The patient person is blessed by Allah.

    2. Mercy of Allah: When Allah gives someone His Mercy, He will let him enter paradise with His Mercy.

    3. Guidance of Allah: A patient person will be guided by Allah in this world until he meets Him on the Day of Judgment.

    Referring to those who are tested and endure with Sabr or patience all of the above three rewards are mentioned by Allah Himself in the Qur’an in Surah Baqarah (2: 157):

    “They are those on whom (Descend) blessings from Allah, and Mercy, and they are the ones that receive guidance.”

    In Surah Hud (11:11), Allah (S.W.T.) again promises to reward those who are patient in adversity.

    Therefore let us realise that patience is the main thing Allah is looking for in us when we are going through trials and tests.

    Here are two wonderful examples of patience through trials in the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) :

    ‘Ata ibn Rabah related that he heard Ibn ‘Abbas say: “Shall I show you a woman of Paradise?”I said: “Yes, indeed.” He said: “A black woman came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and said: ‘I suffer from epileptic fits, and because of these, (at times) my body becomes uncovered. Would you invoke Allah, the Exalted One, to cure me of this disease? ‘ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: ‘If you wish, you can be patient and you will attain Paradise (for this suffering). But if you prefer, I will pray to Allah, the Exalted, to cure you of it?’ The woman said: ‘I will be patient,’ then added: ‘I become uncovered (when I have fits), so invoke Allah for me that I do not become uncovered. ‘ So the Prophet, peace be upon him, prayed for her.” [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

    Story of ‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair

    ‘Urwah Ibn Al Zubair had an operation, and the doctor amputated his leg. One friend came to visit him. ‘Urwah thought that the fried came to pacify him for the loss of his leg. So ‘Urwah told the visitor: If you came to give me condolence for the loss of my leg, I already submitted to Allah with patience to reward me for its loss. The guest told him, I came to inform you that your son fell down in a stable, and the animals stepped over him, and he died one hour ago. ‘Urwah said: O Allah! You took one child, and left me many…You took one organ from my body, and left me many organs…O Allah! You tested me with my body, and you were kind to leave me with good health. You tested me with the loss of my son, but you were kind in leaving me the rest of my children.


    We should also approach tests as in we should look at those who have less than us. We have clean tap water and food on our plates everyday. We have clean clothes washed regularly and shelter from the harsh weather. Whereas there are those who walk miles just for a sip of water and even then it is dirty. There are those who have the same clothes for years and cannot even wash them. There are those who go days without proper food and even then they have scraps and end up being malnourished. There are those like in the flood disaster recently who have no shelter and are exposed to terrible diseases. Those who have little or no money to buy even basic things aswell as medication for their sick family members. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) always told us to look at those who have less than us.

    Sometims when we go through great trials we get decieved into thinking that other people that we see around us must be living a life happy and content. We are wrong to think in this way for we do not know what goes on in peoples lives. There are many examples of those who seemed as though they have SO much and seemed so happy but when certain things were revealed then it was clear that those people were living miserable lives full of torment! We may look at a person with a smile on his face but he may be going through trials we can never imagine.

    Therefore when we are going through difficult times and trials then we should not look at others and think they are happy and living fulfilled lives for we do not know what any person on the street is going through on a day to day basis.

    Therefore whenever we are going through difficult times and trials then we should put our full trust, hopes, faith and reliance in Allah for he will NEVER let us down but is only testing us because he wants us to turn towards him in humility, humbleness and meekness and he wants us to get much closer to him. He tests a person because he wants good for them and wants to forgive them and raise their ranks in the hereafter.

    In reality how lucky is a person who is being tested greatly and is still patient and turning towards Allah night and day. How hig must Allah be raising his ranks and forgiving his sins on a daily basis until he is like a new born baby who has little or no sins on him at all. So the way to approach this is to realise that a person who is being tested greatly is in fact lucky but shaythan is wanting one to think opposite.

    Shaythan is our eternal sworn enemy and ONLY wants us to lose hope and faith and to go away from Allah. He wants us tobecome disillusioned and lose all hope so that we go away from Alah and our deen. But we should reject our enemy who only wants our destruction. We should disregard his evil whispers and know that they are only lies and deciet.

    Shaythan will try to make us think that there is no way out of this and this is because he wants us to give in and lose hope. But we must realise that if we continuously strive and keep turning towards Allah and be patient then the final victory WILL be ours! We will taste the sweetness of victory but in order to taste this victory we need to fight and strive through the tests and trials that life throws at us!

