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    #16
    Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

    Originally posted by Umm Fatimah View Post
    In honesty I don't like niqab with eyes showing as it really does enhance the beauty of the eyes (especially as I see many sisters wearing eye liner/make up!) however there are ways to wear it that minimise how much eye is showing, without comprimizing how much you can see, if that makes sense? I can't really explain it well, i will try to look for a picture, is that allowed?
    It's a false perception.
    If a woman has attractive eyes covering her face does not make her eyes more attractive,if I woman has average eyes covering the face does not make her eyes suddenly more attractive.

    A woman that is wearing eye makeup and wearing niqab is devoid of taqwa and I assume she is wearing niqab for reasons other than piety like social pressure or oppression and control from her husband.

    Niqab is not wajib by ijma and is sometimes used as a tool for control and oppression of women by men.

    there are men who would attempt to saddle their wives like donkeys and ride them to the market ,when asked why they would attempt to twist
    the deen to justify this. Beware of them

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      #17
      Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

      Yes it very much is a false perception, but a lot of fitnah is. It doesn't beautify her eyes per se, but draws attention more to them. I remember a fairly aged man telling me (he was asking me about hijab) that he had been on holiday in Tunisia and everyday a woman dressed head to toe in black would come to their hotel. He was initially shocked by this as he hadn't seen this before in the West, but found himself waiting for her as her shoes became very attractive to him. They were not black and really stood out, attracting attention. I always tell sisters who wear niqab (especially if they are all in black or one particular colour) that they need to take particular care that their shoes/handbag/rings if they wear them do not attract attention.

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        #18
        Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

        Originally posted by european muslim View Post
        Tricks of the sjajtaan.

        Wearing a niqab but putting on eyeliner or make up.
        4real

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          #19
          Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

          Originally posted by Umm Fatimah View Post
          Yes it very much is a false perception, but a lot of fitnah is. It doesn't beautify her eyes per se, but draws attention more to them. I remember a fairly aged man telling me (he was asking me about hijab) that he had been on holiday in Tunisia and everyday a woman dressed head to toe in black would come to their hotel. He was initially shocked by this as he hadn't seen this before in the West, but found himself waiting for her as her shoes became very attractive to him. They were not black and really stood out, attracting attention. I always tell sisters who wear niqab (especially if they are all in black or one particular colour) that they need to take particular care that their shoes/handbag/rings if they wear them do not attract attention.
          Very good reminder sis we tend to want to buy cute purses and shoes and see no harm in it, but it stands out
          يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

          O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

          Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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            #20
            Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

            Originally posted by Umm Fatimah View Post
            Yes it very much is a false perception, but a lot of fitnah is. It doesn't beautify her eyes per se, but draws attention more to them. I remember a fairly aged man telling me (he was asking me about hijab) that he had been on holiday in Tunisia and everyday a woman dressed head to toe in black would come to their hotel. He was initially shocked by this as he hadn't seen this before in the West, but found himself waiting for her as her shoes became very attractive to him. They were not black and really stood out, attracting attention. I always tell sisters who wear niqab (especially if they are all in black or one particular colour) that they need to take particular care that their shoes/handbag/rings if they wear them do not attract attention.
            It is a real effect for sure like when you see a flock of pigeons and all of them are the normal grey except one all white pigeon. It draws the eye for standing out,

            It's why I question the wisdom of wearing niqab in some countries, when is not legislated, when the majority of woman do not wear it
            ,some do it just to stand out which is defeating the original intent all together.

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              #21
              Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

              Originally posted by Samsandman View Post
              He Should've looked for a new place BEFORE getting married,oppressing his wife in this manner is a serious manner

              Too many muslim men try to justify oppressing women by saying it has something to do with Islam or by hiding behind their jahil kufr culture,

              It's a disgusting trait for a man to oppress a woman in any way,true mark of a weak coward
              You're overreacting and going off on a tangent.

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                #22
                Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                I am surprised that a man who insists on niqab and now even closing the eyes is okay keeping his wife in a house with non-mahrams, Where she cannot even stay without the simple hijab. I wouldn't be okay with this ( but then I wouldn't be okay living with non-mahrams full stop for obvious reasons.) If he wants to protect his wife and have gheerah he would given her their own place as is her right inshaAllah. I agree with other its slightly oppressive keeping you in this manner.

                On the other side, as far as I know (please correct if I am incorrect) I think if it affects your health then it is not something you should do, as health is important and the Sunnah of covering eyes (although a good thing) is not fard so there is nothing wrong in not covering. You are already respecting him by covering you face mashaAllah (something that many also believe is not fard but I am aware there is difference of opinion on this). Given your living situation that in itself must be very testing on you, I cannot imagine wearing hijab 24/7.

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                  #23
                  Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                  Originally posted by Samsandman View Post
                  If he had any real sincere gheerah he would not force his wife to live with non-mahrams. What man with gheerah does that?

