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  • GoogleSlayer
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Of course Kiddo!!

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  • Sky Lark
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by chameleon View Post
    As you get older and more experienced in life, you realise that health is probably the most important thing. Everything else becomes irrelevant if you don't have health to enjoy it.

    I pray Almighty Allah keeps us all healthy inshAllah.....Ameen
    Definitely, wise words coming from a wise person there.

    Ameen. Ameen!

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  • chameleon
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    Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    As you get older and more experienced in life, you realise that health is probably the most important thing. Everything else becomes irrelevant if you don't have health to enjoy it.

    I pray Almighty Allah keeps us all healthy inshAllah.....Ameen

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  • Musbah
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by Sky Lark View Post
    Yeah, not only fat or overweight people have these type of illnesses. Its only fair to tell the spouse beforehand.

    May Allah give you cure.
    Ameen Jazak Allah

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  • Sky Lark
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    Originally posted by Musbah View Post
    I agree. When I met my wife I let her know that I have type 2 diabetes though people always say to me that I don't "look like" I have it because I am not over weight.
    Yeah, not only fat or overweight people have these type of illnesses. Its only fair to tell the spouse beforehand.

    May Allah give you cure.

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  • Sky Lark
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by chameleon View Post
    No-one is perfect are they?

    But you don't want your partner afterwards whining and bad mouthing you for not telling them. Especially if later on your offspring inherits the same condition.
    Exactly. Was thinking along those lines too...

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  • seagulls1999
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by msmoorad View Post
    salaams to all

    agreed

    and if its girl who has to take medication regularly to treat some medical condition/illness- its not fair to expect the husband to pay for this medication without informing him about it before marriage

    the most important things to consider is whether this illness/condition will
    -affect the intimacy between the couple-this person wont be seen as attractive by their spouse due to it.
    -affect the person functioning as a normal person
    -place a financial burden upon the spouse

    if it does any of the above, then its only fair to inform a prospective before things get serious.
    failure to do so could result in being guilty of deception

    and Allah ta'ala knows best
    jazakallah
    Agreed , we man are not women's personal banks

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  • umm salabil
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by msmoorad View Post
    salaams to all

    agreed

    and if its girl who has to take medication regularly to treat some medical condition/illness- its not fair to expect the husband to pay for this medication without informing him about it before marriage

    the most important things to consider is whether this illness/condition will
    -affect the intimacy between the couple-this person wont be seen as attractive by their spouse due to it.
    -affect the person functioning as a normal person
    -place a financial burden upon the spouse

    if it does any of the above, then its only fair to inform a prospective before things get serious.
    failure to do so could result in being guilty of deception

    and Allah ta'ala knows best
    jazakallah
    yes it's important to be open about everything, not just because of the money. and this goes for both the girl and the guy.

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  • HopefulOne
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by msmoorad View Post
    salaams to all

    agreed

    and if its girl who has to take medication regularly to treat some medical condition/illness- its not fair to expect the husband to pay for this medication without informing him about it before marriage

    the most important things to consider is whether this illness/condition will
    -affect the intimacy between the couple-this person wont be seen as attractive by their spouse due to it.
    -affect the person functioning as a normal person
    -place a financial burden upon the spouse

    if it does any of the above, then its only fair to inform a prospective before things get serious.
    failure to do so could result in being guilty of deception

    and Allah ta'ala knows best
    jazakallah
    LOL seriously? I'm surprised you even thought about that. :/

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  • msmoorad
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by toska View Post
    I would say yes. Your spouse has the right to know that, especially if it affects your everyday life: taking meds etc.
    salaams to all

    agreed

    and if its girl who has to take medication regularly to treat some medical condition/illness- its not fair to expect the husband to pay for this medication without informing him about it before marriage

    the most important things to consider is whether this illness/condition will
    -affect the intimacy between the couple-this person wont be seen as attractive by their spouse due to it.
    -affect the person functioning as a normal person
    -place a financial burden upon the spouse

    if it does any of the above, then its only fair to inform a prospective before things get serious.
    failure to do so could result in being guilty of deception

    and Allah ta'ala knows best
    jazakallah

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  • Musbah
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by umm salabil View Post
    Hmmm I think it depends on the type of person you're marrying. Some people may want to know all about your past (before them). If they are that type, then it's best to know in advance and get everything in the open before marriage otherwise it's going to be a huge problem afterward. Such people will not be satisfied and will keep pressing you for information about your past and will only make your life miserable after marriage. So it's better to know in advance whether the person is that type and if they are, then let them know about your past (everything, good or bad) no matter what the outcome will be. and if they don't like it, it's best they go their own way and you your own way. alternately, if that isn't the type of person you want to marry, then you can let them go without telling them anything.

    On the other hand, there are those who aren't concerned about your past but only about your life after they came into it. To that sort, you don't need to tell them about things in the past because they won't bother you after marriage.

    and that's just my opinion.
    Fortunate for me and my wife we are of the latter type...:up:

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  • zi-zizou
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    Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
    I think my anaemia is less of an issue for the brother than my :wacko: personality!
    Yes well we've all got our faults

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  • Jenicca
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by zi-zizou View Post
    I don't suggest you disclose these things straight off the bat. But I think after a meeting or three when you think this could be the one then you mention.

    The reasonable expectation would be that whoever you marry will love you. Whether this comes to fruition, well that a different matter.
    I think my anaemia is less of an issue for the brother than my :wacko: personality!

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  • umm salabil
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by Musbah View Post
    That's a tricky one. If you did things in your past that you have repented and reformed from then that is between you and Allah Azza wa Jal. You are not suppose to reveal past sins that you asked taubah for yet your future spouse may want to know what's in the closet. Where do you draw the line?
    Hmmm I think it depends on the type of person you're marrying. Some people may want to know all about your past (before them). If they are that type, then it's best to know in advance and get everything in the open before marriage otherwise it's going to be a huge problem afterward. Such people will not be satisfied and will keep pressing you for information about your past and will only make your life miserable after marriage. So it's better to know in advance whether the person is that type and if they are, then let them know about your past (everything, good or bad) no matter what the outcome will be. and if they don't like it, it's best they go their own way and you your own way. alternately, if that isn't the type of person you want to marry, then you can let them go without telling them anything.

    On the other hand, there are those who aren't concerned about your past but only about your life after they came into it. To that sort, you don't need to tell them about things in the past because they won't bother you after marriage.

    and that's just my opinion.

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  • Musbah
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    Re: Should minor ailments be declared to prospective and their family?

    Originally posted by Jenicca View Post
    Having a genuine ailment that isn't STD related, doesn't really have anything to do with passed sins. :confused:
    I was answering a question concerning if a criminal record should be revealed not about STDs.

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