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  • How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

    :salams:

    How do your own parents approach you with a proposal or when another family makes a proposal for you?


    Edit: I would like to also include: How do your parents make a proposal to a family on your behalf? Do they directly say that 'my son/daughter is looking to get married and we were considering your son/daughter,' or do they do something else?

    Just wanted to compare the different ways, :insha:

    :jkk:
    Last edited by starrynight11; 16-11-14, 08:46 PM.
    Life's actually pretty simple: you just have to enjoy it, pray, do good, refrain from bad, and respect others. Being Muslim is not a disadvantage or an advantage - it's a responsibility.
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    Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

    :wswrwb:

    In my culture they don't.
    And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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    • #3
      Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

      Originally posted by Strive View Post
      :wswrwb:

      In my culture they don't.
      How does that work?
      Life's actually pretty simple: you just have to enjoy it, pray, do good, refrain from bad, and respect others. Being Muslim is not a disadvantage or an advantage - it's a responsibility.
      "So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true" (Qur'an, Surah Ar-Rum - 30:60)

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      • #4
        Originally posted by Strive View Post
        :wswrwb:

        In my culture they don't.
        They don't?
        اللهُمَّ أَعِزَّ الإِسْلامَ وَالمُسْلِمِينَ

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        • #5
          Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

          Originally posted by starrynight11 View Post
          How does that work?
          I guess they decide the case themselves without asking her thoughts on the matter.

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          • #6
            Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

            mom shows me pic of so and so and tells me a little but about her. if i'm interested i tell her to talk to the girls parents and arrange a meeting. does that answer ur question?

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            • #7
              Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

              Originally posted by hassaan561 View Post
              mom shows me pic of so and so and tells me a little but about her. if i'm interested i tell her to talk to the girls parents and arrange a meeting. does that answer ur question?
              So, you would have to show some kind of interest to your parents to give them 'permission' to go ahead and arrange a meeting? Is it the same for the sisters?
              Life's actually pretty simple: you just have to enjoy it, pray, do good, refrain from bad, and respect others. Being Muslim is not a disadvantage or an advantage - it's a responsibility.
              "So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true" (Qur'an, Surah Ar-Rum - 30:60)

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              • #8
                Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                Originally posted by starrynight11 View Post
                So, you would have to show some kind of interest to your parents to give them 'permission' to go ahead and arrange a meeting? Is it the same for the sisters?
                my sis is already married so don't know. but yes they can't make me meet a girl i don't like or don't know anything about lol. i think that's called forced marriage lol

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                • #9
                  Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                  Originally posted by starrynight11 View Post
                  How does that work?
                  Expected to bring the guy ourselves. Stupid Somali culture
                  And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                  • #10
                    Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                    Originally posted by umm salabil View Post
                    I guess they decide the case themselves without asking her thoughts on the matter.
                    oh heeeeelllll no! I would never allow that.
                    And strive because the sweetness of life lies in the struggle - Imam al-Shafi'i

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                    • #11
                      Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                      My mum once invited the family over for dinner without informing about the proposal. It was as if they were spying on me/testing my cooking. Needless to say I was very annoyed and uninterested when I found out.

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                      • #12
                        Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                        Originally posted by one_justice View Post
                        My mum once invited the family over for dinner without informing about the proposal. It was as if they were spying on me/testing my cooking. Needless to say I was very annoyed and uninterested when I found out.
                        Testing your cooking! :sub: lol

                        How did you find out that it was indeed for marriage purposes?
                        Life's actually pretty simple: you just have to enjoy it, pray, do good, refrain from bad, and respect others. Being Muslim is not a disadvantage or an advantage - it's a responsibility.
                        "So patiently persevere: for verily the promise of Allah is true" (Qur'an, Surah Ar-Rum - 30:60)

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                        • #13
                          Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                          I have no idea what happens behind the scenes. Its like I'm an actor and my mother is my agent

                          She works all the deals for me haha

                          (sorry for not being helpful)
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                          • #14
                            Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                            I hope no potential and his family would come over to test my cooking

                            The horrors. I hope they enjoy eating microwaved food!

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                            • #15
                              Re: How do your own parents approach you with a proposal?

                              Its a 'no no' to look for your daughter in my culture so my parents make it known they are looking for me when people ask. This is used as a way of word getting around. As for sons, in my culture a man can't turn up with his family with the view of seeing the potential sister before taking it serious. The intention by his parents are made clear, he has to practically decide without going over to see her...I would hate that

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