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  • Fakhri-bin-Ali
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    Sr muslimgirl13, I wanted to PM this with a moderator added but there's no option. I'm sorry to read that, really I am, sister.
    I lost all my teenage years through my problems, and also lived virtually in complete seclusion to anyone and everyone, and it felt like there was no way things would ever get better. It feels so long ago now, and back then I genuinely saw no way out. That's how it is when we go through these difficult problems... We see no light at the end of the tunnel.

    But there is.

    It's normal to feel sadness, bitterness, even anger, frustration, resentment.... But there is only one way they get better, and that is when the our Creator Subhaanahu wa Ta'aalaa brings about the change and lifts the difficulty.

    We really have no other option than to try to fulfil what He wants of us, when we don't and we give up, we make it so much harder for ourselves.

    I wanted to ask about the problems a little more specifically but this is public and more than anything, in all honesty, with these being the most important days and nights of the year, Allah Ta'aalaa is the One we need to be calling out to from the depths of our hearts.

    Sister, please, take these days to try the utmost to do the right things... Fast, do the prayers, make du'aa at the time of iftar, and at night, before Fajr begins.

    Wallahi, He knows every single thought that goes through our minds, every bit of difficulty... It's up to us to talk to Him and admit to Him our wrongdoing, our weakness, to lower ourselves in front of Him and show Him our absolute and utter dependence on Him, then to commit to making effort to correct things with Him.

    Sister, just talk to Him in du'aa and express what is in the heart of sadness and worry and frustration, and ask Him to help change those feelings and strength to do what pleases Him... The change will come, maybe not immediately, but it will come.

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  • muslimgirl13
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    Originally posted by Fakhri-bin-Ali View Post


    Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah.

    If we stick it out during the tough times, young sister, there are better times ahead waiting. It doesn't seem like it a lot of the time when we're in the thick of it and it's all we can see, but it's true.

    Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted – let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease [i.e., relief]. (65:7)




    Tafseer - Ibn Katheer
    At-Talaq 65:7


    لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلااَّ
    سَيَجْعَلُ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ عُسْرٍ يُسْرًا



    Allah will grant after hardship, ease.

    This is a sure promise from Him, and indeed, Allah's promises are true and He never breaks them,


    This is an Allah's saying;

    فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً

    إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً

    Verily, along with every hardship is relief. Verily, along with every hardship is relief. (94:5-6)


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    Sr muslimgirl13 what we need to do is to keep to at least the basics of what he has asked of us. Those things in themselves give us strength, and if we fall short to keep trying, never losing hope.
    thank you for not being harsh with me even though i expressed feeling resentment & distancing myself from islam.

    brother the thing is i don't really see it getting better because its something thats been happening to me for YEARS. i have lost many years of my childhood & teen years to it, even therapists and mental health counselors have given up on me and told me they felt like they genuinely couldn't help me because it was a very severe case so they kind of gave me up as a client. my family does not associate with me because of it, it has destroyed all my previous relationships (i'm talking like friendship and ties to family, etc), and any possibility of future friendships. i no longer pray, i do the secret habit a lot, and i am extremely disrespectful to my family especially my mother. the other day we were screaming in each others face and she lightly put her hands on me to like push me back a little cuz i was too close so i pushed her back. hard. and she fell.

    i feel that every day i tell myself "its ok it will get better", i am losing more and more time of my life. people that have met me now (professionals even), when they find out of my age and how long i've been dealing with this and how it has affected my life even admitted to me they thought i really missed out on a lot in my childhood and teen years. its very depressing.

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  • Fakhri-bin-Ali
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    Sometimes it may well take years... But we have it in us to go through those years. Just hold on to the hope and keep trying, sister. It took me over a decade to go through what I was going through and where it felt like there was just no way out and no help from anywhere (for some people it's much longer, I know, and for some, less)... but as mentioned above, the promise of Allah Ta'aalaa is a certainty to occur. We just need to not give up.

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  • Fakhri-bin-Ali
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    Originally posted by muslimgirl13 View Post
    i hope i'm not overstepping any lines here

    is it normal to feel a bit of resentment when you feel Allah SWT just isn't helping you no matter what? i know we are told to stay patient and have faith, but it can get quite frustrating always hearing that when you've been suffering for years and receiving no help from anyone. surely i can't be the only one -- has anyone else ever felt their trials pushing them away from Islam instead of closer to it? or am i just a bad person lol

    Assalamu alaikum warahmatullah.

    If we stick it out during the tough times, young sister, there are better times ahead waiting. It doesn't seem like it a lot of the time when we're in the thick of it and it's all we can see, but it's true.

