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    It is true that people have different priorities and not everyone has the same experiences of life. Those priorities and past experiences help us to make decisions in our life. Yet, it is debatable whether to get married is solely a personal choice or not.

    Muslims are encouraged to get married according to Quran and Sunnah. So, if a Muslim decides for himself/ herself to not get married then is it a sin or not?

    And if it depends on situation, then what are those legitimate reasons which allow a Muslim to remain unmarried?

    Please discuss it positively.

    :jkk:



  • #2
    Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

    Ibn Taymiyyah (RH) never got married.

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    • #3
      Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

      Sorry man I can't think of any.
      I will be lost without marriage.

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      • #4
        Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

        marriage is a choice. It is not fard. I don't' think one needs a reason to never marry. As long as they are staying in straight path & not indulging in haram activity to fulfill their need, nothing wrong with it.

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        • #5
          Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

          Originally posted by Abu Jarir View Post
          Ibn Taymiyyah (RH) never got married.
          You arnt Ibn taymiya so that post is redundant,

          Rasul صلى الله عليه و سلم told us to get married cause it's his Sunnah,so we don't deliberately avoid it and pretend we know better than him,
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          • #6
            Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

            Originally posted by Kya View Post
            marriage is a choice. It is not fard. I don't' think one needs a reason to never marry. As long as they are staying in straight path & not indulging in haram activity to fulfill their need, nothing wrong with it.
            Ita advice like this that misleads people,
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            • #7
              It can be fardh, it can be makruh, it can be haram, it can be mustahab etc.

              It depends on the individual and his/her circumstances

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              • #8
                Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                Originally posted by Theistic View Post
                It is true that people have different priorities and not everyone has the same experiences of life. Those priorities and past experiences help us to make decisions in our life. Yet, it is debatable whether to get married is solely a personal choice or not.

                Muslims are encouraged to get married according to Quran and Sunnah. So, if a Muslim decides for himself/ herself to not get married then is it a sin or not?

                And if it depends on situation, then what are those legitimate reasons which allow a Muslim to remain unmarried?

                Please discuss it positively.

                :jkk:
                salaams to all

                the main purpose of marriage is to enable us to fulfill our desires in a halaal way & thereby save us from zina.
                it also facilitates procreation & thereby increases the ummah.

                the 2 main criteria that need to be fulfilled are that
                - the person must be mature/baaligh
                - the male has to be able to fulfill the rights of his wife financially
                (i suppose the woman also has to be able to manage/run a home)


                so one of the most valid reasons for not marrying is that u dont earn enough to support a wife.
                ive also heard from ulama that if a person is very hot headed/temperamental, then he should not get married.

                another type of scenario is that you want to get married but so far have not found anyone who u find attractive or u know that u wont be compatible with them- for whatever reason.

                if a person is able to get married but does not do so & they are able to control their desires, that is not so bad but if theyre unable to control their desires & resort to haraam avenues.... then they are committing a major sin,

                i hope that helps.

                and Allah ta'ala knows best
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                • #9
                  Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                  Originally posted by msmoorad View Post
                  salaams to all

                  the main purpose of marriage is to enable us to fulfill our desires in a halaal way & thereby save us from zina.
                  it also facilitates procreation & thereby increases the ummah.

                  the 2 main criteria that need to be fulfilled are that
                  - the person must be mature/baaligh
                  - the male has to be able to fulfill the rights of his wife financially
                  (i suppose the woman also has to be able to manage/run a home)


                  so one of the most valid reasons for not marrying is that u dont earn enough to support a wife.
                  ive also heard from ulama that if a person is very hot headed/temperamental, then he should not get married.

                  another type of scenario is that you want to get married but so far have not found anyone who u find attractive or u know that u wont be compatible with them- for whatever reason.

                  if a person is able to get married but does not do so & they are able to control their desires, that is not so bad but if theyre unable to control their desires & resort to haraam avenues.... then they are committing a major sin,

                  i hope that helps.

                  and Allah ta'ala knows best
                  jazakallah
                  We are being told, we don't need a reason to not marry akhi,

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                  • #10
                    Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                    There is an opinion among certain scholars that in times of today, you should do your best to get married.