    If one who is going through great trials continues to turn towards Allah in humility, meekness and in humblenes then know that the reward one will gain will be unimaginable. On the day of judgement once we see the reward of being patient through great trials turning towards Allah in humility then we would want Allah to have tested us even more so that we could have wreaped the rewards of being patient and turning towards Allah through trials and hardships. It is only on the day of judgement will we truly realise how much we have missed out on and how much more we wished we were tested by Allah so that our ranks were even higher.

    And Allah knows best in all matters
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    #2
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    The Reward of going through terrible trials and hardships immense!

    Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "On the Day of Resurrection, when people who have suffered affliction are given their reward, those who are healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world."(Al-Tirmidhi #1570)

    Therefore let us realsie that the bigger trials and hardships we go through then the more rewards we will gain in the hereafter as long as we are patient and are constantly turning towards Allah.

    In the hereafter when we see the rewards of going through trials and hardships then we will all wish that we wen through the WORST trials possible for the longest amount of time!

    May Allah make us patient through adversity, trials and hardships. Ameen
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      #3
      Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

      This world is the place of trials and tribulations

      What is this world?



      Praise be to Allaah.

      This world is the place of striving and the Hereafter is the place of reward or punishment, where the believers will be rewarded with Paradise and the disbelievers will be punished with Hell.

      Paradise is good and none but those who were good will enter it. Allaah is Good and accepts nothing but that which is good. So the way of Allaah with His slaves is to test them with calamities and tribulations, so that the believer may be known from the kaafir and so that the truthful may be distinguished from the liar, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “Do people think that they will be left alone because they say: ‘We believe,’ and will not be tested.

      And We indeed tested those who were before them. And Allaah will certainly make (it) known (the truth of) those who are true, and will certainly make (it) known (the falsehood of) those who are liars, (although Allaah knows all that before putting them to test)”

      [al-‘Ankaboot 29:2-3]

      Victory and success cannot be achieved except after tests which will bring the good forth from the evil and tell the believer apart from the kaafir, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “Allaah will not leave the believers in the state in which you are now, until He distinguishes the wicked from the good. Nor will Allaah disclose to you the secrets of the Ghayb (Unseen)”

      [Aal ‘Imraan 3:179]

      Among the trials with which Allaah tests His slaves in order to distinguish the believers from the disbelievers is that which He mentions in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

      “And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Saabiroon (the patient).

      Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: ‘Truly, to Allaah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return.’

      They are those on whom are the Salawaat (i.e. who are blessed and will be forgiven) from their Lord, and (they are those who) receive His Mercy, and it is they who are the guided ones”


      [al-Baqarah 2:155-157]

      So Allaah tests His slaves, and He loves those who are patient, and gives them the glad tidings of Paradise.

      Allaah tests His slaves with jihaad, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “Do you think that you will enter Paradise before Allaah tests those of you who fought (in His Cause) and (also) tests those who are As-Saabiroon (the patient)?”
      [Aal ‘Imraan 3:142]

      Wealth and children are a trial by means of which Allaah tests His slaves, to know who will give thanks for them, and who will be distracted from Allaah by them:

      “And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial and that surely, with Allaah is a mighty reward”

      [al-Anfaal 8:28 – interpretation of the meaning]

      Allaah tests us, sometimes with calamities and sometimes with blessings, to show who will be thankful and who will be ungrateful, and who will obey and who will disobey, then He will reward or punish them on the Day of Resurrection:

      “and We shall make a trial of you with evil and with good. And to Us you will be returned”

      [al-Anbiya’ 21:35 – interpretation of the meaning]

      Testing is according to one’s faith; the most severely tested among mankind are the Prophets, then the next best and the next best. The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “When I fall ill, my pain is equivalent to the pain of two men among you.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5648).

      Allaah tests His slaves with different kinds of trials.

      Sometimes He tests them with calamities and tribulations to distinguish the believer from the disbeliever, the obedient from the disobedient, the grateful from the ungrateful.

      Sometimes Allaah tests His slaves with calamities; when they commit sin, He punishes them with calamities so that they might come back to him, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “And whatever of misfortune befalls you, it is because of what your hands have earned. And He pardons much”
      [al-Shoora 42:30]

      “And indeed We seized them with punishment, but they humbled not themselves to their Lord, nor did they invoke (Allaah) with submission to Him” [al-Mu’minoon 23:76]

      Allaah is merciful to His slaves; He sends repeated tribulations upon the ummah so that they may return and repent to Him, and give up that which Allaah has forbidden, and so that Allaah might forgive them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

      “See they not that they are put in trial once or twice every year (with different kinds of calamities, disease, famine)? Yet, they turn not in repentance, nor do they learn a lesson (from it)”

      [al-Tawbah 9:126]

