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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    Originally posted by Jameela2010 View Post
    Thank you so much, reading this has helped me understand why I am having such trouble. I am an American converted to Islam, and it has been hard since I took Shahadah. Thanks for your post, it was very helpful
    Asalaamu Alaikum, my dear sister it is Allah who lead you to these posts so that your heart may find comfort. I also like you to find comfort in the following words:

    No amount of guilt can change the past and no amount of worrying can change the future. Go easy on yourself, for the outcome of all affairs is determined by Allah's decree. If something is meant to go elsewhere it will never come your way but if it is yours by destiny from you it cannot flee. (Umar Ibn al-Khattab Radiyallahu Anhu)

    Finally: " Do not detest the misfortunes that befall you, for what you detest may be the cause of your salvation and what you like may be the cause of your ruin." Al-Hasan Al-Basree

    If you would like any help or advice on anything at all then please do not hesitate to ask.

    May Allah give you the best of this world and the hereafter. Ameen

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    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    Today I stand before you as a man who is trying to understand true philosophy. A man once said the only true philosophical question was to contemplate suicide to understand the true meaning of life is to try to understand the ending of it. Though religion man has tried to find answers and base the whole existence on the hope of their faith being true. Faith is a powerful thing. It can change the world and just as easily destroy it. Man shares the word of his faith in the hope of mercy upon those who know no better. Man is too complicated. Man in his existence is unnatural. Where in nature do you see creatures who question their existence or stubble to understand their hardships? Intelligent design in my eyes is an impossible theory. To look at Man it is obvious that if we were designed whom ever designed us obviously wasn't intelligent. We are fragile in our existence through fears of rejection, death, and loneliness and in our hopes of making peace with these fears we in fact lose who we actually are. I look to nature, where natural selection the only sensible form of existence is law. When a predator kills it's not for fun but necessity and those that deserve will escape the jaws of the stronger being. Where is that in man? Where is sympathy in nature? Where is the want for the predator to allow the weaker creature to live and to sacrifice it's self to die of starvation? Why does Man feel the need to take pity on the weak. When I say weak I do not mean those with physical or mental defection. I mean those who find themselves being true philosophers, those who have decided that life is no longer worth living. They in fact sicken me. Life is hard and I heard once that if you take it too seriously you won't get out alive. Truer words were never spoken. When you find yourself at an impasse and you believe death is the only answer, as cold as it sounds, maybe it is. Life in my eyes is a joke with the a punch-line no one gets until it's too late. Maybe when you get it you'll laugh at how you took it too literally or maybe you'll cry when you see that you missed the best part or maybe just maybe one night you'll find yourself being a true philosopher, maybe that is when you'll see that the answer you were looking for was just slightly to your left the whole time and that the joke was one you. As for answers... I have none. Only a thought that you may have already missed the punch-line and you'll laugh so no one notices. If I make no sense, I wouldn't be surprised. These are just thoughts of a man who is not a true philosopher, just a man waiting to lay down next to a beautiful woman for the sake of company. * *

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  • Jameela2010
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    Thank you so much, reading this has helped me understand why I am having such trouble. I am an American converted to Islam, and it has been hard since I took Shahadah. Thanks for your post, it was very helpful

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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    The Comforting words of Allah during hardships and trials

    Verily, with the hardship,
    there is relief
    (i.e. there is one hardship with two reliefs, so one hardship cannot overcome two reliefs).
    [ Al-Inshirah 94:6]

    "Peace unto you for that ye persevered in patience! Now how excellent is the final home!"
    Excellent indeed is the final home!"
    [ Ar-Rad 13:24]

    "...Do not regard it an evil to you;
    nay, it is good for you...."
    [An- Nuur 24:11]

    "...So put your trust (in Allaah)
    if ye are indeed believers."
    [Al-Maida 5:23]

    "O ye who believe!
    Seek help in steadfastness
    and prayer.
    Lo! Allaah is with the steadfast."
    [Al-Baqarah 2:153]

