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  • #31
    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
    Waalaikumussalam
    But its only natural...and it is a big sunmah and marriage is good for you
    I don't disagree but your question was about delaying.

    So people will still fulfill the Sunnah but a little later. What's the rush?

    I think marriage has a much better chance when you are completely ready and fully developed in yourself. You're less likely to be demanding, less likely to be insecure, less likely, (having spent time observing the pickles others get into), to make huge mistakes in your choice.

    Even so, some people really might not fancy being married and some might not be too fussed on children. Though marriage is good in general, It might not be good for them personally. They might have a different purpose in life, Allah (swt) knows best.

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    • #32
      Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

      Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
      Waiting for conviction can lead to desperation and making a wrong choice.
      It is harder for sisters ,much harder..but you dont make these decions alone ,after isthikhara use your family to do the hard work and then if all is ok ,got to take that chance.
      Reverts would be harder...for them.

      But we need to remember everything in life is a chance we take with faith inshaallah.
      You are so right muzzy!! I need to take a big fat leap of faith!! make duaa for me bee!

      Originally posted by Rifqah View Post
      I don't disagree but your question was about delaying.

      So people will still fulfill the Sunnah but a little later. What's the rush?

      I think marriage has a much better chance when you are completely ready and fully developed in yourself. You're less likely to be demanding, less likely to be insecure, less likely, (having spent time observing the pickles others get into), to make huge mistakes in your choice.

      Even so, some people really might not fancy being married and some might not be too fussed on children. Though marriage is good in general, It might not be good for them personally. They might have a different purpose in life, Allah (swt) knows best.
      It only happens when it's meant to happen!!
      “Mu'min” is more that just a title. It is to have Imaan established in the heart and testified to by the limbs.

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      • #33
        Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

        Not enough intelligent brothers

        need to be spoon fed
        ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
        "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
        :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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        • #34
          Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

          Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
          Not enough intelligent brothers

          need to be spoon fed
          Whats your definition of intelligence

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          • #35
            Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

            Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
            Whats your definition of intelligence
            Super clever

            Basically intj
            ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
            "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
            :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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            • #36
              Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

              Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
              l...and it is a big sunmah and marriage is good for you
              It's not good for you if it goes wrong and you end up divorcing like me which is a nightmare and the stress is very unhealthy too. £10,000 to get married, £50,000 to get divorced. Could have put that money to better use like hiring a personal trainer. :D
              Last edited by oshirowanen; 02-03-17, 09:24 AM.

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              • #37
                Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
                It's not good for you if it goes wrong and you end up divorcing like me which is a nightmare and the stress is very unhealthy too. £10,000 to get married, £50,000 to get divorced. Could have put that money to better use like hiring a personal trainer. :D
                :)
                ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
                "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
                :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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                • #38
                  Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                  Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
                  :)
                  Should have said that burning £60,000 in a bonfire in the back garden would have been healthier and less stressful (because of the lack of court cases), and could have used £20 of that £60,000, bought some lean chicken and had a nice little "healthy" barbecue from the flames created by burning the £59,980, which would have been good for me!
                  Last edited by oshirowanen; 02-03-17, 09:36 AM.

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                  • #39
                    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                    Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
                    It's not good for you if it goes wrong and you end up divorcing like me which is a nightmare and the stress is very unhealthy too. £10,000 to get married, £50,000 to get divorced. Could have put that money to better use like hiring a personal trainer. :D
                    What ,sorry have to ask why 50000 ...is divorce so expensive.

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                    • #40
                      Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                      Originally posted by Deeni Akh View Post
                      :jkk: it's definitely a waswasa that plays in the mind.

                      May Allah grant us what's best.
                      Ameen

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                      • #41
                        Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                        Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
                        What ,sorry have to ask why 50000 ...is divorce so expensive.
                        It's not cheap (lawyers (£300 per hour for a decent one, the cheap lawyers seem to like to keep the case going longer than it has too) and court fees etc). I think I was let off lightly, some divorce cases are a lot more, some are less, depends on your personal situation.

                        So now I'm back to square one, with a problem "once bitten, twice shy".
                        Last edited by oshirowanen; 02-03-17, 09:58 AM.

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                        • #42
                          Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                          Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
                          It's not cheap (lawyers (£300 per hour for a decent one) and court fees etc). I think I was let off lightly, some divorce cases are a lot more, some are less, depends on your personal situation.

                          So now I'm back to square one, with a problem "once bitten, twice shy".
                          What personality type are u, I'll find u ur match

                          https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
                          ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
                          "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
                          :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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                          • #43
                            Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                            Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
                            It's not cheap (lawyers (£300 per hour for a decent one, the cheap lawyers seem to like to keep the case going longer than it has too) and court fees etc). I think I was let off lightly, some divorce cases are a lot more, some are less, depends on your personal situation.

                            So now I'm back to square one, with a problem "once bitten, twice shy".
                            Cant you like do a nikah in your home country.. no wonder non muslims live together.isnt there a easier islamic solution for muslims in the uk

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                            **** Smiling won't cost you now is it ****

                            Zawjati ,“Uhibbuki mithla mâ antê” “Uhibbuki kaifamâ kunteee”“Wa mahmâ kâna mahma sâra”

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                            • #44
                              Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                              Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
                              What personality type are u, I'll find u ur match

                              https://www.16personalities.com/free-personality-test
                              Based on the result (INFJ-A), it's going to be near impossible for find a match.

                              Typed in INFJ-A into google to find out what that means, and it said:

                              The World’s Rarest Personality: INFJ Type Decoded
                              Out of the 16 Myers-Briggs personality types, INFJ type is believed to be the most rare. These uncommon jewels of the personality spectrum make up less than one percent of the population.
                              http://introvertspring.com/the-world...-type-decoded/
                              [facepalm]

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                              • #45
                                Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

                                Originally posted by oshirowanen View Post
                                Based on the result (INFJ-A), it's going to be near impossible for find a match.

                                Typed in INFJ-A into google to find out what that means, and it said:



                                [facepalm]
                                -__________-

                                are u male or female?
                                ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
                                "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
                                :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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