      It is part of the mercy of Allaah that disasters befall sinners in this world, so that their souls might be purified and they might come back to Allaah before they die:

      “And verily, We will make them taste of the near torment (i.e. the torment in the life of this world, i.e. disasters, calamities) prior to the supreme torment (in the Hereafter), in order that they may (repent and) return (i.e. accept Islam)”

      [al-Sajdah 32:21 – interpretation of the meaning]

      Sometimes Allaah tests His slaves with calamities in order to raise them in status and to expiate for their sins, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No misfortune or disease befalls a Muslim, no worry or grief or harm or distress – not even a thorn that pricks him – but Allaah will expiate for some of his sins because of that.” (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5641)



      From Usool al-Deen al-Islami, by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem al-Tuwayjri
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        #4
        Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

        Overcoming tests from Allah

        Allah, Glory be to Him, says in the Quran: "Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, 'We believe,' and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false" (Quran, 29: 2-3).

        By virtue of being created as human beings, we will be tested. We will be thrown into countless trials, into situations that may arise unpleasant and awkward, and into times of difficulty when it seems as though there is little reason to hope.

        Tests will come at us from every direction; events will test the very core of our character and the strength of our beliefs. And these are the tests we cannot afford to fail. And Allah, Glory be to Him, has not left us empty-handed.

        Building our knowledge and our characters as Muslims is the only way to overcome the mild to the severe trials we will face every day until we die. He says: "Have you not seen how Allah has given the parable of a beautiful word like a beautiful tree whose roots are firmly established, and whose branches tower in the sky? It gives its fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord, and Allah sets forth parables for mankind in order that they may remember" (Quran, 14: 24-25).

        A "beautiful word" in this verse refers to the Islamic statement of belief: la illaha ill Allah (there is no being worthy of worship except Allah). And the verse goes on to refer to a beautiful tree, which illustrates the character of a believer.

        According to this verse, a believer is one whose Iman, or faith, is unwavering and firmly established. He or she cannot be swayed from the straight path by the winds of trials, no matter how fierce the storm. Knowing and believing that there is no being worthy of worship except Allah, Glory be to Him, and following His commandments provides a believer with the stability and confidence he or she needs to succeed.

        A believer's branches also "tower in the sky" like that of the beautiful tree. By this analogy, a believer's Iman cannot remain hidden. A Muslim cannot claim to have Iman solely in the heart while not having it show in his or her actions.

        Contrary to that, Iman is something so significant that by its nature, it must be seen by anyone who looks at or interacts with a Muslim. Your Iman raises you up to a higher moral level, just as the braches of the beautiful tree reach upwards towards to the sky.

        These verses also mention that this tree that is compared with a true believer "gives its fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord." The tree of Iman is ever fruitful, unlike a real tree that only gives fruits at certain times of the year.

        Your faith and your belief in la illaha ill Allah sustains you night and day, in every season, during times of ease and times of great hardship. This is the parable of the believer whose good deeds never take a vacation – they are continuous throughout the day and the night. The chapter goes on to say "And the parable of an evil word is that of an evil tree uprooted from the surface of earth having no stability" (Quran 14: 26). An "evil word" in this verse refers to disbelief.

        The verse describes the powerlessness and volatility of disbelief – it has no basis and he or she who disbelieves has little stability in life. The trials and difficulties of life can easily uproot such a person.

        May Allah, Glory be to Him, make us be of those who are firmly rooted in their beliefs.

        Islamic history is riddled with examples of Muslims who withstood tests that would seem unimaginably difficult today.

        The Muslims of the past had an abundance of patience and perseverance which are two important traits of this beautiful tree of Iman.

        Two Muslims who were of the most firmly rooted of believers were Sumayyah and Yasir, may God be pleased with them. After being among the first Muslims and agreeing to accept Islam in a very tumultuous period, Sumayyah and Yasir along with their son Ammar were tortured mercilessly at the hands of Abu Jahl. The family was left unprotected since they had no tribal affiliations in Makkah.

        Unable to physically help them at the time, the prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him, would visit them and say, "be patient, O family of Yasir, because your promised place is Paradise." He would then turn his face to the sky and say: "O Lord! Forgive the family of Yasir." The prophet also prayed for the alleviation of Ammar's suffering by placing Ammar's head in his lap and saying: "O fire! Be cool and harmless for Ammar in the same manner in which you became cool and harmless for Ibrahim."

        Sumayyah and Yasir were both martyred in the cause of Allah, Glory be to Him, after refusing to leave their faith which was dearer to them than life itself. The family was honoured with the best of honours: the prophet's guarantee of their home in paradise. These are the examples we should take as guides to our own lives. Too often do we compromise what we believe in to accommodate the uneducated assumptions of others. Too often do we forget the immense history of Islam and Muslims.

