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  • #31
    Originally posted by Magic. View Post
    Originally posted by Deeni Akh View Post
    It's too much of a risk.

    Salah is a basic requirement to be a muslim, if a person is not consistent in that, its a major issue.

    Imagine they're still 'trying' to pray 5 times a day when kids come along, its too much of a risk tbh.
    If they marry someone who prays them all, they would be a done deal because that would immediately help them. Someone right there encouraging them.
    There's no guarantee they'll change bro.

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    • #32
      Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

      Originally posted by Linkdeutscher View Post
      Bad post.
      wait, i didn't mean i would prefer that type over the one who prays consistently. i just meant his struggling with prayers is not a reason for me personally to reject him.

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      • #33
        Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

        Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
        There's no guarantee they'll change bro.
        Precisely.
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        3. Remember your life is unique, don't compare yourself to others. Use that jealousy as an energy to make your life a success"
        4. Have healthy habits. Set a time each day to exercise. Try with the mindset you're only going to do some jumping jacks for 5 seconds and the next thing you know, you're doing a workout!
        5. Read, read, read. Ponder over the Qur'an, learn more. Put the idiot box (TV) away
        6. Take note. Desires make slaves out of kings and patience makes kings out of slaves.
        7. Results aren't just worldly. Results are also about perseverance, retaining dignity, being honest, being honourable, doing good unto others.
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        • #34
          Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

          Originally posted by Magic. View Post
          If they marry someone who prays them all, they would be a done deal because that would immediately help them. Someone right there encouraging them.
          How can you be sure it wouldn't have the opposite effect?

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          • #35
            Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tries

            و عليكم السلام و رحمة الله
            No. First thing I'd want to look at is if he'd be a good role model for my children in terms of deen which includes praying 5 times a day (on time) and reading/memorising Quran.
            إقراء القران فإنه يأتي يوم القيامة شفيعا لأصحابه

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            • #36
              Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

              I would have thought this was a non negotiable point

              If a person can't fulfil the right of Allah subhanahu wa ta ala then what hope do you have of them fulfilling your rights

              And if they reckon they'll change after marriage then why can't they change before marriage

              Big no from me lol
              The sunnah is like the ark of Noah, whoever embarks upon it reaches salvation and whoever refuses is drowned.
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              • #37
                Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                No

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                • #38
                  Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                  Originally posted by Magic. View Post
                  As in does sometimes, sometimes misses a Salah here and there.



                  As long as they are trying and asking for forgiveness, wouldn't this be okay?
                  Do you mean by them missing prayers because they happen to be busy with things that they cant come out of or asleep , and they feel remorse and sadness being unable to pray on time or they intentionally miss prayers because of laziness etc...

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                  • #39
                    Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                    Originally posted by muzzybee View Post
                    Do you mean by them missing prayers because they happen to be busy with things that they cant come out of or asleep , and they feel remorse and sadness being unable to pray on time or they intentionally miss prayers because of laziness etc...
                    Yes being asleep and sometimes intentionally missing it out of laziness. It happens and yes they do feel remorse over their actions. They are still going through this struggle with themselves but as everyone rightly said this is the bare minimum which shouldn't exceed human limit as they can manage it perfectly fine. Fine other times ibadah may be low and they commit numerous sins but praying is the biggest most important priority in their lives which I can resonate with.
                    8 powerful habits to succeed


                    1. Wake up early!
                    2. Do it as soon as possible, you could die tonight so make the best of today
                    3. Remember your life is unique, don't compare yourself to others. Use that jealousy as an energy to make your life a success"
                    4. Have healthy habits. Set a time each day to exercise. Try with the mindset you're only going to do some jumping jacks for 5 seconds and the next thing you know, you're doing a workout!
                    5. Read, read, read. Ponder over the Qur'an, learn more. Put the idiot box (TV) away
                    6. Take note. Desires make slaves out of kings and patience makes kings out of slaves.
                    7. Results aren't just worldly. Results are also about perseverance, retaining dignity, being honest, being honourable, doing good unto others.
                    8. Always encourage others especially our brothers and sisters, let them know making mistakes is okay, we all make mistakes, do not ever undermine them and make them feel incompetent. This is also true for the dunya, so what if they don't get the maths sum right the first time, that is what LEARNING is.

                    NEW UPDATE

                    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dJubtizAEfU


                    Watch this when you're distressed!

                    Comment


                    • #40
                      Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                      :salams

                      No I wouldn't. Salah is obligatory upon us and to see someone not performing the basics out of laziness would most certainly put me off from marrying them. Also salah differentiates us between non-believers.

                      There's a hadith which says that we were originally given 50 prayers!! http://sunnah.com/bukhari/8
                      However Muhammad :saw: asked Allah SWT to reduce this and it was eventually reduced to 5, However the reward of reading these 5 is still equivalent to 50 prayers!
                      Point is some of us forget that this favour was bestowed on us to make it easier for us yet some of us amongst us still don't manage to pray 5 in time which is quite ungrateful imo

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                      • #41
                        Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                        :salams

                        I'd assume every Muslim before looking for marriage at least is doing the minimum of what Islam asks for, which includes salat. In today's time many people speak about how they aren't ready for marriage, because their still working on a degree, they want to get a better job or promotion, they want to own a house, open a business, etc. yet it's hard to believe why many don't put the same importance in salat.

                        I don't think anyone looking for a spouse who prays five times a day is wrong thing either, today people get rejected for not having a degree or 80-100K yearly salary, rejecting someone for not praying shouldn't be looked down upon or we shouldn't try to encourage people to do so either.

                        Islam itself is a battle in one self, as the Prophet (pbuh) one of the biggest jihad is inside oneself and battling that, which includes prayer.

                        It all depends now, specific valid reason may not allow people to pray, or sometimes people have a drop in iman, which is understandable, but not praying because of laziness or lack of effort isn't valid enough.

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                        • #42
                          Re: Would you marry someone who prays five times a day all the time or someone who tr

                          Rasoolullah :saw: instructed us to order our children to pray when they turn seven years of age and to beat them if they do not pray at ten. This just shows the severity of missing salah in the Shariah.

                          There's no excuse at all for missing prayers - if one is unable to stand and pray, he must sit & offer prayers. If he's unable to sit, he must lay down & pray. If he still cannot pray, he must offer salaah with actions. But salaah cannot ever, ever,ever be missed - be it during travel, war or sickness.

                          So, a person who is lax about such an important pillar of our deen should be rejected straightaway. Let the person fix themself up before looking for a spouse.

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