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  • Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

    The other day I was reading the following post on instagram and it made me think. Not sure how many Muslim men would do this tbh :/

    “A little different to what we usually post, but an amazing story! A True Gentlemen - The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him: "Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?" His reply touched the world: "I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams." True love is unconditional love”
    And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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    Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

    No way

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    • #3
      Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

      Originally posted by Mutant View Post
      No way
      Wow! At least you're honest I guess......
      And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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      • #4
        Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

        Who can see into the future? Why make hypothetical threads? Also ask yourself if after marriage you became ill say terminal illness or disabled or whatever how would you feel if your spouse whom you love then left you?
        82. Verily, when He intends a thing, His Command is, "be", and it is! 83. So glory to Him in Whose hands is the dominion of all things: and to Him will you be all brought back. Quran surah 36: Ya-sin

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        • #5
          Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

          hmm, what a difficult q

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          • #6
            Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

            Muslim women might also might do this so I don't know why you just aimed it at men.
            If you memorize just 1 verse from the Quran everyday you would become a hafiz in 18 years and that's the Slowest pace, so what's stopping you?
            And if you die during that time, then you at least had the intention of becoming a Hafiz


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            • #7
              Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

              You cant really know how you would feel when that happens
              يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

              O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

              Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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              • #8
                Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                Originally posted by Strive View Post
                The other day I was reading the following post on instagram and it made me think. Not sure how many Muslim men would do this tbh :/

                “A little different to what we usually post, but an amazing story! A True Gentlemen - The Australian ex-model Turia Pitt suffered burns to 65 per cent of her body, lost her fingers and thumb on her right hand and spent five months in hospital after she was trapped by a grassfire in a 100 kilometre ultra-marathon in the Kimberley. Her boyfriend decided to quit his job to care for her recovery. Days ago, in an interview for CNN they asked him: "Did you at any moment think about leaving her and hiring someone to take care of her and moving on with your life?" His reply touched the world: "I married her soul, her character, and she's the only woman that will continue to fulfill my dreams." True love is unconditional love”
                that is the difference betwewen a marriage based on looks and one based on character, deen and personality
                Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Don’t ruin your happiness with worry, and don’t ruin your mind with pessimism. Don’t ruin your success with deception and don’t ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Don’t ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
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                If you think about your situation, you will find that Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) has given you things without asking, so have trust in Allaah (سبحانه وتعالى) that He doesn’t prevent anything you want except there is goodness for you.

                You could be sleeping and the doors of the heavens are being opened with dua’as being made on your behalf, SubhanAllaah: perhaps from someone poor whom you helped, or someone sad whom you brought joy, or someone passing by and you smiled at him, or someone in distress and you removed it.. so don’t ever underestimate any good deeds."



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                • #9
                  Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                  I feel like the guys who married for non-shallow reasons are more likely to stay and true love their wives.

                  Dumb shallow guys might leave.

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                  • #10
                    Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                    Originally posted by DaughterOfAdam View Post
                    I feel like the guys who married for non-shallow reasons are more likely to stay and true love their wives.

                    Dumb shallow guys might leave.
                    ^ This
                    “And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than (his) jugular vein.” (Quran 50:16)

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                    • #11
                      Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                      Originally posted by DaughterOfAdam View Post
                      I feel like the guys who married for non-shallow reasons are more likely to stay and true love their wives.

                      Dumb shallow guys might leave.
                      Sure

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                      • #12
                        Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                        Originally posted by DaughterOfAdam View Post
                        I feel like the guys who married for non-shallow reasons are more likely to stay and true love their wives.

                        Dumb shallow guys might leave.
                        That's one of my worries, marrying a shallow guy.
                        And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                        • #13
                          Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                          If you married him for reasons other than looks i don't think you would leave .
                          Ya Allah,
                          Make me a stronger person today. Make me a better person out of all these. It is no longer bearable for me for my heart is aching and You are the only One who knows how I feel. Nothing is making sense to myself and for anyone else for that matter especially to the one person I wish to understand me better than anybody else.
                          "Don't use the sharpness of your tongue on the mother who taught you how to speak

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                          • #14
                            Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                            Originally posted by Strive View Post
                            That's one of my worries, marrying a shallow guy.
                            I think it's easy to tell which guys are shallow and which ones are not. The shallow type would normally go on about wanting to marry a beautiful woman.

                            I would advise to maintain proper hijab and abaya (look as dull and plain as possible), no makeup etc. and then that deters the shallow guys.

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                            • #15
                              Re: Would you stay with your spouse if they became deformed?

                              I remember at my last masjid, i used to see this handsome brother pushing a wheel chair every friday. This is why u shud always marry a practising man, because he fears allaah concerning you.

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