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  • #46
    Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

    Originally posted by frustrated101 View Post
    I think you're talking about responsibility and not freedom?
    I think a husband will restrict you from doing things. Less freedom. More orders.

    Some dads are less strict and aren't breathing down their daughters neck all the time. Or ordering them around.

    I can use the internet when I want most of the time and still serve dad tea. Responsibilities? Scary. Daughters responsibilities are tough nowadays. We have to be the sons. No doubt being a wife requires more responsibilities.


    [MENTION=118372]londonmuslimguy[/MENTION]

    Hello! How are you?

    I'm surprised you didn't say:

    'Today I don't feel like doing anything
    I just wanna lay in my bed
    Don't feel like picking up my phone
    So leave a message at the tone
    'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything'

    :zzz:

    #slackerforlife
    'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

    So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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    • #47
      Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

      Whhhhyyyy noh?!
      The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “It will be said to the companion of the Qur’an: ‘Read, and ascend, and recite as you used to recite in the [previous] world, for your status will be according to the last verse that you recite.’” [At-Tirmidhi (2914) and Abu Dawood (1464)]

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      • #48
        Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

        Depends what you mean by a lovey dovey relationship. Marriage without love is like pizza without cheese. It's still edible but just doesn't taste right :(
        Ya Rab! When you give me wealth, do not take away my happiness. When you give me strength, do not take away my intelligence. When you give me victory, do not take away my humility. When you give me humility, do not take away my dignity.

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        • #49
          Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

          A marriage without romance is boring

          I expect my future spouse to cook for me I find it sooooo romantic and show that he loves me thru various romantic gestures ermmmm maybe for some it's cringeworthy like if the guy isn't comfortable with that level of romance or don't want to cook then he's not for me.
          If you really love someone, naturally you're romantic with them and I don't wanna be in a loveless marriage

          But yeah most women want romance so does men secretly
          Maybe not too lovey dovey where you guys do everything together or follow each other around all day :grief:
          But a healthy dose of romance keeps the love alive even saying romantic lines is good for the heart *flutters*

          The older generation is not really into romance from what I've seen but I think the younger generation is
          I feel sorry for spouses that don't kiss or hug or tell each other they love each other :(


          Originally posted by Thunderstorm View Post
          You can have a romantic relation with your spouse with occasional and meaningful expressions(they become more meaningful if they're occasional) without making it all cheesy. Big difference.
          What OP is asking, I think, is if women want "buy me chocolates, sing under my balcony, carry me over puddles" on an oversaturated, daily basis and a whole lot of "awww"-ing and giving eachother pet names in baby talk and all of that. This is repulsive to me at least, so I would ask the same.
          HEY some women want that too :freedom: except the awing or singing and baby talk but pet names I think are important too it's so endearing like honey come here instead of just come here you get me :distant:

          Eh you may find it repulsive now but you get used to it and it's kinda nice after you try it with the right person that is.

          They will say, "Had we but listened or used our intelligence, we would not be among the companions of the Blazing Fire." Qur'an 67:10 💚💙💜

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          • #50
            Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

            Originally posted by lulu85 View Post
            No not all women are into that .You should ask the woman before marriage what her needs are ,for someoneits very important. It's better to marry a soft woman ,she will be more feminine and obedient.usually women who are not tend me more dominating !not attractive in a woman at all !
            Agreed. A soft-hearted woman is true wife material.
            Last edited by Stoic Believer; 01-08-16, 11:48 PM.

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            • #51
              Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

              This is a brilliant thread. Mainly because of the spectrum of responses from sisters.

              Some seem to hate it and find it cringeworthy while others like it.

              This proves that this should be one of the things to discuss when meeting potentials: how important is romance and romantic gestures to you?

              Honestly it seems some sisters are so aggressive and highly strung that if you tried to hold their hand or rub their back (obviously within marriage) they would probably turn and punch you in the face for "getting into their personal space".

              Whereas more normal sisters would probably appreciate a daily or many time daily hand squeeze or hug.

              Gosh imagine being a man and your wife telling you to leave her alone because she finds your touching icky or uncomfortable. Big red flag. But one that could be avoided if sisters were honest from the outset :"I don't want a romantic man, I want an aggressive animal with bad manners". lol

              Finally remember that even if you are romantic and your wife likes it, pretty soon she will either complain that you are doing the same thing too often or she will say that you have a hidden agenda (intimacy for example) and that she isn't going to pander to it.

              Yes it's a minefield but one insha Allah that can be rectified.

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              • #52
                Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                Originally posted by Qiyamah View Post



                The older generation is not really into romance from what I've seen but I think the younger generation is
                I feel sorry for spouses that don't kiss or hug or tell each other they love each other :(

                .
                Couldn't disagree more with the above statement.

                The older generation understood the true meaning of romance.

                The younger generation, brought up on a diet of nonsencial Hollywood movies, have not got a clue about the real meaning of romance.

