Ads by Muslim Ad Network

Announcement

Collapse
No announcement yet.

How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

Collapse
This topic is closed.
X
X
  • Filter
  • Time
  • Show
Clear All
new posts

    #46
    Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

    Originally posted by Deen95 View Post
    Sounds like a master manipulator, probably gonna ruin the life of the next guy she is with. Count yourself lucky she got her claws into someone else; I bet the other guy is richer than you too. Thank God you got out when you did.
    Alhamdulilah I think the day when she lacked salah her iman started falling more and more which then led to less fear of Allah to the extent that she called him a ( Nice guy and she said he repented from zina ) ahaha

    But then he hugged her so if he truly repented he would not of kissed you


    Yet when I met her I did nothing and she complained to me lol I could of but only because of fear of Allah and even the fact her family she is raised in a strict respectable family. I just know this so called relationship now will break into pieces soon in sha Allah

    I dont care now about the girl shes gone i dont even love her i still respect her she is a nice girl in a sense in terms of character. But I wish for it to collapse so she understands how some men really are just some kind words she fell for it then when she begs me she will be blocked then she will truly regret what she did.

    Comment


      #47
      Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

      Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
      No but she really wanted to marry me and I wanted to . I told my dad etc. She was very serious about it aswell.

      The type of woman I want for marriage it is very very hard to find please make dua I find the woman I want to marry .
      Akhi realise this girl may have not committed any major sin before but her mentality was not good and she didnt seem to fear Allah frm what it seems

      It seems she was just restricted and pressured to be like this due to family and was trying to break free whenever possible
      She wanted to be with someone that was u and since u wanted to keep it halal
      When someone else gave her the opportunity and was willing to take it a step further she bounced towards it
      Shes not a good girl sorry to say if she did it would taken alot longer than a month and a lot more than a couple sweet words she wants that lifestyle face it

      A serious girl would have resisted every action from any man if she truely cared about you
      Again say alhamdullilah u didnt marry her shes not worth it

      Make duaa and inshAllah you will be blessed with a good wife

      Just one thing stop thinking so much about beauty and look more at charachter
      It seems u forgot that in this girls case

      Comment


        #48
        Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

        Originally posted by Abu julaybeeb View Post
        Akhi realise this girl may have not committed any major sin before but her mentality was not good and she didnt seem to fear Allah frm what it seems

        It seems she was just restricted and pressured to be like this due to family and was trying to break free whenever possible
        She wanted to be with someone that was u and since u wanted to keep it halal
        When someone else gave her the opportunity and was willing to take it a step further she bounced towards it
        Shes not a good girl sorry to say if she did it would taken alot longer than a month and a lot more than a couple sweet words she wants that lifestyle face it

        A serious girl would have resisted every action from any man if she truely cared about you
        Again say alhamdullilah u didnt marry her shes not worth it

        Make duaa and inshAllah you will be blessed with a good wife

        Just one thing stop thinking so much about beauty and look more at charachter
        It seems u forgot that in this girls case


        Akhi I 100% agree with u

        U are saying the same thing as my cousin and friends.

        She fell for it because that guy offered her to take her out buy her food and even hug her and say I want to marry u she fell for that . She did not fear Allah .

        She is not a good girl u are right she even admitted it to me shes not good she said there are other women far better than her u can marry .


        Yes all because I only met her twice and that guy she met more than twice thts why she fell for it.

        Ameen

        I am 20 beauty is 1st thing on my head . Ok she does not have to be 10/10 atleast 6/10-7/10

        I will do dua u make dua for me aswell and I shall do dua for you tht Allah blesses u and answers all your duas ameen

        Allah showed me 2 many signs she was wrong

        Comment


          #49
          Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

          Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
          Akhi I 100% agree with u

          U are saying the same thing as my cousin and friends.

          She fell for it because that guy offered her to take her out buy her food and even hug her and say I want to marry u she fell for that . She did not fear Allah .

          She is not a good girl u are right she even admitted it to me shes not good she said there are other women far better than her u can marry .


          Yes all because I only met her twice and that guy she met more than twice thts why she fell for it.

          Ameen

          I am 20 beauty is 1st thing on my head . Ok she does not have to be 10/10 atleast 6/10-7/10

          I will do dua u make dua for me aswell and I shall do dua for you tht Allah blesses u and answers all your duas ameen

          Allah showed me 2 many signs she was wrong
          Say alhamdullilah Allah saved you
          Focus on becoming a better muslim learn about islam
          And when time comes Allah will provide
          Akhi im the same age lol

          Comment


            #50
            Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

            Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
            Asalamualakum

            What shall I explain here is

            1. What happened

            2.. How I handled this emotionally?

