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  • #16
    Re: How to share/manage money when married

    I'd go with separate accounts. She either has a card that she spends on and he pays for or she has a monthly allowance that is deposited into her account. If she works or has her own money, she keeps it in here and buys whatever extras she wants from that money. I think it's always good to have your own money, for both sides. I wouldn't want to see husband's purchases anyway. Marry someone responsible, that has similar views about spending and saving, and you shouldn't have to spend time monitoring this stuff. Keep it separate and each does their own thing.

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    • #17
      Re: How to share/manage money when married

      Originally posted by Nawar View Post
      Think you have a bigger problem of being ditzy enough to marry the wrong person to begin with.
      Sorry my post was more tounge in cheek really. .There is no correct answer..it depends on the individuals involved and what works for them...now please untwist yr unmentionables and have a nice day.

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      • #18

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        • #19
          Re: How to share/manage money when married

          Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
          Yes, I understand

          I don't want access via a shared account.

          I think money causes a lot of problems in marriages and having a shared account gives people the opportunity to create discord and doubts. Something I've seen that has made me think twice. I've seen men complain about it.

          I don't ask for much when it comes to material things just the bare necessities. He should have common sense when it comes to these necessities and how much they will cost him. If a man can't handle that then he should have remained single.
          you're a good woman. and yes any man who can't even give his wife the basics (or doesn't want to) is not a real man, just a loser

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          • #20
            Re: How to share/manage money when married

            I got an email similar to this from a Nigerian General...was that you?

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            • #21
              Re: How to share/manage money when married

              Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
              I got an email similar to this from a Nigerian General...was that you?
              that was probably the nigerian conman from ummah

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              • #22
                Re: How to share/manage money when married

                Originally posted by Alina15 View Post
                This is the scenario:

                - woman and man are married
                - husband prefers his wife to stay at home instead of working
                - wife agrees and husband is going to provide for everything

                Which way(s) do you think is/are the most suitable:

                The wife asks for money every time she needs to buy something
                There's a shared bank account
                The husband gives the wife a monthly pocket money for her personal shopping
                The husband goes with her wife every time she has to buy something and he will pay

                Or something else?
                My husband leaves money in a safe in the house where we both have access too and I can take money when ever I want from it (this is where we put the large amounts 100, 200, 500) and than we have another container with small change (you know 5 shekels and 10 shekels for small things) in it where I can also freely take how ever much I want.

                It's not like I take money everyday and when I do take money I'll tell my husband when he comes home "Oh I took 200 shekels today and used it on so and so." Even though he knows I don't waste money on stupid stuff I still like to tell him how much I took and what I spent it on
                Don't depend too much on anyone in this world because even your own shadow leaves you when you are in the darkness

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                • #23
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                  • #24
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                    I don't think she is being serious.

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                    • #25
                      Re: How to share/manage money when married

                      Originally posted by peras1 View Post
                      She has a roof over her head, food on the table, clothes, bills payed for.

                      if all of this is covered? Do you know how many members of your family you can feed with that much money back home?

                      You will never find a husband with this mindset.
                      Little do you know, and all ain't covered actually.

                      P.S - I'm not a husband and i don't need a husband with my mindset :wacko: that would be so wrong. Only one of us is allowed to be the wife.

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                      بل استغفر كثيرا

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                      • #26
                        Re: How to share/manage money when married

                        Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
                        I don't think she is being serious.
                        maybe you thinked wrong

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                        بل استغفر كثيرا

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                        • #27
                          Re: How to share/manage money when married

                          Shared account insha'Allah.

                          My money is habibti's money.

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                          • #28
                            Re: How to share/manage money when married

                            Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
                            Why assume the wife is being treated like a child? The husband and wife discuss her requirements and setup an arrangement that both are happy with. What's wrong with that?
                            Sure, providing all options are discussed.

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                            • #29
                              Re: How to share/manage money when married

                              Originally posted by londonmuslimguy View Post
                              Sorry my post was more tounge in cheek really. .There is no correct answer..it depends on the individuals involved and what works for them...now please untwist yr unmentionables and have a nice day.
                              Dirty mind, dirty tongue.

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                              • #30
                                Re: How to share/manage money when married

                                Originally posted by Nawar View Post
                                Sure, providing all options are discussed.
                                I think they should be free to discuss whatever they want...it's their marriage.

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