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  • Rifqah
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
    Waalaikumussalam
    But its only natural...and it is a big sunmah and marriage is good for you
    I don't disagree but your question was about delaying.

    So people will still fulfill the Sunnah but a little later. What's the rush?

    I think marriage has a much better chance when you are completely ready and fully developed in yourself. You're less likely to be demanding, less likely to be insecure, less likely, (having spent time observing the pickles others get into), to make huge mistakes in your choice.

    Even so, some people really might not fancy being married and some might not be too fussed on children. Though marriage is good in general, It might not be good for them personally. They might have a different purpose in life, Allah (swt) knows best.

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by Miss Foxxy View Post
    Feels like this one is directed at me!!!

    I cant wait actually to say qabool hai, qabool hai, qabool hai

    Seriously though, it's not about a better person - what scares me most is ending up choosing the wrong person! This does happen....
    I know you have an answer for that too, istikhaara?

    I just need to be convinced in my heart

    oh man!
    Waiting for conviction can lead to desperation and making a wrong choice.
    It is harder for sisters ,much harder..but you dont make these decions alone ,after isthikhara use your family to do the hard work and then if all is ok ,got to take that chance.
    Reverts would be harder...for them.

    But we need to remember everything in life is a chance we take with faith inshaallah.
    Last edited by muzzybee; 02-03-17, 09:31 AM.

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  • samin62
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
    They got snow in Canada ....stay local
    it isn't iceland, its not about the snow

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by Theistic View Post
    Brothers! Don't delay to marry... once you are married you will never delay to marry again!
    That is kind of true , I think once you experience marital life and its challenges , future decisions become easier

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by samin62 View Post
    because I want to bike all around iceland first. I don't need a wife to slow me down. Don't need a huffer and puffer
    They got snow in Canada ....stay local

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by peacepro View Post
    Well atleast around me, i see a lot of brothers and sisters delaying marriage only because of the following three reasons:

    1) Parents
    2) Money
    3) right match

    The first one, Parents, play a major role in delaying marraiges, especially those kind of parents who are like "First settle down in life and then marry". But they never define "Settling down".lool. In today's world atleast, one cannot expect to settle down because its never enough. To this point, i say, Trust Allah and get into marriage even if you are tight financially for it because with it shall come Barakah in your life.

    The second one, money, is something that again has no limit. What amount of salary or income are we thinking off before we get married? comeon guys, you will get your part of Rizq in sha Allah. Just make an effort and because of one, don't delay other things in life. Make dua for rizq and take masnoon steps in life.

    The third one, Right match, this again is taken by some people to really high level. But even here, parents play major role in maligning the mind of the son or daughter. Moreover, one cannot find exact match because everyone is different. So check the main parts like religion, family , looks if you want,,etc and go ahead.

    May Allah make it easy for all those who are looking to marry!
    Good points ..

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by iRepIslam View Post
    Muzzybee you're actually kind of right.
    :thumbs up:

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  • Deeni Akh
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    :jkk: it's definitely a waswasa that plays in the mind.

    May Allah grant us what's best.

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  • muzzybee
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
    Not ready for the responsibility.
    Not ready for having a physical relationship.
    Not ready to share their life, emotions, thoughts, etc.
    Not trusting in their own judgement to pick well.
    Not having a say in who they marry.
    Not yet developed themselves to see themselves as being of value to themselves let alone someone else.
    Quite a list ,when do these Not become yes,what needs to change ?

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  • zi-zizou
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by samin62 View Post
    I told you not to read my diary anymore
    Originally posted by eesa the kiwi View Post
    stop reading people's diaries

    cant a dude keep his chips
    It's in the cloud and we are all working collaboratively.

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  • iRepIslam
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    Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Allahuma Aameen ya rabbal Alamein

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  • Miss Foxxy
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by iRepIslam View Post
    It's best to leave all your affairs with Him, just trust in Allah Azzawajal and let it flow. If you establish that connection with your Rabb, if you seek an answer from Him then surely nothing can disappoint you even if your spouse is a trial. They are all a means of getting close to our Rabb...

    May Allah grant us all what's best for our deen.
    Ameen

    [I thank Allah for protecting me from what I thought I wanted...]

    Always make duaa that Allah makes your spouse a blessing, not a trial!

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  • iRepIslam
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    Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    It's best to leave all your affairs with Him, just trust in Allah Azzawajal and let it flow. If you establish that connection with your Rabb, if you seek an answer from Him then surely nothing can disappoint you even if your spouse is a trial. They are all a means of getting close to our Rabb...

    May Allah grant us all what's best for our deen.

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  • iRepIslam
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    Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    :)
    Last edited by iRepIslam; 02-03-17, 09:02 AM.

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  • Miss Foxxy
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    Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...

    Originally posted by Theistic View Post
    Brothers! Don't delay to marry... once you are married you will never delay to marry again!
    Lol...

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