            .3.Signs Allah gave me to show she was not right woman before

            Introduction
            Previously I made a post regarding I was hurt abit . So basically I was speaking to this girl for 2 years ( Yes its haram May Allah forgive me ameen) I met her twice she loved me so much I loved her alot. In the 2 meetings Alhamdulilah I did not even touch her never mind kiss I feared Allah though I committed sin in meeting her. I protected her virginity aswell for marriage tht was my intention. I told my dad recently about the marriage he was ready to speak to her father.


            1. What happened

            So we knew each other for 2 years very very close anyways 2 weeks ago she blocked me she said she has done something wrong forgive me good bye blocked. This left me in a state of confusion non stop thinking all day night whts gone on I could not eat sleep etc.


            2. A day before I did dua to Allah help me find out whts gone on she randomly unblocks me adds me .
            To get the point across she did not commit zina but she fell in love with another man who has been speaking to her for maybe 1 month I am not sure . I am not even sure when we were speaking was she still speaking to him .

            She explained to me how "nice" this guy is he took me out to eat he cares for me lol she said he wants to marry me he will be speaking to my parents soon etc . She even said he hugged her kissed her. Yet she thinks hes pious.

            When she told me Wallahi Allah hu akbar I did not get affected emotionally I just do not know why . My heart did not break . Now why is this ?

            We need the love connection of Allah in our hearts BEFORE ANYONE and STRONG love connection
            Also never ever ever fall deep in love with a woman you are speaking to online

            Based upon the 2 above I kept strong Alhamdulilah


            3. She started lacking in her salahs to an extent sometimes missing all 5 sometimes 1 a day etc. Based upon this I warned her start praying she still lacked.

            1. 1st sign- I raised my hands to Allah show me a sign if she is right one guide me if she is not show me then 1 week later thats when she blocked me . For me tht was enough of a sign but I kept asking for more n more signs,

            2. Randomly on Friday teacher was speaking about trust how people are untrustworthy when the lecture is about web development nothing about trust but he somehow manged to link trust in though not relevant this made think hmm.

            3. On same day I go in computer room and friend say read this on screen it said relationships can change or break but trust in God always ( he does not know anything whats gone on)

            When I read tht on screen I was like wow.

            4. I scrolled down on facebook and read on Islamic page which said wife has blocked me . I clicked on it it was quite relevant to my situation .

            5. I did dua help me find out whats gone on then today she unblocked me told me.

            More signs were given aswell


            Now this is where the questions come

            I am a man who is loyal I do not speak to women I do not watch porn alhamdulilah I do not speak to women on social media ( I do have a very high desire though) I was very loyal to her. She
            was not . The guy who she is with now is not even a virgin and he hugged her yet she thinks hes the right guy lol

            The question is

            Can I do dua to Allah to take revenge on my behalf ?



            Do you think it is a good idea to let the man know she cheated on me before he marries her?
            Your the same person with almost certain porn addiction, who didn't lower their Gaze and created a dirty thread about your wife, after you created this one about yoi girlfriend cheating on you?

            You should be banned.
            http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

            "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

            – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

            Comment


              #51
              Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

              Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
              Your the same person with almost certain porn addiction, who didn't lower their Gaze and created a dirty thread about your wife, after you created this one about yoi girlfriend cheating on you?

              You should be banned.
              Astagfurilah Astagfurilah Astagfurilah WALLAHI WALLAHI WALLAHI I DO NOT WATCH PORN AT ALL HOW DARE YOU ASSUME something like that FEAR Allah.

              I always lower my gaze Alhamdulilah if I see a beautiful woman on the street I do not feel excited nothing I do not get any joy in looking.

              U should sincerely repent to Allah

              Comment


                #52
                Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
                She complained to me why did u not touch me when I met her so many times I lost my temper at her aswell on this.
                She offcourse wanted to get touched if she didnt she would not let tht guy touch him
                :O, good men are for good women and bad men are for bad women, Allah saw u as better.

                Comment


                  #53
                  Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                  Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
                  Astagfurilah Astagfurilah Astagfurilah WALLAHI WALLAHI WALLAHI I DO NOT WATCH PORN AT ALL HOW DARE YOU ASSUME something like that FEAR Allah.

                  I always lower my gaze Alhamdulilah if I see a beautiful woman on the street I do not feel excited nothing I do not get any joy in looking.

