How do you imagine certain members

[Eorlingas]

Not sure what else could have been meant by quoting my post and making a glib remark instead of responding to the points made.

Let's imagine that I referred to some potential "sisters'" as "TOTAL mingers" and a female user objected to my use of that term. Now imagine I responded to that female user by telling them that they had a "crush" on me. Now imagine another female user referring to your post as "post of the year". You can't imagine it can you? It wouldn't happen.

Hopefully we have all learnt something about ourselves to improve upon from this distasteful episode.

[Kiro]

I see that some are afraid to give a straight answer to avoid incriminating their "mate". Or maybe they really do find nothing wrong with being referred to as "total mingers" and to be told they have a "crush" on someone. How lightly they take the commandment about being just to all no matter if they are rich, poor, family, friend or foe. Integrity and sincerity appear to be in very short supply.

Now I expect more personal attacks unrelated to the points at hand.

Are you referring to me? I repent to Allah. I didn't mean it like that...

[Eorlingas]

I see that some are afraid to give a straight answer to avoid incriminating their "mate". Or maybe they really do find nothing wrong with being referred to as "total mingers" and to be told they have a "crush" on someone. How lightly they take the commandment about being just to all no matter if they are rich, poor, family, friend or foe. Integrity and sincerity appear to be in very short supply.

Now I expect more personal attacks unrelated to the points at hand.

[Kiro]

You win the internet!

Top post of 2020

Thank you sensei. I am honored.

[neelu]

If I was able to edit my post. I would delete the "hey" part.

You win the internet!

Top post of 2020

[zi-zizou]

Hey. They probably wanted to feel good about themselves.

I don't know what it will give someone to turn someone else down because they don't find them visually appealing. Everyone has a preference. If you feel the person is not right for you (general) then look elsewhere.

But it is rude to refer to people in that manner.

[Kiro]

So you find it appropriate and acceptable to describe people as "Total mingers" and tell members of the opposite sex that they "like" you..duly noted

If I was able to edit my post. I would delete the "hey" part.

[Eorlingas]

Hey. They probably wanted to feel good about themselves.

So you find it appropriate and acceptable to describe people as "Total mingers" and tell members of the opposite sex that they "like" you..duly noted

[Kiro]

point is, they were unattractive
Do you still like me because you do read my messages but you don't read my messages.
​​​​​​ I think you have a crush on me, it has to be it because no one can be this hung up

​​​You definitely like me because you are always interested in what I have to say and you follow my posts


*Giggles*

Please contact a mod, I saw a moderator online today

Hey. They probably wanted to feel good about themselves.

[Ya'sin]

"TOTAL mingers"...that is acceptable language to describe some of Allah's creation who did nothing wrong except exercise their choice...interesting. no doubt pointing this out will be classed as "harassment"

point is, they were unattractive
Do you still like me because you do read my messages but you don't read my messages.
​​​​​​ I think you have a crush on me, it has to be it because no one can be this hung up

​​​You definitely like me because you are always interested in what I have to say and you follow my posts


*Giggles*

Please contact a mod, I saw a moderator online today

[Eorlingas]

"TOTAL mingers"...that is acceptable language to describe some of Allah's creation who did nothing wrong except exercise their choice...interesting. no doubt pointing this out will be classed as "harassment"

[zi-zizou]

I know of a few friends who have seen at least 20 different families in their rishta search. Have no idea how they do it!
The mere thought of having to filter through multiple men all the time is draining enough.
I find the more emotionally detached you generally are as a person the better you are at these tasks.

What's wrong with it? It's window shopping, women love that sort of thing. You have a day out, have something to eat, have a little chat and then go home.

[Ya'sin]

Rishta searches are BRUTAL. People need nerves of steel to go through it. So many nasty superficial people out there picking flaws in everything. I point blank refused to send out my photo to most people. Maybe that's why I'm still single lol, but I couldn't go through that.

I found it enough of a dent to my self esteem (before I became ill) when I sent out loads of CVs and kept getting rejected during a period of unemployment.

it is brutal and I wish people would understand that, not easy at all, embarrassing for us women
I had to send my pictures otherwise it was doomsday
id be questioned what are my intentions and tick tock tick tock

It would be nicer if people had the courage to meet someone without seeing pictures but no one wants to risk wasting time and that too is understandable, the only issue is for some of us we are not photogenic

It is very easy when you have it all and are blessed with natural beauty, the rest of us mediocre people just have to accept it ​​​ with disappointment

saying that, being stubborn about not sending photos is a problem because you won't be getting anywhere

Times have changed, no matter how much we hate sending our pictures across

We either sit looking pretty or actually take action by doing something about being single

​​​​​​Some girls get lucky and don't have to do any of this malarkey

[Ya'sin]

For you and Ya'sin, you guys should up your self-esteem a bit when it comes to appearances and tying them to guys' approving of you based on simply that. It's not always tied to looks.

Perhaps, those rejections are from guys who , overtime may not be the right person to make marriage work... Imagine finding out during marriage - it would be too late! And even if there are loads that reject you, all of us will have to end up with just ONE anyway .Not like 30+ guys.

Not tryna say kiss a lot of frogs til you get to the prince thing, but you get what I mean? I think it is part of the process.

Those guys aren't like supermodel looking or something like that, are they?

nah mate I was talking about the past

Get back to me after getting rejected by TOTAL mingers, it isn't 20 rejections

at that time I was so baffled as to how and why are these below average men rejecting me, my ego was dented because I wasn't some ugly Betty, I didn't even need make up but neither did I think I'm drop dead gorgeous, looks were something that I never thought I'd get rejected on, it's not something that crossed my mind
my family were shocked gobsmacked too

i have always said if I can live with his face, fair enough, whoever is my spouse is beautiful to me, he doesn't have to be the next top model

​​​​​
BUT lord have mercy, we exchanged details and when it came to the pictures, I'm no poser, that's for sure, but I got rejected for my pictures majority of the time

I'm very simple, there were no this angle pointing to the southern hemisphere going on or anything, just plain Jane

i was angry at the time but that's not right, I completely respect people have a choice and we shouldn't vilify them for that

Also, some of these guys are still single so I don't know what kind of reality they live in

I have moved on from that era but I have witnessed the same things taking place with the women who are ageing and getting rejected for their pictures

no one can do anything about that, it is just the reality

[MyUsernameIs...]

Rishta searches are BRUTAL. People need nerves of steel to go through it. So many nasty superficial people out there picking flaws in everything. I point blank refused to send out my photo to most people. Maybe that's why I'm still single lol, but I couldn't go through that.

I found it enough of a dent to my self esteem (before I became ill) when I sent out loads of CVs and kept getting rejected during a period of unemployment.

I know of a few friends who have seen at least 20 different families in their rishta search. Have no idea how they do it!
The mere thought of having to filter through multiple men all the time is draining enough.
I find the more emotionally detached you generally are as a person the better you are at these tasks.