I'm counting down the days until I meet my beloved....

[Ikki]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

I was planning on apologizing to my cousin serra, who is 15, for telling her about two years ago that I was in love with her...

What happened to Nurgus?

[Ikki]

Re: A few weeks ago, I wrote down a list of memories....

Best to keep it to yourself bro :up: the memories may seem cute an all but revealing them to her may not end positively.

Which comes second only to revealing them all the internet, and third to her reading about herself on the internet.

[Ikki]

Re: I'm counting down the days until I meet my beloved....

as of june 17, 2016, I have an estimated between 1,675 and 1,720 days left (based on when I'll get a job for my global studies, or finance or economic major) until I possibly begin courting the girl I left behind in Florida over skype, and a little bit more than that until my possible wedding.....so far it has been 7-8 years since we were friends.....call me crazy if you want, but if I didn't use this coping strategy, I would be doing crazier things.........what do you think about me counting down the days until I meet my beloved?

I think it's bonkers and a bit creepy. You're putting her on this pedestal with all these expectations, when she's just a human being. I hope after marriage you don't expect her to live up to some ideal you've fixed in your mind, and just let her be herself and love her anyway.

You need to find a healthier hobby.

:salams

How much Quran have you read so far this Ramadan?

A good question.

[Striving for Janna]

Re: I'm counting down the days until I meet my beloved....

Love hurts

It does indeed.

[abuadila]

Re: I'm counting down the days until I meet my beloved....

Love hurts

[Deeni Akh]

Re: A few weeks ago, I wrote down a list of memories....

Best to keep it to yourself bro :up: the memories may seem cute an all but revealing them to her may not end positively.

[muslim singafuri]

Re: A few weeks ago, I wrote down a list of memories....

I wrote down a list of memories of my childhood crush a few weeks ago, while I was on vacation with my family......I came up with 78 memories, although some of them did not involve her directly but rather memories indirectly associated with her, such as memories of her family members......one of them includes when I was 6 or 7, and I was sitting on a couch in another person's house, and I wanted Nurgul to sit next to me, so I stared at her and patted the couch to signal to her to come snuggle with me.....because I was too shy to tell her directly....but she didn't get the signal...so I left a note in the couch saying "I love you," and left it in the couch, only to have it discovered by a teenage sister......another was her middle name, her birthday (which was the same day and year as mine),,,,,,things we did together, other details about her, events, etc......is this creepy, or romantic? when I start courting this sister (if I do) years from now, when should I tell her that I've compiled this list of memories?

Don't. She will feel creeped out

[Bint Radical]

Re: A few weeks ago, I wrote down a list of memories....

#strivingforwaifu more like it

[candyapple]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

get married

The brothers parents aren't supporting him getting married atm :(

[muslimboy764]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

get married

[candyapple]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

same girl

U know bro a day will come when u marry whomever Allah wills and u feel immense love for ur wife in shaa Allah... but until that day I think we're all hoping that u can try and get past this difficult phase for u... ur really smart like I said before, if u can focus on ur education and career for now til Allah wills the time for u to get married comes along, it will save u so much trouble :)

[Comrox]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

same girl

You really need to let go of her. Stop talking about her, stop thinking about her; occupy your mind and life with something else other than her or any topic related to marriage. Please. For your own good. You'll never forget her and move on if you're continuously dwelling on her.

[Striving for Janna]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

How many girl cousins do you have mate? Or are you making threads about the same girl?

same girl

[quark]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

I was planning on apologizing to my cousin serra, who is 15, for telling her about two years ago that I was in love with her (which is not modest, as I was 15 and she was 13). I was planning on telling her this when I visit her in Turkey next summer, in about a year.....however, I had an ulterior motive....I wanted her to say, "it's okay.....and I'm in love with you, too" and I was planning on apologizing to her when alone so she could tell me if she loves me or not without anyone else interfering......since I have this ulterior motive, should I just drop it?

How many girl cousins do you have mate? Or are you making threads about the same girl?

[candyapple]

Re: Should I not apologize if I have bad intentions?

I was planning on apologizing to my cousin serra, who is 15, for telling her about two years ago that I was in love with her (which is not modest, as I was 15 and she was 13). I was planning on telling her this when I visit her in Turkey next summer, in about a year.....however, I had an ulterior motive....I wanted her to say, "it's okay.....and I'm in love with you, too" and I was planning on apologizing to her when alone so she could tell me if she loves me or not without anyone else interfering......since I have this ulterior motive, should I just drop it?

Ooh drop it like hot coals bro :)