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    #16
    Re: problems with men today

    Originally posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
    What is it to be the one in charge of your home and the one that has authority?

    men these days seem to complain too much. complaining about women, their wives, feminism, complaining about their wives/women complaining, how tired they are when they get home, how women 'nag' them as soon as they step in. All the time complaining!

    Why are you complaining, just deal with it. So what if your wife doesn't cook when you get home and she starts talking about other things you didn't want to hear. Why can't she do that? she's a woman. Why can't you handle it?

    Why do we always have to tell sisters be like this when a man is upset or be like that when he comes home, don't talk too much, make sure the food is done etc
    when we don't tell brothers the same thing about women, that she is doing things like this because there is an issue going on with her and you're supposed to find a way to deal with it. Not sulk, get angry, over emotional and complain. This is what women do.
    Give us all a break. We women do as much or more whining about men than men do about us. Allah gave spouses rights over each other. You are supposed to obey your husband and do things to make him feel at ease and comforted. This is very important to a man. You cannot get mad at men for asking for their rights. As for your statement that when a woman is acting a certain way the man needs to just "deal with it" and not object, that is nonsense. You have your Islamic gender roles mixed up. You obey your husband, not the other way around. And your expectations that you can just sulk and complain, but the man cant, are ridiculous. The more you have expectations like this the more miserable you're going to be. The sooner you wake up to reality and put your big girl panties on, the better. If you don't like what's going on, change yourself first.

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      #17
      Re: problems with men today

      A very biased rant, I'm disappointed.
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        #18
        Re: problems with men today

        Originally posted by iguess View Post
        Give us all a break. We women do as much or more whining about men than men do about us. Allah gave spouses rights over each other. You are supposed to obey your husband and do things to make him feel at ease and comforted. This is very important to a man. You cannot get mad at men for asking for their rights. As for your statement that when a woman is acting a certain way the man needs to just "deal with it" and not object, that is nonsense. You have your Islamic gender roles mixed up. You obey your husband, not the other way around. And your expectations that you can just sulk and complain, but the man cant, are ridiculous. The more you have expectations like this the more miserable you're going to be. The sooner you wake up to reality and put your big girl panties on, the better. If you don't like what's going on, change yourself first.

        Well said. Thank Allah for a sane voice in this thread. Rumaysah sounds like typical entitled somali girl who just says deal with as the house is burning

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          #19
          Re: problems with men today

          Originally posted by Dinobot View Post
          Well said. Thank Allah for a sane voice in this thread. Rumaysah sounds like typical entitled somali girl who just says deal with as the house is burning
          What is with the personal attacks?
          “Whoever wants to purify his heart must prefer Allah over and above his own desires.” .

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            #20
            Re: problems with men today

            [MENTION=72731]Magic.[/MENTION] What you said lol.
            Pass out together on the couch every once in a while.
            I guess when you're friends, you take another tone when you share your stories with eachother, which makes them bearable.

            Marriage seems to me to be a mutual responsibility, just like lowering the gaze; the kuffar want to paint it black and white, blame either women for not dressing right or blame men for being perverts. As if they can't figure out both have to give to make it come together and work.
            Alhamdulillah, Allah(subhanahu wa ta'aala) gave us this wisdom long ago so we wouldn't have to live chaotically like the kuffar do and oppress eachother.

            I can't say women do something bad if they complain to their husband about things around her, but complaining about the spouse, regardless of whether the husband complains about her or the wife complains about him, should be handled delicately, after all you're supposed to be on the same team, you're your own LA Lakers lol. It doesn't help either of you to undermine the other, if you say something harsh to someone outside of the marriage you won't necessarily have to deal with them all day every day for the rest of your life, but your spouse is your spouse 24/7, you have to sleep next to them after the assaults at the end of the day.
            Say what somebody can do instead of the haram if you want to help.

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              #21
              Re: problems with men today

              Originally posted by iguess View Post
              Give us all a break. We women do as much or more whining about men than men do about us. Allah gave spouses rights over each other. You are supposed to obey your husband and do things to make him feel at ease and comforted. This is very important to a man. You cannot get mad at men for asking for their rights. As for your statement that when a woman is acting a certain way the man needs to just "deal with it" and not object, that is nonsense. You have your Islamic gender roles mixed up. You obey your husband, not the other way around. And your expectations that you can just sulk and complain, but the man cant, are ridiculous. The more you have expectations like this the more miserable you're going to be. The sooner you wake up to reality and put your big girl panties on, the better. If you don't like what's going on, change yourself first.
              :jkk: nailed it.

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                #22
                Re: problems with men today

                Originally posted by Rumaysah~ View Post
                What is it to be the one in charge of your home and the one that has authority?

                men these days seem to complain too much. complaining about women, their wives, feminism, complaining about their wives/women complaining, how tired they are when they get home, how women 'nag' them as soon as they step in. All the time complaining!