    "And certainly,
    We shall test you with something
    of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits,
    but give glad tidings to As-Sabirin (the patient ones, etc.).
    Who, when afflicted with calamity,
    say: "Truly! To Allaah we belong
    and truly, to Him we shall return."
    [ Al-Baqara 2: 155~156]

    "And He will provide him
    from (sources)
    He never could imagine.
    And whosoever puts his trust in Allaah,
    then HE will suffice him.
    Verily, Allaah will accomplish his purpose.
    Indeed Allaah has set a measure for all things."
    [ At-Talaq 65:3]

    "Verily We have created man
    into toil and struggle."
    [ Al-Balad 90:4]

    Know that when you have problems or in difficulty, then it is by Allaah's permission for HE says:

    "Say: "Nothing shall ever happen to us
    except what Allaah has ordained for us.
    He is our Maula (Lord, Helper and Protector)."
    And in Allaah
    let the believers put their trust."
    [At-Taubah 9:51]

    "No kind of calamity can occur,
    except by the leave of Allaah
    And if any one believes in Allaah,
    {Allaah} guides his heart (aright):
    for Allaah knows all things."
    [At-Taghabun 64:11]

    "...There did Allaah give you one distress after another
    by way of requital
    to teach you not to grieve
    for that which had escaped you,
    nor for that which had befallen you.
    And Allaah is Well Aware of all that you do."
    [Al-Imran 3:153]

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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    Allah is in Full Control of the Universe and Fully Aware of All Events

    He knoweth whatever there is on the earth and in the sea. Not a leaf doth fall but with His knowledge: there is not a grain in the darkness (or depths) of the earth nor anything fresh or dry (green or withered) but is (inscribed) in a Record Clear (to those who can read). (6:59)

    Therefore, the believer should take relief and comfort from the fact that Allah (swt) is fully and intimately aware of his situations. Any harm or injustice that he has been subjected to by anyone, will not go without a consequence. Or if he is suffering from distress and difficulties, then his suffering is constantly being watched by One who is the Most Kind, the Most Merciful.

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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    Overcoming tests from Allah

    Allah, Glory be to Him, says in the Quran: "Do men think that they will be left alone on saying, 'We believe,' and that they will not be tested? We did test those before them, and Allah will certainly know those who are true from those who are false" (Quran, 29: 2-3).

    By virtue of being created as human beings, we will be tested. We will be thrown into countless trials, into situations that may arise unpleasant and awkward, and into times of difficulty when it seems as though there is little reason to hope.

    Tests will come at us from every direction; events will test the very core of our character and the strength of our beliefs. And these are the tests we cannot afford to fail. And Allah, Glory be to Him, has not left us empty-handed.

    Building our knowledge and our characters as Muslims is the only way to overcome the mild to the severe trials we will face every day until we die. He says: "Have you not seen how Allah has given the parable of a beautiful word like a beautiful tree whose roots are firmly established, and whose branches tower in the sky? It gives its fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord, and Allah sets forth parables for mankind in order that they may remember" (Quran, 14: 24-25).

    A "beautiful word" in this verse refers to the Islamic statement of belief: la illaha ill Allah (there is no being worthy of worship except Allah). And the verse goes on to refer to a beautiful tree, which illustrates the character of a believer.

    According to this verse, a believer is one whose Iman, or faith, is unwavering and firmly established. He or she cannot be swayed from the straight path by the winds of trials, no matter how fierce the storm. Knowing and believing that there is no being worthy of worship except Allah, Glory be to Him, and following His commandments provides a believer with the stability and confidence he or she needs to succeed.

    A believer's branches also "tower in the sky" like that of the beautiful tree. By this analogy, a believer's Iman cannot remain hidden. A Muslim cannot claim to have Iman solely in the heart while not having it show in his or her actions.