                  Never confuse islamic gheerah with jahil cultural oppression and insecure male weakness.
                  I agree to the fact that he should provide her with separate accommodation, but maybe they don't have enough money? Allahu A3lam, there may be a reason for them not to live separately. If she felt oppressed wouldn't she ask for advice on that?

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                    #24
                    Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                    Originally posted by _Sapphire View Post
                    I agree to the fact that he should provide her with separate accommodation, but maybe they don't have enough money? Allahu A3lam, there may be a reason for them not to live separately. If she felt oppressed wouldn't she ask for advice on that?
                    Yes I agree they may have financial reasons but then he is expecting more than just the fard of her where by she is forced to be completely covered even at home. The fard alone is difficult enough in her current situation.
                    Also some sisters are not aware that they are able to ask for their own accommodation (how many automatically move in with the inlaws as per the culture?) We do not know the circumstances surrounding her living with non-mahrams but we do know that it is very strange to give the eye request given the living situation isn't exactly 100% halal (in my opinion).

                    And he did explain to me very nicely that it’s said,
                    “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks(veils) all over their bodies(i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is the Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Quran 33:59)”

                    Even that which he used to show her to cover more shows its not fard to cover the eyes (especially given its causing health issues for the sister.) Allah knows best.

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                      #25
                      Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                      Originally posted by Samsandman View Post

                      He sounds weak,controlling and insecure.
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                        #26
                        Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                        Originally posted by OneNiqabiMuslimah View Post
                        Assalam Alykum brothers and sisters
                        I am 22 and been married for over one year and started wearing niqab without eye veil from then as it was an arranged marriage and I was happy to comply when asked if I’ll wear more modest clothes post marriage. I used to wear colorful clothes that were lose fitting and hijab only. (I was brought up in a western country and moved to Middle East post marriage)
                        And as promised before the marriage I now wear only lose black abaya, jilbab and a niqab even at home as we live with extended family members.
                        And since few months he isn’t happy with the way my niqab is showing my eyes and told me he doesn’t like how other men stare at my eyes :(
                        Alhmadulillah, he sees me in the most beautiful way and told me he wants to keep my beauty just for him.
                        And he did explain to me very nicely that it’s said,
                        “O Prophet! Tell your wives and your daughters and the women of the believers to draw their cloaks(veils) all over their bodies(i.e. screen themselves completely except the eyes or one eye to see the way). That will better, that they should be known (as free respectable women) so as not to be annoyed. And Allah is the Ever Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Quran 33:59)”

                        I tried covering one eye only for a day and it gave me a headache so I stopped doing it. And my husband isn’t happy with me and I feel guilty because I did promise before marriage I’d do it but I’m worried about covering eyes with an eye veil and going about my day. He even bought me a beautiful four layered expensive niqab couple of days back which is making me feel even more guilty because he is really caring and is a great husband.
                        Am I doing wrong by not listening to him because I know my body should only be visible to my husband. Should I try wearing eye veil?
                        و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله و بركاته

                        Sister you should tell him that it's difficult for you to cover your eyes and it's giving you headache !

                        If he insist then tell him to cover his eyes and I'm sure he will not stay like 5 min !

                        Islam is the Religion of Ease not a Religion of hardship as Allah SWT said :

                        ("Allah intends for you ease, and does not want to make things difficult for you") Quran 2:185
                        Ibn Al Qayyim may Allah have mercy on him said: ("
                        The heart on its journey towards Allah the Exalted is like that of a bird. Love is its head, and fear and hope are its two wings. When the head is healthy, then the two wings will fly well. When the head is cut off, the bird will die. When either of two wings is damaged, the bird becomes vulnerable to every hunter and predator..”
                        )

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                          #27
                          Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                          try sunglass

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                            #28
                            Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                            Originally posted by Samsandman View Post
                            alaikum wasalam

                            You husband should be more concerned with fulfilling your rights to accomodation before making demands on you as he is clearly not doing that now.
                            He should focus on not oppressing you by forcing you to wear hijab 24/7.

                            He sounds weak,controlling and insecure.
                            I feel so bad I made it seem like he was not treating me well. Ya ALLAH, forgive me for misleading you brother. I think I did a bad job of not explaining extended family. It's a big ancestral home and his ammi jaan and elder brother and teenage nephew live in the same house as his sister in law passed away many years ago. So he isn't mistreating me and that's why I felt bad for not obeying him.
                            Thank you very much for taking time to reply to me!

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                              #29
                              I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                              Communicate your concerns to him.

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                                #30
                                Re: I am a niqabi but husband is asking to cover eyes too

                                Originally posted by Deen95 View Post
                                Wa'alaykumsalaam,

                                Have you tried covering both eyes and seeing if it doesn't give you a headache? If it still hurts despite trying that then maybe you can explain that to him?
                                I really have not tried it yet. I will try eye veil for a few days and if it doesn't seem to work I'll try talking about that. Thank you for this advice brother. I just wish there was some sister here who uses the eye veil so I could ask how long would it take to give it a proper chance, whether just a couple of days will do or will I need to try for a few weeks and then decide?

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