        One of the reasons we have the gift of Islam is because we stand on the shoulders of people like Sumayyah and Yasir, may Allah be pleased with them. People who did not waver, did not compromise their Iman to please others or even to save their own lives. Just like in our Islamic history, our strength as a community and as individuals today can only stem from the remembrance of and obedience to Allah, Glory be to Him. These times are difficult and the pain often hits close to home. But by holding fast to our belief in la illaha ill Allah , we will stay firmly rooted, our branches will tower high towards the sky, and our hearts will never lack sustenance, InshaAllah.

        Sources: Tafsir Ibn Kathir, Volume 5

        Allah tells us that we will be tested. He also makes it clear to us what is expected from us when we undergo these trials and what our reward will be if we are successful.

        He says: “Be sure we shall test you with something of fear and hunger, some loss in goods, lives and the fruits (of your toil) but give glad tidings to those who patiently persevere. Those who, when misfortune strikes them, say: ‘Indeed we belong to Allah and to Him is our return. Those are the ones upon whom are blessings and mercy from their Lord and it is those who are rightly guided.” [Sûrah al-Baqarah: 155]

        The Prophet (peace be upon him)said: "No fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts any Muslim, even to the extent of a thorn pricking him, without Allah wiping out his sins by it." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî and Sahîh Muslim]

        In another narration, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “No Muslim is afflicted by harm, whether it is but the prick of a thorn or something worse, without Allah expiating his evil deeds on account of it and his sins falling away from him like leaves off a tree.'" [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]


        The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "When Allah desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships." [Sahîh al-Bukhârî]

        In reality, the entire Sacred Law is a tremendous blessing for us in this life and the next.

        Obligations that initially seem difficult to fulfill have a polishing effect on the heart until eventually the one's entire perspective changes. Outward submission leads to inward submission and heart fills with love and gratitude for Allah.

        Obligations are not meant to be hammered out reluctantly; they are meant to be offered in the spirit of heartfelt gratitude to Allah for the myriad blessings that each of us has been given. Someone who is realized in this state will do everything for Allah; "worldly" activities such as eating, drinking, and conversing with friends are all performed with the intention of drawing closer to Allah.

        Such a person will not worry over possible future problems, nor will he grieve over past difficulties, for he is busy with the One he loves. This is true happiness and anyone who misses out on it will never know the meaning of contentment.

        So know that Allah is testing us because he wants good for us and he wants to see if we are going to come closer to him or more further away from him.

        Shaythan is wanting us to weaken and fail the tests from Allah so will we let shaythan win? Or will we make the best of these opportunities and get closer to Allah than we have EVER been?

        For if we are patient then Allah is with us so NOTHING can hurt or effect us!

        Allah mentions in the Qur'an:

        “Indeed Allah is with those who are patient.”

        If one is patient, and is among the ones described in the following manner in the Qur’an (Baqarah, 2: 256)

        Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilaihee Raaji'oon

        “To Allah We belong, and to Him is our return”:-

        The Reward for Patience is Paradise

        ‘Ata ibn Rabah related that he heard Ibn ‘Abbas say: “Shall I show you a woman of Paradise?” I said: “Yes, indeed.” He said: “A black woman came to the Prophet, peace be upon him, and said: ‘I suffer from epileptic fits, and because of these, (at times) my body becomes uncovered. Would you invoke Allah, the Exalted One, to cure me of this disease? ‘ The Prophet, peace be upon him, said: ‘If you wish, you can be patient and you will attain Paradise (for this suffering). But if you prefer, I will pray to Allah, the Exalted, to cure you of it?’ The woman said: ‘I will be patient,’ then added: ‘I become uncovered (when I have fits), so invoke Allah for me that I do not become uncovered. ‘ So the Prophet, peace be upon him, prayed for her.” [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

        So tests and calamitys are a blessing in disguise and Allah wanting us to get closer to him so if we bare with in with Patience hoping for reward then Allah is with us and best of all we will get closer to Allah and feel true contentment and happiness in the heart and we will attain Paradise inshallah!
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          #5
          Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

          Allah is in Full Control of the Universe and Fully Aware of All Events

          Nothing happens in this world except through the leave of Allah (swt). Therefore, a person who has been suffering from distress should know that Allah (swt) is fully aware of all that has happened or been happening to him. It is not a chaotic world where pain and suffering happens at random, nor is it a lawless universe without a ruler and watcher where the strong – be that a person or a nation – can do whatever it wishes to the weak without a consequence. The believer should know that Allah (swt) is aware of every little details of everything that happens, so much so that not even a leaf falls from a tree without Allah (swt) being aware of it:


          He knoweth whatever there is on the earth and in the sea. Not a leaf doth fall but with His knowledge: there is not a grain in the darkness (or depths) of the earth nor anything fresh or dry (green or withered) but is (inscribed) in a Record Clear (to those who can read). (6:59)

          No misfortune can happen on earth or in your souls but is recorded in a decree before We bring it into existence: that is truly easy for Allah: in order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you by … (57:22-23)
          Therefore, the believer should take relief and comfort from the fact that Allah (swt) is fully and intimately aware of his situations. Any harm or injustice that he has been subjected to by anyone, will not go without a consequence. Or if he is suffering from distress and difficulties, then his suffering is constantly being watched by One who is the Most Kind, the Most Merciful.
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            #6
            Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

            The Comforting words of Allah during hardships and trials


            Verily, with the hardship,
            there is relief
            (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs).
            [ Al-Inshirah 94:6]

            "Peace unto you for that ye persevered in patience! Now how excellent is the final home!"
            Excellent indeed is the final home!"
            [ Ar-Rad 13:24]

            "...Do not regard it an evil to you;
            nay, it is good for you...."
            [An- Nuur 24:11]

            "...So put your trust (in Allaah)
            if ye are indeed believers."
            [Al-Maida 5:23]

            "O ye who believe!
            Seek help in steadfastness
            and prayer.
            Lo! Allaah is with the steadfast."
            [Al-Baqarah 2:153]

            "And certainly,
            We shall test you with something
            of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits,
            but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).
            Who, when afflicted with calamity,
            say: "Truly! To Allaah we belong
            and truly, to Him we shall return."
            [ Al-Baqara 2: 155~156]

            "And He will provide him
            from (sources)
            He never could imagine.
            And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah,
            then HE will suffice him.
            Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose.
            Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things."
            [ At-Talaq 65:3]

            "Verily We have created man
            into toil and struggle."
            [ Al-Balad 90:4]

            Know that when you have problems or in difficulty, then it is by Allaah's permission for HE says:

            "Say: "Nothing shall ever happen to us
            except what Allaah has ordained for us.
            He is our Maula (Lord, Helper and Protector)."
            And in Allaah
            let the believers put their trust."
            [At-Taubah 9:51]

            "No kind of calamity can occur,
            except by the leave of Allaah
            And if any one believes in Allaah,
            {Allaah} guides his heart (aright):
            for Allaah knows all things."
            [At-Taghabun 64:11]

            "...There did Allaah give you one distress after another
            by way of requital
            to teach you not to grieve
            for that which had escaped you,
            nor for that which had befallen you.
            And Allaah is Well Aware of all that you do."
            [Al-Imran 3:153]
            10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
            Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
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              #7
              Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

              Thank you so much, reading this has helped me understand why I am having such trouble. I am an American converted to Islam, and it has been hard since I took Shahadah. Thanks for your post, it was very helpful

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                #8
                Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                Today I stand before you as a man who is trying to understand true philosophy. A man once said the only true philosophical question was to contemplate suicide to understand the true meaning of life is to try to understand the ending of it. Though religion man has tried to find answers and base the whole existence on the hope of their faith being true. Faith is a powerful thing. It can change the world and just as easily destroy it. Man shares the word of his faith in the hope of mercy upon those who know no better. Man is too complicated. Man in his existence is unnatural. Where in nature do you see creatures who question their existence or stubble to understand their hardships? Intelligent design in my eyes is an impossible theory. To look at Man it is obvious that if we were designed whom ever designed us obviously wasn't intelligent. We are fragile in our existence through fears of rejection, death, and loneliness and in our hopes of making peace with these fears we in fact lose who we actually are. I look to nature, where natural selection the only sensible form of existence is law. When a predator kills it's not for fun but necessity and those that deserve will escape the jaws of the stronger being. Where is that in man? Where is sympathy in nature? Where is the want for the predator to allow the weaker creature to live and to sacrifice it's self to die of starvation? Why does Man feel the need to take pity on the weak. When I say weak I do not mean those with physical or mental defection. I mean those who find themselves being true philosophers, those who have decided that life is no longer worth living. They in fact sicken me. Life is hard and I heard once that if you take it too seriously you won't get out alive. Truer words were never spoken. When you find yourself at an impasse and you believe death is the only answer, as cold as it sounds, maybe it is. Life in my eyes is a joke with the a punch-line no one gets until it's too late. Maybe when you get it you'll laugh at how you took it too literally or maybe you'll cry when you see that you missed the best part or maybe just maybe one night you'll find yourself being a true philosopher, maybe that is when you'll see that the answer you were looking for was just slightly to your left the whole time and that the joke was one you. As for answers... I have none. Only a thought that you may have already missed the punch-line and you'll laugh so no one notices. If I make no sense, I wouldn't be surprised. These are just thoughts of a man who is not a true philosopher, just a man waiting to lay down next to a beautiful woman for the sake of company. * *

