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    60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

    1. Behave like a female, i.e. all the tenderness of a female–a man doesn’t want a man for his wife!

    2. Dress pleasantly/attractively. If you are a home-maker, don’t stay in your sleeping suit all day.

    3. Smell good!

    4. Don’t lay out all your problems on your husband as soon as he walks in. Give him a little mental break.

    5. Don’t keep asking him, “what are you thinking?”

    6. Stop nagging non-stop before Allah ta’ala gives you something really to complain about.

    7. Absolutely no talking about your spousal problems to anyone you meet, not even under the pretense of seeking help! If you think you want to solve legitimate marital issues, then go seek counseling with the right person who can give advice in either:
    1. Mediate any injustice done so any wrong can be corrected and the couple can reunite in harmony, or
    2. Amicable divorce

    8. Be kind to your mother-in-law the same way you would like your husband to be kind to your own mother.

    9. Learn all the rights and obligations of each other in Islam. Focus on fulfilling your obligations, not demanding your rights


    10. Race to the door when he comes home, as if you were waiting for him. Smile and hug him.

    11. Keep your house clean, at least to the level that he wants it.

    12. Compliment him on the things you know he’s not so confident about (looks, intelligence, etc.) This will build his self-esteem.

    13. Tell him he’s the best husband ever.

    14. Call his family often.

    15. Give him a simple task to do at home and then thank him when he does it. This will encourage him to do more.

    16. When he’s talking about something boring, listen and nod your head. Even ask questions to make it seem like you’re interested.

    17. Encourage him to do good deeds.

    18. If he’s in a bad mood, give him some space. He’ll get over it, inshaAllah.

    19. Thank him sincerely for providing you with food and shelter. It’s a big deal.

    20. If he’s angry with you and starts yelling, let him yell it out while you’re quiet. You will see your fight will end a lot faster. Then when he’s calm, you can tell him your side of the story and how you want him to change something.

    21. When you’re mad at him, don’t say “YOU make me furious”, rather, “This action makes me upset”. Direct your anger to the action and circumstance rather than at him.

    22. Remember that your husband has feelings, so take them into consideration.

    23. Let him chill with his friends without guilt, especially if they’re good guys. Encourage him to go out, so he doesn’t feel “cooped up” at home.

    24. If your husband is annoyed over a little thing you do (and you can control it), then stop doing it. Really.

    25. Learn how to tell him what you expect without him having to guess all the time. Learn to communicate your feelings.

    26. Don’t get mad over small things. It’s not worth it.

    27. Make jokes. If you’re not naturally funny, go on the internet and read some jokes, and then tell them to him.

    28. Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.

    29. Learn to make his favorite dish.

    30. Don’t ever, EVER talk bad about him with friends or family unnecessarily. If they end up agreeing with you, you will see that it hits you back in the face because you get more depressed that you have a bad husband–and other people also think you have a bad husband.

    31. Use your time wisely and get things accomplished. If you’re a home-maker, take online classes and get active in your community. This will make you happy and a secondary bonus is that it impresses your husband.

    32. Do all of the above fee sabeelillah and you will see Allah put barakah in everything you do.

    33. Husband and wife should discuss and communicate with wisdom with each other to convey what they like and dislike of each other to do or not to do. Do NOT give commands or instructions like he’s your servant. “They are garment to each other” [Surah Baqarah, 2:187]

    34. Tell your husband you love him, many, many times. Aisha (رضالله عنها) narrated that the Prophet (صلي الله عليه وسلم) used to ask her how strong her love for him, she said like “a knot.” And the next time he would ask her, “How is that knot?” He also used to reply to her saying, “Jazzakillah, O Aishah, wallahi, you have not rejoiced in me as I have rejoiced in you.”

    35. Have a race with your husband and let him win, even if you are much fitter and stronger than him.

    36. Keep fit and take care of your health so you will remain a strong mother, wife, cook and housekeeper, inshaAllah you will not get FAT and frumpy.