                  U should sincerely repent to Allah
                  How did you lower your gaze and manage to get a girlfriend to Cheat on you?

                  The very fact that you had a Girlfriend proves that you did not Lower your gaze.

                  you remember this thread as well right?

                  http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ive&highlight=

                  this thread indicates a high probability of porn addiction, and definite lack of lowering ones gaze.

                  you must think we are all so Gullible,


                  may Allah azzawajal rectify your conduct and affairs.

                  ameen.
                  http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                  "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                  – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

                  Comment


                    #54
                    Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                    Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
                    How did you lower your gaze and manage to get a girlfriend to Cheat on you?

                    The very fact that you had a Girlfriend proves that you did not Lower your gaze.

                    you remember this thread as well right?

                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ive&highlight=

                    this thread indicates a high probability of porn addiction, and definite lack of lowering ones gaze.

                    you must think we are all so Gullible,


                    may Allah azzawajal rectify your conduct and affairs.

                    ameen.
                    In reply to your vm - I did read his other thread. I think you need to stop making so many assumptions.

                    Comment


                      #55
                      Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                      Originally posted by Medic View Post
                      In reply to your vm - I did read his other thread. I think you need to stop making so many assumptions.
                      it's not about assumptions, the one who whines about not liking his wife's body has 9/10 times failed to lower their gaze and lusted after other women.

                      this thread also proves that he did not lower his gaze,
                      http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                      "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                      – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

                      Comment


                        #56
                        Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                        Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
                        it's not about assumptions, the one who whines about not liking his wife's body has 9/10 times failed to lower their gaze and lusted after other women.

                        this thread also proves that he did not lower his gaze,
                        If you can't prove he watches porn then you should just be quiet with all the "it's highly probably you watch it" talk because that's still slander.

                        Comment


                          #57
                          Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                          Assalamu Alaykum brother!

                          I am sorry to hear what you have been through. It can be tempting to seek revenge, but know that you will not gain anything out of it. It will not bring you any satisfaction to see her in pain. Infact, this desire for revenge can keep you stuck in it. However, at the same time, if someone has been wronged, Allah (swt) is Just. Just leave it up to Him (swt). I think the way she is going about it, you don't have to make any dua against her, just shows that they deserve each other. Also, she was not married to you, so technically she didn't owe you anything. She blocked you when she realized she fell for someone else. And it is better that it happened before marriage than after marriage right?
                          The best thing you can do, is use this opportunity to get closer to Allah (swt). Ask Him (swt) to replace what you have lost with that which is better. Ask Him (swt) to increase your ranks in Jannah. Think about it, isn't the pain worth it if you could be closer to Allah (swt) because of this?

                          Everything that happens to us in life happens for a reason. There is a lesson that Allah (swt) wants you to learn, that you will need for the future, so that you can become a better a purer slave of His. reflect on what could be the lesson?

                          Use this opportunity to develope yourself. The best revenge is to live a life well lived. So use it to become better, so that better and more pious and loyal girls will be attracted towards you, and will want to marry you. Infact, this is actually an amazing opportunity to learn forgiveness. Learning to forgive yourself, and forgive her.

                          The Messenger of Allah (sallaAllahu 'alayhi wasallam) was sitting with a group of the sahabah (RAA) in the masjid and he said "A man will now enter [who is] from the people of Paradise." and a sahabi walked in. Later it happened again, and then a third time. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'aas (RAA) wanted to find out what was so special about this man, so he asked the man if he can stay over his house for 3 days. (He made up an excuse). The man allowed him to stay. 'Abdullah noticed that the man didn't do anything out of the ordinary: He didn't fast all the time, he slept some of the night and prayed some of the night, and so on. So after the 3 days, 'Abdullah told him the real reason why he requested to stay with him, and he asked him what it was that could be the reason why he was from the people of Jannah.
                          The man (RA) couldn't think of anything, but after a bit he said "Every night, before I go to sleep, I forgive whoever has wronged me. I remove any bad feelings towards anyone from my heart." (Something similar to that)

                          The sahabah used to look at his heart everyday, and used to forgive anyone who had hurt him. One thing to remember is forgiveness takes time. It isn't an one time event. But needs to be done over and over again. You may forgive one day, then another trigger can come up, and the anger might come back.

                          If you want to learn how to forgive, you can learn from here:
                          http://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/ni...to_forgiveness
                          http://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/ei...when_forgiving


                          May Allah (swt) grant you qalbun saleem! Ameen!

