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  • #76
    Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

    Originally posted by F_R View Post
    Ooooh shots fired
    [MENTION=122588]Fragile[/MENTION] what's your comeback gonna be?
    He's been closed... He's Just having an unusual tantrum Over it.. I'm sure some quiet time on the naughty step would do him good
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    • #77
      Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

      Originally posted by F_R View Post
      And yours is you



      Has it? In a good or bad way? Or were your expectations of how I "should" behave made from the clouds?

      At least it stopped the argument
      Yhh I don't think it has stopped the arguments actually
      They say good things come to those who wait, so imma be at least an hour late

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      • #78
        Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

        [MENTION=136911]Mutant[/MENTION] Had you seen your wife in such a state, and see her break down when she sees you cringe, I think you'd change your mind.

        That said, I wouldn't leave over that. I won't ever have to make the decision for that matter, if I get married it'll be a miracle.
        Say what somebody can do instead of the haram if you want to help.

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        • #79
          Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

          Originally posted by ibzy View Post
          This thread went dark pretty quick
          it didnt turn dark just stupid

          its amusing how ppl can take a person like mutant seriously
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          • #80
            Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

            It depends on how long I am with the person. If it happened in less than ten years then I could leave, anything lower I well most likely leave. But if it happened after we were married for 30 plus years then no way would I leave. if you stay with someone that long in this time and age were the average divorce happens in 2 years, you wont leave until you either die or she dies.

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            • #81
              Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

              Depends how long I was with her, how serious and how good of a spouse she is.

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              • #82
                Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                Yes. You don't run out ofor marriage because someone becomes ill or becomes disabled. What if you had children who were born with a disability
                . Wall out on them too. Some people have very selfish attitudes.
                No Longer On UF

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                • #83
                  Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                  Originally posted by sister_82 View Post
                  Yes. You don't run out ofor marriage because someone becomes ill or becomes disabled. What if you had children who were born with a disability
                  . Wall out on them too. Some people have very selfish attitudes.
                  you're comparing apples to oranges......

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                  • #84
                    Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                    I don't know how I will think at that very moment. However if something like that really happens one day then I hope I would look after her.
                    That's probably the only thing I can say.

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                    • #85
                      Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                      I would do everything in my power to care for them and give them the support and loved they deserve, especially if they ever had an accident that caused a deformation.

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                      • #86
                        Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                        I would stay with my spouse regardless of her state. Her vulnerability only increases my love. I am not with my spouse for what she is but who she is. God forbid if anything were to happen to her I'd treat her like nothing happened to her. I'd never abandon her in a time when she feels abandoned. I'd strive to make her feel as normal as possible so that she feels normal and not abnormal.

                        I do not understand spouses that abandon each other in these circumstances when they are at their lowest emotionally and physically. It's like shooting the person in the heart.

                        Any spouse that abandons their partner when they became "abnormal" did not deserve to be with the person when they were "normal"

                        Also I didn't read the OP just the title so apologies if this is off topic.
                        Last edited by InTheBegining; 19-06-16, 10:50 PM.
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                        • #87
                          Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                          no
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                          • #88
                            Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                            I think the majority of those saying no are not married.
                            And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                            • #89
                              Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                              Originally posted by Strive View Post
                              I think the majority of those saying no are not married.
                              yeah.

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                              • #90
                                Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                                Originally posted by Strive View Post
                                I think the majority of those saying no are not married.
                                Yeah I can't imagine a person in even an average marriage would be like that because there's a lot that goes into marriage. A lot of males have their wife as their best and sometimes only friend, it becomes more than just a matter of looks.

                                I think it's possible that from a purely shar`i perspective, it might be hard to say that it's haram if someone left their wife in her time of need (though if it can be proven to keep people in check, I wouldn't mind). But kamaa tudeenu tudaan. Allah (swt) is not obligated to show anyone mercy when they stand before him on the Day of Judgment, and just like how such simple good deeds can open the doors to heaven for people, I think if someone is guilty of something like this, they might find themselves being accounted for sins that might have otherwise been forgiven with Allah (swt)'s mercy.
                                والمبادرة إلى التكفير إنما تغلب على طباع من يغلب عليهم الجهل - ابن تيمية رحمه الله - بغية المرتاد

                                "Rushing towards takfir is an attitude which is dominant over those who are defeated by ignorance." - Ibn Taymiyyah Rahimahullah [Bughyatul Murtaad, page 354]

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