    37. Refine and cultivate good mannerisms i.e do not whine, don’t laugh or talk too loud or walk like an elephant.

    38. Do not leave the house without his permission and certainly not without his knowledge.

    39. Make sure all his clothes are clean and pressed so he is always looking fresh and crisp.

    40. Don’t discuss important/controversial matters with him when he is tired or sleepy. Find right time for right discussion.

    41. The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach.

    42. Always let him know that you appreciate him working and bringing home the “dough”. It makes it easier for him to go to work.

    43. Make sure you ALWAYS have something for dinner.

    44. Brush your hair, everyday.

    45. Don’t forget to do laundry.

    46. Surprise him with gifts. Even necessities, such as new shoes, can be gifts.

    47. Listen to him. (Even when he talks about extremely boring things like basketball or computers.)

    48. Try (hard as it might be) to take interest in his hobbies.

    49. Try not to go shopping too much … and spend all his money.

    50. Look attractive and be seductive towards him. Flirt with him.

    51. Learn tricks and “techniques” to please your husband in intimacy. (Of course goes both ways.)

    52. Prepare for special evenings with him with special dinner and exclusive time (no children permitted).

    53. Take care of your skin, especially your face. The face is center of attraction.

    54. If you not satisfied intimately, talk to him and tell him. Help him or provide resources, don’t wait until matters become worse.

    55. Ask Allah to strengthen and preserve the bonds of compassion and love between the two of you, every day, every prayer. Ask him to protect that bond from Shaytaan. When a lesser devil destroys the love between spouses, he is the most beloved of Shaytaan. Nothing works like du’ah, and love only exists between spouses where Allah instills it.

    56. Don’t EVER compare your husbands to other husbands! For example don’t say, “well her husband doesn’t do that, why do you …” (thats a killer!)

    57. Be happy with what you have because no one is perfect. If you want perfection, wait until you enter Jannah together inshaAllah–and of course, vice versa!

    58. Strive for Allah’s love first and foremost! if all wives try to seek Allah’s love and pleasure, surely, they can keep their husbands love too. And remember–if Allah loves you, the angels will love you, and the entire creation will love you.

    59. If you pack a lunch for your husband to take to work, from time to time sneak in a little love note or sweet poem. If he doesn’t take a lunch, leave the note somewhere else for him to find, like in his briefcase, or wallet or on the car steering-wheel

    60. Wake him up for Qiyam ul-Layl (in the last third of the night) and ask him to pray with you.

    May Allah preserve all of our marriages and help us understand and implement them in and with the best of manners, ameen! InshaAllah if you know more ways, post them in the comments and share the benefit.

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    #2
    Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

    :jkk:

    Though I don't really get number 28 :scratch:

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      Originally posted by geeksupremo View Post
      :jkk:

      Though I don't really get number 28 :scratch:
      28. Tell him you’re the best wife ever and compliment yourself on certain things you know you’re good at.
      yeah i think that shud b:

      28. Tell him he is the best husband ever and compliment him on certain things you know he's good at.
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        #4
        Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

        i'll feel myself in heaven if i could get a wife with only 10 of all the above mentioned 60 qualities. Do such wives exist in this world ?

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          #5
          Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

          :salams

          34 is nice. :up:

          I think 28 is trying to be sarcastic/funny.

          For example, she cooks delicious Biryani and you compliment her by saying, "You're cooking is amazing!" And, she's like, "I know, I'm the best! "














































          You scrolled up to read #34. I know.
          Secure few moments, everyday, to reflect upon the innumerable blessings of Allah and thank Him for bestowing them upon you.

          "A person who is blessed with the ability to be grateful, shall never be deprived of barakah and increase in blessings."
          - Rasulullah (صلی اللہ علیہ وسلم)‎

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            #6
            Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

            Think you just described me :rotfl:
            Apart from 35. I am very competitive and think I'd have to win, with, tripping him up on the way

            Seriously though.... Isn't every wife like this
            Well, they should be. It's very easily done If she is physically able in shaa Allaah.
            There's even more that could be added to that list.

