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    #61
    Re: Girl I loved is getting married

    Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post
    [MENTION=28098]Believer1984[/MENTION] i know its cliche but theres plenty of fish in the sea, you miss one you catch the next one, honestly dont worry about it because later on in life youll look back and think nothing of it
    Don't anger the feminists if there are any

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      #62
      Re: Girl I loved is getting married

      [MENTION=28098]Believer1984[/MENTION] how are you doing brother? Any better?
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        #63
        Re: Girl I loved is getting married

        Originally posted by Cptn._.Mario View Post
        [MENTION=28098]Believer1984[/MENTION] how are you doing brother? Any better?
        Salaam Akhi.

        I have no idea I spend most day being confuzed - c ry , I mean i pray alhumdulillah than i Just go for short wondering walks in my local area, Its h ard having no money , poor health, family who mock you and than on top this.

        I make dua everyday for a miracle.

        I mean everything is so h ard I request the ummah to make dua for me please.

        Jazak Allah Ul Khair.
        Last edited by Believer1984; 08-11-17, 03:53 PM.
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          #64
          AW: Girl I loved is getting married

          Originally posted by Believer1984 View Post
          I rarely post in marriage section but here it goes ...

          Salaam other than talking to Allah swt sharing my secrets , I am now sharing it with you too incase you can tell me what to do because I am facing problem upon problem and this one has hit me too.

          I just have to let this out I can not keep it in no longer !

          There is this girl I met once upon a time, ( You could say I fell in love ) I really wished to marry her but because of my status as you all know I do not have any money and I have mental anxiety I never did want to say anything because I am not worthy so I decided to remain silent.

          Even when we met sometime as she is a distant relative member I could sense she liked me too when she approached me etc a few times but I did not react even when I wish I could because of my extreme shyness and not having any financial backing.

          I have liked her for over 10 years and have made many duas regarding this and I just found out her marriage has been fixed and she is due to marry soon.

          Upon hearing this I cried silently and my head hurt and I made the same prayer like I mostly did '' May I marry her or give me the strength to forget her ''

          I am lost for words and each day will kill me untill she gets married ... how can i cope ? Everything has gone quiet around me and I need support.

          Jazak Allah Ul Khair
          Bismillah

          Salam Alaikum wr wb

          I am sorry I didn’t see this post before brother.I wish I was there with you,sharing your pain.I don’t know you very much but I feel like you are one of the best akhis I have met.You tried to make me feel better when you were yourself in such a harsh situation

          Listen brother.Cry.Let it all out.Go in the bathroom and cry as much as you can,or go under the blankets and cry and make duaas until there is no tear left.Dont keep it inside.It wont make you less of a man if you cry.

          I am not going to lie,this will take a lot of time,maybe 1 year or a bit more,but with the help of Allah,you can do it.Try to offer the salah in the masjid as much as you can,and pray tahajjud too.Be with good muslims brother who will cheer you up.(you can also pm me at anytime)

          I completely understand you brother.I see potentials coming and going in front of me,and I cant even imagine of proposing because no matter my good qualities,there is always the financial and passport thing that prevents me.But remember what you told me,”your time will come soon with the mercy of Allah”,now its my time to say it to you.This is another shock for your heart,to make it harder before dunya.

          Don’t think you weren’t good for her.I am sure if you had a chance to talk to her,she could have fallen in love with you,you are an amazing akhi as I said.But if the door doesn’t open,it is not your door.This girl could have made your life miserable.You don’t know that,Allah knows that.He is keeping you for someone way more special,that will be coolness for your eyes

          I have only one thing to criticize about you.Try not to be shy.Women are like us,trust me,am a convert,I know how women are.They are full of insecurities,shyness,just like us.They are humans after all.Imagine like they are your old friend and just talk to them as you would talk to a friend,within Islamic boundaries of course

          "What is meant for you, will reach you even if it is beneath two mountains. What isn't meant for you,won't reach you even if it is between your two lips."

          Usaamah ibn Zayd reported that the Prophet , said, “I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who had entered it were poor people, while the rich were kept outside (waiting for their reckoning), but the people of Hellfire had been ordered to be driven to Hellfire. And I stood at the gate of Hellfire and found that the majority of those entering it were women.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

          In shaa Allah very soon I will see a thread of yours saying you got married
          But whatever happens,may Allah make you one of the first to enter Jannah
          You will be in my duaa

          Salam Alaikum wr wb
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            #65
            Re: Girl I loved is getting married

            Originally posted by believer1984 View Post
            i rarely post in marriage section but here it goes ...

