Better hurry before he finds someone else.
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Originally posted by bru View Post
She clearly said she was in a bad place at the time, let’s see you making smart decisions when in the same frame of mind.
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Zi zidou I think you haven’t read my post, it clearly states I was under pressure to give an answer. There was no such thing as delaying the response that was not an option.
Given my circumstance I said no, I wasn’t in a position to say yes with what was going on.
I am a firm believer that everything happens by the will of Allah swt. If he is fixed then Alhamdulilah, if he is single and says no then Alhamdulilah, if he is single and says yes to pursue a meet then Alhamdulilah.
we can all plan what we want but Allah is the best of planners. I don’t know my future and what it holds but I’m certain Allah swt has a plan for me and all of us. Alhamdulilah he is the best of planners
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Originally posted by Curtains View PostAs
I’m new to this and currently seeking advice.
6 months ago I was introduced to a guy for marriage through family and met him. Things between us went well, I liked him and hoped for a second meeting. however, The same day of meeting him I received some really upsetting news and I was in a really difficult place. I was so upset, my mind could not comprehend much at the time and I just needed time and space. Unfortunately I was under pressure to give an answer if I wanted to peruse with this guy or not. Understandbly I was so distraught and was going through so much at the time I said no because I needed to get through what I was.
Months have gone by and Alhamdulilah I’m in such a better place by the grace of Allah swt. Now that I am thinking clearly I keep regretting saying no to this rishta even though I know it wasn’t my fault it was my situation. ive been feeling really upset and do not know who to speak to.
i know my family will not accept going back to the guy and would feel silly if we asked for another chance. I don’t even know if he liked me because my Family had said no before he said anything. But our meeting was very positive and he was very interested. I am also embarrassed and ashamed to tell my family .
I see him on social media and wonder if I should message him. I’m seeking advice because it’s not something I would even do normally. I’m not that kind of person.
What is your advice, move on or message and see and explain to him that I wasn’t ready due to circumstance but if he is willing I am to get to know him.
ofcourse this is a big thing to do and as we were introduced by families it could ruin my name as it seems I’m going back on my decision of no and so on....
But it depends on the kind of person that man is. Something similar happened to me.
Before my marriage, I got into contact by wali of a sister and they agreed on marriage but my parents put a later date. They cut contact because of delays and engaged the sister to someone else who after 8-9 months could not marry her and broke the engagement. Meanwhile, I got into touch with another family where I am married now. While I was in discussion with this family, the wali of this sister before approached me and told the whole thing that she was engaged and it broke down and if I am interested again, i could marry her or her younger sister/cousin.
I liked their frankness and did not mind at all but I told them that I am in contact with someone and its not good to have multiple things going on, if my current discussion breaks down then I will come to you again. But that did'nt happen/
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