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  • My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

    :salams

    It's been a bit longer than 5 mins since the last polygamy thread - I know - but I promise I have a fresh, new angle!

    So...what do you think of a hypothetical wife/potential placing these three conditions upon a hypothetical husband/potential if he happens to decide to go down the route of taking another wife:

    1. The additional wife/wives MUST reside in the same country as each other
    2. The husband MUST provide for all his wives out of his own pocket - nobody lives off of the state
    3. The husband MUST provide separate accommodation for each wife and her children

    What do y'all think? :brf:
    And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
    http://www.ummzakiyyah.com/polygamy_not_my_problem/

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    Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

    Originally posted by EenieMeanie View Post
    :salams

    It's been a bit longer than 5 mins since the last polygamy thread - I know - but I promise I have a fresh, new angle!

    So...what do you think of a hypothetical wife/potential placing these three conditions upon a hypothetical husband/potential if he happens to decide to go down the route of taking another wife:

    1. The additional wife/wives MUST reside in the same country as each other
    2. The husband MUST provide for all his wives out of his own pocket - nobody lives off of the state
    3. The husband MUST provide separate accommodation for each wife and her children

    What do y'all think? :brf:
    :wswrwb:

    Sounds very original.

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    • #3
      Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

      Originally posted by EenieMeanie View Post
      :salams

      It's been a bit longer than 5 mins since the last polygamy thread - I know - but I promise I have a fresh, new angle!

      So...what do you think of a hypothetical wife/potential placing these three conditions upon a hypothetical husband/potential if he happens to decide to go down the route of taking another wife:

      1. The additional wife/wives MUST reside in the same country as each other
      2. The husband MUST provide for all his wives out of his own pocket - nobody lives off of the state
      3. The husband MUST provide separate accommodation for each wife and her children

      What do y'all think? :brf:
      W.salam

      Its good to discuss ones fears i guess. Anyhow some of the things your outting conditions are non of your business if your bhusband decided he need practice the sunnah of the prophet saw.

      Your obly condition should be whether you live in the same house or not.
      Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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      • #4
        :wswrwb:

        Are you setting conditions not put by Allah ?
        Last edited by Linkdeutscher; 20-08-16, 10:25 PM.
        You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

        You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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        • #5
          Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

          The conditions would be set before marriage.

          The idea is that is is an alternative to the "If you remarry, you must divorce me" condition - which is valid imo as a man who has no plans to honour a condition in the marriage contract should not have married in the first place.

          Original or not - a man who could succesfully meet these conditions is probably the type that should be polygamous. Unlike the losers out there considering wife number 4 when wife number 1 is about to be evicted.
          And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
          http://www.ummzakiyyah.com/polygamy_not_my_problem/

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          • #6
            Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

            Originally posted by Linkdeutscher View Post
            :wswrwb:

            Are you setting conditions not put by Allah ?
            ???
            Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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            • #7
              :wswrwb:

              See nothing wrong with it.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by InTheBegining View Post
                Originally posted by Linkdeutscher View Post
                :wswrwb:

                Are you setting conditions not put by Allah ?
                ???
                ?
                You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

                You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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                • #9
                  Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                  Originally posted by Linkdeutscher View Post
                  ?
                  !!?
                  Believe none of what you hear, and only half of what you see.

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                  • #10
                    Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                    Originally posted by EenieMeanie View Post
                    :salams

                    It's been a bit longer than 5 mins since the last polygamy thread - I know - but I promise I have a fresh, new angle!

                    So...what do you think of a hypothetical wife/potential placing these three conditions upon a hypothetical husband/potential if he happens to decide to go down the route of taking another wife:

                    1. The additional wife/wives MUST reside in the same country as each other
                    2. The husband MUST provide for all his wives out of his own pocket - nobody lives off of the state
                    3. The husband MUST provide separate accommodation for each wife and her children

                    What do y'all think? :brf:
                    Shouldn't that be a given?
                    وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُواْ لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُواْ بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ
                    "And when My servants ask you (O Muhammad concerning Me, then answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright."
                    Surah al-Baqarah ayah 186
                    [2:186]

                    .:.
                    .:. Perfer et Obdura : Dolor Hic Tibi Proderit Olim .:.
                    Be patient and strong : someday this pain will be useful to you

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by Pippin1376 View Post
                      Originally posted by EenieMeanie View Post
                      :salams

                      It's been a bit longer than 5 mins since the last polygamy thread - I know - but I promise I have a fresh, new angle!

                      So...what do you think of a hypothetical wife/potential placing these three conditions upon a hypothetical husband/potential if he happens to decide to go down the route of taking another wife:

                      1. The additional wife/wives MUST reside in the same country as each other
                      2. The husband MUST provide for all his wives out of his own pocket - nobody lives off of the state
                      3. The husband MUST provide separate accommodation for each wife and her children

                      What do y'all think? :brf:
                      Shouldn't that be a given?
                      In a perfect world.

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                      • #12
                        Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                        Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
                        In a perfect world.
                        I don't understand. If you don't have enough money to support one wife, why are you getting another one?
                        وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُواْ لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُواْ بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ
                        "And when My servants ask you (O Muhammad concerning Me, then answer them), I am indeed near (to them by My knowledge). I respond to the invocations of the supplicant when he calls on Me (without any mediator or intercessor). So let them obey Me and believe in Me, so that they may be led aright."
                        Surah al-Baqarah ayah 186
                        [2:186]

                        .:.
                        .:. Perfer et Obdura : Dolor Hic Tibi Proderit Olim .:.
                        Be patient and strong : someday this pain will be useful to you

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                        • #13
                          Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                          :wswrwb:

                          Sounds good and reasonable. It would also be good to bring up the rules and regulations set by Allah, just in case he doesn't know them.

                          Maybe another good condition is that she has to be a practicing Muslimah.
                          Narrated Anas:
                          The Prophet (ﷺ) said, "None of you will have faith till he wishes for his (Muslim) brother what he likes for himself." [Bukhari]

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                          • #14
                            Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                            Originally posted by Pippin1376 View Post
                            Shouldn't that be a given?
                            I've yet to see a polygamous marriage where all three conditions have been met.

                            Also, sadly not a given. There are men who will marry these women and then their current wives have to go on benefits. Weirder still, these second/third/fourth wives accept these men.
                            And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
                            http://www.ummzakiyyah.com/polygamy_not_my_problem/

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                            • #15
                              Re: My conditions for Polygamy (kinda)

                              Originally posted by Linkdeutscher View Post
                              :wswrwb:

                              Are you setting conditions not put by Allah ?
                              What do u mean?

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