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    this makes me so sad that parents do this. what do they think that poor man/woman did to deserve being married to that person just so they can punish their children? its just so sad to see a man who commits adultery so his parents decide to marry him to a good girl from back in their country and now shes married to an adulterer with who knows what diseases.

    it an evil and inconsiderate thng to do. do they lie to the girls parents or something or are the parents really that lenient?
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    Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

    Originally posted by hadmatter View Post
    this makes me so sad that parents do this. what do they think that poor man/woman did to deserve being married to that person just so they can punish their children? its just so sad to see a man who commits adultery so his parents decide to marry him to a good girl from back in their country and now shes married to an adulterer with who knows what diseases.

    it an evil and inconsiderate thng to do. do they lie to the girls parents or something or are the parents really that lenient?
    im sure the guy's parents dont even know.

    and the the other way happens to. obviously righteous guys dont know how to talk with girls whereas the "bad" guys do, hence they are able to "wooh" any kind of girl, religious or not.

    honestly its rare to find BOTH the husband and wife are decent Muslims. or so I think.
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      Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

      Originally posted by hadmatter View Post
      this makes me so sad that parents do this. what do they think that poor man/woman did to deserve being married to that person just so they can punish their children? its just so sad to see a man who commits adultery so his parents decide to marry him to a good girl from back in their country and now shes married to an adulterer with who knows what diseases.

      it an evil and inconsiderate thng to do. do they lie to the girls parents or something or are the parents really that lenient?
      yeah because if two mature adults couldn't alter his behaviour what is really bound to help is dumping your troubles on a young girl from back home who has no clue about the culture, lifestyle here in the uk

      That will work wont it?
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        Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

        yeh this makes me sick

        they are bad enough then you put them in a marriage, not only do you ruin someone elses life but you cause the individual to commit greater sins aswell.

        and if they have kids it becomes 10x worse
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        • #5
          Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

          I see this happening all the time and it makes me sick too

          It is pointless, i have a drug addict relative whose parents took him to bangladesh got him married and it didn't stop him being an addict and now he just abuses her and his daughter as well as stealing from them for his addiction, we have advised her to just call the police on him, they don't get 'better' by marrying them off but worse.

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            Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

            So sad to see this yes its happens a lot, the job of most of todays parents is this to just hide their children shortcomings and get them married when they have done every disgusting thing there is. They cant stop them or force them from evil while raising them up, let them have all the freedoms and when they commit fornication, adultery and other evils they start lookinf for scrape goats for them.

            What has the world come upto, Why doesnt qayamah come all ready
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            • #7
              Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

              I know, I hate it too. That along with parents who lie about their children, like if their child is tempremental or has a serious illness but the parent is like 'no, theres nothing wrong with him, my child is perfect in every way' urgh I just hate liars

              Did you hear of the story recently where a man with epilepsy kept it secret from his future bride and had a seizure on the wedding day so when he was in hospital the bride married someone else. Can't blame her really, why did he lie about it?

              Anyways i don't think the parents marry their trouble making kids off to punish them, I think they marry them off to decent people in the hope that it will straighten them out.

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              • #8
                Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                I've seen this and it's bad, it leads to such horrible marriages. That's why I recommend getting to truly know a person before entering such relationships.
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                  Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                  This annoys me. Shows the elders are just as lost as the youth.
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                    Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                    The other annoying thing is some of those guys who are the perverted ones themselves will go on about how women in the west are this and that and they want someone 'pure.'
                    Last edited by Muslimah~S; 01-03-15, 11:35 AM.

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                    • #11
                      Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                      Originally posted by مسلمة View Post
                      The other annoying thing is some of those guys who are the perverted ones themselves will go on about how women in the west are this and that and they want someone 'pure.'
                      Ohhhh that does my nut in too hahhahahahahha. It's like who do you think you are?
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                        Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                        Originally posted by مسلمة View Post
                        The other annoying thing is some of those guys who are the perverted ones themselves will go on about how women in the west are this and that and they want someone 'pure.'
                        yes sister its true but they forget that muslim countries are equally bad
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                          Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                          Originally posted by shann View Post
                          I've seen this and it's bad, it leads to such horrible marriages. That's why I recommend getting to truly know a person before entering such relationships.
                          Brother how can one know a person when its already implied that u only talk good about ur children when families interact and getting into relationships before marriage is not allowed in islam. It really makes a messy system.
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                            Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                            Originally posted by frjs200 View Post
                            Brother how can one know a person when its already implied that u only talk good about ur children when families interact and getting into relationships before marriage is not allowed in islam. It really makes a messy system.
                            This is the reason that the role of parents i so important in Islam that they enagage with truthfulness while making relationships. But they dont they just want the best for their children.
                            A Pessimistic Truth is better than an Optimistic lie.

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                              Re: parents marrying their trouble making sons/daughters off to decent people

                              Originally posted by hadmatter View Post
                              this makes me so sad that parents do this. what do they think that poor man/woman did to deserve being married to that person just so they can punish their children? its just so sad to see a man who commits adultery so his parents decide to marry him to a good girl from back in their country and now shes married to an adulterer with who knows what diseases.

                              it an evil and inconsiderate thing to do. do they lie to the girls parents or something or are the parents really that lenient?
                              More often than not, they Decieve the other party the Man/Woman side and potray their sons as Angels ...

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                              Brothers and sisters when you have Children, please don't ruin another persons Lives and be wary of others trying to ruin your Childrens lives

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                              May Allah ta'ala save us from such Despicable Henious Sins

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                              Also this emphasises the importance of good background checks before selecting a spouse,

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