    Contrary to that, Iman is something so significant that by its nature, it must be seen by anyone who looks at or interacts with a Muslim. Your Iman raises you up to a higher moral level, just as the braches of the beautiful tree reach upwards towards to the sky.

    These verses also mention that this tree that is compared with a true believer "gives its fruits at all times by the permission of its Lord." "And the parable of an evil word is that of an evil tree uprooted from the surface of earth having no stability" (Quran 14: 26). An "evil word""be patient, O family of Yasir, because your promised place is Paradise." He would then turn his face to the sky and say: "O Lord! Forgive the family of Yasir." The prophet also prayed for the alleviation of Ammar's suffering by placing Ammar's head in his lap and saying: "O fire! Be cool and harmless for Ammar in the same manner in which you became cool and harmless for Ibrahim."

    Sumayyah and Yasir were both martyred in the cause of Allah, Glory be to Him, after refusing to leave their faith which was dearer to them than life itself. The family was honoured with the best of honours: the prophet's guarantee of their home in paradise. These are the examples we should take as guides to our own lives. Too often do we compromise what we believe in to accommodate the uneducated assumptions of others. Too often do we forget the immense history of Islam and Muslims.

    One of the reasons we have the gift of Islam is because we stand on the shoulders of people like Sumayyah and Yasir, may Allah be pleased with them. People who did not waver, did not compromise their Iman to please others or even to save their own lives. Just like in our Islamic history, our strength as a community and as individuals today can only stem from the remembrance of and obedience to Allah, Glory be to Him. These times are difficult and the pain often hits close to home. But by holding fast to our belief in la illaha ill Allah , we will stay firmly rooted, our branches will tower high towards the sky, and our hearts will never lack sustenance, InshaAllah.

    Sources: Tafsir Ibn Kathir, Volume 5

    Allah tells us that we will be tested. He also makes it clear to us what is expected from us when we undergo these trials and what our reward will be if we are successful.

    He says:

    The Prophet (peace be upon him)said: "No fatigue, illness, anxiety, sorrow, harm or sadness afflicts any Muslim, even to the extent of a thorn pricking him, without Allah wiping out his sins by it."

    In another narration, the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

    The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: "When Allah desires good for someone, He tries him with hardships."

    In reality, the entire Sacred Law is a tremendous blessing for us in this life and the next.

    Obligations that initially seem difficult to fulfill have a polishing effect on the heart until eventually the one's entire perspective changes. Outward submission leads to inward submission and heart fills with love and gratitude for Allah.

    Obligations are not meant to be hammered out reluctantly; they are meant to be offered in the spirit of heartfelt gratitude to Allah for the myriad blessings that each of us has been given. Someone who is realized in this state will do everything for Allah; "worldly" activities such as eating, drinking, and conversing with friends are all performed with the intention of drawing closer to Allah.

    Such a person will not worry over possible future problems, nor will he grieve over past difficulties, for he is busy with the One he loves. This is true happiness and anyone who misses out on it will never know the meaning of contentment.

    So know that Allah is testing us because he wants good for us and he wants to see if we are going to come closer to him or more further away from him.

    Shaythan is wanting us to weaken and fail the tests from Allah so will we let shaythan win? Or will we make the best of these opportunities and get closer to Allah than we have EVER been?

    For if we are patient then Allah is with us so NOTHING can hurt or effect us!

    Allah mentions in the Qur'an:

    (Baqarah, 2: 256)

    Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilaihee Raaji'oon

    The Reward for Patience is Paradise I said: He said: [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

    So tests and calamitys are a blessing in disguise and Allah wanting us to get closer to him so if we bare with in with Patience hoping for reward then Allah is with us and best of all we will get closer to Allah and feel true contentment and happiness in the heart and we will attain Paradise inshallah!

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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    This world is the place of trials and tribulations

    What is this world?

    Praise be to Allaah.

    This world is the place of striving and the Hereafter is the place of reward or punishment, where the believers will be rewarded with Paradise and the disbelievers will be punished with Hell.

