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  • How to be a good husband?

    A good man makes a good husband
    A good husband becomes a good father
    A good father raises a good child

    If you want to be one, emulate these steps below:

    1) Never raise your voice for any reason to your wife. It's a sign of disrespect.
    2) Don't expose your wife's weaknesses to your family and friends.
    It will bounce back at you. You are each other's keepers
    3) Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your wife.
    You never know how your wife will interpret them. Defensive men don't have a happy home.
    4) Never compare your wife to other women.
    You have no idea what their life is all about. If you attack her Ego, her Love for you will diminish.
    5) Never ill treat your wife's friends because you don't like them.
    The person who's supposed to get rid of them is your
    wife.
    6) Never forget that your wife married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.
    7) Never assign anyone to give attention to your wife.
    People may do everything else but your wife is your own responsibility.
    8. Never blame your wife if you come home and nothing is perfect.
    Rather, encourage her.
    9) Never be a wasteful or unappreciative husband. Your wife's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
    10) Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your wife' right. You must give it to her how she wants it.
    It's very important to women.
    If you keep denying her it is a matter of time before another man takes over that duty.
    No woman can withstand on starvation for too long (even the anointed ones).
    11) Never compare your wife to others. Your home may never recover from it if you do
    12) Never answer for your wife in public opinion polls.
    Let her handle what is directed to her although she may answer for you in public opinion polls.
    13) Never shout or challenge your wife in front of children.
    Wise men don't do that.
    14) Don't forget to check the smartness of your wife
    before she checks out.
    15) Never allow your friends to be too close to your wife.
    16) Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table.
    Out there your wife is always surrounded by men who took their time on their looks.
    17) Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage.
    Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave
    18) Never base your love on monetary things.
    Will you still respect her even if she earns more money than you?
    19) Don't forget that wives want attention and good listeners.
    Never be too busy for her. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home.
    20) If your idea worked better than hers, never compare yourself to her. It's always team work
    21) Don't be too judgmental of your wife. No woman wants a nagging and ungrateful husband.
    22) A lazy husband is a careless husband. He doesn't even know that his body needs a bath.
    23) Does your wife like a kind of cooked food? Try to change your cooking. No woman jokes with food.
    24) Never be too demanding of your wife. Enjoy every moment, resource as it comes
    25) Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your wife and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty.
    26) Don't associate with men who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.
    27) Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable
    28) Fruit of the womb is a blessing from Allah. Love your children and teach them well
    29) You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason
    30) A pious rightious husband is a better equipped husband. Make Dua and pray always for your wife and family.

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    Thoughts?
    مَّن ذَا الَّذِي يُقْرِضُ اللّهَ قَرْضًا حَسَنًا فَيُضَاعِفَهُ لَهُ أَضْعَافًا كَثِيرَةً وَاللّهُ يَقْبِضُ وَيَبْسُطُ وَإِلَيْهِ تُرْجَعُونَ

    "Who is he that will loan to Allah a beautiful loan, which Allah will double unto his credit and multiply many times?
    It is Allah that giveth (you) Want or plenty, and to Him shall be your return."
    Surah al-Baqarah
    [2:245]

    .:.
    .:. Perfer et Obdura : Dolor Hic Tibi Proderit Olim .:.
    Be patient and strong : someday this pain will be useful to you

    .:.
    ...said the spider to the fly...

  • #2
    Re: How to be a good husband?

    Seems like a solid list apart from maybe 1) which is not perhaps so realistic.

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    • #3
      Re: How to be a good husband?

      Jazakallah khayron

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      • #4
        Re: How to be a good husband?

        :jkk: good list.

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        • #5
          Re: How to be a good husband?

          Number 31 was my favorite. In general solid list.
          Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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          • #6
            Re: How to be a good husband?

            Number 16 is contrary to islamic teaching...
            should we not hurry up and cover quickly??

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            • #7
              How to be a good husband?

              Did none of you see what OP did?

              A lot of these are word for word what you'd find on a list for what wives should do, just with the genders reversed.

              Like #16 for example.

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              • #8
                Re: How to be a good husband?

                Originally posted by Ekoor View Post
                Number 16 is contrary to islamic teaching...
                should we not hurry up and cover quickly??
                I think OP means have good hygiene and look ur best which is the sunnah.
                "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."

                "Nothing protects the rights of the minority like the tyranny of the majority"

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                • #9
                  Re: How to be a good husband?

                  Originally posted by candyapple View Post
                  I think OP means have good hygiene and look ur best which is the sunnah.
                  Look at amount of water Nabi SAW used for water...
                  more time and water doesnt mean more clean

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                  • #10
                    Re: How to be a good husband?

                    Originally posted by Ekoor View Post
                    Look at amount of water Nabi SAW used for water...
                    more time and water doesnt mean more clean
                    Nobody said that :) rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wassallam wasn't wasteful.

                    But he did promote excellent hygene; wudu 5 times a day... bathing/ full ghusl/ miswak action with every wudu (recommended) etc

                    And in today's world the same concept of hygiene stands although I highly doubt many could keep up with rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wassallam's standard for hygene.
                    "If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor."

                    "Nothing protects the rights of the minority like the tyranny of the majority"

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                    • #11
                      Re: How to be a good husband?

                      Originally posted by candyapple View Post
                      Nobody said that :) rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wassallam wasn't wasteful.

                      But he did promote excellent hygene; wudu 5 times a day... bathing/ full ghusl/ miswak action with every wudu (recommended) etc

                      And in today's world the same concept of hygiene stands although I highly doubt many could keep up with rasulullah sallallahu alaihi wassallam's standard for hygene.
                      Yes we dont yet we spend huge amounts of time and water...

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                      • #12
                        Re: How to be a good husband?

                        :jkk:

                        I would be very happy, if find one who does 1/3 of it, In sha'Allah.
                        100% of it, would be amazing.
                        I would cook everyday his favorite food. lol.

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                        • #13
                          Re: How to be a good husband?

                          Thats an awesome list!! It may be too good to be true though.

                          But having self-awareness and knowing how to show gratitude for the little things, is so much better than throwing in expensive dinners and holidays. And it goes both ways.

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                          • #14
                            It's funny how many posts there are to tell men to be good spouse and almost none for women lol

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                            • #15
                              Re: How to be a good husband?

                              Too many points !

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