                Some fake and fluffy commercialised gesture like buying flowers and chocolates and going to the theatre is not true romance, I can tell you that now.

                The younger generation has a lot to learn.

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                • #53
                  Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                  [MENTION=54977]slaveuk[/MENTION] you actually raise a good point. I knew of a sister who hated being hugged - by her female friends - and I always used to joke: "what are you going to do when you get a husband?". Tbf she was at secondary school at the time so things might have changed since then.

                  I think it's really important to find out how tactile and affectionate a potential is in advance. Some peeps don't like it when you touch them and find it really annoying. I think it should be brought up early. Along with "how much time would be the ideal to spend together?" - some people like to hang out on their own and need their own space while others don't mind being with each other ALL THE TIME.

                  Romance and affection are sweet. Cornier and the more over the top the better. I'll pretend I'm too cool for it of course.
                  And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
                  http://www.ummzakiyyah.com/polygamy_not_my_problem/

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                  • #54
                    Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                    Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                    I think a husband will restrict you from doing things. Less freedom. More orders.

                    Some dads are less strict and aren't breathing down their daughters neck all the time. Or ordering them around.

                    I can use the internet when I want most of the time and still serve dad tea. Responsibilities? Scary. Daughters responsibilities are tough nowadays. We have to be the sons. No doubt being a wife requires more responsibilities.


                    [MENTION=118372]londonmuslimguy[/MENTION]

                    Hello! How are you?

                    I'm surprised you didn't say:

                    'Today I don't feel like doing anything
                    I just wanna lay in my bed
                    Don't feel like picking up my phone
                    So leave a message at the tone
                    'Cause today I swear I'm not doing anything'

                    :zzz:

                    #slackerforlife
                    Ha at least yr not denying it..poor u..no more living in a pig sty and stuffing yrself with greggs on a daily basis..not to mention the hours of shaving waxing plucking and applying layers of make up to beautify yourself..nah its his fault..he should be living in a dark cave all his life so he can appreciate your natural beauty lol.

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                    • #55
                      Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                      Yes, I want a really cheesy, lovey-dovey marriage inshaAllah.
                      الحرام قبل العيب، و الله قبل الناس

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                      • #56
                        Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                        Originally posted by londonmuslimguy View Post
                        Ha at least yr not denying it..poor u..no more living in a pig sty and stuffing yrself with greggs on a daily basis..not to mention the hours of shaving waxing plucking and applying layers of make up to beautify yourself..nah its his fault..he should be living in a dark cave all his life so he can appreciate your natural beauty lol.
                        :rotfl: hilarious, the mind of an amateur :1popcorn: thanks for the laugh

                        you keep thinking that because it's doing us all a favour

                        and don't eat greggs pasties cross contamination, they all get baked in the same oven as the bacons lol
                        'Whatever it be wherein ye differ, the decision thereof is with Allah: such is Allah my Lord: In Him I trust, and to Him I turn.' The Holy Qu'ran Al Shura (Consultation)

                        So, which of the favours of your lord will you deny? ~ Surah Ar Rahman

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                        • #57
                          Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                          Originally posted by Ya'sin View Post
                          :rotfl: hilarious, the mind of an amateur :1popcorn: thanks for the laugh

                          you keep thinking that because it's doing us all a favour

                          and don't eat greggs pasties cross contamination, they all get baked in the same oven as the bacons lol
                          Lol sorry I will leave it to the pros..gonna stop talking for a while. Maybe sit the next couple of plays out. You get waxing and watch a few make up tutorials on YouTube.

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                          • #58
                            Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

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                            And when it is said to them, "Do not cause corruption on the earth," they say, "We are but reformers." (11) Unquestionably, it is they who are the corrupters, but they perceive [it] not. (12) - Surat al-Baqarah
                            http://www.ummzakiyyah.com/polygamy_not_my_problem/

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                            • #59
                              Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                              Yeah bro we should be romantic to our wives just like how the prophet (saw) was to his wives.

                              Imagine how happy your habibti's going to get if you go home and surprise her with a rose or cook a surprise dinner for her :inlove:

                              We know the men like to hide their feelings but deep down they all want a cheesy lovey-dovey marriage. I'm just the louder one in the bunch :)

                              [MENTION=119080]zantz[/MENTION] embrace your romantic side bro

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                              • #60
                                Re: Do all girls want a lovey-dovey relationship?

                                Like sisters are showing diversity in this thread, we have to take it the other way as well - Men can be diverse in their expectations towards a relationship too.

                                Some men don't like romance. But others do.

                                And as others have pointed out in this thread, there is a difference between being romantic, and being cheesy (an over-exaggeration).

                                I've been married for a few years. My husband and I still enjoy holding hands, touching arms, cuddling, and yes, looking into each others' eyes occasionally. :P We both use nicknames for each other, have our own inside jokes and phrases, try to go to bed together as much as possible, etc. There's still fun. There's still laughter. There's still romance. Sometimes it may be a little cheesy, but I don't like that nearly all the time.

                                Every person and couple is different.

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