    Paradise is good and none but those who were good will enter it. Allaah is Good and accepts nothing but that which is good. So the way of Allaah with His slaves is to test them with calamities and tribulations, so that the believer may be known from the kaafir and so that the truthful may be distinguished from the liar, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    Victory and success cannot be achieved except after tests which will bring the good forth from the evil and tell the believer apart from the kaafir, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    Among the trials with which Allaah tests His slaves in order to distinguish the believers from the disbelievers is that which He mentions in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning):

    [al-Baqarah 2:155-157]

    So Allaah tests His slaves, and He loves those who are patient, and gives them the glad tidings of Paradise.

    Allaah tests His slaves with jihaad, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

    Wealth and children are a trial by means of which Allaah tests His slaves, to know who will give thanks for them, and who will be distracted from Allaah by them:

    Allaah tests us, sometimes with calamities and sometimes with blessings, to show who will be thankful and who will be ungrateful, and who will obey and who will disobey, then He will reward or punish them on the Day of Resurrection:

    (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5648).

    Allaah tests His slaves with different kinds of trials.

    Sometimes He tests them with calamities and tribulations to distinguish the believer from the disbeliever, the obedient from the disobedient, the grateful from the ungrateful.

    Sometimes Allaah tests His slaves with calamities; when they commit sin, He punishes them with calamities so that they might come back to him, as He says (interpretation of the meaning):

    [al-Shoora 42:30]

    Allaah is merciful to His slaves; He sends repeated tribulations upon the ummah so that they may return and repent to Him, and give up that which Allaah has forbidden, and so that Allaah might forgive them. Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):

    [al-Tawbah 9:126]

    It is part of the mercy of Allaah that disasters befall sinners in this world, so that their souls might be purified and they might come back to Allaah before they die:

    Sometimes Allaah tests His slaves with calamities in order to raise them in status and to expiate for their sins, as the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: (Agreed upon. Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5641)

    From Usool al-Deen al-Islami, by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem al-Tuwayjri

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  • hamza81
    Re: How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    The Reward of going through terrible trials and hardships immense!

    Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah Allah's Messenger (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) said, "On the Day of Resurrection, when people who have suffered affliction are given their reward, those who are healthy will wish their skins had been cut to pieces with scissors when they were in the world."(Al-Tirmidhi #1570)

    Therefore let us realsie that the bigger trials and hardships we go through then the more rewards we will gain in the hereafter as long as we are patient and are constantly turning towards Allah.

    In the hereafter when we see the rewards of going through trials and hardships then we will all wish that we wen through the WORST trials possible for the longest amount of time!

    May Allah make us patient through adversity, trials and hardships. Ameen

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  • How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives

    How we can get through hardships and trials in our lives


    Asalaamu Alaikum,

    The way to aget through hardships and difficult tests that we may be going through in life is to firstly internalise in our minds that this life is a test ground and we are in an examination but we do not know when this examination will end but whilst the examination is taking place we are being rigorously tested and at times we are tested until breaking piont just to see whether or not we will turn towards Allah or go away from him.

    We must also internalise that Allah ONLY tests those who he wants close to him. Therefore the tests that we go through in our lives clearly show Allah is wanting us to turn towards him and be closer to him. This is in fact a great privelage. The greater the tests we go through the more Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hereafter.

    Therefore if we really want to know the best way to approach huge trials and tests then we should simply realise that the bigger the tests we are going through then the higher Allah is wanting to raise our ranks in the hererafter. Trials are a truly blessing in disguise. All Allah wants from us is for us to turn towards him in meekness and humbleness and for us to be patient and to turn to him in prayer and dua. Picture that fact that Allah loves it when his servant is in desperate need, crying to him for help for Allah tends to those who cry and sob to him immediatley just as a mother tends to its baby promptly when it is crying.

