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  • #16
    Re: single or polygamy

    Originally posted by Bismil View Post
    What is not as religious ?

    You never know who is more closer to Allah swt.
    For the first brother she said "Deen he's on the same level as you, you are not afraid."

    For the second brother she said "Deen he is on a very high level, which u may see as positive or negative."

    Allah knows best who is closer to Him, but we can only judge people by what we see.
    Narrated Anas:
    The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." [Bukhari]

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    • #17
      Re: single or polygamy

      Originally posted by ms.muslimah View Post
      For the first brother she said "Deen he's on the same level as you, you are not afraid."

      For the second brother she said "Deen he is on a very high level, which u may see as positive or negative."

      Allah knows best who is closer to Him, but we can only judge people by what we see.
      That is interesting comment you made , I have seen people here use this comment according to there needs .
      Nevertheless , his Deen is on the same level , what is wrong with that ? he can work on it. Its better to marry a single person. The other guy is already married.

      I am not against polygamy , but the single people should get preferance.

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      • #18
        Re: single or polygamy

        Originally posted by Bismil View Post
        That is interesting comment you made , I have seen people here use this comment according to there needs .
        Nevertheless , his Deen is on the same level , what is wrong with that ? he can work on it. Its better to marry a single person. The other guy is already married.

        I am not against polygamy , but the single people should get preferance.
        It's a true comment, how could people use it according to their needs?

        I think it's usually better to marry a single person, but I don't think single people should always get preference. If the married brother is better there's no reason for her to choose the single brother.

        But it sounds like the single brother is good enough. I would say she should choose him, but Allah knows best.
        Narrated Anas:
        The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." [Bukhari]

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        • #19
          Re: single or polygamy

          My wife was all for it. Then after marrying me she says no. I can't share you...
          Watch those eyes

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          • #20
            Re: single or polygamy

            Originally posted by ms.muslimah View Post
            It's a true comment, how could people use it according to their needs?

            I think it's usually better to marry a single person, but I don't think single people should always get preference. If the married brother is better there's no reason for her to choose the single brother.

            But it sounds like the single brother is good enough. I would say she should choose him, but Allah knows best.
            Same level of deen is not good enough ?

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            • #21
              Re: single or polygamy

              Originally posted by Bismil View Post
              Same level of deen is not good enough ?
              No I said it is good enough.
              Narrated Anas:
              The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." [Bukhari]

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              • #22
                Re: single or polygamy

                Originally posted by shay5 View Post
                You're brave for putting yourself out there....pray istikhara and then go with the option you want to.....I would go for 1....less baggage and it's fun that you are both new to marriage......so it'll be a new experience for both of you......whereas the other guy is already married so he has been through it all........not as exciting......imo......
                ^ This

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                • #23
                  Re: single or polygamy

                  Originally posted by ZeeshanParvez View Post
                  My wife was all for it. Then after marrying me she says no. I can't share you...
                  you should be happy for that you know :)
                  How merciful Allah on me by giving me respite,and I persist in my sins and Allah shields me

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                  • #24
                    Re: single or polygamy

                    Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
                    Do you look like a pirate?

                    I'm just trying to find out what you are referring to when you say a blinder? She said she was married and it looks like she was lying, is this the blinder you are referring too?
                    that's it I'm never posting on ummah again

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                    • #25
                      Re: single or polygamy

                      Originally posted by bismillaah View Post
                      that's it I'm never posting on ummah again
                      :up:

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                      • #26
                        Re: single or polygamy

                        Is dissociating running away from home so that u dont remember where u been and what you did?

                        I thought you were married? Why have you been curving this question from me trice already,makes me believe ur just a troll
                        يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                        O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                        Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                        • #27
                          Re: single or polygamy

                          Originally posted by bismillaah View Post
                          Today, I found out something which made me so distressed that I dissociated.

                          Now I have a decision to make, out of 2 options. It would be 1 option, but I suffer from a lot of self doubt, and my 'mistakes' are not always mistakes.

                          option 1: marry a single brother, whose never been married, has no expectations, and this marriage is his first experience. Deen he's on the same level as you, you are not afraid.

                          option 2: marry a married brother, who is married +/- kids, has expectations due to being married and has experienced it. Deen he is on a very high level, which u may see as positive or negative.

                          Im so stressed out, I feel like a zombie. I have only ever dissociated 2 times in my life, one after an interview and one earlier this year when I started a new life.
                          Just choose the one whose closer to u in living style and culture , it will be alot better in long term.

                          i dont see people here at the same level of understanding as urs, best person to consult and that must be consulted is ur wali.
                          Last edited by m7md; 15-10-16, 02:53 PM.

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                          • #28
                            Re: single or polygamy

                            Originally posted by shay5 View Post
                            OP is stressed, she went through a lot searching for marriage, she was mocked for her threads...then she played a blinder and now is back to her normal threads.......people should read between the lines...
                            Oh ok.
                            [MENTION=90000]bismillaah[/MENTION] I'm sorry, sis. May Allah ease all your affairs.

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                            • #29
                              Re: single or polygamy

                              Originally posted by ZeeshanParvez View Post
                              My wife was all for it. Then after marrying me she says no. I can't share you...
                              Tell her to love for her sister what she loves for herself...
                              http://i47.tinypic.com/do8kmw.jpg

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                              • #30
                                Re: single or polygamy

                                Option 1. But do istikhara if you're still unsure.
                                https://www.instagram.com/muslimahdelights/

                                http://muslimahdelights.blogspot.co.uk/

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