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  • #46
    Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

    Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
    Bit of an extreme conclusion to be making there.
    I didn't make a conclusion, you're doing that for me.

    I said that could be the reason.
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    • #47
      Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

      Originally posted by nonameakhi View Post
      TBH i was tempted to say that those type would marry anything with a pulse surely? not reject them
      I think she's saying that women in that industry look a certain way. So men who are overexposed to that will have warped expectations from a wife.

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      • #48
        Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

        Originally posted by nonameakhi View Post
        dont get it
        .
        Your eyes is the mirror to your heart and if u lowr ur gaze ur heart lowers its desires but if u look the desires in ur heart is provoked
        ibn al qayyim r.a
        Narrated by Anas ibn Malik RA: Allah's Messenger :saw: said. "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."

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        • #49
          Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

          Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
          I didn't make a conclusion, you're doing that for me.

          I said that could be the reason.
          Yes you are lol.

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          • #50
            Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

            Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
            Yes you are lol.
            lol

            I said that could be the reason
            'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

            So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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            • #51
              Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

              Originally posted by SpreadTheHaqq View Post
              . ibn al qayyim r.a
              We got a smart sister here

              Mash Allah

              :jkk:
              'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

              So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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              • #52
                Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                So anything you don't believe is called ranting?

                The subtle stuff? A person like you should be banning that or any other make up in front of a non mahram. There is no such thing as subtle stuff especially if you're a hard-core salafi (not saying you are)

                If you don't want to believe me that's your call. I'm not the only person that has witnessed this and that is why they're all the same, they just have to be 'decent'.

                It's very laughable you're saying that about dark skin. No one will take that seriously. It's more of a joke tbh
                I say ranting because i dont get your points, yeah it could be my understanding

                and no i am not hard core salafi and yes i always wanted to marry a dark skin person

                My family are generally light skinned, my younger brotehr recentky married a bengali lass and she is dark and it was a self found marriage

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                • #53
                  Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                  Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
                  Bit of an extreme conclusion to be making there.
                  i agree, thats just ott...

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                  • #54
                    Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                    Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                    We got a smart sister here

                    Mash Allah

                    :jkk:
                    im not really but thanks wa iyyak
                    Narrated by Anas ibn Malik RA: Allah's Messenger :saw: said. "When a woman observes the five times of prayer, fasts during Ramadan, preserves her chastity and obeys her husband, she may enter by any of the gates of Paradise she wishes."

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                    • #55
                      Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                      One I've noticed is the man wants a more family-oriented girl but the girl is more career-oriented and wants a husband who is cool with her being more career-minded. No doubt this can cause problems.

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                      • #56
                        Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                        what i always found funny is that men always lust after a certain type of woman when young but want something completely different for marriage purposes

                        This is why i find some of the comments hard to believe

                        Fathers who were players or men who are players always want their wives and daughters to be covered

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                        • #57
                          Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                          Originally posted by SpreadTheHaqq View Post
                          im not really but thanks wa iyyak
                          tbh you understood it and they couldn't even grasp the point i'm making

                          instead they're making up a conclusion on my behalf :rotfl:
                          'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                          So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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                          • #58
                            Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                            Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                            I don't know, you tell me?

                            The only thing I can think of is not lowering their gaze and probably being porn addicts maybe?

                            Mutual attraction is important but there is not point of acting like they will 'settle' for a pious individual. We know they want the whole package.
                            that is VERY unattractive and VERY disgusting. how do we make sure we don't marry someone like that?!
                            Indeed we belong to Allah,
                            and indeed to Him we will return.


                            Quran 2:156

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                            • #59
                              Originally posted by Khalid b. Walid View Post
                              One I've noticed is the man wants a more family-oriented girl but the girl is more career-oriented and wants a husband who is cool with her being more career-minded. No doubt this can cause problems.
                              Oh damn do I hate these 'career' women. May Allah keep them far away from me and my brothers.
                              You think you know more than my scholar's qiyās? He was more learned than you and all other scholars combined. Yeah, the devil was the greatest scholar too and look where his qiyās of fire being better than tīn got him. Sorry.

                              You follow your scholar's qiyās, and I will follow the Qur'ān and Sunnah.

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                              • #60
                                Re: A brothers perspective to marriage

                                Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
                                I think she's saying that women in that industry look a certain way. So men who are overexposed to that will have warped expectations from a wife.
                                That does happen I am sure but here is the thing most men who want a glamour model type wife dont go looking ta girls who are the opposite, do they?

                                I mean if my parents put a proposal forward to me, and they did, and the girl was everything i dint want it goes no further. Surely its the same for all?

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