    We should also internalise the fact that tests actually differentiate us believers from one another in terms of ranking in the eyes of Allah and therefore we should know that those who are tested and are patient are forgiven of their sins as sins falls off a person who is patient through trials just. Therefore we should realise that us being tested with trials and tests will NEVER go unrewarded for Allah rewards how much he wants to those who are patient through trials and those who turn towards him in humility and meekness.

    It may be that a person who has experienced great trials in the world faces Allah on the day of judgement with little or no sins. So tests are a way of Allah forgiving a person of their sins so that on the day of judgement they have a much lighter load. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) has called the day of judgement a "terrible"(Baqarah, 2: 256)

    Who say, when afflicted with calamity:

    Then here are the rewards Allah will give that person (2:157):

    The Rewards of Patience are the folowing:Surah Baqarah (2: 157):

    In Surah Hud (11:11), Allah (S.W.T.) again promises to reward those who are patient in adversity.

    Therefore let us realise that patience is the main thing Allah is looking for in us when we are going through trials and tests.

    Here are two wonderful examples of patience through trials in the life of the Prophet (Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam) :

    [Source: Fiqh-us-Sunnah, volume 4, #1a]

    We should also approach tests as in we should look at those who have less than us. We have clean tap water and food on our plates everyday. We have clean clothes washed regularly and shelter from the harsh weather. Whereas there are those who walk miles just for a sip of water and even then it is dirty. There are those who have the same clothes for years and cannot even wash them. There are those who go days without proper food and even then they have scraps and end up being malnourished. There are those like in the flood disaster recently who have no shelter and are exposed to terrible diseases. Those who have little or no money to buy even basic things aswell as medication for their sick family members. Rasulallah (Sallallahu Alaihi wasallam) always told us to look at those who have less than us.

    Sometims when we go through great trials we get decieved into thinking that other people that we see around us must be living a life happy and content. We are wrong to think in this way for we do not know what goes on in peoples lives. There are many examples of those who seemed as though they have SO much and seemed so happy but when certain things were revealed then it was clear that those people were living miserable lives full of torment! We may look at a person with a smile on his face but he may be going through trials we can never imagine.

    Therefore when we are going through difficult times and trials then we should not look at others and think they are happy and living fulfilled lives for we do not know what any person on the street is going through on a day to day basis.

    Therefore whenever we are going through difficult times and trials then we should put our full trust, hopes, faith and reliance in Allah for he will NEVER let us down but is only testing us because he wants us to turn towards him in humility, humbleness and meekness and he wants us to get much closer to him. He tests a person because he wants good for them and wants to forgive them and raise their ranks in the hereafter.

    In reality how lucky is a person who is being tested greatly and is still patient and turning towards Allah night and day. How hig must Allah be raising his ranks and forgiving his sins on a daily basis until he is like a new born baby who has little or no sins on him at all. So the way to approach this is to realise that a person who is being tested greatly is in fact lucky but shaythan is wanting one to think opposite.

    Shaythan is our eternal sworn enemy and ONLY wants us to lose hope and faith and to go away from Allah. He wants us tobecome disillusioned and lose all hope so that we go away from Alah and our deen. But we should reject our enemy who only wants our destruction. We should disregard his evil whispers and know that they are only lies and deciet.

    Shaythan will try to make us think that there is no way out of this and this is because he wants us to give in and lose hope. But we must realise that if we continuously strive and keep turning towards Allah and be patient then the final victory WILL be ours! We will taste the sweetness of victory but in order to taste this victory we need to fight and strive through the tests and trials that life throws at us!

    If one who is going through great trials continues to turn towards Allah in humility, meekness and in humblenes then know that the reward one will gain will be unimaginable. On the day of judgement once we see the reward of being patient through great trials turning towards Allah in humility then we would want Allah to have tested us even more so that we could have wreaped the rewards of being patient and turning towards Allah through trials and hardships. It is only on the day of judgement will we truly realise how much we have missed out on and how much more we wished we were tested by Allah so that our ranks were even higher.

    And Allah knows best in all matters


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