                Why are you complaining, just deal with it. So what if your wife doesn't cook when you get home and she starts talking about other things you didn't want to hear. Why can't she do that? she's a woman. Why can't you handle it?

                Why do we always have to tell sisters be like this when a man is upset or be like that when he comes home, don't talk too much, make sure the food is done etc
                when we don't tell brothers the same thing about women, that she is doing things like this because there is an issue going on with her and you're supposed to find a way to deal with it. Not sulk, get angry, over emotional and complain. This is what women do.
                Let's leave complaining about men to adult women okay?

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                  #23
                  Re: problems with men today

                  Originally posted by quark View Post
                  Let's leave complaining about men to adult women okay?
                  Ooooooooooooooo burn......
                  “Whoever wants to purify his heart must prefer Allah over and above his own desires.” .

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                    #24
                    Re: problems with men today

                    Originally posted by shay5 View Post
                    Every marriage is different but if a husband has been working hard all day and the woman stays at home....then why wouldn't you want to make your home environment welcoming and warm ......nice hot food on the table and give him time before you start unloading on him.....


                    agree with that point
                    You missed my point sis. Women will do all that and more when they are happy and satisfied. But women are not all the same.
                    And here is the thing, men want wives who will stay at home, not go out much, make him the centre of her world, and so on but when she is in the house all day with a bunch of kids, she needs an adult to talk to at the end of day, the same way he feels like he needs to rest or eat or something. Since he is the man here he needs to bear it, come home and give the wife whatever she needs instead of getting all upset that she is 'unloading'. A lot of women these days work and have kids, they come home and then do the cooking and cleaning and dealing with the kids. If they can do that why can't men do the same just by talking/listening or whatever she asks. Who made this rule about "no talking at the door" lol.

                    women talk. simple. They need to talk things out. why is she told that it is completely unacceptable to do that when her husband gets home. And my main point is why do men complain about it and lecture women about it.

                    what's funny is that in those lectures, talks, conversations etc they will mention in detail what men need or what they want. we've all heard it. But when it's about women "oh they are weird, they are emotional" "just give her your credit card" "buy some chocolate and she'll be quiet"
                    It's disrespectful and immature. Women are what they are, you can't 'fix' it. Just appreciate it and listen to what they are telling you.

                    Even on forum you see brothers complaining about sisters, "why do they get away with this and that". Yes even in life women are excused for things, prioritised or put back in other things because men and women are not the same. I thought that's what they all agreed to, why complain? kafir men are the worst at this, the absolute worst. I think it's unmanly behaviour tbh and horrible to listen to or read.
                    شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
                    فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
                    وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
                    ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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                      #25
                      Re: problems with men today

                      Go back to the kitchen kiddo.

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                        #26
                        Re: problems with men today

                        Originally posted by Dinobot View Post
                        Well said. Thank Allah for a sane voice in this thread. Rumaysah sounds like typical entitled somali girl who just says deal with as the house is burning
                        If i was the typical somali girl, I would be dealing with it, like the rest of the somali women who took on the men's role. I wouldn't be telling the men to deal with it. Even these guys who aren't doing nothing at all, who left the burning house to the women are still complaining.
                        شَكَوْتُ إلَى وَكِيعٍ سُوءَ حِفْظِي
                        فَأرْشَدَنِي إلَى تَرْكِ المعَاصي
                        وَأخْبَرَنِي بأَنَّ العِلْمَ نُورٌ
                        ونورُ الله لا يهدى لعاصي

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                          #27
                          Re: problems with men today

                          Men? Where are they?

                          Busy choosing a pair of skinny pants/jeans from Zara and a bag to go with it?

                          Men today are the women. And the women are the men.

                          I didn't think I'd see it in my lifetime.

                          I have seen such emasculation happen at such a rapid speed in front of my very own eyes. Where men don't even want to work and would rather pass the buck to the Mrs in every sense.

                          Lets not just focus on men though. The women, they want to prove themselves they can do it all. Let them and they will unfortunately come to a breaking pointing and have no one else to blame but themselves.

                          Both are just as bad as one another and that is the reason why the ummah as a whole is getting humiliated in every single direction.

                          We've been given limits for a very good reason and when there is no balance, of course everything will go wrong. We're a selfish ummah.
                          'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                          So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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                            #28
                            Re: problems with men today

                            Originally posted by Deeni Akh View Post
                            Exactly give and get, it's that simple!

                            :jkk:



                            :jkk:

                            Well I try to be positive because it keeps me going and those around me too :)
                            Wa iyaak :)
                            يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                            O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                            Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                              #29
                              Re: problems with men today

                              just look at this site. men on here complain about their most basic responsibility of providing food, shelter, clothing and the extra for their wife. most would just want to have sex then nothing else.

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                                #30
                                Re: problems with men today

                                Originally posted by Seoul View Post
                                just look at this site. men on here complain about their most basic responsibility of providing food, shelter, clothing and the extra for their wife. most would just want to have sex then nothing else.
                                That is exactly what it looks like!

                                Despicable.
                                'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                                So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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