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    Salam aleiykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

    Note: i dont want you all to see me as sad and depressed and pity me, I'm a happy woman i just wonder abt the following;

    So i got divorced (or still tryna get divorced muhim) about a month ago, i do still want to have a family and all that, i love kids... but the tought of a man in my life just puts me off so much atm, i feel like, having been trough this, just exhausted me emotionally, and i feel like i wont have strong feelings for any man again.
    In the sense that it will just be my husband and not that dreamy ideal of 'the man of my life'.


    I mean is it so that one day you meet that gr8 guy u always dreamed about, or will he just be the next guy?

    I dont rly think i can believe in that princessy teenage dream bs anymore
    What do you guys think, do feelings recover or just like reduce along the way?
    I feel so sad for my future husband if im only gna have my left overs to offer him.
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

    Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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    Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

    :wswrwb:

    May Allah swt shower his mercy upon you. Ameen

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    • #3
      Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

      :wswrwb:

      i don't think you're being overly emotional, it's nice of u to think like this for your future husband inshaAllah. By I think it's still early days and it takes times for hearts to heal. Even in Islam the iddah is 3 months right... So like in that time you should help yourself become you again.

      i've gone through points in my life where ive been numb or I thought I wouldn't feel again but a new situation arises and new emotions u didn't know even existed come up. As you get older that 'bubble' pops anyway but I think there's benefit in that because u don't wanna see ur husband as the most ideal man. Just another imperfect human being that u will strive with to gain Allah swt pleasure.

      dont let it dishearten you because it's still way too early and normally people say it takes half the length of time you've been married to get over the person if u do get divorced.

      find the happiness in life in other ways and keep making dua for Allah swt to heal your heart

      read the dua of yunus as and reflect on the story of Yusuf as and even after such emotional incidences how he remained patient and always remember

      [53:43] He is the One who makes you laugh or cry.
      ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
      "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
      :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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      • #4
        Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

        Originally posted by aynina View Post
        Salam aleiykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

        Note: i dont want you all to see me as sad and depressed and pity me, I'm a happy woman i just wonder abt the following;

        So i got divorced (or still tryna get divorced muhim) about a month ago, i do still want to have a family and all that, i love kids... but the tought of a man in my life just puts me off so much atm, i feel like, having been trough this, just exhausted me emotionally, and i feel like i wont have strong feelings for any man again.
        In the sense that it will just be my husband and not that dreamy ideal of 'the man of my life'.


        I mean is it so that one day you meet that gr8 guy u always dreamed about, or will he just be the next guy?


        I dont rly think i can believe in that princessy teenage dream bs anymore
        What do you guys think, do feelings recover or just like reduce along the way?
        :wswrwb:

        Sounds like you are growing up so it all sounds good to me. It's the difference between a woman and a girl.

        The last line you should remove as it's no way anyone should talk about themselves!

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        • #5
          Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

          If Allah grants you a good husband and puts love between you and mercy, your feelings can change in an instant inshaAllah.

          If I went through a divorce (and I was close to it) I myself would not want to be near another woman for as long as possible myself.

          But if Allah wills, all of this will be a lesson for you and it will make you stronger and wiser.

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          • #6
            Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
            :wswrwb:

            i don't think you're being overly emotional, it's nice of u to think like this for your future husband inshaAllah. By I think it's still early days and it takes times for hearts to heal. Even in Islam the iddah is 3 months right... So like in that time you should help yourself become you again.

            i've gone through points in my life where ive been numb or I thought I wouldn't feel again but a new situation arises and new emotions u didn't know even existed come up. As you get older that 'bubble' pops anyway but I think there's benefit in that because u don't wanna see ur husband as the most ideal man. Just another imperfect human being that u will strive with to gain Allah swt pleasure.

            dont let it dishearten you because it's still way too early and normally people say it takes half the length of time you've been married to get over the person if u do get divorced.

            find the happiness in life in other ways and keep making dua for Allah swt to heal your heart

            read the dua of yunus as and reflect on the story of Yusuf as and even after such emotional incidences how he remained patient and always remember

            [53:43] He is the One who makes you laugh or cry.

            Aww thank you sis, that was really nice of you :love:
            يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

            O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

            Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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            • #7
              Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
              :wswrwb:

              Sounds like you are growing up so it all sounds good to me. It's the difference between a woman and a girl.

              The last line you should remove as it's no way anyone should talk about themselves!
              Yeah growing up isnt that nice after all, what do you mean by the last sentance? Is it offensive
              يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

              O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

              Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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              • #8
                Originally posted by A.Basheer View Post
                If Allah grants you a good husband and puts love between you and mercy, your feelings can change in an instant inshaAllah.

                If I went through a divorce (and I was close to it) I myself would not want to be near another woman for as long as possible myself.