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                  #9
                  Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                  Originally posted by Jameela2010 View Post
                  Thank you so much, reading this has helped me understand why I am having such trouble. I am an American converted to Islam, and it has been hard since I took Shahadah. Thanks for your post, it was very helpful
                  Asalaamu Alaikum, my dear sister it is Allah who lead you to these posts so that your heart may find comfort. I also like you to find comfort in the following words:

                  No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere it will never come your way but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee. (Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radiyallahu Anhu)

                  Finally: " Do not detest the misfortunes that befall you, for what you detest may be the cause of your salvation and what you like may be the cause of your ruin." Al-Hasan Al-Basree

                  If you would like any help or advice on anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.

                  May Allah give you the best of this world and the hereafter. Ameen
                  10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                  http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                  Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                  http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                    #10
                    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                    How to overcome Anxiety and Worry


                    Islam's Treatment for Anxiety and Worry

                    http://maseeh1.tripod.com/advices7/id150.htm



                    Overcoming Anxiety

                    http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...EAskTheScholar



                    How A Muslim Should Deal With Stress and Anxiety: 25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety

                    http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.a...D=1948&CATE=17
                    10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                    Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                      #11
                      Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                      You think you got it bad?

                      Please watch this:

                      Last edited by hamza81; 24-06-12, 05:11 PM.
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                        #12
                        Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                        What does it mean to be patient through trials and hardships?


                        What it means to be patient through hardships is to accept the decree of Allah and not to question it saying: "Why me"? to Allah. We should accept that Allah has inflicted this hardship on us in order to test us so that he may differentiate the strong and firm believer to the weak.

                        By being patient it also means that we should not complain to others about our hardships trials and misfortunes but we should remain steadfast and thank Allah and ask him to make us patient and fim. We should put all of our trust in Allah and know that he is doing what is best for us.

                        Patience through hardships removes sins
                        No Muslim is afflicted with harm because of sickness or some other inconvenience, but that Allah will remove his sins for him as a tree sheds its leaves. (Bukhari)
                        We should know that these afflictions will disolve our sins like salt dissolves in water and it maybe that on the day of judgement a person who was tested so much that he may little or no sins left.

                        No one is granted a gift better and more comprehensive than patience. (Bukhari and Muslim)


                        Patience through prayer

                        We should ask of Allah to remove our burden as long as it is better for us but those with the firmest of beliefs want to be tested more so that they may gain closeness to Allah because it is trials and hardships which bring a believer closest to Allah.

                        It is trials and hardships which cause a person to be the best of the believers and gain the highest ranks of Jannah. It is trials and beliefs which make a person a strong firm believer.
                        O ye who believe! seek help with patient perseverance and prayer: for Allah is with those who patiently persevere. (2:153)

                        Seek (Allah's) help with patient perseverance and prayer. (2:45)

                        So when we experience trials and hardships then Allah is wanting us to be patient and persevere and turn towards him in prayer. As well as the 5 daily Salaah we should turn towards him in the latter portions of the night at Tahajjud time for this is a time when Allah showers his mercy the most. We should beg and cry to him and ask of him for forgiveness and also thank him abundantly.

                        And during part of the night (also) celebrate His praises and (so likewise) after the postures of adoration. (50:40)

                        But man has been created impatient:
                        Truly man was created very impatient: fretful when evil touches him, and niggardly when good reaches him. (70:19-21)
                        There are two categories of people that we should never fall into regarding trials and hardships:

                        1. One is he who asks of Allah when affliction hits him but when the affliction is over then it is as though Allah never helped him and he hows ungrattitude to Allah.
                        When trouble touches a man he cries unto Us (in all postures) lying down on his side or sitting or standing. But when We have solved his trouble he passes on his way as if he had never cried to Us for a trouble that touched him! Thus do the deeds of transgressors seem fair in their eyes! (10:12)
                        2. The second is he who when calamity strikes him he breaks down and becomes indifferent to Allah and his commands as if he is owed a comfortale life.
                        Among men is he who worships Allah, while remaining on the borderline; if any good befalls him, he is satisfied; but if a trial afflicts him, he utterly turns away. He will incur loss both of this world and the Hereafter. That indeed is a clear loss. (21:11)
                        The patience of Yaqub (As)

                        The story of Yaqub (As) or Job (As) is a perfect example of the purpose of tests. He was such a firm and strong believer that shaythan asked Allah to test him that is faith may weaken but even after Yaqub (As) lost everything from wealth, health, wife and family he was even stronger in faith and belief.