            Salaam other than talking to allah swt sharing my secrets , i am now sharing it with you too incase you can tell me what to do because i am facing problem upon problem and this one has hit me too.

            I just have to let this out i can not keep it in no longer !

            There is this girl i met once upon a time, ( you could say i fell in love ) i really wished to marry her but because of my status as you all know i do not have any money and i have mental anxiety i never did want to say anything because i am not worthy so i decided to remain silent.

            Even when we met sometime as she is a distant relative member i could sense she liked me too when she approached me etc a few times but i did not react even when i wish i could because of my extreme shyness and not having any financial backing.

            I have liked her for over 10 years and have made many duas regarding this and i just found out her marriage has been fixed and she is due to marry soon.

            Upon hearing this i cried silently and my head hurt and i made the same prayer like i mostly did '' may i marry her or give me the strength to forget her ''

            i am lost for words and each day will kill me untill she gets married ... How can i cope ? Everything has gone quiet around me and i need support.

            Jazak allah ul khair
            total bummer

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              #66
              Re: Girl I loved is getting married

              Originally posted by Aetos View Post
              Bismillah

              Salam Alaikum wr wb

              I am sorry I didn’t see this post before brother.I wish I was there with you,sharing your pain.I don’t know you very much but I feel like you are one of the best akhis I have met.You tried to make me feel better when you were yourself in such a harsh situation

              Listen brother.Cry.Let it all out.Go in the bathroom and cry as much as you can,or go under the blankets and cry and make duaas until there is no tear left.Dont keep it inside.It wont make you less of a man if you cry.

              I am not going to lie,this will take a lot of time,maybe 1 year or a bit more,but with the help of Allah,you can do it.Try to offer the salah in the masjid as much as you can,and pray tahajjud too.Be with good muslims brother who will cheer you up.(you can also pm me at anytime)

              I completely understand you brother.I see potentials coming and going in front of me,and I cant even imagine of proposing because no matter my good qualities,there is always the financial and passport thing that prevents me.But remember what you told me,”your time will come soon with the mercy of Allah”,now its my time to say it to you.This is another shock for your heart,to make it harder before dunya.

              Don’t think you weren’t good for her.I am sure if you had a chance to talk to her,she could have fallen in love with you,you are an amazing akhi as I said.But if the door doesn’t open,it is not your door.This girl could have made your life miserable.You don’t know that,Allah knows that.He is keeping you for someone way more special,that will be coolness for your eyes

              I have only one thing to criticize about you.Try not to be shy.Women are like us,trust me,am a convert,I know how women are.They are full of insecurities,shyness,just like us.They are humans after all.Imagine like they are your old friend and just talk to them as you would talk to a friend,within Islamic boundaries of course

              "What is meant for you, will reach you even if it is beneath two mountains. What isn't meant for you,won't reach you even if it is between your two lips."

              Usaamah ibn Zayd reported that the Prophet , said, “I stood at the gate of Paradise and saw that the majority of the people who had entered it were poor people, while the rich were kept outside (waiting for their reckoning), but the people of Hellfire had been ordered to be driven to Hellfire. And I stood at the gate of Hellfire and found that the majority of those entering it were women.” [Al-Bukhaari and Muslim]

              In shaa Allah very soon I will see a thread of yours saying you got married
              But whatever happens,may Allah make you one of the first to enter Jannah
              You will be in my duaa

              Salam Alaikum wr wb
              Salaam

              Akhi I nod at you in silence in humbleness... understand I am greatful for your support.

              If brothers like you are by my side making dua ...

              Wallah there is always hope.

              Cry - Love - Empathy are our qualities - we are verily from the Ummah of Muhammad s.a.w.

              Peace and you are also in my duas Akhi.

              Originally posted by Red Apples View Post
              total bummer
              Jazak Allah.
              Believer1984.com Life is about believing. A website on Islam and everything else.

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                #67
                Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                You have to be strong dude - for your mental state

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                  #68
                  Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                  Originally posted by Red Apples View Post
                  You have to be strong dude - for your mental state
                  Salaam

                  Akhi i am trying.

                  Jazak Allah.
                  Believer1984.com Life is about believing. A website on Islam and everything else.

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                    #69
                    Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                    Originally posted by Believer1984 View Post
                    Salaam

                    Akhi i am trying.

                    Jazak Allah.
                    If your trying, then you should forget that girl and ask Allah عز و جل to grant you a pious wife.
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                    "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                    – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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                      #70
                      Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                      Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
                      If your trying, then you should forget that girl and ask Allah عز و جل to grant you a pious wife.
                      Salaam

                      I saw my pious wife in her and I prayed for her and I believe in miracles.