                But if Allah wills, all of this will be a lesson for you and it will make you stronger and wiser.
                Yeah i feel the same, it seems like such a drag, even tho i want a family, i dont rly have energy to even receive love, that sounds very weird lol
                يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                • #9
                  Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                  Growing up is weird

                  and sometimes I think it's just married people that feel they lose that airy fairyness like :inlove: but even if you're not married that feeling goes too... Like I think you get older and wiser to the fact that no one on earth will ever be able to satisfy you and even good feelings emotions are temporary
                  ...And he who fears Allah - He will make for him a way out. [65:3]
                  "Put your trust in Allah, certainly, Allah loves those who put their trust (in Him)."
                  :love: [Al-Imran 3:159] :love:

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                  • #10
                    Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                    Originally posted by RaNdOm View Post
                    Growing up is weird

                    and sometimes I think it's just married people that feel they lose that airy fairyness like :inlove: but even if you're not married that feeling goes too... Like I think you get older and wiser to the fact that no one on earth will ever be able to satisfy you and even good feelings emotions are temporary
                    Cant we be grown up & fairylike :( i dont wanna change :( am i gna turn into my mum :crying2::crying2:
                    Thats terrifyingl
                    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                    Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                    • #11
                      Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                      Originally posted by aynina View Post
                      Salam aleiykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

                      Note: i dont want you all to see me as sad and depressed and pity me, I'm a happy woman i just wonder abt the following;

                      So i got divorced (or still tryna get divorced muhim) about a month ago, i do still want to have a family and all that, i love kids... but the tought of a man in my life just puts me off so much atm, i feel like, having been trough this, just exhausted me emotionally, and i feel like i wont have strong feelings for any man again.
                      In the sense that it will just be my husband and not that dreamy ideal of 'the man of my life'.


                      I mean is it so that one day you meet that gr8 guy u always dreamed about, or will he just be the next guy?

                      I dont rly think i can believe in that princessy teenage dream bs anymore
                      What do you guys think, do feelings recover or just like reduce along the way?
                      I feel so sad for my future husband if im only gna have my left overs to offer him.


                      Do something else, take up a hobby or something. Keep yourself busy, so you don't feel this way. Its not uncommon for you to feel that especially when it hasn't been long since your divorce.

                      Give it some time. When you feel like you have recovered emotionally, then perhaps you can look for someone else again.

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                      • #12
                        Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                        Originally posted by R123 View Post
                        Do something else, take up a hobby or something. Keep yourself busy, so you don't feel this way. Its not uncommon for you to feel that especially when it hasn't been long since your divorce.

                        Give it some time. When you feel like you have recovered emotionally, then perhaps you can look for someone else again.
                        Yeah true, i think i should just leave it for a while, not that im looking for a man atm, im just having that feeling u knw
                        يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                        O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                        Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                        • #13
                          Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                          Sounds like you're maturing.

                          Things like divorce tend to do that.

                          Or you just need to give it a few months.

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Stoic Believer View Post
                            Sounds like you're maturing.

                            Things like divorce tend to do that.

                            Or you just need to give it a few months.
                            Yeah probably both, altough i was already very mature, i think i may say that about myself, im just scared to mature too much to the extend that i lose my identity, and walk around being like everyone else
                            يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

                            O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

                            Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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                            • #15
                              Re: Emotionally exposing myself (akward)

                              Originally posted by aynina View Post
                              Salam aleiykum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh

                              Note: i dont want you all to see me as sad and depressed and pity me, I'm a happy woman i just wonder abt the following;

                              So i got divorced (or still tryna get divorced muhim) about a month ago, i do still want to have a family and all that, i love kids... but the tought of a man in my life just puts me off so much atm, i feel like, having been trough this, just exhausted me emotionally, and i feel like i wont have strong feelings for any man again.
                              In the sense that it will just be my husband and not that dreamy ideal of 'the man of my life'.


                              I mean is it so that one day you meet that gr8 guy u always dreamed about, or will he just be the next guy?

                              I dont rly think i can believe in that princessy teenage dream bs anymore
                              What do you guys think, do feelings recover or just like reduce along the way?
                              I feel so sad for my future husband if im only gna have my left overs to offer him.
                              Sister, do yourself more justice, you have much more than ''left overs'' to offer your future hubby, please don't utter such words. Do you know what your value is as a Muslim woman? Allah SWT dedicated a whole chapter for women in the holy Quran....he created the female from the rib to walk alongside a man.

                              Women are tough creatures, heaven is laid at the feet of woman (when she becomes a mother), sister....I've witnessed first hand how my mother remarried and then helped my step father build his business, Mash'Allah.

                              So....no.....you don't have left overs to offer, you have much much much more. Insh'Allah.
                              He who loses money, loses much.

                              He who loses a friend, loses more.

                              He who loses faith, loses ALL.

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