                        Sameway we are tested to see if we will become stronger believers and closer to Allah or whether we will lose our imaan and become closer to shaythan and our nafs (desires).

                        The best people are those who are tested the most and come out of their tests stronger in faith. Those who were tested the most were the Prophets because they were the best of people.

                        Hardships and Trials are a blessing in disguise

                        So if a trial and hardship comes our way then we should see it as a blessing in disguise and should remain patient and steadfast and put our full trust, hopes and reliance in Allah and know that victory will be ours in the end.
                        Verily with every difficulty, there is relief. (94:6)
                        Verily, the Hereafter will be better for thee than the present. (93:4)

                        There are even reward for past trials and hardships:
                        If any Muslim man or woman suffers a calamity and keeps it in his memory, even if it happened a long time ago, saying each time it is remembered:

                        Inna lillahi wa inna ilaihi raaji'oon

                        'We belong to Allah and to Him do we return,' Allah, who is Blessed and Exalted will give a fresh reward each time it is said, equivalent to the reward when it happened. (Ahmad)


                        Life is a test ground

                        So we need to view this life as a test ground and tests and calamitys as ways of Allah the main examiner testing us to see how well we will be able to do in this test.
                        Imam Ibn'l Qayyim (Rahimahullah) said:
                        The divine decree related to the believer is always a bounty, even if it is in the form of withholding (something that is desired), and it is a blessing, even if it appears to be a trial, and an affliction that has befallen him is in reality a cure, even though it appears to be a disease!

                        Unfortunately, due to the ignorance of the worshipper, and his transgressions, he does not consider anything to be a gift or a blessing or a cure unless he can enjoy it immediately, and it is in accordance with his nature. If he were only given a little bit of understanding, then he would have counted being withheld from as a blessing, and the sickness as a mercy, and he would relish the trouble that befalls him more than he relishes his ease, and he would enjoy poverty more than he enjoys richness, and he would be more thankful when he is blessed with little than when he is blessed with a lot.
                        We should realise that we are only going to be tested for a very short while compared to the eternal rewards that await us as after death we can enjoy the fruits of our patience FOREVER!

                        May Allah enable us to be steadfast and patient through trials and hardships and come out firmer and stronger believers. Ameen
                        10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                        http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                        Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                        http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                          #13
                          Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                          10 Ways To Overcome Sadness



                          1. Live for each new day:



                          Know that whatever you have gone through in your past is gone and will never come back: So everyday is a new and fresh day. Yesterday is a distance memory and today is what matters. Therefore live for today and live for each new and fresh day and do not think about yesterday as it is gone and do not think too much about tomorrow for it may never come.


                          2. Each second that goes by we will never get back again:



                          Know that each second is a true blessing and every second that ticks by can never again be regained so why should we waste our precious time being sad when our sadness will not change anything and will not benefit us in anyway but that which will benefit us in this world and the next is our good deeds.

                          So Think to yourself: "Why am i wasting my precious seconds being down when i will NEVER get back these seconds again. So there is NO time to for me to be down for my time is so little and it may end at any second".



                          3. Know that our life is pre-destined:


                          Whatever will happen will happen so there is no point being down when our sadness will not affect the outcome od our destiny.

                          So think to yourself: "Why am i wasting this precious time being upset when everything is pre-destined so whatever will happen will happen so there is NO point me being down about it".



                          4. Think of your death:


                          Surely death wakes us up into the true reality of our life that we are living to die. Each second that goes by is closer to our death. So why should we be sad when we know our purpose in this life and so we should do EVERYTHING to fulfill that purpose and that means not waste a second on that which will not benefit us in this life or the next.

                          Therefore there is NO point being sad and when we are sad then we should remind ourselves of death and that we will end up in the grave with nothing but our deeds so we should do everything to please Allah and prepare for our daths for sadness will just waste our time and hold us back from fulfilling the very purpose of our life and making the best of the life we have.


                          5. Think of the hereafter:


                          Think about the time when the sun will be SO close to the Earth. When When you will stand with every creation in the universe and be ready to face Allah with your deeds. This will encourage you to get up and snap out of your sadness and realise that you have to prepare for that day when you will face Allah just you and your deeds! So what point is there being sad? Will it help us when we face Allah on the day of judgement? NO but doing good deeds will!