                    The reason(s) being that unlike the past, we are exposed to the following:

                    - Advertising that is enticing (think of the billboards with women in bikinis)
                    - (easy) access to pornography
                    - (easy) access to the means of zinaa (tinder, etc.)
                    - non-Muslim societies (for folks living in Western countries) and their standards
                    - conflicting beliefs concerning fiqh, etc. (eg. some people say casual dating is halaal, etc.)

                    So unless you are a: hermit, a eunuch, a pious buzrukh or someone isolated from the world; it becomes very difficult to restrict your physical/sexual desires.

                    (this applies equally to men and women)

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                    • #11
                      Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                      Originally posted by horizon View Post
                      There is an opinion among certain scholars that in times of today, you should do your best to get married.

                      The reason(s) being that unlike the past, we are exposed to the following:

                      - Advertising that is enticing (think of the billboards with women in bikinis)
                      - (easy) access to pornography
                      - (easy) access to the means of zinaa (tinder, etc.)
                      - non-Muslim societies (for folks living in Western countries) and their standards
                      - conflicting beliefs concerning fiqh, etc. (eg. some people say casual dating is halaal, etc.)

                      So unless you are a: hermit, a eunuch, a pious buzrukh or someone isolated from the world; it becomes very difficult to restrict your physical/sexual desires.

                      (this applies equally to men and women)
                      I thought it is easier for women than men, isn't it? My only question I have, if a man choose not to get married will he be questioned in the afterlife and punished in the afterlife if he couldn't give a good reason?
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                      • #12
                        Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                        Originally posted by Kya View Post
                        marriage is a choice. It is not fard. I don't' think one needs a reason to never marry. As long as they are staying in straight path & not indulging in haram activity to fulfill their need, nothing wrong with it.
                        Many pious Muslims had abilities to stay in straight path yet they got married.

                        i am not a scholar, so i can't debate it is Fard or not. But as per my understanding, it is Sunnah. Can Sunnah be a choice?


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                        • #13
                          Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                          Originally posted by Faith reloaded View Post
                          It can be fardh, it can be makruh, it can be haram, it can be mustahab etc.

                          It depends on the individual and his/her circumstances
                          Yes, there are different conditions and those are imposed by Islam. Those are not individual's choice.

                          My question relates to those individuals who personally want to remain unmarried. Do they have legitimate reasons to make such decision?


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                          • #14
                            Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                            Originally posted by msmoorad View Post
                            salaams to all

                            the main purpose of marriage is to enable us to fulfill our desires in a halaal way & thereby save us from zina.
                            it also facilitates procreation & thereby increases the ummah.

                            the 2 main criteria that need to be fulfilled are that
                            - the person must be mature/baaligh
                            - the male has to be able to fulfill the rights of his wife financially
                            (i suppose the woman also has to be able to manage/run a home)


                            so one of the most valid reasons for not marrying is that u dont earn enough to support a wife.
                            ive also heard from ulama that if a person is very hot headed/temperamental, then he should not get married.

                            another type of scenario is that you want to get married but so far have not found anyone who u find attractive or u know that u wont be compatible with them- for whatever reason.

                            if a person is able to get married but does not do so & they are able to control their desires, that is not so bad but if theyre unable to control their desires & resort to haraam avenues.... then they are committing a major sin,

                            i hope that helps.

                            and Allah ta'ala knows best
                            jazakallah
                            :jkk:

                            So, a pious, mature and responsible person who can control his/ her desires can decide to remain unmarried by his/ her own choice? But as per my little understanding, most of the utmost pious persons got married and encouraged to get married.


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                            • #15
                              Re: What can be the legitimate reasons to say NO to marriage...

                              Originally posted by horizon View Post
                              There is an opinion among certain scholars that in times of today, you should do your best to get married.

                              The reason(s) being that unlike the past, we are exposed to the following:

                              - Advertising that is enticing (think of the billboards with women in bikinis)
                              - (easy) access to pornography
                              - (easy) access to the means of zinaa (tinder, etc.)
                              - non-Muslim societies (for folks living in Western countries) and their standards
                              - conflicting beliefs concerning fiqh, etc. (eg. some people say casual dating is halaal, etc.)

                              So unless you are a: hermit, a eunuch, a pious buzrukh or someone isolated from the world; it becomes very difficult to restrict your physical/sexual desires.

                              (this applies equally to men and women)
                              So, there is no legitimate reason to remain unmarried these days?


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