I said no to a rishta due to my circumstances

[Stoic Believer]

Better hurry before he finds someone else.

[Abu julaybeeb]

Better hurry before he finds someone else.

Probably already has

[zi-zizou]

No means no.

[Sister_2009]

No means no.

[zi-zizou]

Sadly you have not.

[Sister_2009]

Sadly you have not.

[bru]

You made a decision, a poor one in my opinion.

[zi-zizou]

The correct decision would have been to not make a decision i.e. delay. It's not rocket science. Sisters delay even when they are in a good place!

[Curtains]

[savo234]

Ask your wali to message him, thats all. I know its a little awkward specially in desi culture that the wali proposes someone he refused. Its awkward for both sides. But thats fine. Some guys take it personal " Haah, they rejected me before, now they are coming to me again because they tried for other men and could'nt get any better." So its kind of feeling in the man's heart " I was'nt their first priority and they are only settling for me".

But it depends on the kind of person that man is. Something similar happened to me.

Before my marriage, I got into contact by wali of a sister and they agreed on marriage but my parents put a later date. They cut contact because of delays and engaged the sister to someone else who after 8-9 months could not marry her and broke the engagement. Meanwhile, I got into touch with another family where I am married now. While I was in discussion with this family, the wali of this sister before approached me and told the whole thing that she was engaged and it broke down and if I am interested again, i could marry her or her younger sister/cousin.

I liked their frankness and did not mind at all but I told them that I am in contact with someone and its not good to have multiple things going on, if my current discussion breaks down then I will come to you again. But that did'nt happen/