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  • How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

    Please can someone enlightens me on the way a wife should behave in different situations after marriage? Some reference to Quraan and hadeeth would be highly appreciated.

    Thanks and regards.
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  • #2
    Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

    Can't you be a little more specific in the question? Its hard to know what you mean
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    • #3
      Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

      Buy the book "an ideal muslimah" it has section on marriage and husband..and also other marriage books
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      • #4
        Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

        Just be yourself... I never thought you had to change ure attitude after marrige. If changes are needed however, they'd come naturally.
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        • #5
          Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

          Simple. Be your husband's best friend :up:
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          • #6
            Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

            - Beautiful Reception
            ----------------------
            After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.
            * Meet him with a cheerful face.
            * Beautify and perfume yourself.
            * Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
            * Receive him with loving and yearning sentences.
            * Make hard efforts for excellence of the food & having it ready on time.

            2- Beautify and Soften the Voice
            --------------------------------
            * For your husband only, it shouldn't be used in front of non-mahram men(men who can marry you if you were unmarried).

            - Smelling Good and Physical Beautification
            --------------------------------------------
            * Taking good care of your body and fitness.
            * Put on nice and attractive clothes and perfumes.
            * Bath regularly and, after the monthly period, remove any blood traces or bad smells.
            * Avoide that your husband observes you in dirty clothes or rough shape.
            * Avoide prohibited types of ornamentation, e.g. tatoo.
            * Use the types of perfumes, colors, and clothes that the husband likes.
            * Change hair style, perfumes, etc. from time to time.
            * However with these things you should avoid excessiveness and, of course,only act as such in front of mahrem men and women.


            - Satisfaction With What Allah (SWT) Has Allotted
            --------------------------------------------------
            * You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job.
            * You should look at poor, sick, and handicapped people and remember Allah (SWT) for all that was given to you.
            * You should remember that real wealth lays in Iman and piety.

            - Indifference to Worldly Things
            ---------------------------------
            * You should not consider this world as your hope and interest.
            * You should not ask your husband for many unnecessary things.
            * Asceticism does not mean not to enjoy what is good and permissible(Halal), but it means that one should look forward to the hereafter and utilize whatever Allah SWT gave them to achieve paradise (Jannah).
            * Encourage your husband to reduce expenses and save some money in order to give charity and feed poor and needy people.

            - Appreciation
            ---------------
            * By the saying of the prophet, the majority of people in hell were women because they were ungrateful and deny the good done to them.
            * The result of being grateful is that your husband will love you more and will do his best to please you in more ways.
            * The result of being ungrateful is that your husband will be disappointed and will start asking himself: Why should I do good to her, if she never appreciates?

            - Devotion and Loyalty
            -----------------------
            * In particular in times of calamities in your husband's body or business, e.g. an accident or a bankruptcy
            * Supporting him through your own work, money, and properties if needed.

            - Compliance to Him
            --------------------
            * In all what he commands you, unless it is prohibited (Haram).
            * In Islam, the husband is the leader of the family, and the wife is his support and consultant.

            -Pleasing Him If He Is Angry
            ------------------------------
            * First off, try to avoid what will guarantee his anger.
            * But if it happens that you can't, then try to appease him as follows:
            1- If you mistaken, then apologize.
            2- If he mistaken then:
            # Keep still instead of arguing or
            # Yield you right or
            # Wait until he is no longer angry and discuss the matter peacefully with him.
            3- If he was angry because of external reasons then:
            # Keeping silent untill his anger goes
            # Find execuses for him, e.g. tired, problems at work, some one insulted him
            # Do not ask many questions and insist on knowing what happened,
            e.g. 1) You should tell me what happened? 2) I must know what made you so angry. 3) You are hidding something, and I have the right to know

            - Showing Respect for his Family and Friends
            ----------------------------------------------
            * You should welcome his guests and try to please them, especially his parents.
            * You should avoid problems as much as you can with his relatives.
            * You should avoid putting him is a position where he had to choose between his mother and his wife.
            * Show good hospitality for his guests by arranging a nice place for them to sit in, perfection of food, welcoming their wives, etc.
            * Encourage him to visit his relatives and invite them to your home.
            * Phone his parents and sisters, send letters to them, buy gifts for them, support them in calamities, etc..

            - Admirable Jealousy
            ----------------------
            * Jealousy is a sign for wife's love for her husband but it should be kept within the limits of Islam, e.g. not insulating or backbiting others,disrespecting them, etc..
            * You should not follow or create unfounded doubts.

            -Patience and Emotional Support
            ---------------------------------
            * Be patient when you face poverty and strained circumstances.
            * When you face calamities and disasters that may happen to you, your husband, your children, relatives or properties, e.g. diseases,accidents, death, etc.
            * When facing hardships in Da'wah (imprisonment, getting fired, arrested, etc.), be patient and encourage him to keep on the path of Allah and remind him of paradise.
            * When he mistreats you, counteract his ill-treatment by good treatment
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            • #7
              Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

              She should behave the same as before
              You are not aware of the consequences that would result (if you were granted what you desire) because what you seek might be to your detriment. (O soul) be conscious that your Master is more aware about your well-being than you are.

              ~Ibn Al-Jawzee

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              • #8
                Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

                Originally posted by Ebony
                She should behave the same as before
                i hear ya.:up:
                “The great Imam ash-Shafi’, he went to his teacher Waki`
                Complaining about the weakness of his memory.
                He told him, ‘abandon rebellion, for knowledge is a light
                And the light of Allah is not bestowed upon a rebel.”

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                • #9
                  Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

                  Originally posted by jina
                  - Beautiful Reception
                  ----------------------
                  After returning from work, school, travel, or whatever has separated you, begin with a good greeting.

                  * Start with good news and delay any bad news until he has rested.
                  Can you imagine, the poor guy barely steps into the house and the wife starts "oh you'd never guess what happened today!....blah blah blah"

                  :rotfl: Give him some room woman :p
                  You are not aware of the consequences that would result (if you were granted what you desire) because what you seek might be to your detriment. (O soul) be conscious that your Master is more aware about your well-being than you are.

                  ~Ibn Al-Jawzee

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                  • #10
                    Re: How should a woman behave after becoming the wife of somebody?

                    Originally posted by Ebony
                    Can you imagine, the poor guy barely steps into the house and the wife starts "oh you'd never guess what happened today!....blah blah blah"

                    :rotfl: Give him some room woman :p
                    Lol innit man!!

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