                          6. Look at those who have less than you:


                          When you are sad then just look at those who have less than you. Look at what you have been given in comparison to them. You have food on a plate 3 times a day whereas they struggle to get a crumb of flour.

                          You drink out of purified tap water when they drink from dirty contaminated water full of disease. Others do not even have a drop to drink for several days.

                          You have shelter and heated homes whereas they live in a tent and refuge camp. They have nothing to keep them sheltered whereas you have four walls with a roof.

                          You have wealth that you can buy all the luxuries in the world whereas they can only dream of what you have.

                          So look at those with less and those who have nothing. Then know how lucky you are so should you really be sad? Instead thank Allah and spend in his path that he may give you more in this world and the hereafter.



                          7. Appreciate that you have been given imaan(faith)out of so many:



                          You could have been born in any era and in any faith or religion. You could have been of those who were misguided. You could have been of those who were not favoured by Allah but you have been given the most special gift of ALL imaan!

                          Therefore appreciate it and thank Allah for it night and day. Why would you be sad when you have been favoured out of countless others?



                          8. Make dua to Allah:



                          Whenever you are down then make dua to Allah. Turn to him in the latter part of the night when he will attend to you quicker. Turn to him when others are deep in their sleep. Turn to him in humility, meekness and humbleness. Turn to him knowing that he is listening. Turn to him knowing he is the closest to you. Turn to him knowing he cares and he truly loves you.

                          Cry to him and beg of him to forgive you. Ask of him to fulfill your needs but at the same time trust in him that he will do what is best for you. If he wants you to be patient then be patient for you will get SO MUCH BETTER IN RETURN!

                          Turn to him knowing he WILL answer your prayer, if not now, then tomorrow. If not tomorrow then in the hereafter and that is when we will be rewarded most for our dua's and we would wish that NO dua was accepted so that we recieved EVERY reward for our dua in the hereafter.



                          9. Make pleasing Allah the source of your pleasure in this life:



                          If we make pleasing Allah the source of our pleasure in this life then HOW can we ever be sad? When we live each day to have a highflying career we will never be fully satisfied no matter where our career is because we always want to have a better career.

                          When we live for money then we will never be satisfied because we always want more and will always try new ventures and ways in order to get more and more.

                          When we live for other people then they will always let us down in one way or another.

                          But if we live to please Allah and do good deeds that will make us feel closer to him then what better pleasure is there in life.

                          So when you are feeling sad then think: "Let me get up and do good in order to please Allah for that is my source of true happiness in this life"

                          So make EVERYDAY a day when you will want to please Allah more than yesterday. When you are sad then turn to Allah and make him the source of your true happiness. Make the pleasure of pleasing him the means of you NEVER becoming sad again.



                          10. RELY ON ALLAH:


                          Most of all rely on Allah. Know that he is there for you and closer to you than your jugular vein. Know that he knows you better than you know yourself. Know that he loves you more than any soul ever could. Know that he is there for you when others arent. Know that he will never let you down when others will. Know that whatever you go through in life.

                          So put your FULL trust, faith and reliance in him and know that is is ALWAYS there so trust in him.


                          May Allah enable us to do everything to please him and to put our full trust in him. Ameen
                          10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                          Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=230798

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                            #14
                            Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                            The House of Praise built for those who are patient when great affliction hits them:

                            It is narrated in the Hadith that the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said: "When a man's child dies, Allah, may He be exalted, says to His angels:

                            'Have you taken the soul of the child of My slave?'

                            They say, 'Yes.'

                            He says, although He knows best, 'Have you taken the apple of his eye?'

                            They say, 'Yes.'

                            He says: 'What did My slave say?"

                            They say: 'He praised You and said

                            "Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi Raji'un"

                            (Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return).'

                            Allah, may He be glorified and exalted, says: 'Build a house for My slave in Paradise and call it the house of praise.'"

                            [al-Tirmidhi].
                            10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                            http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
                            Forty Good Deeds to do Everyday!
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                              #15
                              Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

                              Saying "Inna Lillahi wa inna ilayhi Raji'un"and asking Allah to give you something better in retun for loss:


                              Umm Salamah (RA) said: I heard the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) say:

                              "There is no person who is afflicted with a calamity and says:

                              'Verily to Allah we belong and unto Him is our return. O Allah, reward me for my affliction and compensate me with something better'

                              - but that Allah will reward him for his affliction and compensate him with something better."

                              She said: When Abu Salamah died, I said: Who is better than Abu Salamah, the companion of the Messenger of Allah? Then Allah caused me to say it and I said it.

                              She said: Then I married the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him).

                              Subhanallah Allah truly does give a person better in return!
                              10 steps to increase our imaan(faith)
                              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthread.php?t=192926
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