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    Last edited by Layla_; 18-06-19, 09:34 AM. Reason: have advised the sister
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  • #2
    Kissing a non mahram with or without being married is haraam. So I don't understand this part you keep repeating about her that it was a sin because she thinks she was married.

    Also, adultery refers to sexual intercourse by a married person with anyone other than his/her spouse. So, again this is another thing I don't understand. How is the second thing adultery?

    This is a delicate issue where the advice of a scholar is more necessary than a friend's.

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    • #3
      nvm
      Last edited by sis_on_sunnah; 16-05-19, 11:42 PM. Reason: nvm
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      • #4
        Refer to a scholar to find out whats worse

        she shouldnt blame her ex for her minor zina that was her fault and shes responsible for that

        in terms of her guilt well its done now
        If shes made tawba she should leave it at that and just do good deeds to make up for it

        Allah SWT said:

        قُلْ يٰعِبَادِىَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلٰىٓ أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُۥ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
        "Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."
        (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Verse 53)

        * Via Qur'an English http://quran-en.com

        Allah forgives people who have committed shirk(if they make tawba before death) , murder ,riba

        why would Allah not forgive her

        Allah is the most forgiving the most merciful
        When she makes tawba she should beleive that Allah has answered her dua and repentence

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        • #5
          Reminder to us all
          that even if your good now later on u can easily fall
          Whether its zina, murder or even shirk
          u dont know if you will die muslim
          so everyday make tawba and make duas that your kept steadfast on this deen and on taqwa

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          • #6
            Originally posted by sis_on_sunnah View Post
            nvm
            Are u and op same person

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            • #7
              There's not much you can do. Your friend is wracked with guilt.

              She needs to get over it. There is no point in watching YT vids about adultery and zina now. It is also useless to compare which sin is worse than the other.

              She needs to reconnect with her Creator and what better time than Ramadhaan? Tell her to stop moping about her past and focus on her emaan and ibadah In Sha Allaah.


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              • #8
                Originally posted by notEVOLVED View Post
                Kissing a non mahram with or without being married is haraam. So I don't understand this part you keep repeating about her that it was a sin because she thinks she was married.

                Also, adultery refers to sexual intercourse by a married person with anyone other than his/her spouse. So, again this is another thing I don't understand. How is the second thing adultery?

                This is a delicate issue where the advice of a scholar is more necessary than a friend's.
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                • #9
                  Originally posted by Indefinable View Post
                  There's not much you can do. Your friend is wracked with guilt.

                  She needs to get over it. There is no point in watching YT vids about adultery and zina now. It is also useless to compare which sin is worse than the other.

                  She needs to reconnect with her Creator and what better time than Ramadhaan? Tell her to stop moping about her past and focus on her emaan and ibadah In Sha Allaah.

                  https://islamicgemsandpearls.wordpress.com

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by Abu julaybeeb View Post
                    Refer to a scholar to find out whats worse

                    she shouldnt blame her ex for her minor zina that was her fault and shes responsible for that

                    in terms of her guilt well its done now
                    If shes made tawba she should leave it at that and just do good deeds to make up for it

                    Allah SWT said:

                    قُلْ يٰعِبَادِىَ الَّذِينَ أَسْرَفُوا عَلٰىٓ أَنْفُسِهِمْ لَا تَقْنَطُوا مِنْ رَّحْمَةِ اللَّهِ ۚ إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغْفِرُ الذُّنُوبَ جَمِيعًا ۚ إِنَّهُۥ هُوَ الْغَفُورُ الرَّحِيمُ
                    "Say, O My servants who have transgressed against themselves [by sinning], do not despair of the mercy of Allah. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Indeed, it is He who is the Forgiving, the Merciful."
                    (QS. Az-Zumar 39: Verse 53)

                    * Via Qur'an English http://quran-en.com

                    Allah forgives people who have committed shirk(if they make tawba before death) , murder ,riba

                    why would Allah not forgive her

                    Allah is the most forgiving the most merciful
                    When she makes tawba she should beleive that Allah has answered her dua and repentence
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                    • #11
                      It's understandable you want to help her. But in this situation - ignore her when she talks about the same problem again and again. Tell her it is repetitive and boring.

                      Maybe she will stop with the voice notes?

                      It might seem harsh, but it might be the wake up call she needs.

                      (But this could potentially backfire and you may end up losing her as a friend).

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                      • #12
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                        • #13
                          Tell her to speak to a scholar to finally get her answer and give this some closure.

                          If the scholar says it was Zina then she will have to accept it but continue to seek forgiven from Allah daily.

                          She can give charity and it is the month of good deeds and we get extra rewards for it, therefore, she should make the most out of it.

                          Can't turn back time so tell her that this should be taken as a lesson and she should never go back to that.

                          She should also conceal her sins. She shouldn't be sharing it with everyone. Tell her to start fresh and guard her chastity.

                          She sounds very distressed so it will take her time to accept all this. 

                          As long as she knows it was wrong and to never do it again for her own akhirah.

                           
                          'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                          So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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                          • #14
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                            • #15
                              It's nice of you for being a real friend and not ditching her when she needs support the most. It requires patience but you have done your best.

                              You could suggest her to seek therapy just to give her a helping hand to get out of this vicious cycle.
                               
                              'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                              So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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