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  • Ariadne
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by amatullahniqabi View Post
    nesting is like enjoying making your home look nice and such - organizing, arranging furniture, cleaning, etc. it's an urge that often strikes women when pregnant to prepare the home for a baby.

    http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnanc...ing-phase.aspx
    On the contrary, I'm on laziest phase ever during pregnancy :rotfl:

    Leave alone nesting..... I became unexplainably tired and sleepy all the time! Especially on the first trimester, many women reported they became cat-like. Sleeping, snacking, sleeping, losing energy.


    Originally posted by ~TwinklingStar~ View Post
    Children bring along their own rizq :masha:

    It's not wise to delay having kids for financial reasons - the fear of not being able to provide for them, Allah has promised us in the Quran that he will provide for us as well as for them.
    Totally Agree!!

    I remember a saying that when Allah commands us to marry, hajj, whatever, He will not abandon us alone without giving us providence "to cover the cost" -- so we can fulfill such command.

    Now hubby and I just starting a business, though we're close to penniless right now, we always feel Allah's helps are raining a lot. Can't stop feeling grateful about it. :masha: ... :alhumdull
    Last edited by Ariadne; 10-11-14, 05:42 AM.

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  • amatullahniqabi
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by Superwoman View Post
    what does nesting mean?? I've heard it a couple of times now...
    nesting is like enjoying making your home look nice and such - organizing, arranging furniture, cleaning, etc. it's an urge that often strikes women when pregnant to prepare the home for a baby.

    http://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnanc...ing-phase.aspx

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  • Superwoman
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by amatullahniqabi View Post
    when i was younger and i had to care for my sister's kids all the time i swore i would never have kids...now i am not sure if i can have kids but insha'allah we are considering it (trying) in the next couple years. i definitely do feel like i've become a LOT more family oriented in the past year or two, like i used to just be happy to be with my husband and not do boring married people stuff but now i'm all about nesting, cooking, keeping house, etc. hehehe. i'm starting to get the "have kids already" lecture from my doctor and coworkers. i don't feel mature or ready enough yet - i'm 26 and we're just getting our feet under us and being able to make our bills, etc. without worrying, don't have any savings to speak of...so we were planning to wait a bit until things are more secure. but i do find myself really wanting it and dreaming about having kids now :)
    what does nesting mean?? I've heard it a couple of times now...

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  • sis_niqabi
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    I just don't listen to such negative talk from sisters. I hear some sisters complain about their husband and kids constantly. They say stuff like 'oh you're so lucky to be single. You don't have to deal with babies and demanding husband.

    But I feel like they are just taking advantages of what they have. Children are a blessing. I am a 1st grade teacher and I see what a blessing children are everyday.

    Yeah they can get on your nerves but they are really funny at times. They get happy and excited over the tiniest things.

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  • Ariadne
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by brightesthour View Post
    I'm the opposite. I'd want to spend the first year of marriage with no kids, just spending time with my husband with no interruptions. I get more excited over taking care of my husband, possibly cooking him delicious foods, and just being around him.

    Kids I worry would ruin it lol
    LOL this is what me and hubby used to plan to...."2 years of having fun, no kid" we said..... Until I got accidentally pregnant :rotfl: and things changed!!! Panic? SUPER.

    But now we say, Allah knows the best timing!!!
    Last edited by Ariadne; 10-11-14, 05:35 AM.

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  • nousername
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by مسلمة View Post
    I'm currently outstaying my welcome then :(

    + or - x years :-)

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  • DiaRose
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by iRepIslam View Post
    Walaykumsalam sis it is 25:74 x
    Jazaklakair sis ^_^

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  • iRepIslam
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by DiaRose View Post
    Salam sis

    What is the ayah number in English numerals so I can read the transliteration. Thanks
    Walaykumsalam sis it is 25:74 x

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  • rainbow*~
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Originally posted by ZamzamH View Post
    Yup the idea of kids is alluring. A couples hours of babysitting usually kills it though.
    lol whooop I'm not the only one!

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  • Zesty
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Yyeehhh have one first then we will ask you again!

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  • ~TwinklingStar~
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    Children bring along their own rizq :masha:

    It's not wise to delay having kids for financial reasons - the fear of not being able to provide for them, Allah has promised us in the Quran that he will provide for us as well as for them.

    There have been thousands of incidents where men's salaries have increased upon their marriage and then again on the arrival of a child/ children. Undoubtedly, a wife or a child brings along their own rizq. SubhanAllah!

    It is also not correct to put off having children for any other reason.Allah states in the Quran that He does not burden any soul more than it can bear. He is All-Knowing , All-Aware & Wise...He knows when is the correct time to bless you with a child...so, whenever He grants you a child, you must have full yaqeen that Allah , the Most Merciful and Compassionate knows fully well that you will be able to look after a child and has not inconvenienced you in the slightest.

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  • amatullahniqabi
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    Re: Sisters do you sometimes feel this way? Kids more than marriage itself.

    when i was younger and i had to care for my sister's kids all the time i swore i would never have kids...now i am not sure if i can have kids but insha'allah we are considering it (trying) in the next couple years. i definitely do feel like i've become a LOT more family oriented in the past year or two, like i used to just be happy to be with my husband and not do boring married people stuff but now i'm all about nesting, cooking, keeping house, etc. hehehe. i'm starting to get the "have kids already" lecture from my doctor and coworkers. i don't feel mature or ready enough yet - i'm 26 and we're just getting our feet under us and being able to make our bills, etc. without worrying, don't have any savings to speak of...so we were planning to wait a bit until things are more secure. but i do find myself really wanting it and dreaming about having kids now :)

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  • Ni'mah
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    ^Ouch...kids and hunger fun mix lol

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  • Muslimah~S
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    Originally posted by nousername View Post
    you have to remember that your kids will probably only live with you for around 20 years or so, and after that it's just you and the husband. A big mistake couples take is only doting on the kids, and neglecting the spouse, who is supposed to be your partner beyond those 20 years. Don't neglect your marriage bros and sisters.
    I'm currently outstaying my welcome then :(

    Originally posted by ZamzamH View Post
    Yup the idea of kids is alluring. A couples hours of babysitting usually kills it though.
    I'm still traumatised by the time I was asked to babysit my niece from 5am onwards during ramadhaan

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  • brothernd
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    Originally posted by DiaRose View Post
    Salam sis

    What is the ayah number in English numerals so I can read the transliteration. Thanks
    http://quran.com/25/74

    Yo brothers, and sisters, salaamualaikum,
    Make this dua often!

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