Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

[Ria]

Aslaam Alaikum

So say you get a marriage proposal from someone you have never seen or spoken to. should you speak to them first and get to know them and see their pic afterwards or see what they look like first and speak to them only if u are attracted to them

i dont have a proposal but i was signed up to a matrimony site but i deleted it. I dont go purely for looks but attraction should be there.

[Winter]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

I would personally go with picture first, if I'm content with what I see and so is she then I'll proceed forward. I've seen/heard plenty of stories were convo went good, but when it came to seeing pictures or face to face meetings, it got real awkward. Might as well not waste people time, but again picture don't always tell you the whole story, so its better to meet face to face that way you see each other and can have a convo.

[Ria]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

I would personally go with picture first, if I'm content with what I see and so is she then I'll proceed forward. I've seen/heard plenty of stories were convo went good, but when it came to seeing pictures or face to face meetings, it got real awkward. Might as well not waste people time, but again picture don't always tell you the whole story, so its better to meet face to face that way you see each other and can have a convo.

I know someone who was speaking to a guy she found on a muslim marriage site. she spoke to him everyday for about 6 months until they finally met face to face. they had not seen each others pictures before. when they had met, both confessed they were not attracted to each other, although they liked each others personality. i heard it was awkward for both of them. i have no idea why they spoke for so long before meeting each other... but they did get married in the end though

Would it be better to see a pic first then face to face or just face to face

[iRepIslam]

Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

Wa alaykum salam, it will defo be better to see the pic before the meetings, imo most logical thing to do insha Allah

[Winter]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

I know someone who was speaking to a guy she found on a muslim marriage site. she spoke to him everyday for about 6 months until they finally met face to face. they had not seen each others pictures before. when they had met, both confessed they were not attracted to each other, although they liked each others personality. i heard it was awkward for both of them. i have no idea why they spoke for so long before meeting each other... but they did get married in the end though

Would it be better to see a pic first then face to face or just face to face

In that type of situation pictures first.

[DaughterOfAdam]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

I would get to know them first.

Because asking for the photo first and then being 'eww you're ugly, bye bye' is just gonna make one look shallow and silly.

:wswrwb:

[zi-zizou]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

I would get to know them first.

Because asking for the photo first and then being 'eww you're ugly, bye bye' is just gonna make one look shallow and silly.

:wswrwb:

Or it could just save everyone time.

[ceeri_sista]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

Definitely see pics first. Don't waste your time or his.

[Zesty]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

Speak to the person first/a few times- general basic chit chat and then see pic in sha Allah. As the old adage goes: don't judge a book by it's cover.

[Muslima London]

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I know someone who was speaking to a guy she found on a muslim marriage site. she spoke to him everyday for about 6 months until they finally met face to face. they had not seen each others pictures before. when they had met, both confessed they were not attracted to each other, although they liked each others personality. i heard it was awkward for both of them. i have no idea why they spoke for so long before meeting each other... but they did get married in the end though

Would it be better to see a pic first then face to face or just face to face

So they did get married!!

Happy??

[Ria]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

So they did get married!!

Happy??

They have two sons now maa sha Allah. they got married two years after they first met. im sure i heard they stoped talking to each for a while after first meeting and prayed istikhara and decided to talk again. i dont know whether they found each other attractive in the end but they are happily married now.

[Constant Hope]

Re: Should you get to know someone first or ask to see what they look like

You should ask for a picture first imo although sometimes even that csn be misleading at times, it will give a fairly good idea of looks. I say that because you may as you said like the personality, but not be attracted to them ebough to marry.

So I would say find attraction first and then figure out whether you want to meet. I have however heard if cases where peoples personalities won out over their looks, but i'd say its the exception, not the rule. So if your not sure, maybe meet and see what happens.

[shann]

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Seeing what they look like should be a priority, its better than getting to know a person and then rejecting them once you saw how they look like.

[Nulbreaker]

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Pictures first always.

[liya1]

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