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    #46
    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

    Originally posted by Rifqah View Post
    :salams

    Please can I ask what they are in your experience?
    pros the responsibility keeps your head screwed on,
    cons you have to be strong headed because when your young you dont think of things in life and expect a lot which can sometimes be unrealistic

    although i said its a pro that it keeps your head screwed on,
    ive seen some peeps marry young and it makes them turn lose the screws and makes them do bad things, they cant handle the responsibility
    Surah Taha, Verse 69:

    وَأَلْقِ مَا فِي يَمِينِكَ تَلْقَفْ مَا صَنَعُوا إِنَّمَا صَنَعُوا كَيْدُ سَاحِرٍ وَلَا يُفْلِحُ السَّاحِرُ حَيْثُ أَتَىٰ

    "And throw that which is in your right hand! It will swallow up that which they have made. That which they have made is only a magician's trick,
    and the magician will never be successful, no matter whatever amount (of skill) he may attain."

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      #47
      Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

      Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post

      Prioritise Allah swt pleasure - if this means you will not be able to fulfil the rights of your husband because he is someone you cannot respect then what wrong is there in saving yourself from Allah swt displeasure. .
      Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
      Spears shall be shaken! Shields shall be splintered! a sword day..a red day..ere the sun rises! Ride now! Ride now! Ride! Ride to ruin, and the world’s ending!

      None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

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        #48
        Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

        Originally posted by Eorlingas View Post
        Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
        Lol are u zizous son?
        ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
        "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
        :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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          #49
          Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

          Originally posted by Eorlingas View Post
          Thats intersting. Perhaps such women would be better served to identify the defects in their own character which would cause them to be unable to fulfil their husbands rights. In a way its good that these women don't get married rather then inflict their warped notions of the ideal husband on some poor guy...are their parents perfect? their managers at work? yet they still manage to fulfill their rights. But when it comes to the husband they would rather ignore obligations using the excuse that they cant respect him? and the icing on the cake to delude themselves that are "prioritising Allah swt pleasure" in doing so. Strange reasoning.
          It is a bit feeble excuse, you are not going to know what you are or are not capable of doing before marriage anyway. No one is perfect so you will expect mistakes from both sides.

          Respect seems to be banded about quite flippantly, it's gained and lost in a instant. Does make you wonder how it's defined and how tolerant we all need to be.

          You can be a good Muslim and be married at the same time, let's not forget that small detail.

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            #50
            Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

            You make me laff

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              #51
              Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

              Originally posted by Faith reloaded View Post
              You make me laff
              laugh*
              Surah Taha, Verse 69:

              وَأَلْقِ مَا فِي يَمِينِكَ تَلْقَفْ مَا صَنَعُوا إِنَّمَا صَنَعُوا كَيْدُ سَاحِرٍ وَلَا يُفْلِحُ السَّاحِرُ حَيْثُ أَتَىٰ

              "And throw that which is in your right hand! It will swallow up that which they have made. That which they have made is only a magician's trick,
              and the magician will never be successful, no matter whatever amount (of skill) he may attain."

              Self Help Ruqya Shari'ah Guide
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              Practical Self Ruqya
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...=1#post7492713

              Is there such a thing as good magic? by Abu Ibraheem
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...y-Abu-Ibraheem

              Don't fear the Jinn - Muhammad Tim Humble
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...mad-Tim-Humble

              Exposing Black Magic
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

              The History of Black Magic
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...hlight=history

              Real Magicians And Sorcerers
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              How to destroy a taweez ? Ruqya related questions answered
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...tions-answered

              Exposing Taweez...
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...xposing-Taweez

              Ruqyah Audio
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...4-Ruqyah-Audio

              Sorcerer's Plot | Arabic | English Subtitles | Every Muslim must watch this video
              http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

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                #52
                Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                [MENTION=36228]Simply_Logical[/MENTION]

                you must be having a laff

                What age did you get married akheee? I hope you dont mind me asking

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                  #53
                  Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                  Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
                  Lol are u zizous son?
                  People are allowed to disagree with you, it's okay you know.

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                    #54
                    Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                    Originally posted by Faith reloaded View Post
                    [MENTION=36228]Simply_Logical[/MENTION]

                    you must be having a laff

                    What age did you get married akheee? I hope you dont mind me asking
                    i was 20, so young and innocent lol
                    Surah Taha, Verse 69:

                    وَأَلْقِ مَا فِي يَمِينِكَ تَلْقَفْ مَا صَنَعُوا إِنَّمَا صَنَعُوا كَيْدُ سَاحِرٍ وَلَا يُفْلِحُ السَّاحِرُ حَيْثُ أَتَىٰ

                    "And throw that which is in your right hand! It will swallow up that which they have made. That which they have made is only a magician's trick,
                    and the magician will never be successful, no matter whatever amount (of skill) he may attain."

