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  • #16
    Originally posted by ForeverMonotheist1 View Post


    Distance marriage l
    Some do it. Can u believe that!

    They visit their wives once a year for a month or longer.
    Wow painfull, i would not feel loved at all, my husband doesnt even wanna see me... lol maybe some woman like the 11 months freedom...
    يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

    O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

    Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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    • #17
      Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

      It can work for you if you have a second wife
      “Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people so that you protect yourself from their evils.”


      Hadhrat Ali (Radiallahu anhu)

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      • #18
        Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

        Originally posted by Sky Lark View Post
        It can work for you if you have a second wife
        Hmmm...tell me more.


        (Depending on how far apart they all are, it sounds tricky logistically and therefore probably unjust to one or both).

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        • #19
          Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

          Originally posted by Sky Lark View Post
          It can work for you if you have a second wife
          Allah says that you should not leave a woman as if she were hanging in the air (4:129); so that she is neither single, so she can marry, nor married in the sense of enjoying her rights as a wife.

          And He also says:
          فإمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان
          "Either keep her in an acceptable manner
          or release her with good treatment" (2:229)

          And part of "keeping her in an acceptable manner" is that the wife should be able to see, touch and sleep with him more often. Otherwise, this is unjust to her.

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          • #20
            Exactly^^
            يَٰٓأَيُّهَا ٱلنَّاسُ ٱعْبُدُوا۟ رَبَّكُمُ ٱلَّذِى خَلَقَكُمْ وَٱلَّذِينَ مِن قَبْلِكُمْ لَعَلَّكُمْ تَتَّقُونَ

            O mankind, worship your Lord, who created you and those before you, that you may become righteous

            Surah Al Baqarah ayah 21

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            • #21
              Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

              Originally posted by Sky Lark View Post
              It can work for you if you have a second wife
              lool

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              • #22
                Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                It's fine to marry a person from another continent provided the couple is planning to move together very soon.

                However, if they've arranged to live seperately for a long period of time, just meeting one another once/twice a year, it won't be a happy or successful marriage. In fact, it will defeat one of the fundamental principles of marriage i.e. to keep away from sin.
                Nor will such a marriage provide contentment or bliss.

                Millions of men from the Indian sub-continent go to Gulf/Western countries to earn a living leaving their wives behind . The statistics of extra-marital affairs amongst them is simply alarming. Ulema of the region state that it is the #1 cause for divorce among such couples today.

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                • #23
                  Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                  But this is a short term option right

                  Wouldn't you eventually bring her over or vice versa
                  Ibnul Qayyim رحمه الله said: "Don’t ruin your happiness with worry, and don’t ruin your mind with pessimism. Don’t ruin your success with deception and don’t ruin the optimism of others by destroying it. Don’t ruin your day by looking back at yesterday.
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                  • #24
                    Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                    Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
                    Hmmm...tell me more.


                    (Depending on how far apart they all are, it sounds tricky logistically and therefore probably unjust to one or both).
                    Not exactly ideal I know yea.. It wont work out too well logically speaking, for the long distance one.
                    “Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people so that you protect yourself from their evils.”


                    Hadhrat Ali (Radiallahu anhu)

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                    • #25
                      Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                      Originally posted by ForeverMonotheist1 View Post
                      Distance marriage l
                      Some do it. Can u believe that!

                      They visit their wives once a year for a month or longer.
                      This is dhulm, a wife should not be left for longer than 4 months, and that only when necessary, it shouldn't be normal.
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                      • #26
                        Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                        Originally posted by Simply_Logical View Post
                        lool
                        :cower:
                        “Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people so that you protect yourself from their evils.”


                        Hadhrat Ali (Radiallahu anhu)

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                        • #27
                          Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                          Originally posted by Abdal Hakim View Post
                          Allah says that you should not leave a woman as if she were hanging in the air (4:129); so that she is neither single, so she can marry, nor married in the sense of enjoying her rights as a wife.

                          And He also says:
                          فإمساك بمعروف أو تسريح بإحسان
                          "Either keep her in an acceptable manner
                          or release her with good treatment" (2:229)

                          And part of "keeping her in an acceptable manner" is that the wife should be able to see, touch and sleep with him more often. Otherwise, this is unjust to her.
                          I totally agree.

                          Jazakallah khair for that.
                          “Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people so that you protect yourself from their evils.”


                          Hadhrat Ali (Radiallahu anhu)

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                          • #28
                            Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                            It depends...
                            Last edited by The Poet; 26-01-16, 10:01 AM.
                            “And We have already created man and know what his soul whispers to him, and We are closer to him than (his) jugular vein.” (Quran 50:16)

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                            • #29
                              Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                              Originally posted by Sky Lark View Post
                              I totally agree.

                              Jazakallah khair for that.
                              Barak Allahu fiki.

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                              • #30
                                Re: Far distance marriage: does it work?

                                My sister and her husband were married for 5 years and lived apart due to immigration problems (they would visit each other but not long). They are now living together alhamdulillah so it can work.
                                :lemo:

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