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Originally posted by Indefinable View PostPlease stop -_-
But you're right about everything else.
Society has changed though, people in general don't like to 'work hard', there was a time when 'real' men and 'real' women, both did 'real' work. As long as they had enough for the day's meals, that was all they focused on, and didn't worry about tomorrow until it came.
These days it's all about: buy a house, a car, stable job, certain salary. I don't know if this pressure is from the sisters? Or from their families? But they aren't real reasons to not marry.
In my opinion anyway.
But I agree, people are not focused with depth of relationship with each other and the real purpose of bettering each other so we achieve the highest rank for our hereafter. We would be each other's motivator, each other's comfort in difficult times. But cos focus is on the rat race, people become what they think others want. This reflects in how they talk to people especially in marriage meetings. It becomes a bragging session.
Even if it is pressure from sisters a bro should be strong enough to not want a sis like that and so not to conform. But then they auto think that it is only girls that didn't go into further education that will think like this cos they will rely on them. But what an insult to those sisters, cos often they are very grounded people with a lot of introspection. But also what an insult to those that did go into further education cos somehow in a brothers mind this will translate as power hungry or sumt.
trust is ultimate
if u trust the person wants Jannah for u and they show this but not in a controlling but supportive way - then isn't that what we all need, a companion to our real home
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by RaNdOm View PostNah they won't cos most people think codswallop like Indy said
this is good
keep this up
it's mainly for my benefit cos I am studying u all
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Originally posted by iRepIslam View PostEvery forum member is now going to ask what personality type their potential spouse has all because of you.
this is good
keep this up
it's mainly for my benefit cos I am studying u all
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by RaNdOm View PostU would be such a beautiful bro allahumma baarik
Ur right men delay cos I think they don't want responsibility, or cos they want to be stable before they make that commitment cos respect to a man is very important so if he can't respect himself then it might be hard to find someone who respects him. But sometimes it is about the journey/attitude that is more respectable than being given things on a plate. Cos just imagine a man that did not have much but always showed contentment but not in that airy fairy way, but like I am content but everyday I am working towards making myself better
women cos good bros are rare
But you're right about everything else.
Society has changed though, people in general don't like to 'work hard', there was a time when 'real' men and 'real' women, both did 'real' work. As long as they had enough for the day's meals, that was all they focused on, and didn't worry about tomorrow until it came.
These days it's all about: buy a house, a car, stable job, certain salary. I don't know if this pressure is from the sisters? Or from their families? But they aren't real reasons to not marry.
In my opinion anyway.
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by Theistic View PostSo, it is easy to read the mind of an honest and intelligent person (who must be an intj)?
but... if they trust you, they will share it all with you
plus if you act psychotic - they will work out the reason
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Originally posted by RaNdOm View PostIntj's it is
they are bluntly honest too even if it is against them
They despise falsehood and seek authenticity
allahumma baarik
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by Indefinable View PostI realise that comment can be misconstrued.
I meant as in marriage is the change you need in your life. I feel you are ready.
but is he ready for me >_>
everyone thinks i would like a funny man but I prefer stable men, cos I am like electricity that needs to be grounded so I need to find an earth or ground wire
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by Theistic View PostYes they are intelligent...
And it is not an easy task to read the mind of an intelligent person.
they are bluntly honest too even if it is against them
They despise falsehood and seek authenticity
allahumma baarik
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by Indefinable View PostMost people/youth/whatever age say: I'm not ready.
What does that even mean?
Sounds like an excuse because they are lazy, and can't be bothered with the added responsibility.
Men think: I don't need someone constantly nagging me.
Women think: Marriage = children = no social life.
My sympathy lies with those who are actively seeking a spouse, and can't find anyone decent.
Ur right men delay cos I think they don't want responsibility, or cos they want to be stable before they make that commitment cos respect to a man is very important so if he can't respect himself then it might be hard to find someone who respects him. But sometimes it is about the journey/attitude that is more respectable than being given things on a plate. Cos just imagine a man that did not have much but always showed contentment but not in that airy fairy way, but like I am content but everyday I am working towards making myself better
women cos good bros are rare
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by RaNdOm View PostNo don't
you shouldn't base a marriage on a test that isn't even proven to be real
it just gives you an indication
if you're infj you will be able to see through them anyway - if you are a true one
so use your mind
and istikhaara
and then be content with the outcome
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Re: Why do you delay marriage ppl...
Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post:D if only u were a bro eh although I would have to reject u cos of ur s and f
I meant as in marriage is the change you need in your life. I feel you are ready.
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