How important are honeymoons?

[zi-zizou]

It is very important to me, hence we keep it up every year. Will be going to our 5th honeymoon this year, inshallah :) As others mentioned, it doesn't have to be expensive & it doesn't have to be the day after wedding. I would suggest pushing it back a little bit so you can take care of post wedding action items & adjust to new life. But don't push it too far back as it is suppose to be a stress relief from all the wedding/new life related activity. Its a break away from all the task new couple have to do, whether its adjusting to new family or setting up a new home or writing Thank You notes. Even if you feel you have the most chilled out family and most relaxing wedding & nothing to do but Netflixandchill at home, it is still nice to have a break to do something new.

It is scientifically proven that our first experience of anything gets embedded in our memory much stronger than our day to day activity. When we think back to our friends and family, we don't remember the daily activity but we remember those one time/first time experience. Honeymoon is like that, couples experience their "first" in a new place & that experience forms stronger bond in their memory. Enough of those & you eventually become family. Hence having first baby is such a strong bonding experience too for parents. But before baby, Honeymooning/babymooning..and all the other types of mooning are great way of building memories

You can only have the one honeymoon with the same person, it's a fleeting moment thing. It does not get repeated. What you are describing is just a holiday. -_-

[Kya]

It is very important to me, hence we keep it up every year. Will be going to our 5th honeymoon this year, inshallah :) As others mentioned, it doesn't have to be expensive & it doesn't have to be the day after wedding. I would suggest pushing it back a little bit so you can take care of post wedding action items & adjust to new life. But don't push it too far back as it is suppose to be a stress relief from all the wedding/new life related activity. Its a break away from all the task new couple have to do, whether its adjusting to new family or setting up a new home or writing Thank You notes. Even if you feel you have the most chilled out family and most relaxing wedding & nothing to do but Netflixandchill at home, it is still nice to have a break to do something new.

It is scientifically proven that our first experience of anything gets embedded in our memory much stronger than our day to day activity. When we think back to our friends and family, we don't remember the daily activity but we remember those one time/first time experience. Honeymoon is like that, couples experience their "first" in a new place & that experience forms stronger bond in their memory. Enough of those & you eventually become family. Hence having first baby is such a strong bonding experience too for parents. But before baby, Honeymooning/babymooning..and all the other types of mooning are great way of building memories

[ElNino]

Honeymoon's for me is like spending time with your new wife (especially arranged marriage) to open up to eachother because when you are all alone you will open up,but some people do it for other reasons tbh no one cares.

[Kaas]

They are behaving like non Muslims, why be surprised by this. Google the term honeymoon and what you describe is what you see. So much for the "if the western ideals go against Islam obviously Islam is followed".

This true face will come out after a month of two of living with each other anyway, you don't need a honeymoon to find this out. In any case most of these couples are a match for each other. They have not been duped. They are 90% westernised.

Truw fact wont even come out on a honymoon, everything is like a fairytale, you do nice things all the time, you packed your nicest clothes only etc, but when youre in a home setting you will see your woman is actually always in rags and doesnt do a thing around the house or whatever. If you really wanna get to know your wife, live with her before you travel with her

[zi-zizou]

It's kind of surprising how some seemingly "religious" Muslims behave when they're travelling.

In the Shariah, the prayer is shortened and made easier during travelling, yet, some Muslims (who're 5-timers at home) don't feel a tang of guilt or remorse leaving them completely while travelling.

Secondly, many sisters who wear abaya, hijab and niqaab completely remove them while travelling. I'm kind of surprised when I see sisters who generally wear abaya and niqaab outdoors post pics of their holidays as Whatsapp statuses without any sort of hijaab.

Some dayyooth men even gift their newly-wed wives sexy and revealing outfits especially to wear during travelling. Dude, if you want your wife to wear those clothes for you, you can ask her to wear them when you're both alone, why make her a showpiece for the entire world??

And then, there are people who only drink, smoke, gamble, go clubbing etc with their partner when they're on a holiday "to unwind and relax".

You may not know all these details before you travel with them, cos some people have one face in society (where people know them), and another face where they behave differently because no one knows them in that place.

So, you do get a glimpse of your spouse's taqwa and imaan during the honeymoon.

Only a glimpse...mind you. You'll get a real image when you find what they're upto when they travel to places like Bangkok, Phuket and so on with their friends.

They are behaving like non Muslims, why be surprised by this. Google the term honeymoon and what you describe is what you see. So much for the "if the western ideals go against Islam obviously Islam is followed".

This true face will come out after a month of two of living with each other anyway, you don't need a honeymoon to find this out. In any case most of these couples are a match for each other. They have not been duped. They are 90% westernised.

[~TwinklingStar~]

Some of the things you mention you need to find out before you get married.

Honeymoons are overrated. Get down to business first before you think of play.

It's kind of surprising how some seemingly "religious" Muslims behave when they're travelling.

In the Shariah, the prayer is shortened and made easier during travelling, yet, some Muslims (who're 5-timers at home) don't feel a tang of guilt or remorse leaving them completely while travelling.

Secondly, many sisters who wear abaya, hijab and niqaab completely remove them while travelling. I'm kind of surprised when I see sisters who generally wear abaya and niqaab outdoors post pics of their holidays as Whatsapp statuses without any sort of hijaab.

Some dayyooth men even gift their newly-wed wives sexy and revealing outfits especially to wear during travelling. Dude, if you want your wife to wear those clothes for you, you can ask her to wear them when you're both alone, why make her a showpiece for the entire world??

And then, there are people who only drink, smoke, gamble, go clubbing etc with their partner when they're on a holiday "to unwind and relax".

You may not know all these details before you travel with them, cos some people have one face in society (where people know them), and another face where they behave differently because no one knows them in that place.

So, you do get a glimpse of your spouse's taqwa and imaan during the honeymoon.

Only a glimpse...mind you. You'll get a real image when you find what they're upto when they travel to places like Bangkok, Phuket and so on with their friends.

[Cptn._.Mario]

There should be a thread about where everyone went for their honeymoons. Or maybe I'll just hijack this thread. Feel free to reply

[shay5]

Are honeymoons really that important? Would you recommend a honeymoon to a newlywed couple? why and why not. I'd love to here your answers.

Some time away from the inlaws.... sure, why not?

[Magic.]

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[zi-zizou]

A honeymoon doesn't necessarily mean spending a little fortune by going abroad to exotic locations. It could just be 3-4 days together with your spouse in privacy - away from home, family and friends - in a romantic , dreamy place. It could be a local resort /hill-station /the countryside.

It is a sort of stress-reliever after a hectic and tiring wedding.

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Some of the things you mention you need to find out before you get married.

Honeymoons are overrated. Get down to business first before you think of play.

[zi-zizou]

ill take any excuse to get a plane.

Catch flights and all that....

Lego do some lovely sets...

[~TwinklingStar~]

A honeymoon doesn't necessarily mean spending a little fortune by going abroad to exotic locations. It could just be 3-4 days together with your spouse in privacy - away from home, family and friends - in a romantic , dreamy place. It could be a local resort /hill-station /the countryside.

It is a sort of stress-reliever after a hectic and tiring wedding.

I

[Jenicca]

ill take any excuse to get a plane.

Catch flights and all that....

[Simply_Logical]

nah not important,
it's just an excuse to go abroad and spend some quality time

[Kaas]

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