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  • #31
    Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

    I agree with you firestar; I'm very unimpressed with the replies from some of the sisters here.

    OP, you said you spoke to your wife and she said it doesn't bother her; but didn't you tell her it really bothers you? Just as you don't know what's going on in her mind that's causing her to do this, she doesn't know what's going on in your mind either unless you say something (and try not to mention the temptation to cheat, otherwise she may perceive it as a threat to "give it up, or else"). There's no excuse for cheating on a spouse. Every marriage goes through difficult periods; consider it as part of being tested in this life. Worst case scenario you could consider a second wife but that's a very last resort and can involve its own complications.

    I think basically, some people just aren't cosy sleepers. Or there could be some other logical explanation for it. If you ask her about it or try and discuss it with her again, then don't get defensive or offended if she says "it's because you do xyz and I find it a turn off". Try to take her concerns on board just as you want her to take your concerns on board.

    Originally posted by firestar101 View Post
    The guy just wants to cuddle his wife and she won't let him and he obviously has needs

    This is a serious issue

    Guys don't avoid zina and suffer as a single guy with no halal outlet just to get married and not be wanted by his wife
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    • #32
      Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

      Originally posted by Bindipper View Post
      it's different when it's yourself though, you don't notice it the same way.

      like when someone else stinks of BO you'll feel sick but when you smell your own armpits after not showing for ages it's liberating
      :rotfl:
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      • #33
        Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

        Thank you to those responded maturely. Thank you Neely and partially firestar and the others who made me realise I wasn't discussing this matter nicely and with sensitivity with my wife.

        I had a lengthy talk with the woman of my life....

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        • #34
          Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

          salaams to all

          whats the actual problem here:
          no sex or just no cuddling?

          from the way OP speaks, it seems shes not intimate with him at all

          since u have spoken to your wife, i hope things work out between the two of u
          insha allah

          pls ensure both u & ur wife are regular with your daily salaah
          sometimes we neglect our duties to Allah ta'ala and then we wonder why were experiencing so many problems

          and Allah ta'ala knows best
          jazakallah
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          • #35
            Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

            Originally posted by MrWiseGuy View Post
            Assalamu'Alakum brothers and sisters,

            i am posting here because I just want some advice on an issue which I find embarrassing asking others about- so please I hope everyone understands and responds maturely.

            I've been married for just over a year and during the day I don't feel like a married man because we don't sleep close together, we sleep On the same bed but each on the far sides, and on top of that every time I want to hold or touch her she slaps my hand away. And the coming of winter has made things worse.. She wraps her self in a separate duvet first and then our normal duvet that we both share. Alhamdulillah I've managed to improve things a little... As we first used to sleep with singe duvets in the beginning. The problem is I've always wanted to sleep close to my wife when I'm married but seems like this will never happen :(

            Anyone experiencing any similar difficulty? Any suggestions or tips how I could persuade my wife to remove that barrier... It's really annoying me.

            Jazakallah for reading my post. Hope to hear your suggestions, tips.
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            • #36
              Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

              Originally posted by MrWiseGuy View Post
              jzk for your reply.

              I have talked to her but it doesn't bother her. because of the distance i feel like cheating on her . it feels like I'm not getting enough.
              No to cheating...it's haram.. Yes to polygamy ...it's halal.
              Simple right?
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              • #37
                Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

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                Last edited by aabdall12; 13-02-15, 05:40 PM.

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                • #38
                  Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                  Originally posted by aabdall12 View Post
                  OP already had his issue resolved.
                  Great..I'm always slow on threads and reply after its all good.
                  Thanks though..
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                  Guide me on your path to your janna,
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                  • #39
                    Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                    Forgive me but this looks like a troll thread

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                    • #40
                      Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                      smells like a troll. you wanna cheat on her because she wants her own space, really?

                      you tried to talk to her once and it didn't resolve the problem so you came on here instead to tell us of your temptation to cheat. how bout trying to talk to her again... and again... and again until you get through to her.

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                      • #41
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                        Last edited by aabdall12; 13-02-15, 05:39 PM.

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                        • #42
                          Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                          Originally posted by missmirah02
                          I think all men think like this. But don't take my word for it.
                          BismAllah. We are not all like that, but yes it is hard when your marriage lacks intimacy.
                          BismAllah. Slave of Allah swt forever Forever a slave of Allah swt

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                          • #43
                            Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                            BismAllah. Oops I've only realized its all sorted Alhamdulilah.
                            BismAllah. Slave of Allah swt forever Forever a slave of Allah swt

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                            • #44
                              Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                              either she snuggles me to sleep or she sleeps on the couch. simple as that!

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                              • #45
                                Re: Bed room sleeping time difficulty with wife

                                Originally posted by Fragile View Post
                                Great..I'm always slow on threads and reply after its all good.
                                Thanks though..
                                lol it's okay sis. I was just about to reply too and so your message and decided to read a few messaged up.

                                Lucky I did!
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