                    Self Help Ruqya Shari'ah Guide
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...Shari-ah-Guide

                    Practical Self Ruqya
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...=1#post7492713

                    Is there such a thing as good magic? by Abu Ibraheem
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...y-Abu-Ibraheem

                    Don't fear the Jinn - Muhammad Tim Humble
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...mad-Tim-Humble

                    Exposing Black Magic
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

                    The History of Black Magic
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...hlight=history

                    Real Magicians And Sorcerers
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...-And-Sorcerers

                    How to destroy a taweez ? Ruqya related questions answered
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...tions-answered

                    Exposing Taweez...
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...xposing-Taweez

                    Ruqyah Audio
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...4-Ruqyah-Audio

                    Sorcerer's Plot | Arabic | English Subtitles | Every Muslim must watch this video
                    http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

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                      #55
                      Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                      Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
                      Lol are u zizous son?
                      LOL.. :jkk:
                      Spears shall be shaken! Shields shall be splintered! a sword day..a red day..ere the sun rises! Ride now! Ride now! Ride! Ride to ruin, and the world’s ending!

                      None of you truly believes until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.”

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                        #56
                        Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                        [MENTION=36228]Simply_Logical[/MENTION]

                        :sub:

                        Very young indeed. Did you have a job you were happy with at that age or were you slightly struggling financially?

                        I didnt even get my first job until 21

                        I am 22 now. 22 sounds like a proper adult age but i still feel like a little kid. I guess we mature at different rates. I also play on my playstation a lotta time.

                        If you saw me irl, you’d think I’m in my mid-to-late teens

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                          #57
                          Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                          Originally posted by Faith reloaded View Post
                          [MENTION=36228]Simply_Logical[/MENTION]

                          :sub:

                          Very young indeed. Did you have a job you were happy with at that age or were you slightly struggling financially?

                          I didnt even get my first job until 21

                          I am 22 now. 22 sounds like a proper adult age but i still feel like a little kid. I guess we mature at different rates. I also play on my playstation a lotta time.

                          If you saw me irl, you’d think I’m in my mid-to-late teens
                          yea i started a good job when i first got married,
                          22 is a good ge to get married if you feel mature enough that is

                          i play on my ps3 and xbox 360, age doesnt matter when it comes to consoles
                          i used to play mortal kombat on the xbox 360 with my mrs she used to whip me so badly lol
                          Surah Taha, Verse 69:

                          وَأَلْقِ مَا فِي يَمِينِكَ تَلْقَفْ مَا صَنَعُوا إِنَّمَا صَنَعُوا كَيْدُ سَاحِرٍ وَلَا يُفْلِحُ السَّاحِرُ حَيْثُ أَتَىٰ

                          "And throw that which is in your right hand! It will swallow up that which they have made. That which they have made is only a magician's trick,
                          and the magician will never be successful, no matter whatever amount (of skill) he may attain."

                          Self Help Ruqya Shari'ah Guide
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...Shari-ah-Guide

                          Practical Self Ruqya
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...=1#post7492713

                          Is there such a thing as good magic? by Abu Ibraheem
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...y-Abu-Ibraheem

                          Don't fear the Jinn - Muhammad Tim Humble
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...mad-Tim-Humble

                          Exposing Black Magic
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

                          The History of Black Magic
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...hlight=history

                          Real Magicians And Sorcerers
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...-And-Sorcerers

                          How to destroy a taweez ? Ruqya related questions answered
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...tions-answered

                          Exposing Taweez...
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...xposing-Taweez

                          Ruqyah Audio
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...4-Ruqyah-Audio

                          Sorcerer's Plot | Arabic | English Subtitles | Every Muslim must watch this video
                          http://www.ummah.com/forum/showthrea...ing+black+mgic

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                            #58
                            Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                            Originally posted by aynina View Post
                            Wa aleiykum salaam


                            Also, why do you guys wait to do the nikah like 2 years after saying yes to a guy
                            Yeah, I find that strange too, because people change a lot in 2-3 years.
                            If I say yes and then wait for a long time before changing my mind, I just wasted like 2 years of his life, which isn't very nice. I know many people who had this happen to them. A few months is okay, for both parties to get themselves ready.

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                              #59
                              Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                              Originally posted by Fakhri View Post
                              Can it not be asked for or suggested on behalf of sister by someone else, if that's the case?

                              Meaning?

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                                #60
                                Re: Why have you left it unusually late to get married?

                                I automatically reject proposals/interests and shut down all talks of marriage these days. I'm not really interested. I've been told I seem to take the whole thing as a joke lol. I haven't left it unusually late but it looks like I may be heading that way. I don't feel like I have anything to gain right now from marriage in most cases, I'm yet to cross paths with someone where I feel like I can gain something. Most come across shallow, full of contradictions or just plain immature. No plans, just talk. I don't like wishy washy-ness, if I don't have every detail I become anxious and stressed.

                                They want a housewife, if she is ok looking, cooks well and is obedient, it's good enough, sometimes they'll even compromise on aspects of the deen. Such low standards, what's the point marrying someone like that? he's not going to expect much from you. He's not investing in you, not interested in your development as a person, you're replaceable. When he has high expectations beyond what you look like and beyond his own needs, and has high expectations and a vision for his family and for himself, firstly he respects himself and you, secondly you improve yourself, thirdly there's no room to slack.

                                .
                                شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
                                فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
                                وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
                                ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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