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  • ~Umar~
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    Re: Is not being experienced a problem

    Originally posted by shay5 View Post
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  • Simply_Logical
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    Originally posted by shay5 View Post
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  • Dinobot
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    Originally posted by shay5 View Post
    Let me explain it to you...OP was treated badly by a born Muslim man...she thought due to his lack of experience with women he made for a bad husband ,...and assumed a man with experience would have treated her better....I have set her straight...she was treated badly because she was married to an immature brat....not because her husband was inexperienced...
    And that is that

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  • shay5
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    Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
    If there's one thing this thread has taught me, its to word your OP very carefully.
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  • Stoic Believer
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    If there's one thing this thread has taught me, its to word your OP very carefully.

    Otherwise: voila, 12 page long train wreck

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  • zi-zizou
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    Originally posted by Muslima London View Post
    gasp

    when she talks about 'experiece' does she mean - like sexually experienced :shock:

    she also meant experienced as in life experience right, not just that bit
    Reminding you not to post in this thread.

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  • Muslima London
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    Originally posted by shay5 View Post
    Let me explain it to you...OP was treated badly by a born Muslim man...she thought due to his lack of experience with women he made for a bad husband ,...and assumed a man with experience would have treated her better....I have set her straight...she was treated badly because she was married to an immature brat....not because her husband was inexperienced...
    gasp

    when she talks about 'experiece' does she mean - like sexually experienced :shock:

    she also meant experienced as in life experience right, not just that bit

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  • Ya'sin
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    Why is this dirty thread STILL open?

    When was ummah forum the saviour for something like this? Something so serious and something that only leads to people becoming more and more lax regarding sins.

    It makes the already confused mind curious, it opens the doors to zinah, it justifies some of the reasons for zinaa indirectly (It's not you [MENTION=110507]aynina[/MENTION] but this is how the thread has turned into).

    It is a complete and utter disgrace that we are sitting here 'discussing' how 'experienced' a man should be to appreciate his wife to be, and how to prevent him ditching her after marriage because there is no interest.

    Lower your gaze, don't watch porn, don't fantasise, get a reality check and learn about islam and its teaching regarding intimacy as well as the responsibilities of marriage. That is your solution.

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  • shay5
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    Re: Is not being experienced a problem

    Originally posted by Magic. View Post
    I am not married so this means I will treat women badly compared to someone who has gfs in the past or has married before.


    Or something along those lines...?
    Let me explain it to you...OP was treated badly by a born Muslim man...she thought due to his lack of experience with women he made for a bad husband ,...and assumed a man with experience would have treated her better....I have set her straight...she was treated badly because she was married to an immature brat....not because her husband was inexperienced...

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  • Magic.
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    Originally posted by noobz View Post
    that just means ur not experiences enough.
    I am not married so this means I will treat women badly compared to someone who has gfs in the past or has married before.


    Or something along those lines...?

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  • birdmanrots
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    Re: Is not being experienced a problem

    Originally posted by Magic. View Post
    I just don't get any of this thread. :\
    Don't worry,someone had ro explain it to me, but that's because OP doesn'r make sense

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  • noobz
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    Originally posted by Magic. View Post
    I just don't get any of this thread. :\
    that just means ur not experiences enough.

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  • Winter
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    Originally posted by Muslima London View Post
    ewww lol - sounds dodgy
    what I am trying to say is that I have found through experience that its often those guys who have a past , who are more open to marriage to a divorcee with kids

    now this is obv making a judgement on whether they are suitable marriage partners or not, but generally those who say they are really practising, really religious are usually the first ones to reject you. because they are loking for someone with no 'baggage'

    so why is this???

    I often used to think that if you were highly practising you would see a hardship of the dunya (e.g. raising someone elses's children) as something that would earn you more blessing and a better place in Jannah. not saying I am a charity case or anything


    anyway as PB said, we will marry who Allah swt has destined us to marry, or NOT mary at all so khair don't care. [MENTION=104157]zi-zizou[/MENTION], remind me to not post on thisse threads please. don't know why I do it
    While I do agree here, but women also need to be careful. Just because someone ha a past and is open to marrying doesn't mean he's the right person.

    As far as it goes some brothers hold that stigma against married women or influenced by family not to pursue them, while other genuine fear, expectation the wife will have considering she was married before, intimacy if the guy never did this the fact the wife could be comparing him with the ex and so forth. If kids are involved being a father right off the bat, how will the relationship be after they get older, if you have kids will you be biased, maybe disputes argument with spouse due to that issue, etc.
    Last edited by Winter; 09-07-16, 09:07 PM.

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  • Dinobot
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    This thread is a prime reason why the best quality of the muslim ummah is enjoining what is good and forbidding what is evil. A lot of muslims these days wanna live their life and do all the haram on earth and then say don't judge me. Only Allah can do so. This builds apathy. And like one of you said, apathy to sins such as zina will lead to the downfall of this ummah.

    That's why no muslim or a muslimah should take zina lightly.

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  • hassaan561
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    Originally posted by Khalid b. Walid View Post
    I do think we have become desensitised to zina as it has become so widespread. And in Western society and media fornication is glorified and being a virgin is seen as being a loser.

    But it's dangerous when this starts to affect Muslims where Muslims start to regard zina as something minor, when in reality it's up there with the most major of sins like murder.






    Thats a risk that can happen when your trivialise a sin as normal, and it just opens the floodgates for more people to do it.

    If there is a fear that this is something major and I am ruined if I do this then people will more likely to stay away and run away from it if it comes near.
    exactly so thats why im ok if someone gets divorce if their spouse cheats so it can let others know its not ok and people will leave u. or if someone rejects a rishta if the person drinks or does drugs or has had gf or bf relation because others will know its bad and they wont marry a good muslim if they engage in this behavior .

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