Is it bad to see marriage as a way out of certain difficulties?
Does everything have to be perfect before getting married? Do you have to have everything together?
Does it differ for men and women?
Lets assume you use marriage as a way out for your current problems. Lets then assume that different problems arise via marriage. How will you solve those problems? People generally get themselves into repeating situations and solutions, so if you use the "way out" solution to problems in the part, changes are high that in future problems, you'll want to use the "way out" solution again.
So my question is, if you don't use the "way out" solution in the future after marriage when you are experiencing difficulties (and every marriage experiences difficulties), which approach will you use to solve marriage problems, and can you use the same or similar solutions to solve your current problems instead of using the "way out" approach?
Lets assume you use marriage as a way out for your current problems. Lets then assume that different problems arise via marriage. How will you solve those problems? People generally get themselves into repeating situations and solutions, so if you use the "way out" solution to problems in the part, changes are high that in future problems, you'll want to use the "way out" solution again.
So my question is, if you don't use the "way out" solution in the future after marriage when you are experiencing difficulties (and every marriage experiences difficulties), which approach will you use to solve marriage problems, and can you use the same or similar solutions to solve your current problems instead of using the "way out" approach?
You solve problems after marriage the same all other married people solve their problems. There are many ways out of problems and marriage is just one way for someone who has tried every other way and failed.
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فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي
Didnt you open a thread about marriage would take your freedom away or summing recently.
Oh best person to ask [MENTION=72222]F_R[/MENTION]
Thoughts?
Lol why would I be the best person to ask?
You don't have to have everything done either
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