                      If i recover and my lord provides for me and gives me courage I will go get her while there is time and if she is destined to be mine.

                      However if i remain the same and shes married I have no choice but to forget her and move on.

                      All those years of dua for her, how can i let it go like that, this will take time.

                      Peace.
                      Believer1984.com Life is about believing. A website on Islam and everything else.

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                        #71
                        Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                        Originally posted by Believer1984 View Post
                        Salaam

                        I saw my pious wife in her and I prayed for her and I believe in miracles.

                        If i recover and my lord provides for me and gives me courage I will go get her while there is time and if she is destined to be mine.

                        However if i remain the same and shes married I have no choice but to forget her and move on.

                        All those years of dua for her, how can i let it go like that, this will take time.

                        Peace.
                        We alaikumsalaam warahmatullahi wa barakatu

                        Your saw Wrong and you are well aware of it,

                        The very fact that she is getting married to someone else proves you were infatuated.

                        Time to move on, instead of thinking about another man's wife to be.

                        Stop being a teenager and just grow up.

                        :jkk:
                        http://www.ilovepalestine.com/campai...imesinGaza.gif

                        "It does not befit the lion to answer the dogs."

                        – Imam al-Shafi’i (Rahimahullah)

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                          #72
                          Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                          Originally posted by Saif-Uddin View Post
                          We alaikumsalaam warahmatullahi wa barakatu

                          Your saw Wrong and you are well aware of it,

                          The very fact that she is getting married to someone else proves you were infatuated.

                          Time to move on, instead of thinking about another man's wife to be.

                          Stop being a teenager and just grow up.

                          :jkk:
                          :jkk:
                          Believer1984.com Life is about believing. A website on Islam and everything else.

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                            #73
                            Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                            Originally posted by Believer1984 View Post
                            Salaam

                            I saw my pious wife in her and I prayed for her and I believe in miracles.

                            If i recover and my lord provides for me and gives me courage I will go get her while there is time and if she is destined to be mine.

                            However if i remain the same and shes married I have no choice but to forget her and move on.

                            All those years of dua for her, how can i let it go like that, this will take time.

                            Peace.
                            You cant do that in islam... you cant propose to a lady who's already engaged... if you think doing something *haram* in islam will bless your marriage then seek knowledge and grow up
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                            * typing from my phone, excuse the mess

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                              #74
                              Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                              Firstly brother stop telling yourself that you love her. You might love the idea of her, have feelings for her etc but if you don't know her well then you cannot love her. Secondly , (but most importantly!) Allah knows what is best for us, so do not feel grief over what was not written for you.

                              Brother you say you have crippling mental anxiety, have you sought any help for this? I know a few people who after years of anxiety started CBT and it transformed their lives. Getting well enough to be able to work and support a family should be your priority brother. Also, in the nicest possible way, you owe this to your spouse, do not think that you will get married and she will make you feel better. That is putting the responsibility of your mental health onto her, which isn't fair.

                              Have faith in Allah that He will give you the best at the right time.

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                                #75
                                Re: Girl I loved is getting married

                                Originally posted by malleat1 View Post
                                You cant do that in islam... you cant propose to a lady who's already engaged... if you think doing something *haram* in islam will bless your marriage then seek knowledge and grow up
                                Salaam.

                                She is not engaged and please re-read what I said, some of you jump conclusions.

                                Jazak Allah.
                                Originally posted by Umm Fatimah View Post
                                Firstly brother stop telling yourself that you love her. You might love the idea of her, have feelings for her etc but if you don't know her well then you cannot love her. Secondly , (but most importantly!) Allah knows what is best for us, so do not feel grief over what was not written for you.

                                Brother you say you have crippling mental anxiety, have you sought any help for this? I know a few people who after years of anxiety started CBT and it transformed their lives. Getting well enough to be able to work and support a family should be your priority brother. Also, in the nicest possible way, you owe this to your spouse, do not think that you will get married and she will make you feel better. That is putting the responsibility of your mental health onto her, which isn't fair.

                                Have faith in Allah that He will give you the best at the right time.
                                Firstly understand that i did love her and I did not fall for any idea and I knew her some.

                                Secondly I clearly mentioned that due to my circumstances I kept my distance and prayed for her and only when i would have been better I would have approached her so you saying the opposite completely puts you in a informed position, so please re-read previous posts before commenting.

                                Jazak Allah.

                                * Jazak Allah Ul khair to those akhis and ukhtis who have understood me, I respect that and please do continue to remember me in your dua's that Allah swt makes this matter easy for me.

                                Peace.
                                Last edited by Believer1984; 11-11-17, 03:58 PM.
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