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  • #91
    Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

    Originally posted by A500DaBest View Post
    Say I am in. Where do I even begin? I am virgin, 38 years old, lived all my life with mom, have no friends, know nothing about relationship, dating, have no father figure or father (he died when I was a baby) raised by my mother and grandmother only, know nothing. I have no connection, I come home in a routine of sitting in front of the computer screen non-stop until I go to sleep, work, repeat cycle. Don't even do physical activity. I can summarize all my 38 year old life into two lines where my mom she had an adventure of her life time. Her life can be put into 400 seasons of tv show and each season is 40 episodes.

    So from here...where do I even go? I am stuck in an endless dead routine.

    so from tomorrow you are going to join a men only gym

    okay?

    do they even exist? not sure but that's where you will have to do some wrk

    step on it, GET IT?

    LMSO.

    srs just do it
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    • #92
      Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

      Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
      how insulting urgh

      I don't do business with Pakistanis for obvious reasons

      :1popcorn:
      You do know I have an endless supply of fish jokes, right, my fish-eating friend.

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      • #93
        Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

        Originally posted by Indefinable View Post
        You do know I have an endless supply of fish jokes, right, my fish-eating friend.

        urgh really getting aggressive now with me identity

        look what you did
        the member is not replying back


        [MENTION=143083]A500DaBest[/MENTION]

        please don't be afraid, I will make sure this Pakistani woman doesn't con you brother

        dw I've met a lot like her they just want the money in the name of match making, utter disgracefulness

        but this is why you need to help yourself
        'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

        So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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        • #94
          Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

          Originally posted by A500DaBest View Post
          So from here...where do I even go? I am stuck in an endless dead routine.
          Tomorrow you will return and tell the forum one new thing you did, one positive step forward away from the rut you are in...
          You remind me of Mulan...we are finally going to make a man out of you...

          Let's get down to business
          To defeat the Huns
          Did they send me daughters, when I asked for sons?

          You're the saddest bunch I ever met
          But you can bet, before we're through
          Mister, I'll make a man
          out of you

          Tranquil as a forest, but on fire within
          Once you find your center, you are sure to win

          You're a spineless, pale, pathetic lot
          And you haven't got a clue
          Somehow I'll make a man
          out of you

          (Be a man)
          We must be swift as the coursing river
          (Be a man)
          With all the force of a great typhoon
          (Be a man)
          With all the strength of a raging fire
          Mysterious as the dark side of the moon
          s
          Women lost their modesty when men lost their gheerah..” .

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          • #95
            Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

            Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
            urgh really getting aggressive now with me identity
            Normally the Pakistani women take money after they find you a husband...not before...this Pakistani is different...
            Women lost their modesty when men lost their gheerah..” .

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            • #96
              Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

              Originally posted by shay5 View Post
              Normally the Pakistani women take money after they find you a husband...not before...this Pakistani is different...



              she's obviously been feeding you some Pakistani mangoes hasn't she?!?! sucking up to her like there is no tomorrow
              'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

              So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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              • #97
                Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                Originally posted by shay5 View Post
                Normally the Pakistani women take money after they find you a husband...not before...this Pakistani is different...
                Indeed.

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                • #98
                  Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                  k..I am not putting obstacles but...here is the thing...I feel guilty. I feel guilty to change, I feel I don't deserve to be better than what I am. Other part of me, I have my mom. She is not what she is used to be, she have diabetes, she have heart machine, she have pain walking and my older brother is worse than me in social level. He says so little and he is in his own world in playing PC games all the time. When I come from work, I have to cook for the family, massage my mom's feet when she asks for it, I have to take care of her in need in the house. I cannot just up and go out and socialize...and where do I even do it. I am not western..I am very conservative, lived my life in Saudi arabia in conservative environment. Since I was a child I had no friends, no social skill what so ever. When I was a kid, I went to school, came home, played in computer, eat, studied, repeat. This routine have taken me into adulthood and into this age. I feel this will be continue until my grave.

                  I have also medical issue of absent seizure. This condition by law prevent me from obtaining driving license and drive a car. So I cannot go places without taking public transportation. Expense for just going on by myself..my brother will not come with me, my mom will not come with me...just me
                  walking...for what...meeting strangers? Bad idea. Walking into malls, and seeing clothes, merchandise? Nothing interest me there.
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                  • #99
                    Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                    Originally posted by A500DaBest View Post
                    k..I am not putting obstacles but...here is the thing...I feel guilty. I feel guilty to change, I feel I don't deserve to be better than what I am. Other part of me, I have my mom. She is not what she is used to be, she have diabetes, she have heart machine, she have pain walking and my older brother is worse than me in social level. He says so little and he is in his own world in playing PC games all the time. When I come from work, I have to cook for the family, massage my mom's feet when she asks for it, I have to take care of her in need in the house. I cannot just up and go out and socialize...and where do I even do it. I am not western..I am very conservative, lived my life in Saudi arabia in conservative environment. Since I was a child I had no friends, no social skill what so ever. When I was a kid, I went to school, came home, played in computer, eat, studied, repeat. This routine have taken me into adulthood and into this age. I feel this will be continue until my grave.

                    I have also medical issue of absent seizure. This condition by law prevent me from obtaining driving license and drive a car. So I cannot go places without taking public transportation. Expense for just going on by myself..my brother will not come with me, my mom will not come with me...just me
                    walking...for what...meeting strangers? Bad idea. Walking into malls, and seeing clothes, merchandise? Nothing interest me there.
                    You need to find time for yourself. And when you do - make sure you are doing something productive, and not sitting in front of your computer the whole time.

                    It's noble that you are looking after your sick mother, and are taking care of the household chores, may Allaah subhanahu wa ta'ala reward you for this, however, they are just excuses for not moving on with your own life.

                    You don't have a car - then cycle or walk.

                    You don't like shopping - then don't shop, do something else.

                    Do you have access to your local masjid? There's a young brother on here
                    [MENTION=143591]babadods[/MENTION] - who is 21 and walks around forty minutes every day to attend his masjid. Point being - it's not impossible. We have to work hard to get something good.

                    Being Western has nothing to do with socialising. All societies have their own etiquette of socialising. We're not supposed to be Hermits who just sleep, eat, pray. We are meant to be pro-active members of society, checking up on our neighbours, enquiring after family members, working towards good.

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                    • Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                      Originally posted by A500DaBest View Post
                      What is the statistically success rate on that?
                      no idea. all i'm saying is that some people may have a low/non-existent sex drive or consider themselves to be asexual and if these people are certain they can go through life without marriage then surely its not only permissible for them but also the best option. i mean who wants to be in a sexless marriage?

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                      • Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                        Looking after your old mum because you're the youngest.

                        I wonder how brothers feel about moving in with their mother in law, hypothetically.
                        'And when a thing for which you ask is slow to come,
                        Then know that often through delay are gifts received'
                        علي الحبشي

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                        • Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                          Originally posted by Sirius View Post
                          Looking after your old mum because you're the youngest.

                          I wonder how brothers feel about moving in with their mother in law, hypothetically.
                          for some it's a win win because they don't have to pay the bills anymore

                          :rotfl:

                          the fear is real these days, but somebody has to pay those damn bills
                          'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                          So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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                          • Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                            Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                            for some it's a win win because they don't have to pay the bills anymore

                            :rotfl:

                            the fear is real these days, but somebody has to pay those damn bills
                            So if he lives with his MIL that means he pays no bills .. that's news to me ..
                            How merciful Allah on me by giving me respite,and I persist in my sins and Allah shields me

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                            • Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                              Reasons to say no to marriage:

                              You already have 4 wives?

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