    Let a man of wealth spend from his wealth, and he whose provision is restricted – let him spend from what Allah has given him. Allah does not charge a soul except [according to] what He has given it. Allah will bring about, after hardship, ease [i.e., relief]. (65:7)




    Tafseer - Ibn Katheer
    At-Talaq 65:7


    لَا يُكَلِّفُ اللَّهُ نَفْسًا إِلااَّ
    سَيَجْعَلُ اللَّهُ بَعْدَ عُسْرٍ يُسْرًا



    Allah will grant after hardship, ease.

    This is a sure promise from Him, and indeed, Allah's promises are true and He never breaks them,


    This is an Allah's saying;

    فَإِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً

    إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْراً

    Verily, along with every hardship is relief. Verily, along with every hardship is relief. (94:5-6)


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    Sr muslimgirl13 what we need to do is to keep to at least the basics of what he has asked of us. Those things in themselves give us strength, and if we fall short to keep trying, never losing hope.

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  • muslimgirl13
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    i hope i'm not overstepping any lines here

    is it normal to feel a bit of resentment when you feel Allah SWT just isn't helping you no matter what? i know we are told to stay patient and have faith, but it can get quite frustrating always hearing that when you've been suffering for years and receiving no help from anyone. surely i can't be the only one -- has anyone else ever felt their trials pushing them away from Islam instead of closer to it? or am i just a bad person lol

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  • cuezed
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    found out an intruder broke into my friend's home few days ago at 2 oclock in the night and went into his daughter's room. alhamdulillah his daughter was staying over at her aunt's home that night.

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  • Simply_Logical
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    really gutted abut something, please make dua that Allah swt grants me it in sha Allah

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  • Green786
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    Make dua for the virus to be reduced during Ramadan then we can all go to the mosque 🕌 💜🧕🙏

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  • cuezed
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    Seen a video about ramadan and got very sad that won't be able to pray at masjid 😔

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  • Green786
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    Shouting at my loved ones 😔

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  • Believer1984
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    Feel sad knowing the mosque near me will be closed in Ramadan made me tear up first time ever they doing that.

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  • cho09082489
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    Gotta go back to work :crying2:

    Pop goes my bubble of coziness and gardening hopes and dreams

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  • Umm Uthmaan
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    Originally posted by Abisali View Post

    Sugar free chocolate is fine, but when feeling ill, you should stop eating sweets for two reasons. One, sugar can cause inflammation which will make you feel worse and two, the sugar and feed bacteria (if you have a bacterial infection) and make it worse (especially if you have a sore throat. Alhamdulillah your mother is feeling better, but you really should consider the black seed oil. Prophet Muhammad said that there is a cure in it for everything but death (there is a difference of opinion on what that means) and it has worked for me. There is even research that shows how it it effective against bacteria, viruses and even early stages of cancer.
    Yeah you are right. Sugar is not good especially when you have a bacterial infection. I have black seed oil at home. Baarak'Allahu feek for your advice.

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  • Abisali
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    Originally posted by Umm Uthmaan View Post

    Latest update is that my mother is feeling well alhamdulillah. I can't complain seriously alhamdulillah. Now we just gotta get tested and wait and see. In sha Allah khayr. I'm eating chocolate as I'm typing this :/ Gotta get back to healthy eating in sha Allah..
    Sugar free chocolate is fine, but when feeling ill, you should stop eating sweets for two reasons. One, sugar can cause inflammation which will make you feel worse and two, the sugar and feed bacteria (if you have a bacterial infection) and make it worse (especially if you have a sore throat. Alhamdulillah your mother is feeling better, but you really should consider the black seed oil. Prophet Muhammad said that there is a cure in it for everything but death (there is a difference of opinion on what that means) and it has worked for me. There is even research that shows how it it effective against bacteria, viruses and even early stages of cancer.

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  • Umm Uthmaan
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    Originally posted by Abisali View Post

    Inshallah you and your mother will be fine. I probably sound like a broken record on these forums when I say this, but please make sure to take black seed oil 3 times a day until you both start feeling better. Keep up your fluid intake by drinking herbal tea (you don't need anything with caffeine), stay away from sugar and dairy, and eat/drink fresh citrus. One of the best things you can do is make Dua'a as well. May Allah make things easy for you and your mother.
    Latest update is that my mother is feeling well alhamdulillah. I can't complain seriously alhamdulillah. Now we just gotta get tested and wait and see. In sha Allah khayr. I'm eating chocolate as I'm typing this :/ Gotta get back to healthy eating in sha Allah..

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