                          Comment


                            #58
                            Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                            Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
                            it's not about assumptions, the one who whines about not liking his wife's body has 9/10 times failed to lower their gaze and lusted after other women.

                            this thread also proves that he did not lower his gaze,
                            Now you are annoying me I remained patient your manners are filthy.

                            Wallahi I do not watch porn u assumed so you should fear Allah and repent.

                            I do not look at other women u are just assuming without knowledge.

                            Even when I met the woman I lowered my gaze thts wht prevented me from doing anything.

                            Comment


                              #59
                              Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                              Originally posted by misshijabi View Post
                              Assalamu Alaykum brother!

                              I am sorry to hear what you have been through. It can be tempting to seek revenge, but know that you will not gain anything out of it. It will not bring you any satisfaction to see her in pain. Infact, this desire for revenge can keep you stuck in it. However, at the same time, if someone has been wronged, Allah (swt) is Just. Just leave it up to Him (swt). I think the way she is going about it, you don't have to make any dua against her, just shows that they deserve each other. Also, she was not married to you, so technically she didn't owe you anything. She blocked you when she realized she fell for someone else. And it is better that it happened before marriage than after marriage right?
                              The best thing you can do, is use this opportunity to get closer to Allah (swt). Ask Him (swt) to replace what you have lost with that which is better. Ask Him (swt) to increase your ranks in Jannah. Think about it, isn't the pain worth it if you could be closer to Allah (swt) because of this?

                              Everything that happens to us in life happens for a reason. There is a lesson that Allah (swt) wants you to learn, that you will need for the future, so that you can become a better a purer slave of His. reflect on what could be the lesson?

                              Use this opportunity to develope yourself. The best revenge is to live a life well lived. So use it to become better, so that better and more pious and loyal girls will be attracted towards you, and will want to marry you. Infact, this is actually an amazing opportunity to learn forgiveness. Learning to forgive yourself, and forgive her.

                              The Messenger of Allah (sallaAllahu 'alayhi wasallam) was sitting with a group of the sahabah (RAA) in the masjid and he said "A man will now enter [who is] from the people of Paradise." and a sahabi walked in. Later it happened again, and then a third time. 'Abdullah ibn 'Amr ibn al-'aas (RAA) wanted to find out what was so special about this man, so he asked the man if he can stay over his house for 3 days. (He made up an excuse). The man allowed him to stay. 'Abdullah noticed that the man didn't do anything out of the ordinary: He didn't fast all the time, he slept some of the night and prayed some of the night, and so on. So after the 3 days, 'Abdullah told him the real reason why he requested to stay with him, and he asked him what it was that could be the reason why he was from the people of Jannah.
                              The man (RA) couldn't think of anything, but after a bit he said "Every night, before I go to sleep, I forgive whoever has wronged me. I remove any bad feelings towards anyone from my heart." (Something similar to that)

                              The sahabah used to look at his heart everyday, and used to forgive anyone who had hurt him. One thing to remember is forgiveness takes time. It isn't an one time event. But needs to be done over and over again. You may forgive one day, then another trigger can come up, and the anger might come back.

                              If you want to learn how to forgive, you can learn from here:
                              http://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/ni...to_forgiveness
                              http://ggia.berkeley.edu/practice/ei...when_forgiving


                              May Allah (swt) grant you qalbun saleem! Ameen!
                              Ameen

                              Jzk for that I appreciate it thank you very much for the advice may Allah reward u ameen revenge has gone out my head I do not care anymore

                              I feel very very happy these days after I left her I do not feel upset at all alhamdulilah

                              I

                              Comment


                                #60
                                Re: How I handled ( Girl who cheated on me) situation?

                                Originally posted by muslim4life76 View Post
                                Now you are annoying me I remained patient your manners are filthy.

                                Wallahi I do not watch porn u assumed so you should fear Allah and repent.

                                I do not look at other women u are just assuming without knowledge.

                                Even when I met the woman I lowered my gaze thts wht prevented me from doing anything.
                                It is clear the games you are playing,

                                First with illicit relationships as you did in this thread, and then claiming you don't like wife body,

                                http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ive&highlight=

                                I've seen disgusting posts before but you really take the biscuit.

                                You should Fear Allah عز و جل and refrain from making dirty threads/posts,

                                If your going to make them, then don't come crying when it's pointed out.

                                A spade is a spade after all.
                                http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                                "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                                – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

                                Comment

                                Working...
                                X