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              #7
              Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

              :salams:

              Regarding Step 44, brushing the hair.
              The Prophet SAW forbade the combing of the hair, only after every 2nd day.
              But I enjoyed reading your thoughts.
              "But those who reject Faith and belie Our Signs, they shall be companions of the Fire; they shall abide therein" ~ Holy Quran

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                #8
                Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                Originally posted by Yusuf Khan View Post
                :salams:

                Regarding Step 44, brushing the hair.
                The Prophet SAW forbade the combing of the hair, only after every 2nd day.
                But I enjoyed reading your thoughts.
                Really??

                Good list. I don't disagree with any of it.
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                  #9
                  Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                  Originally posted by Yusuf Khan View Post
                  :salams:

                  Regarding Step 44, brushing the hair.
                  The Prophet SAW forbade the combing of the hair, only after every 2nd day.
                  But I enjoyed reading your thoughts.
                  Really wow!
                  Can you post the evidence for this brother?

                  What if a married couple had intimacy every day, then she has wash hair every day, which would mean brushing it -_-
                  Hmm interesting

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                    #10
                    Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                    Originally posted by shahpesh View Post
                    i'll feel myself in heaven if i could get a wife with only 10 of all the above mentioned 60 qualities. Do such wives exist in this world ?
                    lol, akhi its best not t read this thread, as the more u read here the less ur gonna love ur wife, but if u go into marrige not knowing any of these above 60 points then no matter what she does it'll be pleasing....

                    i've posted '60 ways to please your darling wifey' read that instead, lol
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                      Originally posted by TheAuthenticBase View Post
                      lol, akhi its best not t read this thread, as the more u read here the less ur gonna love ur wife, but if u go into marrige not knowing any of these above 60 points then no matter what she does it'll be pleasing....

                      i've posted '60 ways to please your darling wifey' read that instead, lol
                      Bro , Did you make these points all by yourself ? Married life experience ? Tell me honestly , is your wife happy with you ? You can pm me if you don't want to tell here. Some of you guys are really amazing , i am actually learning a lot from here. One of you guys wrote a very good post about how a husband should treat wife while replying to someone else , i wanted to bookmark that post but unfortunately i lost that thread. Your points are like halaal K.S. for me , just don't ask what it is but definately i will keep them with me.

                      JazakAllah

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                        #12
                        Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                        Originally posted by Yusuf Khan View Post
                        :salams:

                        Regarding Step 44, brushing the hair.
                        The Prophet SAW forbade the combing of the hair, only after every 2nd day.
                        But I enjoyed reading your thoughts.
                        Huh wha?

                        Proof?
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                          #13
                          Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                          I'm trying to imagine saying to my hubs "your action really upset me" as opposed to "you make me so mad" :rotfl:
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                            #14
                            Re: 60 Ways To Keep Your Husband’s Love

                            I've been learning men's psychology myself, practicing them in my pretty longtime relationship (gonna marry ASAP insha Allah ) and in sum here are some facts you ladies should know about men :

                            1. NEVER, ever be a feminist at home.

                            2. NEVER belittle your man. Man's ego is huge, that's just his nature. Even if you want to criticize, point his actions not the person, and do it in a loving way...

                            3. ADMIRE him, admire him, admire him.

                            4. Understand him. Support him. Be a good listener and don't judge.
                            Do you know the reason most men cheat are because of the other woman understand him better than his wife?

                            5. COOKIE
                            Since I'm not married yet I can't tell much . But seriously, sex are how you two bonds. And men are visual creature, so maintain a good appearance for his eye candy.

                            And all the heavens go their way.... And only change is here to stay...

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                              #15
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                              Really?! So now a man cheats on his wife because she doesn't "understand " him? He cheats on her cos he's a lowlife who has no fear of Allah, fullstop.
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