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**Theistic** · 02-03-17, 02:31 PM

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Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post

What did u learn

And btw yes whilst trust grows with time, intj's are the only type that I have seen not overcome by their emotion or personal feelings, but only to use logic. And cos logic is the truth you cannot argue with that. Please deep inside they are v soft lol.

i learnt that trust is important for being honest.

Logic may be or may not be important sometimes, in my opinion.

**oshirowanen** · 02-03-17, 02:42 PM

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Main thing I learnt was, make sure you get to know a person properly before you even think about marrying them.

**Sarah5** · 02-03-17, 02:47 PM

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Because of free will. I don't understand why this bothers you or anyone else.

The best reason I can think of is that people want to find out who is good. We live in a time and a world where you can't trust anyone and where liars are at every corner and you don't know who has a true heart and who wears a facade. We also live longer giving us more time to have kids and to get married (compared to the average life span of people before us). And finally, the qadr of Allah. For some people, marriage is just not happening and that's up to Allah ta'ala. I don't understand why taking your time to find a good person is so bad. Marrying just anyone for the sake of marrying early is foolish

**muzzybee** · 02-03-17, 03:16 PM

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Originally posted by Serinity View Post

:salam:

Why I delay marriage? I can't support myself lol. No money. I only socialise with people I like.

I know, dunya excuses. I can get job. But, I feel immature lol.

People of today are such, they mature only in their 20-30s. Society thinks of us as kids. I am prob wrong.

I like being a child at heart.

correct me if I said anything wrong.

Allahu alam.

How old are you

Waalaikumussalam sorry

**muzzybee** · 02-03-17, 03:18 PM

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Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post

Yes well wait until other members like muzzybee and zizou get here and u will know what it is to ridicule

Hey hey .... I am a NICE personality type :)

**muzzybee** · 02-03-17, 03:21 PM

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Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post

My ex was from the homeland. The cultural difference between us was too much.

Hmmmm...I hear you...

**muzzybee** · 02-03-17, 03:25 PM

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Originally posted by Sarah5 View Post

Because of free will. I don't understand why this bothers you or anyone else.

The best reason I can think of is that people want to find out who is good. We live in a time and a world where you can't trust anyone and where liars are at every corner and you don't know who has a true heart and who wears a facade. We also live longer giving us more time to have kids and to get married (compared to the average life span of people before us). And finally, the qadr of Allah. For some people, marriage is just not happening and that's up to Allah ta'ala. I don't understand why taking your time to find a good person is so bad. Marrying just anyone for the sake of marrying early is foolish

So where is the line between taking time and for the sake of marrying ,when you are 25 will you say 28,then 30 and so on.
You know sometimes ,let me rephrase rarely do things fall into place as in everything you are looking for unless you make an effort and also compromise.
Not in deen but other matters.

If your search is not intensified you are not gonna find finer details of your potential.
Would a mindset of so many bad ppl out there ever intensify your search.
If you know what I mean

**Ya'sin** · 02-03-17, 03:42 PM

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i haven't delayed marriage

but Alhamdulillah my fate delayed it for me- phew

ALLAHU HU AKBAR

lol

**Ya'sin** · 02-03-17, 03:46 PM

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I just cant find someone OUT OF THIS WORLD

obviously he has to be good looking enough, rich enough, decent enough for me to obey him

sheesh louise mate

:zzz:

who cares what I am, but it's important what he is, yesh yesh :1popcorn:

**oshirowanen** · 02-03-17, 03:51 PM

Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

Originally posted by Sarah5 View Post

Because of free will. I don't understand why this bothers you or anyone else.

The best reason I can think of is that people want to find out who is good. We live in a time and a world where you can't trust anyone and where liars are at every corner and you don't know who has a true heart and who wears a facade. We also live longer giving us more time to have kids and to get married (compared to the average life span of people before us). And finally, the qadr of Allah. For some people, marriage is just not happening and that's up to Allah ta'ala. I don't understand why taking your time to find a good person is so bad. Marrying just anyone for the sake of marrying early is foolish

I agree with this. However, if you manage get to know a good person early, even better!

**Sarah5** · 02-03-17, 03:55 PM

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Originally posted by muzzybee View Post

So where is the line between taking time and for the sake of marrying ,when you are 25 will you say 28,then 30 and so on.
You know sometimes ,let me rephrase rarely do things fall into place as in everything you are looking for unless you make an effort and also compromise.
Not in deen but other matters.

If your search is not intensified you are not gonna find finer details of your potential.
Would a mindset of so many bad ppl out there ever intensify your search.
If you know what I mean

with all due respect, why are you worrying yourself about this matter? I just don't see why you're so upset about this, people may just not feel ready to get married and it's a right to not do so

**muzzybee** · 02-03-17, 03:57 PM

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Originally posted by Sarah5 View Post

with all due respect, why are you worrying yourself about this matter? I just don't see why you're so upset about this, people may just not feel ready to get married and it's a right to not do so

Thanks for answering the question I guess

**Ya'sin** · 02-03-17, 03:58 PM

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some people change after marriage so even if you get to know them for ten years to make sure they are the one :wacko: they could end up being a character from a thriller

like a werewolf and you just didn't know about it the last couple years before marriage which included extensive research on him like the giggles and jokes, coffee at costa and the walks down the park

who would've thought he was gonna be a werewolf

wer=MEN=husband

you can work out the rest :1popcorn: *gulps

**zi-zizou** · 02-03-17, 04:17 PM

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Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post

Biryani's overrated.

You can't take this sort of negativity into a marriage search.

**oshirowanen** · 02-03-17, 04:18 PM

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Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post

You can't take this sort of negativity into a marriage search.

lol

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